For years on deviantart I have followed @dyemelikeasunset a.k.a. Nafisa and/or Ty, and their partner @beedalee and I have always admired both their works and how they can add so much…LIFE to their characters from fashion sense (WHICH IS FUCKING AMAZING MY GOD!) to character backgrounds. I have such a deep respect for them artists and other artists on tumblr that I tend to shy away when I want so badly to just talk to them and be their friend…or not even their friend, maybe an acquaintance…which is something I definitely need to work on. ^^;

But!! This is my attempt at…breaking out of my shell and trying to say “hello!” Naf and Bee are such huge inspirations to me and I admire how they are accepting and open on their blogs answering whatever questions people ask with honesty and understanding.

So…hi, my name is Myriam, nice to meet you. ^^ I hope you like my drawing?

Opportunity to my friends!


Looking for two roles for a sponsored ad that will play during Pride. The first role is looking for visual artists that are comfortable speaking on their experience with homophobia/transphobia and produce a 12'x6’ mural in light of it. This role pays $5K.

Second role is for a few individuals comfortable speaking on their experiences with homophobia/transphobia. This role pays $1K.

Casting: Wednesday, May 24
Shoot dates: Tuesday, May 30 + Wednesday, May 31

Email the following to nafisa@lordeinc.com:
1. name, age, and phone number
2. a recent image of yourself with your face clearly visible
3. ppl applying for the artist role must include artist bio and link to work
4. please write MERCEDES BENZ in the subject line followed by your name (ie. MERCEDES BENZ-nafisa kap)

Deadline to apply is Tuesday, May 23” — Nafisa.

Source: Riya Jama


We Remember - Jiah Khan (February 20, 1988 - June 3, 2013)
 ↳ One year ago today this beautiful, 25-year-old girl took her own life, abetted by an abusive boyfriend and the cruelty of the Indian movie industry. She will forever be the star our hearts and with her loss we are reminded of how destructive people like her lover are and how merciless those in the industry can be.

10 ways to avoid marrying the wrong person

by Dr. Nafisa Sekandari & Hosai Mojaddidi

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage.  The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.

One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.  A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are.  The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.

The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc.  Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these  limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place?  Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences.

If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase,  the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:

1) Do Not Marry Potential:  Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.

2) Choose Character over Chemistry:  While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:

  • Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort.  They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.
  • Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money?  How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?
  • Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character.  You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.
  • Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have.  They very rarely complain.

3) Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner:  Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.  It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.

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Di pagi buta, Ibrahim meminta Hajar untuk menggendong Ismail, untuk pergi bersama. Hajar yang taat tidak banyak bertanya. Ia hanya berkemas, lalu segera mengikuti apa yang dikatakan oleh suaminya.

Di atas unta, mereka bertiga menyusuri padang pasir yang tandus. Setelah beberapa jam, mereka berhenti pada sebuah lembah yang kering. Tak ada satupun tumbuhan, sumber air, atau rumah penduduk. Tak ada orang lewat, tak ada jejak kaki, dan tak ada tanda-tanda kehidupan.

Ibrahim, istri dan anaknya berhenti di tempat itu. Ibrahim memandangi istri dan anaknya itu, lalu berpaling dan kembali ke atas untanya. Kemudian pergi sendiri.

Hajar yang keheranan mengejarnya dan bertanya,

“Wahai Ibrahim, kepada siapa kau meninggalkan kami di sini? Tak ada seorang pun di sini.”

Namun Ibrahim tidak menjawab pertanyaannya, karena jika dia menjawab, maka akan terjadi percakapan, dan dia takut hatinya menjadi luluh. Dia harus memenuhi perintah Allah untuk melakukan hal ini.

Ibrahim tetap berjalan tanpa menoleh kepada istrinya, sedangkan wanita itu tetap mengikutinya, “Ya Ibrahim, kepada siapa kau meninggalkan kami?” Ibrahim tetap tidak menjawab dan terus berjalan.

Untuk ketiga kalinya Hajar, kembali bertanya, “Ya Ibrahim, apakah Allah yang telah memerintahkanmu untuk melakukan ini?” Akhirnya Ibrahim memberikan jawaban,“Ya”, sambil terus berjalan.

Hajar kemudian menghentikan langkahnya. Ia menjadi tenang dan berkata,
“Dengan begitu, Allah tidak akan menelantarkan kita, Allah tidak akan membiarkan kita.”

source :
99 Nasihat Dahsyat Nabi Untuk Wanita | Abu Yazid - Ummu Nafisa
Hal. 122 Belajar Tangguh Bersama Hajar, Ibunda Ismail

Earlier today I posted about the world’s first all-transgender modeling agency, and then I came across this!

The world’s first non-white modelling agency – a true celebration of diversity

“Lorde was set up in May 2014 as the first of its kind – an agency made up entirely of models of colour. It is the brainchild of Nafisa Kaptownwala, a 26-year-old Canadian art history graduate, who began to work on the fringes of fashion and noticed the lack of non-white models. Despite no experience in the modelling industry, she set up Lorde in London with a friend and “the next thing, people were contacting us”. A year on, and Lorde has worked with magazines including Dazed & Confused and i-D, and collaborated with London streetwear brand Cassette Playa.

Despite these relative triumphs, Kaptownwala is pessimistic about diversity in modelling in 2015. “There’s still not a massive demand because this is still a radical idea and people in fashion are not really ready for it,” she says. “How does that make me feel? In general I think, as a person of colour, you internalise. Creating this agency is a way to channel those feelings.”

If diversity – across age, race and size – is always a swirl of debate in fashion, there seems to be the signs of change, with Balmain’s Olivier Roustein (himself mixed race) championing a catwalk of all sorts of ethnicities, Rihanna becoming the first black woman in a Dior campaign and Lineisy Montero walking the Prada catwalk with a visible afro. “Things are changing but in a minimal way,” acknowledges Kaptownwala. “But there were more models of colour on the catwalk in the 90s than there are now. It kind of goes in cycles.” She praises former model Bethan Hardison’s campaign to increase diversity on the catwalk at major brands but says “two models in a show of 30 models is not enough”.

Kaptownwala believes the internet – and the culture of selfies – has a role to play in broadening what we think beautiful is, and has made an entire generation comfortable in front of the camera. “People are posing in their own ways, creating their own photo shoots,” she says. “It redefines beauty, opens things up and allows people to say ‘I want to be part of this.’”

Read the full piece here