[why did i do this to myself why]


Why You Don’t Need To Give A F*ck

 There was a time when I cared about literally everything and it was absolutely exhausting. Caring about everything people said, did and thought was a complete waste of time. All of that time and energy I spent on them could have been used on me and creating a life that I love - so that’s what I did.

I had to carry out a “life detox” which consisting of me assessing who, what and where was no longer serving me and eliminating them from my life. “Friends” “family” and things that “everyone does” were removed and I felt much more at peace with myself for having gotten rid of them.

I’m living this life for me - no one else - so why should I care what they say or think about my lifestyle? Why do I have to acknowledge their feelings of insecurity about what I do or don’t do with my time? If someone is trying to make you feel insecure about making changes in your life it’s because they are uncomfortable with those changes.

Check yourself on what you’ve been doing so far and see if it’s working out for you. Many of you won’t be able to do this because it can be hard to admit that everything you were doing isn’t serving you. Be open to change and understand why it’s necessary - or you’ll just keep repeating the same mistakes.

There’s a reason you’re reading this. There’s a reason you’re not dead. There’s a reason for all the hardship you’ve faced so far - it’s up to you to figure out what that reason is. You aren’t going to find that reason in the opinions of others or just going along with what everyone else is doing - it takes self-discovery.

Spend time with yourself to find out what you enjoy and what you feel gives your life meaning and purpose. It is during this time that you will begin to understand why certain things had to happen and why others did not. Create your life based on what you’ve learnt from your experiences - not on what you’ve been told.

This life is yours - live it for yourself.

Peace & positive vibes.

anonymous asked:

i cut off this guy that i used to talk to cause i could tell he wasnt serious and just wanted to have sex and i know i deserve better...but now im kinda sad any advice on how to distract myself?

Yes you do deserve better but Honey… Why are you sad over a guy who only saw you as a sexual object 🤔 Did he know what your dreams/passions were, did he ask if you ate everyday, did he take you out on dates, did he care for you in a mental way, did he know how to make u smile when u were sad, did he know you mentally.. did he know ur spirit? Girl he dont give a fuck about you! He is not sad about you! Why are u sad over a guy who couldnt tell you from the next girl? That is so toxic you need to sit and look at it for what it is! He wanted pussy and then he wanted to go to the next girl. You are not sad at the fact hes gone, you didnt even know him on a soulful/deep level. You are sad at the fact that u became attached and it feels weird not talking to him lol. U need to realize that ure sad because of the idea of where u wanted the relationship to go. U did not know this nigga and he didnt know you. If he knew you and fell inlove with u and did you good then u wouldnt have cut him off.. first step to distraction is to realize that. U need to start working out, taking care of ur skin, focus on what you eat. Do romantic things with yourself. Treat yourself like you want to be treated in a relationship. Take urself out, go get ur nails/hair done. Go make some money and save it up. Focus on self. U will find someone who wants u equally and it take time. but first u need to let that shit go

30 day otp challenge | day 2: on a date

Yeah, but guys, can you imagine Remus Lupin going on a premiere of Les Mis in London (1985) because he loved the book and decided to finally go out and have a bit of fun and then hearing “Empty chairs at empty tables”? Because I just did and I am not okay.

“Oh my friends, my friends forgive me
That I live and you are gone.”


Okay back to happier (?) topics - today’s prompts were firsts/future/tears !!!! and honestly that’s probably a happy set why did I go for this even we might just never know

Headcanon: Lena has insomnia and whenever she can’t sleep she climbs out of bed and puts on robe and makes herself a cup of chamomile tea in hopes it will help her sleep. She used to open her balcony doors to let the cool night air in and sit curled up on the couch staring at a random spot in her apartment until she finished drinking her tea. But then she met supergirl. Instead of sitting on the couch she goes out onto her balcony overlooking the city ignoring the cold on her bare feet and drinks her tea while scanning the city line for any sign of Supergirl flying. Occasionally she sees blurs of her as she flies in the distance and sometimes Supergirl will see her on a night fly and will stand silently with Lena until her tea is gone and then fly away. Those were her favourite nights…

Until she learned that Kara was Supergirl. 

Now when she can’t sleep she still goes out onto the balcony breathing in the cool air and staring at the city lights finding comfort in that routine. But now instead of Supergirl landing on her balcony it is Kara that joins her as soon as she realizes that she is alone in bed. And they stand there together with Kara’s arms around Lena’s waist, and her chin on her shoulder until long after the tea is gone and Lena’s fingers have started to go cold. That’s when Kara kisses her neck and whispers in her ear asking if she wants to talk about it. When Lena shakes her head Kara just nods placing another kiss on her shoulder where the robe has moved and nudges Lena back inside, placing the cup on the nearest flat surface and heading for their bedroom wrapping herself around Lena to help warm up her fingers and toes whispering in Kryptonian until Lena finally falls asleep. 


did some facial ref practice with the vento aureo gang also @ davidpro part 5 when????


Stanuary week three: Memories
Bit by bit all of his memories return, but not all of them are good ones.

You can see all of my Stanuary entries here.

I’m not better, okay? I’m not better! And I keep waiting for someone to figure that out, and - they don’t! I mean, of course they don’t. ‘Cause as long as I say the right things and I act the right way, they’re happy because that means they cured me, right?
—  How did we get here? - Red Band Society

Kara knows Lena is innocent because she can hear it in her voice but she can also hear her heart racing in fear of losing her only friend.

Originally posted by cwsupergirlgifs