I think you're one of the few BD shippers who doesn't have anything against BE(correct me if im wrong!) but how do you feel Bonnie saying that Enzo is the love of her life and it seems that he's her number 1 priority? Not gonna lie, it kinda stings. Especially after the development Bamon had, it almost feels like they threw it all away :/
I try to be fair, and on some level I can enjoy their cute scenes even though they still feel heavy-handed and very unearned to me… but I don’t ship it either.
(I’m also realizing that I just really ship Bamon that hard. That even though I try, my viewing of BE scenes will always be biased. Even if BE was able to give Bonnie what she needs and bring out her best side -and I’m still not convinced that it does- I’m starting to wonder if I’d be happy… because it’s still not Bamon. As someone who aims to prioritize character over ship, that’s something that I’m having trouble accepting, but at the same time, the feelings are what they are.)
So yeah, I’ve been feeling pretty down about that part, tbh. I understand that Bonnie loves Enzo, and that Bonnie fights for the ones she loves. But Damon is supposed to be on that list too.
(This is going to get very sad and pessimistic re: Bamon, so stop reading if you don’t need that in your life.)
I hate that the flashforwards in s7 were seemingly used to prop every other ship, while tearing ours apart. The Bonnie who cared about Damon more than anyone else in the world is missing. She disappeared when he desiccated, and despite all her “the lady doth protest too much” residual emotion even upon his return, they’re still apparently telling the story where Damon is no longer that important to her.
And, along the same lines, even though it was Bonnie (and Stefan) who we saw that Damon is actually protecting (even while supposedly having his humanity switch off, which I still don’t get btw), the memories that they show him clinging to are of Elena.
Short of some kind of send-off psych-out for BE/DE like they did to SE in the first couple of episodes of season 4, this appears to be the end of whatever major importance Bonnie and Damon played in each other’s lives in canon, that was given a foundation in earlier seasons and cemented/showcased in s6 and most of s7. It seems that they baited and used us for the views and media excitement as Nina was leaving/gone, and now that they’ve secured their final season, they don’t even feel the need to pay us lip service anymore.
We’re just back on the fringe like we were in seasons 1-5, getting fewer and fewer scraps, and always between the lines. I want to be wrong, I hope I’m wrong, but I’m just hurting about it too. It definitely stings, like you said.