'a'ishah

It’s really strange. People believe Islam is so rigid that they can’t have any fun. You don’t have to kill your spouse with pure boredom to be “Islamic” You don’t have to just sit down together and read books all day. You don’t have to be on the tasbih 24/7 together. You don’t have to just speak about the torment of the hell fire and the crushing of the grave and make tawba. That’s not always so romantic and optimistic for a long term relationship. Go for walks, take trips out the city, tell each other jokes. Smile, laugh, have fun, converse and appreciate each other. These can all be acts which earn Allah’s pleasure and you are rewarded for them.

No one had more taqwa or responsibility than the Prophet ﷺ but he raced with Sayyidah A'ishah whilst on a journey to make her happy. He was humourous with her. He told her stories. He would share food and drink with her. He told her about how much he loved her. He would smile with her. He would ask her about how she felt. He would ease her problems and make beautiful her day. Her favourite moments of life were whilst she was with him. رضي الله عنها

—  Shaykh Mohammad Aslam
The Believing Women Would Return to their Homes Unrecognized

Narrated ‘Āisha (رضي الله عنه):

“RasulAllāh (ﷺ) used to offer the Fajr prayer and some believing women covered with their veiling sheets used to attend the Fajr prayer with him and then they would return to their homes unrecognized.”

[Saheeh Al-Bukhāri Volume 1, Book 8, Hadeeth no. 368]

Shaykh ibn Uthaymeen (rahimahullāh) in the Tafsir of this Hadeeth explains:

“This Hadeeth makes it clear that the Islamic dress is concealing of the entire body as explained in this Hadeeth. Only with the complete cover including the face and hands can a woman not be recognized. This was the understanding and practice of the Sahābah and they were the best of group, the noblest in the sight of Allāh subhānahu wa ta'āla with the most complete Eemaan and noblest of characters. So if the practice of the women of the Sahābah was to wear the complete veil then how can we deviate from their path?

[Shaykh ibn Uthaymeen in the book Hijāb, page 12 & 13]

Parents who lose young children shall be given entrance into jannah through their intercession. When Sayyidah A'ishah heard this, she asked about those who have no children to intercede for them on the day of judgement, so the Prophet ﷺ replied, “I shall be enough for my ummah!” رضي الله عنها

Sayyidah A'ishah did not have children, but it never caused her pain or anxiety. You know why? She knew that she forever had the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. That’s all that mattered to her and that’s all she ever cared about. Ignore the thoughts and opinions of people and don’t give it any attention. At the end of this long journey of life, their bad thoughts and trivial talk will end, and you’ll enter paradise with Sayyiduna Muhammad ﷺ and rest therein for eternity.

—  Shaykh Mohammad Aslam

Not too long ago, I was contacted by the headteacher of a school which was pre-dominately Muslim. The school discussed several issues with me and said that it seemed that some of the Muslim boys had a clear “hatred” for girls to such an extent that they would just feel it is fine to call girls names and to swear at them. Typical things which were being said were, “You’re just going to give birth to my children and then I will dump you!”, “You women are only good for one thing and that is having sex!” some were even going to the extent of abusing female teachers and saying that woman have done no role in this world except cooking.

All of these illnesses are due to us disconnecting from our religion and failing in our role as parents. When you next see your children remind them a woman gave birth to the master of the universe, a woman was the first to believe in him, a woman was the first to die for him, a woman was the first to build him a pulpit. He left this world in the lap of a woman. Sayyidah A'ishah gave us a third of our religion. Fatimah al-Fihri built the first university. Some of the greatest hadith scholars of this ummah were women. If we don’t teach our boys not to hate women then all we shall have is a generation of boys who have relationships with women and then father another generation that hate women.

—  Shaykh Mohammad Aslam

During his final moments, Rasūl'Allāh ﷺ was in immense pain and difficulty due to illness, and every single person around him wept with broken hearts. His blessed head rest upon the lap of Sayyidah ‘A'ishah and with his final breaths, his only thoughts were, “Ummatī, Ummatī, Ummatī! Every single moment of his time in this world was for his ummah and every moment in the akhirah is for his ummah.

If that isn’t the definition of true love and loyalty then what is! ﷺ

—  Shaykh Mohammad Aslam
The Love Between 'Āisha (رضي الله عنه) and the Messenger of Allāh (ﷺ)

‘Āisha (radiAllāhu anha) said:

“The Messenger of Allāh (sallAllāhu 'alayhi wa sallam) would give me the cup and drink from it whilst I was on my menses; then I would give it to him and he would search for the place where my lips made contact (with the cup) and he would put his lips on the same place (i.e. he would place his lips on the same place and drink the contents).” [1]

Al-Allāmah Abdul-Muhsin Al-Abbād (may Allāh preserve him) said:

“This shows the Prophet’s (sallAllāhu 'alayhi wa sallam) good companionship with his wives and kindness towards them.” [2]

References:

1. Hadeeth authenticated by Imaam Albānee (rahimahullāh) in Sunan An-Nasā-ee. Number: 281

2. For further details, see Sharh Sunan An-Nasā’ee. Cassette 74

A'ishah (رضى الله عنها) is the Mother of the Believers

قيل لعائشة أم المؤمنين رضي الله عنها: إن رجلاً قال: إنك لست له بأم.
فقالت: صدق، أنا أم المؤمنين، ولست بأم المنافقين.
الشريعة للآجري (2393/5)

It was said to ‘Aaisha, the mother of the believers (may Allah be pleased with her): "A man says that you’re not his mother.“

So she replied: “He has spoken the truth, I am the mother of the believers, and not the mother of the munafiqeen.”

[Kitāb Al Sharī'ah of Imam Al Ajurrī (2393/5)]

Abu Abdullah Al-Jadali narrated: “I asked A'ishah (رضي الله عنه) about the character of the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ). She said: ‘He was not obscene, nor uttering obscenities, nor screaming in the markets, he would not return an evil with an evil, but rather he was pardoning and forgiving.’“
—  [Jami’ at-Tirmidhi, Book 27, Hadith no. 2148]
Narrated Aisha (radhiAllaahu ‘anha): “A lady along with her two daughters came to me asking (for some alms), but she found nothing with me except one date which I gave to her and she divided it between her two daughters, and did not eat anything herself, and when she got up and went away. Then the Prophet (ﷺ) came in and I informed him about this story. He said, ‘Whoever is put to trial by these daughters and he treats them generously (with benevolence) then these daughters will act as a shield for him from Hell-Fire.’”
—  [Sahih Bukhari Vol. 2, no. 499 & See Hadith no. 24, Vol. 8. Translated by Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan]
‘A’ishah radiAllahu anha narrated:

[Once, when I saw the Prophet in a good mood, I said to him: “O Messenger of Allah! Supplicate to Allah for me!”  

So, he said: “O Allah! Forgive ‘A’ishah her past and future sins, what she has hidden, as well as what she has made apparent.”  

So, I began smiling, to the point that my head fell into the lap of the Messenger of Allah (salAllahu alayhi wa sallam) out of joy.

The Messenger of Allah said to me: “Does my supplication make you happy?” I replied: “And how can your supplication not make me happy?”

He then said: “By Allah, it is the supplication that I make for my Ummah in every prayer.”]    

[Reported in ‘Sahih Mawarid adh-Dhaman’ (1875), and it is in 'as-Silsilah as-Sahihah’ (2254)]

How did your success affect your life?

We find it in many books that delve into narrating success stories of people that they only attained success because they continued and continuously humble themselves to their Lord.

That even with the luxuries of their success, they choose to continue what they used to do and now much better than before, and that with that success they are able to appreciate life more and be satisfied with it rather than asking for more?

Amazing right? 

It’s too amazing that people find it very hard to do and abide. Now, this is where the character of the Abu Bakr As Sideeq Radiyallahu Anhu will continue to amaze you. 

Let me narrate to you one of the many stories about the humility that dwelled in the heart of Abu Bakr.

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Prior to becoming the Khalifah of the Messenger of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam, Abu Bakr used to milk the goats of the women who lived in the district of As-Sunh. 

After the people pledge allegiance to him in the Prophet’s Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam masjid, one of the girls of his district said, “From now on, he will never again milk our goats for us.”

Hearing her words, Abu Bakr said, “I will indeed milk them for you. And I certainly hope that my new job will not change me…”

He Radiyallahu Anhu continued to milk their goats for the six months he remained in As-Sunh. After that he moved to another area in the center of Al Madinah.

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Indeed, this was one of the stories that would attest to the humility of Abu Bakr, that even though he was the most respected member of the society, who was well-advanced in his years, and who was the leader of an entire nation, he did not allow his new job to change the way in which he dealt with others.

Abu Bakr continued to help other people, he was always mindful of his deeds until death overcame him.

He was a true leader that served his people, unlike nowadays the leaders are the ones being served by the community, but indeed, during the Khair ul Qurun, the Caliphs were the one who were always mindful of helping and dealt with the happenings and problems of their people. 

Such were the people who followed the teachings of the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wassalaam and those who lived accordingly to the words of Allah Azza Wa Jall.

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Let us continue to stay humble for indeed this is what Islam was known for, Muslims of those before us paid well on the act of humility.

That is why we all need to remind ourselves about what A'ishah Radiyallahu Anha once said:

عَنْ عَائِشَةَ، قَالَتْ: ” يَغْفُلُونَ عَنْ أَفْضَلِ الْعِبَادَةِ: التَّوَاضُعِ 

“People are paying no attention to the best act of worship: Humility.”

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And we pray that we learn from this story about Abu Bakr and his humility that with it we may find the roots of humility blossoming within our hearts.

Amin.

Zohayma

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Story was taken from Ibn Sa'ad, 3/180

Hadith of Aishah Radiyallahu Anha was collected by Ibn Abee Shaybah (13/360) Ibn Hajr graded this Athar as being Sahih

The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), used to remember Allah in each and every move of his life, and at all times. He used to praise Allah upon every small move of his daily routine. He would supplicate standing up, sitting down, at the time of sleeping, upon waking up, going out of the house and at the time of entering, he would praise Allah.

`A'ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) narrated that :
the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) used to remember Allah in all of his affairs.
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3384

We should follow the messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) in all stages of our own life.

Say, [O Muhammad], “If you should love Allah , then follow me, [so] Allah will love you and forgive you your sins. And Allah is Forgiving and Merciful.”
(Qur’an, Surah ‘Āli `Imrān, 3:31)

Two simple and easy dhikr but great in reward are as follows:

1. SubhanAllah.
Mus`ab bin Sa`d narrated from his father, that :
the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said to those sitting with him: “Is one of you incapable of attaining a thousand good deeds?” So a questioner among those seated with him asked him: “How can one of us earn a thousand good deeds?” He said: “(When) one of you recites a hundred Tasbīḥāt a thousand good deeds are written for him, and a thousand evil deeds are wiped away from him.”
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3463

2. Lā ḥawla wa lā quwwata illā billāh.
Abu Hurairah said:
“The Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam) said to me: ‘Be frequent in saying: “There is no might or power except by Allah, (Lā ḥawla wa lā quwwata illā billāh).” For verily, it is a treasure from the treasures of Paradise.’”
Grade: Sahih (Darussalam)
Jami` at-Tirmidhi 3601

Whoever tells that Muhammad (ﷺ) concealed part of what was revealed to him, is a liar, for Allah says: ‘O Apostle (Muhammad)! Proclaim (the Message) which has been sent down to you from your Lord.’ (Qur'an, 5:67)
—  Aisha (radiAllaahu ‘anha) [Sahih Bukhari Vol. 6, Hadith No. 136. Translated by Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan]