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Q&A Malec and marriage

blacknightwolf said:Hello! I was just curious about Magnus and Alec. I know they’ve been together for years now in TDA, but I can’t remember if it was ever mentioned if they were married. Would Alec and Magnus ever get married and if they were to, would either one take the others last name? I know both of their names mean a lot to them so I was wondering what the would decide! Thanks for taking the time to look at this!

Magnus and Alec would love to get married. They’re committed to the end either way, but the reason they haven’t gotten married yet is because they decided not to until there were equal privileges and rights accorded to Downworlder-Shadowhunter marriages as there are for Shadowhunter marriages. They had this discussion in Born to Endless Night, in Tales from the Shadowhunter Academy:

“Shadowhunters can marry Downworlders,” Magnus said, “in Downworlder or mundane ceremonies. I’ve seen it happen. I’ve seen other Shadowhunters dismiss those marriages as meaning nothing, and I’ve seen some Shadowhunters bow under pressure and break the vows they made. I know you would never bow or break. I know that type of marriage would mean just as much to you. I know that any promises you made me, you would keep. But I was alive before the Accords. I sat and ate and talked with Shadowhunters about peace between our people, and then those same Shadowhunters threw away the plates I ate off because they thought I irredeemably tainted whatever I touched. I will not have a ceremony that anyone looks down on as lesser. I do not want you to have any less than the ceremony you could have had, to honor your vows to a Shadowhunter. I have had enough of making compromises in the name of trying to make peace. I want the Law to change. I do not want to get married until we can get married in gold.”

Alec was quiet, his head bowed.

“Do you understand?” Magnus demanded, feeling almost desperate. “It’s not that I don’t want to. It’s not that I don’t love you.” 

“I understand,” said Alec. He took a deep breath and looked up. “Changing the Law might take a while,” he said simply.

For instance. If Magnus and Alec were to get married, they would likely want to hyphenate their last name to Lightwood-Bane. Part of what it would mean for them to have equal privileges and rights is that their hyphenated name be considered valid by the Clave. Lightwood-Bane isn’t a Shadowhunter name. The Ascended have to pick Shadowhunter names, and there are no Shadowhunters whose names aren’t okayed by the Clave. So this means that the Clave would need to allow Alec to use the hyphenated name in order for it to be considered his official name. (If he used it against their wishes, they wouldn’t kick him out of the Nephilim, but they wouldn’t acknowledge it as a real last name.) It would also mean that Rafe would get to pick if he wanted to be Rafe Lightwood or Rafe Lightwood-Bane, as opposed to having to hew to the standard usage of Shadowhunter last names (which would mean he’d have to go by Lightwood).

An enormous part of Alec’s identity and also Magnus are wrapped up, in different ways, in their fight for equality, in their demands for recognition and not just tolerance, but rights. It’s why they head up the Downworlder-Shadowhunter Alliance and why that’s so important to both of them. In the end, that Alliance — it’s existence, and Alec’s leadership of it — is a huge part of what tips the balance of good and evil, more than any Institute or Conclave could ever do. Part of what make Alec and Magnus so well-suited (and part of what shows how much Alec has grown from a young man who often made snap judgments, and believed prejudices he’d been taught, to a warrior and defender of the marginalized) is that they’re not willing to accept compromises: when they get married, it’ll be in Shadowhunter gold and warlock blue, and it’ll be all the more fantastic and triumphant for that.