anonymous asked:

How do I deal with department store employees who snicker when I'm picking out bras? Not like I don't already feel self-conscious looking for a 30A bra...

Honestly, just find somewhere else to shop. You don’t deserve that treatment and that store definitely doesn’t deserve your business. There are plenty of places to shop for bras, even cheap bras, where employees will not harass you. If it keeps up, you can always report them to a manager. Making fun of someone for their body is uncalled for, rude, and absolutely terrible customer service, and you don’t need to put up with that.

Representation doesn’t make a story good.

Lack of representation doesn’t make a story bad.

Authors don’t owe you, or the rest of the world, a story with a diverse cast.

There is no difference between changing characters’ race from white to X and from X to white. Both are racist and disrespectful to the author’s vision.

If you want more representation, create new stories with diverse characters, don’t change what already exists.

So… when the kiddo got out of bed we talked about the situation some more, and she kind of backpedaled on the details. Said maybe she might have experienced things a little more intensely than they actually happened. I let her know that’s a normal emotional reaction, but that she doesn’t have to protect anyone else either, so if it did happen the way she first described, I was going to talk about it with Daddy today. She told me she wanted to be there, that she wanted to say how she feels to him. 

He picked her up from her orthodontist appointment and while she waited for me to get off work, she told him that she felt his girlfriend was trying to be an authority over her and made her feel insecure about her weight. Said she didn’t want them to be together because she wants her parents to get back together. When I got there he let me know that if I wanted to speak with him about it too, that was just fine, but that Lila had expressed her feelings very clearly and that he intends to speak with his gf about it immediately. 

He said in front of Lila that he thinks her perception of what happened isn’t quite accurate, that nobody was portioning less on purpose, and that she isn’t trying to mother Lila, just to be an adult, which is where I interjected that any messaging of a parenting nature should only come from her parents, period and ended. That we are not at the step parent stage, nobody is living under the same roof and needing to form that relationship yet. And I said that I will not under any circumstances tolerate negative body messaging being delivered to our kid. Ever. He nodded and said he knows and that he will speak with her about it right away. Said that Lila is his number one priority. 

On the way home I told Lila she should be so incredibly proud of herself for speaking her truth and doing it so gracefully. Told her what a gift she is to her father asking him to meet her where she lives in the world. She’s a very wise child and very brave. 

I also said that if it ever happens again and she doesn’t feel like she can speak up in that moment and wants to get away she can call me and just say come get me, and I will be there in a heartbeat. So, we shall see. 

This is a response to the post about white girls cosplaying as Amethyst.

What is so wrong about that? Amethyst is technically a PoC, but since when is purple a normal and healthy human skin tone for ANYONE? And what’s with the hostility aimed primarily at white people? Yes they have a plethora of characters to cosplay of, but they are shamed for cosplaying as Garnet for example. (Who may I add is actually dark red when you look at her closely). And what’s with the unfair insults aimed at “ugly” people?

Yes people will complain about how some characters are “ruined” because of different skin tones, but those types of people are immature regardless of whether they are ‘neckbeards’ or not.

Sometimes I am SHOCKED when I see myself in a photo….

Are those my leg muscles?!?!

Are those my arm muscles?!?!

Where are my love handles & mommy pooch?!?!

Who is this girl?!?!?

I need to remember that I am fit & strong…

and it is photo’s such as this that remind me that fitness is waaaaaay more than a number on the scale!!!!

A year or two after reaching sexual maturity, Balding Eagles begin to lose some of their stunning plumage. Rather than recognise that bird society’s ideals of beauty are ultimately toxic, they will often resort to crude prosthetics in an attempt to hide the feather loss. Above: a Balding Eagle conceals a moderate bald spot on the tail with a large clump of grass and twigs, crippling its ability to effectively hunt.