Ehh. Here goes. I don’t even know how long it’s been since I’ve REALLY blogged because I took a break from the bowl. I was already dull and not really into it because I was working myself hard. This particular date broke me. Ive just been exhausted y'all. To THEE worst date ive had since entering the bowl. (And I’m officially one now)

Kenneth (his real name..I did my research) is a very MANIPULATIVE and DANGEROUS man. Very dangerous ladies. He came to me on tinder looking for a SB right off the bat. It sounded too good to be true and I knew it was. I didn’t want to write this post and its extremely late but Im going to summerize because itd be waaaay too long and embarrassing honestly.

First and foremost for the one week i talked to Kenneth, he used the lure of money to threaten me get me to play his “game” his way. However, I could give a rats ass about a photo of money. Its not real money until its in my purse. The following happened the night we met for dinner…

Before meeting up, he asked what I was wearing. Assuming he wanted to match me or was “unaware” of the dress code I told him. He then asked me what panties I was wearing. When I wouldn’t tell him he sent me the pic of the money again and told me that not telling him would be dangerous. I ignored him but this was the first BIG red flag.

He blew my phone up with calls/texts the entire time I was getting ready and omw to the restaurant. I wasn’t even late…

He refused to eat and lectured/chastised me the entire night for having one glass of wine and for eating the bread at the table. He kept repeating about how alcohol is bad, how I’m going to be drunk, how I shouldn’t drive, that I couldn’t order anymore and to never drink while I’m out with him again.

A few gentlemen came to respectfully compliment me about how beautiful I was and how lucky he was to have me as a date. He then proceeded to tell me very loudly and explicitly in this QUIET FIVE STAR restaurant about how it turned him on knowing everyone in the restaurant wanted to fuck me. Seriously. Only 3 gentleman came to our table.. then he explained in great detail his fantasy of watching me have sex with older white men because he has a thing for interracial sex b/w OLD white men and YOUNG black girls.

Thoughout the dinner I noticed his flash constantly going off on his phone. I thought it was his text message alerts. I was annoyed but ignored it. Then after the 6/7th time he interrupted me mid sentence to again shout at our table “DAMMIT!”. I asked was he ok and this cockeyed fucker tells me that this entire time he’s been trying to take pictures up my dress but he couldn’t see anything because my legs were crossed and he wanted to see if I really had on panties. I didn’t even try to hide my disgust when I told him I was uncomfortable.

At this point I wanted to go home but he convinced me to go to a strip club. He offered me the requested compensation for my travels when we arrived. It was $20. I drove a truck………also it turned out to be a gay male strip club. The night was getting even more hellish by the minute. As we walk inside he hands me a single crumpled dollar and tells me to hand it to a stripper. I refused and told him it was degrading to both me and the stripper to entertain a single bill. He handed me another and literally pushed me towards the stage. I handed the stripper the money and got slapped in the face with his dick 😑😑😂😂😂😂. My pores hollered!

As i walked back he handed me a 20 and whispered about how that turned him on and how he had already masturbated to me several times that day and how he’ll get off on this too and how he hasn’t missed a single day of masturbating since HS. SOMEONE INSERT THAT NICKI MINAJ MEME OF MEEK WHISPERING IN HER EAR CAUSE THAT’S HOW I FELT!

A stripper walks up to me and asks if I want a dance. I ask Kenneth if it’s fine and he’s more for it than I am so I agree. As the stripper is dancing Kenneth is asking me if I’ll show the stripper was panties i have on. The stripper is grinding in between my legs and Kenneth is pulling up my dress. Im pulling my dress dwn and this struggle continues to go on as the stripper puts his hands between my legs. I move his hands. So I’m trying to keep my dress down and keep the strippers hands from between my legs. The stripper has me PENT down on three chair i can’t move or really breathe because his chest is on my face. Kenneth picks up my foot and is sucking my toes. IN THE STRIP CLUB!! Im trying to pull my leg away but he’s got a good grip, plus I’m trying to move the stripper to catch my breath and keep my dress down. The stripper must think he’s doing a good job because he’s moaning in my ear and all that extra shit. Finally he lets up to ducking kiss me on the mouth. That’s IT for me! I push him and tell him I’m done. I finally snatch my foot from Kenneth. Everybody is looking shocked like I wasn’t basically just gang banged in the fucking club. Kenneth gets mad because the stripper kissed me and because he was moaning in my ear. He had to be forced to pay the stripper and he stormed out. I followed behind him and he yells at me for 15 mins i kid you not about how I’m rude and disrespectful. How we were suppose to be exclusive and how I was plotting to meet the stripper at 2:30 am to fuck and his feelings were hurt. Y'all I’ve never been so blown in my fucking life! I cut him off at the 15 min mark and told him that if thinks I’m give his strange ass one more min of my time that he’s delusional.

On my way home he blew my phone up again with 5 calls and fucking TWENTY TWO messages ( broken up thoughout the night and next morning of course/ longest message in butt hurt POT History) and sent me yet ANOTHER photo of the SAME money with my name, number and the date and was basically pleading, bargaining, then threatening me then finally say “this was in my trunk. I was gonna give it to you tonight. You blew it. Continue to kiss and fool around with whoever you was before me”. Then he sent me one of those “Have a blessed day” gif with the bible 😂😂😂😂😂. I simply told him that I’m on to him and that I’d make sure he never finds another SB again.

I’ve never included a number in a blacklist but if you’re open to it, PLEASE call/ text this number to let him know he’s a piece of shit or whatever it is that you think of him.

DON’T JUST LIKE. REBLOG TO HELP YOUR SUGAR SISTERS!! I didn’t even want to write this post. It’s embarrassing to take such an L after a full yr in the bowl but it happens. I shared because I want to help so help me spread the word far. REBLOG!

I told a potential my fee & he laughed !!!!!

LI-TER-FUCKIN-LY ! Y’all this man responded, “Lol”.

Now, this is where a lot of sugar babies make an mistake. They allow this mans mockery of how much it cost to support their needs/wants sting, they allow themselves to become vulnerable to manipulative and cheap men

I simply explained to him in the most polite and bitchy tone ever (because ladies sometimes sugar may just in look like salt), “The outfits that you so politely complimented and admired, the makeup, the hair, nails, smooth legs, they all cost. So to maintain your desired image and my lifestyle that you wish to be included in (since you messaged me) you have to support me. In exchange for your support, I shower you in attention, affection, make men envious of you, and offer you an introduction to a diverse culture. I thought that was the kind of man you were, and the interest you had in mind. However I apologize that you cant afford me and my lifestyle and I wish you the best of luck!

See what I did there, “your desired image, make men envious of you, thought that was the kind of man you were, you cant afford me”. Subliminally bruising his ego. Sooo just to try and prove how much of a man he is, now he’ll be competitive, hungry to try prove me wrong. Which he was and immediately he began to retract his statement, and accept my offers. :) people just really want what they cant have…well cant afford.

& since he was acting all funny I will neeed my cash in hand before anythannnng.

This, ladies, is why you shouldn’t lowball yourselves

Sugar bowl facts

After couple of years sugaring this is what I’ve observed regarding SD/SB sites

-what I’ve recently read and which is 100% accurate, anyone worth of knowing won’t be in such sites. Full. Stop.

-most of men that have profiles are in best case upper middle class guys. You won’t find a multimillionaire sitting behind his computer chasing girls online. Would you? I wouldn’t. Reality is all of true rich men have access to upscale bars, clubs, restaurants, country clubs, lounges where they can meet dozens of beautiful women, DAILY. In worst case he will book a girl trough established agency (his assistant will) if he is more of an introvert or has no time for socializing.

-top income on these site is NOT above 200k after taxes. And majority of those men are MARRIED, which means his wife has access to his cards/accounts and has knowledge of his financial behavior, do you think she won’t be suspicious if all of a sudden large amounts start missing from his account? Of course she will. Other are divorced with couple of kids, which means ALIMONY. So don’t expect mind blowing amounts spent on you.

-if he offers out of the blue 10k + apartment + car, most likely it is a SCAM. In order a man to be eligible for such spending on someone else his income should be at least 700-800k after taxes. In average, a man won’t spend more than 20% of his income on you. How do y'all think a man who earns 200k-300k will just drop half of his money on you? He also has daily/monthly/yearly expenses of his own. He’ll just go broke because of you? NO. Be realistic.

-there probably is one who is able to spend such amounts on you as mentioned above but finding him on these sites would be a pure luck. Like jackpot once in a blue moon.

-if he doesn’t discuss your allowance and what exactly he can offer in first few messages, he is probably not a legitimate SD, or just a Splenda most likely salt. A real SD knows the game. Don’t fall for that “make me a proposal/offer”. That’s BS.

-if he only offers to communicate via Skype he is almost sure a SCAM. Never settle for this type of communication, either he can video call via Viber or FaceTime. Say you don’t use Skype. Not negotiable.

-if he isn’t ready to provide his photos in first few exchanged texts, DROP him. There is no valid excuse for this. Unless he is on Forbes 100. Or running a Fortune 500 company. Which isn’t close to impossible. Always choose video call over exchanging photos. (What i recently witnessed was a man who sent me photos of a dead US businessman, he probably thought if we are from Europe I won’t know this) -luckily there is google image search

-ALWAYS and I repeat always try with google reverse image search. Also look up his number.

-if he refuses to tell you his full name there is a good reason behind it, a BAD one. Leave him.

-Under NO circumstances negotiate the sexual part of an arrangement, he exactly knows what he will be getting. You get the “dos and donts ” question, block him, real SD never asks such questions over the phone.

-make sure you discuss about his stated budget. Ask if those are his spending habits or he would be actually willing to spend that on you. Does that include only your allowance or it includes all of the monthly expenses he would have regarding you (e.g. Trips, dinners, gifts, shopping sprees etc)

-don’t be shy to ask anything you want to know prior to your meet, if you have any doubts or unclear stuff, ASK.

-if you are traveling/flying out to meet him make sure all of your transportation/flight tickets/hotel room is paid in full, IN ADVANCE, with email confirmation of the receipts which are NON REFUNDABLE. He can always cancel your hotel booking for example.

-if he asks you to fly out but to buy your own tickets and he’ll reimburse you when you meet, NEVER do this!!! Real SD would never ever propose such situation, or he will send you money prior to your meet so you can purchase it, if he doesn’t want it to be shown on his credit card.

-always bring your own money to a pot date, no matter if it’s just a coffee date or dinner or flying over to other city/country. Remember, he can walk out on you any time and leave you out to dry. Imagine if you don’t like him really and need to for example take another room, take your ticket earlier, take a taxi home etc, possibilities are endless. Make sure you are SAFE regarding funds.

-NEVER send more than 4 photos (2 showing your face and upper body and two showing your body from different angles/poses) any of these men asking for more are pic collectors. Whenever you can choose a video call over exchanging photos.

-if you meet him and he looks different than his photos LEAVE immediately. EVACUATE. Code RED. You think he is providing something substantial if he can’t even provide a proper photo of himself? NO.

-Never ever agree to unprotected sex. No excuses are valid enough. Even though you are in a long term arrangement he probably is seeing other women too. Unless he’ll provide you a STD check (HIV, HPV, HEP a, b, c too) not older than 48h prior to your rendezvous, from a clinic you personally chose. Medical checks, reports can be forged.

-make sure that you first get your end before giving him his part of the bargain. FIRST THE MONEY THEN THE HONEY. No peep shows, no trial periods, no compatibility checks. You see a meal you never tried in a restaurant, decided to order from the menu, you didn’t really like it, yet you still have to pay for it? YES.

-Do not fall for the first man that texts you, sugaring REQUIRES patience and practice.

-Do not settle for exclusivity unless all of your monthly expenses are fully covered plus there is spending money left, and enough for at least a month if he drops you out of the blue. Don’t think you will ever be his one and only.

-When he says NO DRAMA in his profile text that means no drama from you, not from him. No PROs or ESCORTs means he can’t afford one or he can’t afford to be screened, because he has something to hide - something BAD.

-if he is not able to meet in few days after your initial conversation he is most likely a TIME WASTER, or if he books you a ticket and not confirm two three days before the actual meet do not go, unless you want a free trip and have an interest of your own visiting that place.

-if he offers less than a 5* hotel accommodation, drop that cheap ass, he probably is just a SALT.

-when he states most important things for him are connection and affection he has no intention of compensating for your time.

-there is no UPPER age limits for being a sugar baby, you think he wouldn’t date J-Lo ? Yes he would but he can’t afford it! When guy says he prefers very young girls it’s because he knows they are easier to trick and have lack of experience.

-REMEMBER: if something is too good to be true it’s because it usually is. Don’t fall for words, SEEING is BELIEVING.

-if he somehow gets uncomfortable when getting a bill in the restaurant or makes comments on prices or starts making a face, never see him again, no real SD will make a comment over couple of bucks. If possible, check how much he tipped the waiter.

-if he says along the way he isn’t into luxury and prefers something more humble/down to earth, leave that mofo, YOU ARE a LUXURY.

-if he is too demanding compared to what he is providing, he is actually using you, do not fall for that (ask for way to many photos/text exchange etc)

Always keep this small reminder in your head.

Happy sugaring!!!