even if you're not dating so and so you won't be dating me either

yes but there’s also 

  • ‘I’m hella sick but not old enough to purchase cough medicine and that sounds really pitiful coming from a college student but would you please go buy me some NyQuil???’ au
  • 'We made a bet at the beginning of the laser tag game to see who was better and guess who won. It’s time to pay up.’ au
  • 'Who keeps using my wifi?’ 'Literally everyone, your password is hella easy to guess.’ au
  • Tried to unlock the wrong car in the parking garage au
  • 'I’m on the FBI’s most-wanted list for killing a fuck ton of people, but calm down I just wanna date you bc your face is v smoochable and you give me butterflies.’ au
  • See also; 'Dating a most-wanted serial killer and never getting a heads-up before they come home covered in blood so you’ve gotta be ready to draw the curtains and hide a body every time you hear a car pull into the driveway’ au
  • 'We really should not have played Monopoly’ au
  • Life-sized version of Clue in the old manor on the hill au
  • 'I originally followed you on Instagram bc you’re hot and I’m thirsty but now I’ve developed actual feelings for you bc you’re a genuinely good person’ au
  • 'Fuck me you’re cute why did we have to meet on the one day I decided to stay in my sweats??’ au
  • 'I went to the bar last night bc I just got dumped and wanted to drink away my pain but then one thing lead to another and somehow I broke into your house thinking it was mine and now I can’t find my left shoe but are those waffles I smell?’ au
  • 'I saw that you were reading Eleanor and Park have you gotten to the part where she leaves him and if so can we talk about it because not a lot of people have read this book and I need a shoulder to cry on.’ au
  • 'You passed out in Disneyland and I’ve been taking care of you for the past two hours oh my god are you okay??’ 'Yes I’m okay but who the hell are you supposed to be?’ 'I’m the face character for Peter Pan but that’s not important’ au
  • 'I don’t really know you but I noticed that this creep has been trying to chat you up even though you’ve already turned him down, so I’ll pretend to be your boyfriend/girlfriend  until they leave you alone.’ au
  • Bonnie and Clyde au???
  • Attend same-sex privet schools that are right across the street from each other au
  • Masquerade au
  • 'I don’t like you and you don’t like me but our best friends just died in a car crash and left their one-year-old daughter in our custody so now we’ve got to act civil and end up falling for each other’ au
  • [Basically a Life As We Know It au]
  • 'Found your number inside of a library book that looks like it hasn’t been checked out in ages and decided to text you to see if it worked au
  • 'The biggest rule of immortality is to not get involved with mortals but whoops I was in a coffee shop one day and fell in love with you and now I’m freaking out bc in the grand scope of things we don’t get a lot of time together but fuck no please don’t leave me not yet no.’ au
  • 'I just moved into the apartment next door and I am 100% sure that it’s haunted bc this building used to be a hospital and anyway I heard I noise coming from inside the walls can I please just crash here for the night?’ au
  • 'I know that you’re really into school and probably don’t want to risk your spot on the college football team, but would you mind if I smoked in our dorm room??’ au
  • Followed by 'Nah, I don’t care, as long as I can shotgun some smoke from that pretty little mouth of yours.’ au wow that got sexual and I am not sorry.
  • Went to the beach for the first time au
  • Ancient Rome au
  • Rival team captains who know nothing about personal space and constantly get into fights where they end up face-to-face every single game until one day one of the coaches yells at them to either kiss or get back to the game au
  • 'Hey, so I might have just robbed a bank right now and I kind of need a getaway car, would you pleeeeeaaase help me I can pay you back in sexual favors but also cash.’ au
  • 'I know that you don’t know me, but you were on the receiving end of my girlfriend/boyfriend’s heart donation and being around you kind of makes it feel like they’re still here I’m sorry if that’s kind of weird.’ au
  • 'Shit I wasn’t watching where I was walking and ended up spilling my Rockstar all over your white sweater I’m so sorry here have my jacket.’ au
  • Caught yelling at Go, Diego, Go in the hospital waiting room and after an awkwardly long period of silence the other person joins in bc they’ve got nothing better to do with their waiting time au
  • 'The person living in the apartment across the wall to mine is a nymphomaniac and yeah okay they’re p hot but it’s v hard to write an essay on feminism when all I can hear is sexual screaming.’ au
  • It’s three am, I just wanted some clam chowder, and some how I ended up on Hollywood Bl. can you please tell me where a good restaurant is I think I’m going to cry.’ au
  • 'Fuck my ex just walked into the restaurant with their new girlfriend/boyfriend could you pretend we’re dating so they don’t think I’m hung up on them I swear I’ll pay you later.’ au
  • 'I work at the daycare that you drop your daughter off at every week and she got me sick.’ au
  • 'So I know we just met but it’s raining and my tent has a hole in it, could I sleep in your camper with you?’ au
  • 'Okay okay okay I know we’re just friends and I don’t want anything to change that but I may have told my mom that we’re dating so she would stop trying to set me up with people would you be up to going to my sister’s wedding as my plus one so my mom won’t know I lied?’ au
  • 'Hit me, we’re on college campus and you’ll have to pay for my tuition’ au
  • 'Your headphones aren’t plugged in all the way so that hardcore porn fic you’ve been listening to for the past ten minutes has been broadcasting through the bus on full volume.’ au
  • The Breakfast Club au
  • Wimbledon [the movie] au
  • West Side Story au
  • 'Constantly getting confused as the girlfriend/boyfriend of the lead singer for a heavy metal band bc I’m always going to concerts and getting backstage passes but I’ve never even met the lead singer until the day he/she got drunk and we hooked up in his/her tour bus [whoops now we’re actually dating shh]’ au
  • 'It’s two am, we’re standing outside of our apartment building bc someone pulled the fire alarm, and you look cold and unprepared, do you want to share my blanket?’ au
  • Heartache On The Big Screen au
  • Breakfast At Tiffany's au omg pls
  • 'The zombie apocalypse started two years ago I can’t believe I still have to work at this fucking book store.’ au
  • Long Way Home au
  • We like each other but our dogs don’t so I’m going to have to ask you to stop taking this walking route you attractive fucker’ au
  • 'Sometimes, your soulmate and the love of your life don’t end up being the same person. And that’s something I had to learn the hard way.’ Au
as promised: the fetishism callout post!

let me just begin by saying there's nothing wrong with finding any of the cast members attractive. this is an EXTREMELY attractive cast. everyone is so FINE I bet even the folks backstage who we don't see are gorgeous. Its okay to be sexually attracted to them too! We've all made posts professing our love to the cast, which is perfectly fine!! Right now you're looking at Leslie Odom Jr's fiancé! we good!!

but ya see there's a big difference between "anthony ramos is my sweet freckled child <333" and "I want anthony to shove his #thicc cock inside of me and ten other cast members at the same time but also freckles uwu"

You see the difference right?? Right??????

I don't have anything against writing smut about the characters (who, yes, are technically real people but they've been dead for literal centuries ok. Let it go) but it just gets weird REEAAAAL fast when u say the same thing about musical!John Laurens and the real live human being Anthony Ramos. It gets even weirder when u talk about the cast members in this way in relations to each other??? Shipping real people in a serious, unironic way is just a lil :/// to me (I say "serious, unironic way" bc I do write rpf with my friend but its a Huge Joke™ and nonsexual and come on I don't actually ship sandra bullock and steve harvey together ok). I mean Anthony is quite frankly dating Jasmine Cephas Jones.....it's a legitimate fact. There are pictures. It's on Wikipedia. They're in LOVE and its PRECIOUS and they're gonna get MARRIED eventually so why tf r yall writing about him bottoming for Lin????????

And Lin!!! He has a beautiful WIFE AND SON. You can speculate about his sexuality, NOT PUBLICLY BC HE SEES THINGS, but that's fine if u honestly must??? (although he tweeted that he was straight once during his "grease live" livetweeting so......like......). U can talk about how cute he and jonathan groff are! But y'all don't stop there do u? Bc one second ur talkin about them being cute and then a sentence later it's all "and then he SUCKED his BIG FAT DICK clean off!!!!!! He was dickless!!!! While wearing their costumes!!!!!!!!!! He choked on the full decapitated dick!!!!!"

That shit ain't cute.

So, now that u finally realize that (hopefully), we can get to the real nitty mcfreaking gritty. this part is primarily for white fans but it technically applies to anyone who is not specifically latinx and/or black jsyk:

So even before the whole "baby girl" thing started, I saw quite a few of y'all calling Anthony and Lin "papi" which like.....why should I even have to tell you why this is wrong. If you're not latinx, DON'T USE THE WORD "PAPI", especially since most of y'all are using it in a sexual context. You went ahead and took an innocent word, and turned it into a way to sexualize your faves who just so happen to be latinx. It just ain't right, and its also?? weird??? Let me put it this way, I'm black but not jewish so thatd be like me calling daveed "bubbe". Or something. Either way see how that'd be gross and offensive? You're taking a part of them, a huge part of them, their culture, and turning it into something exotic and sexual. That, my friends, is fetishism.

Another good example of this is the whole "baby girl/boy" n "papa" thing. Y'all rly went ahead and took an cute nickname and rolled RIGHT with it lmao. @alexandralexander explained it beautifully in this post, but basically "papa" (and "mama") is a cute lil way of older folks to regard ppl who are younger than them. It's a caribbean thing, aka something yall just won't get. Idk what the whiter equivalent would be, idk like ur grandad calling u "big guy" or something??? Who knows. Just kno that its NOT SEXUAL IN ANYWAY LIKE WTF WHY DID Y'ALL MAKE THAT A DADDY KINK THING. WHY CAN NOTHING BE SACRED WITH YOU GUYS. Best believe when my grandparents call my brother "papa" they mean it in an endearing way. And that's how Lin meant it? I don't see how it could have been construed any other way??

As for the baby girl/boy thing, in all the times I've been called/heard someone else call someone baby girl, it was NOT sexual. It can be used that way, but it was n o t in this context. Again, its a cultural thing i guess. And with "baby boy", yall do remember that anthony plays lin's son in this show right. okay, just checking.

But forreal. what is wrong wit u guys. I told myself I wasn't gonna kinkshame nobody but its Time, it rly and truly is Time.

One last point I want to make (as if this isn't long enough already) is the language with which u talk about the cast too. This was said rly well in several posts especially this one that uses that tags ppl tend to use, but i’m gonna elaborate on it a little. I just want to know right now why Anthony (or our lighter skinned and SURE AS HELL THE WHITE cast members) is "sweet precious sunflower child cinnamon biscuit roll wheatgrass turkish delight with sprinkles or some other corny shit <333" while daveed is AUTOMATICALLY "raw me zaddy" THE FUCK??? Why we gotta go STRAAIGGHTT to zaddy-basis with daveed??? Why do I see y'all talking about his dick size???? Y'all dont do that from the get-go for the lighter skinned members (which is sad bc daveed is already a certified Lightskint™ so that's rly saying something)?? Why can't black actors (and characters) ever be seen as "sweet turnip bumblebees (???)" instead of either being put on an inhuman pedestal where it's "STEP ON ME BAD BITCH QUEEN" or sexualized with some "CHOKE ME YOU COCKSLUT" ???? Ask yourselves why y'all do that. I'll wait. 
And y'all don't even TALK about oak (as a quick sidenote okieriete is not that hard of a name to pronounce y'all just don't care to try. It sounds exactly like its spelled) but tbh I don't rly want u to bc you'd just sexualize him as well. Plus that means more for me cause I'm engaged to him too :) remember to save the date!!
This was all over the place and idk if I even said what I was trying to say but whatever. I guess what I'm trying to say is (and this is to white fans) you're stanning a thing full of people of color. im assuming that this is probably the first thing that youve been rly into that has included exclusively people of color. Please just be mindful of the way you talk about them. There's a history of you exotifying and sexualizing poc to the point that historically, people have been killed for??? There's a history behind y'all calling latinx folks "papi" and automatically assuming black folks got a big dick ok lmao. At the end of the day, the way you talk about them shows that you don't rly respect them as much as you claim to do??? Idk I wish I had made notes about this bc it sounded waaaaaaayyy better in my head but! Whatever it's still lit. s/o to @aaronsburrr for assistance! 

anonymous asked:

I feel like you're the only one cool and collected while many of us are struggling. Can you help me how you cope with it? You never have doubts and you're a mom yourself. What's your perspective on the things that are happening with Harry and Louis? I know you won't give me dates but what do you think when it will end?

Hi there! This is a very nice message and I am trying to explain to you my perspective on the events and my view on what have happened. I don’t know the answers, I don’t know dates either but I am a huge fan of looking at the big picture and not to get lost in the small details. That is how I deal with bullshit. I think the key is that we understand that we have no solid knowledge on the syco contract end date. New team seems to be having a decent amount of control but syco/simon’s trademark is still present on some actions.

The first time I had to sit down with myself and sorta put my thoughts together was during the Douis Chicago days. It was unclear yet what the purpose of taking 400 pictures with fans was. My only logical explanation was to stop any emotional attachment to Briana. Also Louis bless him put minimal effort into this whole Douis thing. Later on it seemed obvious that syco is still on so it all started to make sense.

The next time I had to sit down and look at things was during Yachtgate. It was obvious that the Azoffs orchestrated it but the why was unclear. Was this part of the *winter girlfriend clause* (don’t take this literally)? Or what was it? Obviously there was an agenda. I knew that the contract signing was a joke and he would never go solo and even he did he would never do it like that, not this publicly. Him going solo only purposes Simon’s wishes and Simon’s agenda, but never Harry’s, so this entire thing stunk for me. He also covered this Things I Can and I am not saying I needed reassurance but that action itself helped me get over any negative feelings or confusion. I knew this was done for a purpose. I knew the kiss was the play of the angles. I knew that paps were surrounding that yacht and I knew that if Azoffs have their hand in it and Harry is cooperating it is either happening because of contractual obligations or to throw a curve ball to OT. Yachtgate also served a perfect purpose to forget about a supposed Douis kiss on nye which never happened because we would have seen it and Louis was very mia during yachtgate. Him disappearing during the most crucial times (by that I mean that times when he is papped regularly but still goes mia) means that he is with Harry. Then they were both mia until the ski trip. And here I would like to talk about that a bit: the fact that HL have been mia together so many times and that Harry flew to LA on Jan 20th to stay there a month, during the most exhausting days of the babygate stunt and the fact that his stay there is publicized helps me deal with it so much easier. They are no longer sneaking out of airports, they both go mia and reappear at the same time. Only in 2016 this happened at least five times. This is such a silver lining if I look at things and I am so happy that after participating in bs for 1-2 hours per day they can come home to be together and forget it all.
Ok now back to the timeline.

The big question is: what is new team and what is syco’s doing. And looking back I believe that new team plus HL wanted to end babygate early, so much more earlier, just after a few weeks but Simon thought differently. His involvement in the stunt stopped being a question after HE was the first one to speak up and crush our hopes of a relatively early denial. So I think NT and HL maybe had been offered to end it but it was not on their terms. NT wanted to make it clear that Louis never touched this woman, that Louis never cheated on Harry, and ultimately they wanted to make it clear that Harry and Louis’ love story is real and pure. They had a few options only and I believe around the time of the London shows they had to see that Simon is relentless and lost all business sense and was stubbornly clinging to this false idea that he could come out of this as the winner. Remember he flew B (a supposedly pregnant woman) to stand in front of their eyes, RBB was more rebellious than ever and OT4 started to act out: Liam mocked the hiatus and being overworked (Harry saying nice save) during the Beats interview then on the Apple Music Festival Harry mocked the record label executives that they are bored then Niall’s NOT ANYMORE SIMON, then using Simon’s printout face during Little White Lies and Harry putting a plush toy under his shirt during LITTLE WHITE LIES symbolizing that he is pregnant.. these actions came out of the blue and if anyone had a sliver of doubt that this is war then they probably got convinced around this time that this is indeed war. Next we had the cancelled Belfast show and the RBB twitter creation. This WAS WAR.

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anonymous asked:

Why is it that you're fine being seen out with Nadine but you won't even take me on a fucking date?

“You know that Nadine and I mean nothing, y/n? Why can’t you understand that?” Harry sighed, not wanting to fight. Harry was never one for fighting, he actually hated it and he’d do anything in his power to avoid one but there was no way that he could get out of this one.

“Then why did you take her out on a date?!” It just didn’t make any sense to you since you two had become official over two and a half months ago but you had only been on ‘dates’ that involved dinner at his house. You never actually went out in public which only caused you to believe that he was ashamed of you and didn’t want other people to know about you two. Just that thought made your heart cold.

“It’s wasn’t a date!” He shouted, slamming his fist down on the counter top which caused you to jump. “God, I can’t be seen with any fucking female without you becoming jealous, can I?!”

“I’m no jealous of her!” You yelled back. You refused to let him yell at you when you didn’t even do anything wrong.

“Then why are you upset about it?” Harry practically growled as he stomped towards you. You instinctively backed up and soon enough you were pressed against the wall while Harry was pressing your further into the wall as he leaned his entire body weight into you. “Why can’t you understand that I don’t want her; I’ve already got the girl that I want." 

"Then how come she gets to go out with you but we don’t even go outside together…” You voice was much lower than it was only two minutes ago and, in a way, you were slightly relived that it hadn’t escalated into something much worse where either of you ended up saying things that you’d regret.

“Honey,” He whispered, arching down so that he could rest his forehead against yours and intertwining your fingers together, almost as if he was apologizing for yelling. “Is that what all of this is about?”

You nodded.

“It’s not that I don’t want to take you out on a proper date because I do. I want to but I don’t want to deal with the shit that comes with it. Nadine is receiving so much hate just for being seen around me. Now imagine how much you’d get if people found out that we’re dating?”

You never thought that he had been avoiding all of that just to save you from the harsh comments, you had just automatically assumed that he was ashamed of you. “I’m sorry.” You mumbled.

“If you want to, I’ll take you out or we can find another way to announce our relationship, whatever you want, honey. Just don’t forget that you’re the only girl that I want.”

IM NOT ACCEPTING ANYMORE LINES!!!!!!!!!!!!! JUST IN THIS HALF HOUR IVE RECEIVED OVER 100 MESSAGES PLUS THE 50+ ONES I HAD FROM LAST NIGHT. IM SORRY GUYS

The signs as two Cry Baby songs // why // lyric
  • **album by Melanie Martinez**
  • Aries: Alphabet Boy and Teddy Bear // Alphabet Boy is about a character that realizes that they're better than someone that they used to put up with. Aries is like this character, once they realize they are being treated like crap they leave. Doesn't want to be a part of anyone's "game". They know that they are big, tough and smart. They know that they are better. Aries becomes very protective, just like the character Teddy Bear is about. Wants everything perfect and wants their partner to be perfect. Doesn't really return favors or realize when people treat them so greatly. Can get pretty violent about love. // "You can crush my candy cane but you'll never catch me cry" -Alphabet Boy
  • Taurus: Training Wheels and Cake // Taurus is always trying to make relationships go fast, just like the character in Training Wheels. Wants all or nothing. Normally pushes people to do things that they are very comfortable with, but doesn't really realize it. Falls in love quickly. Just like Cake, they always fall for people that don't really like them. Wants to be someone's everything. Taurus wants to turn "friends-with-benefits" type of relationships to either just friends or dating. // "I'm not a piece of cake" -Cake
  • Gemini: Pacify Her and Sippy Cup // Like Pacify Her, Gemini are always kinda the "homewreckers". Does everything to get their way, or what they want. Will argue, complain and fight until they get what they want. Always sees the bad in people. Acts sweet, but sometimes they are evil. Just like Sippy Cup, they also seem to know everything. Is really good at reading people. Focuses on the worst in the world. // "All the makeup in the world, won't make you less insecure" -Sippy Cup
  • Cancer: Cry Baby and Teddy Bear // Like Cry Baby, they make all their decisions with their feelings/emotions instead of logic. Really emotional people. Blames everything that happens to them on others. They love way too much for their age. Literally is a cry baby. Always loves to meet others that are like them, it makes them feel more relaxed and happy with themselves. Like Teddy Bear's character, they give everything to the person they love, but when they don't return it they get scared. Doesn't want to be lonely but also doesn't want to be in a bad relationship. Always looks back on the beginning of the relationship, instead of the present. // "You're one of a kind,
And no one understands" -Cry Baby
  • Leo: Dollhouse and Milk and Cookies // Dollhouse is similar to Leo because Leos keep all the bad inside. They don't show how bad their life really is. They have to make their life seem perfect, they have to make it seem like they are perfect. They don't think they need help, that they can help themselves alone. Never wants someone to know their real life and the real them. Milk and Cookies is about revenge, which Leos are so good at. They love getting back at people who make them go through hell, or at least just stand up for themselves. // "Everyone thinks that we're perfect, please don't let them look through the curtains" -Dollhouse
  • Virgo: Soap and Mrs. Potato Head // Virgos always are afraid of saying too much, and soap is exactly like that. They are afraid of saying something rude, or something that is too serious too fast. Virgos do always say the wrong thing, though. Virgos don't really understand society and their beauty standards, just like Mrs. Potato Head is about. Even though they know deep inside that it's wrong, they always do try to be perfect, physically and mentally. They usually think that if they were 'beautiful' that person would like them back. // "Oh Mrs. Potato Head, tell me, is it true that pain is beauty?" -Mrs. Potato Head
  • Libra: Milk and Cookies and Cake // Libra's love ,until, well, they are crazy. Milk and Cookies describes that version of them real well. Cake is a very lovely song, a perfect song for lovely Libra. They fall in love fast, even if the other doesn't return the feelings. They will keep trying for love until they know it's no use. They will take back their love for an other. They know they need someone who will treat them right. // "I'm not a piece of cake for you to just discard" -Cake
  • Scorpio: Cry Baby and Soap // Scorpio is a Cry Baby. They blame others for things they do. Gets frustrated when they can't explain their feelings. They are unique, not like any other. Soap describes them wanting to go fast in relationships. They also have a tendency of saying things that are offensive, and they regret it, sometimes. They feel the need to punish themselves for things they do wrong. // "I'm sick of all the games I have to play" -Soap
  • Sagittarius: Mrs. Potato Head and Training Wheels // Sagittarius don't understand society's idea of "beauty", even though they do feel pressured to be the ideal idea of beauty. Mrs. Potato Head explain these feelings. Wants to look like the best them. Training Wheels is an adventurous type of song, and Sagittarius is an adventurous type of sign. Wants to have fun and live life to the fullest. Loves to be trusted. // "Baby soft skin turns into leather" -Mrs. Potato Head
  • Capricorn: Sippy Cup and Carousel // Seems to know everything. Can see underneath people's fake smiles, like the character in Sippy Cup. Knows that everything they do now will effect the future. Capricorns are fun and lively, just like Carousel. Secretive and they keep everything in. Sees love as something fun, but once they fall in love it's a whole different story. // "it's all fun and games, till somebody falls in love" -Carousel
  • Aquarius: Carousel and Mad Hatter // Likes to have fun, but everything changes when they fall in love, like what the song Carousel describes. They don't fight love, surprisingly. Their life just seems to be on repeat, just going round and round. Aquarius is like a Mad Hatter. They are weird and unlike anything you'll ever meet. They don't like being safe, they like being risky. Likes to be surrounded by people that are like them. They are crazy and bonkers. // "I'm nuts, baby, I'm mad, the craziest friend that you've ever had" -Mad Hatter
  • Pisces: Pity Party and Play Date // Pisces always throw "pity parties" for themselves. They always pity themselves and wants people to pity them, too. They don't really think about others and always wants to get their way. Sensitive. When people don't return love, they completely become mad at the person. Becomes careless and tried of chasing something that they can't get, just like the character in Play Date. But at the end, they admit their feelings and hope for the best.

anonymous asked:

So, question. Obviously WWJD is a great guide to living life and dealing with people but I'm not sure how He'd handle the situation I'm in: how to deal with a guy who won't take no for an answer and insists you're just playing hard to get (after a bad first date where he was way too forward). You can't be nice because that'd just encourage him but you can't be too mean either because that's not Christ-like? Thoughts?

Sweetheart, pay very close attention because I’m about to tell you something very important:

Staying meek and quiet in the face of disrespect and injustice is not Christ-like.

Jesus was a champion for the oppressed and called out even his own disciples when they looked upon anyone as lesser than them (consult the story about Judas chastising the woman who washed Jesus’ feet with her hair). Suffering well is what Christians do, we are supposed to champion love above all things, but suffering well does not include allowing injustice to continue, and even Jesus flipped a few tables over in the face of utter wickedness. Turning the other cheek means being patient, but it also means refusing to be subjugated by other people. 

This boy dishonored you with his advances and continues to demean you with his arrogant, aggressive behavior. He is treating you like you owe him something, and listen to me, you don’t owe him a damn thing. Your body belongs to you and God, this boy has no power over you, and you need to show him that. Being straightforward in this situation is not aggression, it’s defense, and being straightforward is probably going to include using absolute language that you feel uncomfortable with, but that’s okay, you’re strong enough to do this and you’re not doing anything unethical or immoral or even unkind in the light of human decency.

 Don’t apologize for your refusal, don’t tell him you’re interested in someone else, don’t tell him he’s not your type or you need time to think or or you’re busy. Tell him his forwardness was discourteous, uncomfortable, and disrespectful. Tell him his insisting on your playing hard to get is untrue, sexually aggressive, and sexist. Tell him he doesn’t deserve another date, that he didn’t deserve the first one, that it was a gift that he spat on when he touched you without your permission. No profanity or raised voices are needed, you are above that, you are the Daughter of a King (assuming you’re female, if not you’re a prince or whatever other term you like best) and royalty does not suffer fools or stoop to their level.

The exact same thing happened to me two years ago and I made the mistake of being too gentle out of not wanting to insult him and I have regretted it ever since. Because here’s the thing precious, men like that are always going to be insulted. They will piss and moan and call you a frigid bitch and you must stand your ground and remember that monsters come in many forms but they’re always out to destroy what’s good.

This is a situation in which you need to see yourself as God sees you, which is a a fully autonomous person of infinite value and perfect craftsmanship. You deserve to surround yourself with people who respect you and weeding out the people who don’t is as simple as saying, “Please stop contacting me. I didn’t enjoy our date and I didn’t enjoy you coming onto me and I’m not okay with you pretending like I did. You disrespected me and I don’t want to see you again. Period.”

See? Not mean. Not encouraging. Strong.

#Imagine

Imagine with Nate Maloley and Sammy Wilkinson for thoseffingmagconboys :

Imagine:

‘Wait so lemme get this straight,my best friend and my baby sister have been dating for 8 months and I’ve only found out now?’ Sammy questioned looking between you and Nate.

'Sam we didn’t know how to tell you and we didn’t want you to be angry at either of us but we really care for each other and are happy together’ you replied,praying Sam wouldn’t flip out at any moment.

'How did you two even happen?’ Sammy blurted out.

'Well…’ Nate started as a flashback came into both of your minds and Nate recalled the story,leaving out some details to Sammy.

*Flashback*

You were with Nate in his kitchen getting snacks whilst Sammy and the Jacks were up in Nate’s room setting up a movie to watch. You and Nate had got a bit distracted with each other and started to make out until Nate pulled away.

’(Y/N) what are we?’ Nate questioned you looking straight into your eyes.

'Well what do you want us to be Nate?’ You asked innocently.

He but his lip ‘I want you to be mine officially’ he grinned as he leaned in for another kiss.

'I think that can be arranged’ you giggled as he picked you up and kissed you one last time.

Grabbing your snacks you went back up acting as if nothing happened and knowing you wouldn’t tell the boys yet,especially not your brother.

*Flashback ends*

'Shit, I knew you two were close but geez’ Sammy spoke up as Nate finished the story.

'Sam please don’t be angry’ you begged.

'Angry? Sis I’m not angry I’m just kinda shocked at how long you managed to keep it a secret’ he lightly chuckled as he hugged you then Nate.

'So,you’re not mad?’ Nate asked with a puzzled expression.

'No way,I’d rather you two be dating each other then some random nobodies who fuck you over’ he smiled 'but no kissing or shit in front of me I don’t need that in my life’

'Dont worry bro we won’t make you jealous that we have someone and you don’t’ you retorted giggling as Sammy threw a cushion from the sofa at you. Both you and Nate were relieved you didn’t have to keep the secret anymore but you knew you’d have to beak it to his fans soon…

You think they know?
  • Farkle: I love Isadora right?
  • Riley: what do you mean? Of course you do. You are dating! Why would you date if you didn't love her?
  • Farkle: I don't know. Is it really love?
  • Riley: why are you asking me? Farkle?
  • Farkle: I don't know... I... (Leaves)
  • Riley: I think something's wrong with Farkle.
  • Lucas: what?
  • Riley: He just asked me if he loves Smakle.
  • Lucas: What did you tell him?
  • Riley: that he does... Of course he does right? Why would he ask me that? He must love her if he's dating her right?
  • Lucas: (turns to Maya)
  • Maya: hunny... Love is more complicated than that. It doesn't always means love, and love doesn't always last forever... My dad stopped loving my mom, remember? And then mom fell in love with Shawn... sometimes you fall in love and then out of love.
  • Riley: But... They're dating...
  • Lucas: You can date someone you like and realize you are not inlove. Dating doesn't always means you're in love.
  • Riley: He asked me and I think he's confused... And I should go talk to him. (Leaves after Farkle)
  • Lucas: You think she knows?
  • Maya: that you're in love with her?
  • Lucas: what? Why would you say that?
  • Maya: so what was all that "dating someone you are not inlove with" for?
  • Lucas: I was trying to be subtle with Riley... About us, dating.
  • Maya: yeah. I got that right. So we won't date anymore... I don't love you either by the way... I was just confused...
  • Lucas: what? Look, I-
  • Maya: you love Riley, you want to go back to dating her.
  • Lucas: No! That's not what I want! would you stop putting words in my mouth and just hear me out
  • Maya: fine... Talk!
  • Lucas: You didn't even asked, didn't need to. Just had to look a little closer.
  • But if you had asked, you'll know what I want
  • The girl that riles me up with her sassy attitude
  • The girl who makes me fight for her because easy is boring
  • The girl who is not afraid to face a bully and will get in a fight, but would not let me get in a fight or ride a bull!
  • The girl who'll eat a card for me because I ate a card too.
  • The girl who will hide her feeling to see me happy even if it brakes her heart.
  • The girl who smiles and apreciates all good things because they rarely come her way.
  • The girl with a little hope buried so deep because life tought her hope is for suckers so she gave it up too soon.
  • The girl who thinks i don't love her, but I do. I really do. And that girl is you.
  • So fight me on this. I dare you!
  • Tell me you don't love me too and I'll go. I'll never bother you again.
  • Tell me you really think Riley is the girl I want!
  • Maya: ...I can't
  • Lucas: that's what I tought. So if you don't want to be with me because of her, don't botter... She won't mind.
  • Maya: how come?
  • Lucas: all this time we've spent circling around eachother, avoiding our feelings and being "confused" about what to do about them... She's been feeling the same, about him.
  • Maya: who? Farkle?
  • Lucas: yeah...you've noticed too?
  • Maya: kinda... I always knew he had a soft spot for her, even when claiming to love both... And they hug way too much.
  • Lucas: exactly... That's what got my attention. It kinda reminded me of another pair
  • Maya: who?
  • Lucas: us... I like to be near you... And touch you... And fight with you... And they do too.
  • Maya: you ok about them?
  • Lucas: yeah! Why wouldn't I be? As long as is not "Mr Perfect Charlie Gardner" I'm ok with Riley and Farkle.
  • Maya: you think they know?
  • Lucas: No. Farkle knows something doesn't click with Isadora, but he doesn't know why
  • Maya: is because of Riley right?
  • Lucas: yeah... Just like it didn't clicked between me and Riley, because of you.
  • Maya: so now is my fault?
  • Lucas: What? No! No no no. I didn't mean it like that. I meant... I liked her, but I wasn't in love when I was dating Riley. I'm in love with you... It feels different.
  • Maya: you think we should say something?
  • Lucas: No, they'll figure it out when they're ready. They'll get there.
  • Maya: you really mean it?
  • Lucas: yeah... I mean they're not stuppid, just confused
  • Maya: No! About the other thing... You love me?
  • Lucas: Wasn't I obvious? you on the other hand... Made me think you hated me...
  • Maya: I could never hate you... You're a great guy.
  • Lucas: So I've heard. Tell me something new...
  • Maya: you need to improve your style.
  • Lucas: (chuckles)why? you love me like this.
  • Maya: (smiles)yeah... I do Hucleberry.