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The problem with (at least some implementation of) Crocker’s rules is that how someone says something and whether they are choosing to take your feelings into account gives you extremely important information about how much they care about your well-being, and the purpose of the sharing of the information. Failing to take such information into account will cause you problems when it comes to deciding which information and what people to trust. Being offended, angered or insulted is an important emotional Chesterton’s fence and you don’t want to get rid of that.

anonymous asked:

Guys is gender neutral. Guys is gender neutral. Guys is gender neutral. Say it with me: guys is gender neutral. Guys is gender neutral. Guys is gender neutral. Guys is gender neutral. Guys is gender neutral.

Nah, it ain’t. How you personally use it is your problem. Ask any feminist gender blog. They’ll all tell you “I personally do not have a problem with it but I know people who do so you better listen and respect em” and then they refer to people like me. You got no leg to stand on, buddy.
Anyway good luck with summoning a demon in The Rumbles ask section.

the most damaging thing about christianity for me was how it provided a very strict template of what it means to be a ‘good person’ and a mentality where you had to strive to fit that template. and my realization of my sexuality meant that i would never be able fit into that model and made it necessary for me to either accept that i would never be good enough, redefine what it means to be ‘good’, or abandon the idea of being ‘good’ altogether

after rejecting christianity, i came up with my own set of morals and tried to live by them, so that i could be ‘good’ in accordance to my own standards. but i also actively adopted an appearance that would be considered ‘bad’ according to the template i once strove for. i can’t tell if it’s because i was rebelling or if i wanted to prove that i could be good while deviating from that template. i don’t know if it was a form of self-hate, where i want to look as wretched on the outside as i feel on the inside. i don’t think i’ve been able to escape the pressure to be good.

i was trying to explain to my psychiatrist my anxiety surrounding being gay and how i present the way i do so that i don’t need to talk about it. i don’t want to feel like i’m tricking people. i want people to be able to know that i’m ‘one of those people’ just by looking at me so if they’re homophobes, we can avoid each other and i don’t have to come out to anyone and deal with their bullshit. and he asked me “do you even like the way you look?”

it took me a while to think about his question. i don’t know. how much of my appearance is driven by my attempts to escape my parents’ control? my piercing and tattoo were definitely a response to their attempts to dictate my life. how much am i still allowing them to shape my decisions, even if through rebellion? am i just making myself look as ‘bad’ as they think i am? when will i be able to just live my life as myself? or is it impossible to escape the various ways others shape us?

Ten Extremely Memorable Theatrical Performances I've Seen (But One Is a Lie)
  1. Ragtime at Ford’s Theatre
  2. Sweeney Todd (West End) starring Michael Ball and Imelda Staunton
  3. Julius Caesar at the American Shakespeare Center 
  4. Secret Garden at the Shakespeare Theatre Company
  5. Follies at the Kennedy Center starring Bernadette Peters
  6. Twelfth Night at the Globe starring Mark Rylance and Stephen Fry
  7. Les Miserables on Broadway starring John Owen-Jones
  8. Phantom of the Opera on Broadway starring Norm Lewis 
  9. Richard III at the Folger Shakespeare Library
  10. The Tragedie of King Richard the Second as it hath beene publikely acted by the right Honourable the Lord Chamberlaine his Servants at the Globe Theatre on 7 Feb. 1601, on the eve of the Earl of Essex’s ill-fated revolt against Queene Elizabeth, Gloriana Regina. 

it’s so funny how no one on this website can think for themselves at all. they just reblog other people’s posts that sound good, incapable of formulating their own arguments. always desperate to take the safest side. during this debate i have watched several bloggers bounce back and forth after seeing another post about it like, “oh no this is what i think… no this is… VALIDATE ME! WHAT SHOULD MY OPINION BE, FRIENDS?” they just rally behind whatever is immediately in front of them. people are so afraid of going against an accepted social norm or trend that they are paralyzed.

will you allow your fear to limit you? can you not accept that in order to know yourself, to understand your world, and to formulate your own informed, logical opinions, you may have to venture through potentially challenging or even problematic territory? are you too terrified of social exclusion to take that risk and come out the other side as a leader? come on

anonymous asked:

can i ask what inspired you to write The Bnha Fic

when i started reading bnha and found out that our extremely lovable protagonist was quirkless, i was incredibly excited to see him become japan’s greatest hero without a quirk. i was completely ready to see him blast through everyone’s preconceived notions of what you need in order to be a hero, i was absolutely down to see him Rock Lee his way to victory, so when izuku obtained one for all from all might, i was… a bit disappointed. 

on one hand, it was vv vindicating to see japan’s greatest hero recognize izuku’s strength of character and potential, and decide to take a chance on it! on the other hand, stories are meaningful for the struggles that characters go through, and in a world where having superpowers is the norm, izuku becoming a great hero without a superpower would have been more unusual & meaningful than izuku becoming a great hero after obtaining the strongest quirk in the world. 

horikoshi has done a good job of giving izuku obstacles and challenges to go through, so izuku getting one for all wasn’t as disappointing as it could have been! but i was still left with a vague sense of bereavement, and after reading a wonderful meta on how izuku becoming a hero without a superpower would’ve been a better story than izuku getting one for all, i started wondering about the opm au – where izuku doesn’t have a quirk but becomes strong through his own hard work & stubbornness. 

the initial sketches for the opm!au were kind of hilarious, because my first thought was izuku taking on a saitama-esque personality – but it was wildly out of character and i couldn’t stand it, so i decided to try writing izuku becoming ridiculously strong OPM-style from the very very beginning. and then the au took on a life of its own and turned into chapter 1 of what is now The Bnha Fic. 

i think the lesson here is that every time i try and write something “just a little bit” and “just to see how it would go” i inevitably will spawn a story of monstrous proportions. please put me out of my misery

(SIDE NOTE: i have never been able to find the One Meta ever since it first planted the idea of The Bnha Fic in my head. it appeared in my life like a benevolent guiding spirit hailing from above, and then disappeared as sweetly & ephemerally as it came, leaving me only with the sweet phrase “izuku rock lee’s his way to victory” as remembrance. i mourn its loss every day)

anonymous asked:

Teach me how to be ok with myself. I'm genderfluid and when I want to dress masculine I'm always too scared of what people will think. Help me be confident and learn it's okay to be how I am.

I dunno dude! I honestly don’t know. I could serve you up some platitudes like “Just be yourself” or “Love who you are” but honestly, self love and gender expression are a BITCH. Even now, with the zeitgeist shifting to more acceptance its hard to live outside the norm. When I was in Seattle I saw a shop worker wearing fem clothes and make up but still rocking a perfectly kept beard. I was like “This person is operating on a power level much  higher than I am.” But honestly, I fem present in specific safe spaces/groups of friends or in the comfort of my own home. And while I’ve been taking a few small risks, generally when I go to work or go to see my parents, I masculine present. Because, like you, I’m scared of what people will think. Hell, I’m scared WHILE fem presenting. But I guess trying to scrape out those moments where I can feel comfortable with myself and my gender might be worth that fear. I’m sorry if this isnt very helpful. 

Yamaguchi as his super hero form Crow! Part of a haikyuu superhero AU I have going on.

So basically, in the AU people with powers are common. So both heroes and villains are the norm. Yamaguchi isn’t the only hero and hopefully I’ll be able to post all the heroes and their costumes in one post!

So for now enjoy~~

tbh if something even as mildly outside the norm as Gone Home doesn’t count as a video game, I don’t think I’m interested in whatever your idea of video games are as an artform.  you can argue “oh, it doesn’t have enough game stuff in there”, but are you seriously going to argue that minimalism isn’t an artistic choice?  the way people talk you’d think that Gone Home intended to have like a shitload of action but just accidentally wasn’t a game.  And lets be honest for one fucking second here, we all know why of all the “walking simulators” from that era, Gone Home is the one everyone comes back to being annoyed about.  Let’s not even pretend the “social justice warriors are ruining games by putting gays in them” factor doesn’t come into it.  There were a lot of minimalist item gathering games from that era, the reason Gone Home gets railed against despite being one of the better examples of using that method of storytelling is simply because of it being an interactive reading of a sexually questioning and eventually romantically involved young lesbian’s journey into adulthood.

maxiiiobe replied to your photo “I really hate how Steven Universe uses terms like “guys” to address a…”

might wanna edit every single piece of amethyst’s diaglogue then, seeing as she says that often. “guys” as slang is almost always used as a gender-neutral term.

You do not get to tell me what male-normative slang I should be comfortable with, you fruitloop. And what’s your deal telling me what to do next?

It bothers me specifically with the Rubies because I want it to be very clear they are just as “feminine” as the other characters and it hasn’t been very clear just yet. I want to hear tons of “she” and “her” before I’m satisfied.
Amethyst is from earth so I do not mind her having picked up earth lingo, her being so extroverted and also her gender stuff. Do mind with Connie a bit.

anonymous asked:

I think it's sad that I can't think of a single queer or trans actor of latin (Mexican) decent that I can see myself in. I mean i love Manny Montana but where are the actor queer and trans latinos that aspire to be?

I feel this so hard.

And to answer your question, they’re like you and me, also feeling discouraged because of the discrimination and oppression faced by people before us who have tried and been held back by the racist and hetero-normative standards of Hollywood.

This is why I have to keep reminding straight yts that it’s not because there aren’t enough of us wanting to be actors, it’s because we’re stuck in this endless cycle of not seeing ourselves and holding ourselves back because we’ve seen others try and be held back by oppressors and it just goes on and on and on, and when you see someone break through into the industry against the mold it’s not because they’re the first or only one who tried, it’s because they somehow found that one rare opportunity and there are thousands of us behind them still trying.

- mod g

Romeo and Juliet is absolutely my favorite unit to teach.

I start by dividing each class up into Capulets ad Montagues and we physically split the classroom down the middle. We establish new norms: they are feuding families and this unit will be a competition.  They spend a class period establishing family values and expectations through the creation of a family crest.

Classroom rules and behavioral expectations now come with point values. Each family earns points for various activities (good behavior, positive participation, all homework completed, highest quiz scores, etc.). Points can be lost for such nonsense as using cellphones, being disruptive, forgetting homework, etc. I add/subtract points throughout the class period on their scoreboards where they can see and self-regulate. At the end of the unit, the family with the most points earns bonus points on their final exam (and bragging rights, of course).

If a family member is being a nuisance and costing their family significant points, OR if one family member is being relied upon to do all of the participating, I reserve the right to banish them to “Mantua” (a solitary desk across the room where they work independently).  If their family earns back enough points, their banished member can return. 

Halfway though the unit, the winning family in our Family Feud  game  earns the right to an “arranged marriage” where they can steal a member of the opposing family and bring them to their family for the rest of the unit. 

While alternate between student read-alouds and reading along with the recorded stage production of Romeo and Juliet staring Orlando Bloom. 

It’s chaotic and exciting and I love it. If you have any suggestions or favorite R&J activities, feel free to send them my way!

There’s an aspect of Japanese culture (maybe other Asian cultures, I’m not well versed in anything but Japanese) that really speaks to me as a western writer.  It’s the practice of addressing people primarily by their last name, with or without honorifics.  There are a couple of exceptions, like I’ve seen where westerners are addressed with their first names, but using a person’s last name is the norm.

What gets to me is that, at a certain point, people reach a level of closeness/intimacy that they switch over to using the other person’s first name.  And it’s called out as a sign of intimacy–people react when they hear you use someone else’s first name.

It intrigues me so much with regard to writing and I hope I have a chance to use it in some way.

anonymous asked:

hey uh.. do you think Phoenix is too "extra" for a new name? i think its cool but idk i feel like if i came out to someone with that name theyd think im weird :/

Not at all! Nothing is too “extra”. If you like it, then it’s perfect. It doesn’t hurt anyone to pick a name different than the norm.