There’s been some discussion lately puzzling romantic attraction / aromanticism / greyromanticsm. It’s a discussion that interests me personally. And a lot of it revolves around the question, “WTF is romantic attraction?”
I’m in a really strange position in this conversation. Because I’m aroace AND I’ve unambiguously experienced romantic attraction ( and therefore know what romantic attraction feels like ). But that doesn’t actually clarify things.
I have a few things to say– none of which are especially well-baked, but I’m just going to put them out there as is. This part is about being both aromantic and greyromantic.
TLDR: I’m aromantic AND I’ve experienced romantic attraction. People can be both aromantic and greyromantic. Sometimes greyromantic is a version of aromantic. But sometimes they’re different things and being both is about having 2 distinct sets of tools to approach things in different ways depending on what’s important in the situation.
Coming up in “incoherent ramblings that might or might not interest anyone”:
- Trying to describe romantic attraction ( without a definiton )
- Romantic attraction vs. romantic relationship ( and romantic feelings)