(liveblogging my dash)

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!! HAPPY ONE YEAR WITH ASTRO !!

in this photoset you can see just a fracture of all astro did in their first year as a group. things these six boys accomplished in a year is stunning. they managed to create their own fresh sound, participate in various events, become faces of brands, participate in a number of variety programs while simultaneously working to put out new music every 3-4 months. thank you for your hard work, astro. thank you fantagio for molding these six bright boys into a group and a family. thank you astro for all the happiness you made us feel over the past year. thank you for the heart-warming music you put out. thank you for making every concept about your fans. thank you for loving us unconditionally. thank you for being born. i love you more than i could express.

let’s go together forever!!

“do you wanna take me up to your room?” and the scraBBLE IM?? ALKSDF HASDF/?? 

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it really rubs me the wrong way when fandom feminism critique conflates the idea of “agency” with whether the lady in question is saved or not.

like, that’s not agency

agency is about bodily autonomy

agency is about choice (what choices is she able to make, what structures/people/etc inhibit her choices and her ability to make those choices, does the narrative allow her to realize her choices or are their -isms at work that actively inhibit her and so on and so forth)

it’s not about some watered-down concept of damsel in distress vs being in distress and handling it like Meg in hercules.

if someone is zeroing in on how women saving themselves is an example of agency, while implicitly implying that if she had been saved by someone other than herself then the narrative would have failed the agency test instead of directing their commentary/criticism towards the people/structures/organizations in her life that are putting her in this position, then i just think that’s really unhelpful.

i feel in some way that people consider agency as this kind of commodity that a woman can have: does she still have agency? is it intact?

but that’s not really how agency works. it’s not really a commodity that can be lost or gained. 

it’s the idea that someone or something can inhibit the realization of your own choices, your autonomy. 

i just feel like most discourses of agency that cross my dash forget that, focusing too often on the people targeted by those inhibitors (most often through save yourself dialogue) instead of on the act of inhibition itself.

and that really bothers me.

okay so I’ve recently unfollowed a lot of people and now my dash is extremely dead…. if you post

  • marvel
  • sebastian stan
  • doctor who
  • sherlock
  • sebastian stan
  • star trek
  • game of thrones
  • supernatural
  • MARVEL AND SEBASTIAN STAN

and you tag all of your posts, reblog this and I will possibly follow you (you dont have to be following me but it would be nice)

but if you feel the need to question people about their pronouns – and, this isn’t about asking people what their pronouns are so you can (you know) respect them, but specifically asking questions that basically boil down to

but why are you using these pronouns instead of the pronouns i’m more comfortable and/or familiar with

then you really, really need to stop. because if you want to make someone’s pronoun choice about your comfort zone then you are missing the point where it’s really not about you

questioning people about their pronouns after they’ve stated what they are is intrusive–they don’t owe you an explanation. you might think it’s just an innocent question or you’re just curious but it’s really more than that–it’s this sense of entitlement that is really distasteful and disrespectful.