Insecure girls who have gotten sucked into the idea that you are only desirable if you look as close to an IG model as possible get SO pressed when they see a girl who is not conveniently attractive with a conveniently attractive dude lmfao. Like whenever I see a IG post of a couple who mixed weight (one is overweight, one is average or fit), women are the main ones commenting saying how the dude or girl could do better. Fat does not equate to ugly. Get over it.

I have always had issues with my body. I was skinny when I was little and I used to eat but I was kind of picky. Family members, random strangers and my parents would always tell me I needed to eat. It got so bad that in middle school I started eating a lot. I was never eating for me but only to please other people. High school came around and I was still slim and tall but I kept eating and eating. I’m 23 and in college now and I have such an unflattering mid-section.

My arms and legs are great but I hate my stomach, love handles and fat under my arms where your bra straps are. My Mom keeps saying I’m fine but I’m tired of people saying stuff just to coddle my feelings. I’m a realist. I know I need to lose stomach weight. I never really felt girly besides when I was younger. Now I just feel like an ugly ogre. I want to look like all those pretty black girls on Instagram.

I want to feel pretty. I take Garcinia Cambogia pills so I won’t be hungry. I try my hardest to eat healthy and I do but I always go back to eating junk. I have such a problem with food and my past with it makes it worse. I wish I was skinny like I was before. I was so much happier. Every time I look at myself in the mirror I cry. I’m trying but I need help.

it’s weird but the huge popularity of mchanzo honestly has made me like, feel better about myself, how i look, and made me literally want to go to the gym so i can get mcbeefy and cute

most the time the beefy boys get ignored or “slimmed down” in art and fics and the fact that not only has this not happened, but like, body hair, chub, muscle, and like, really hypermasculine body types are being portrayed as cute and endearing just like makes me feel good all around, because that’s what i find attractive, that’s how i want to look, but for the longest time i felt like i couldn’t do that and also be cute and y’all give me god damn life

one of these days im gonna get my shit together for a hipster hanzo cosplay but first i wanna be a rhinestone cowboy methinks

anonymous asked:

So, I have an event I'm going to on Thursday, and lately it's been rather difficult to even go out and go shopping for a dress due to my own confidence issues and such (seeing as nearly nothing seems to fit) but after following you for a while and seeing how positive you are I've kind of come to like myself a little more! I just wanted to say that even if you aren't aware of the effect you have on your followers, you should know that your positivity is rubbing off some of us in the best of ways!

((OOC: That is incredibly fucking touching, I am so happy to hear it! Thank you so much, babe, I am so genuinely honoured to hear that I’m having any kind of effect on you in your life. And I very much want to see the dress you go with!

If it helps you at all, I always have this problem. Last time I measured myself, I think I was like a 42-38-49 or something like that? Granted, that was a while ago, but I do find clothes shopping stressful. I have an hourglass figure, on a larger scale. As such, I never buy pants anymore. I have shirts that are, somehow, inexplicably smalls. I just walk around thrift stores in circles, lost and confused. Clothing just doesn’t make sense, my babe. Not for you, for me, for anyone. The trick is, accepting that people who make clothes seem to have no idea what they are doing, particularly when they get into the plus sizes. So you have to try your best to not take it personally, and just feel bad for the shmucks who suck at their jobs.))

  • dad complaining to my mom on the phone: why are oscar (my little brother) and brenda getting fat?? why do you make them eat??? it's your fault.
  • my dad when we were visiting him: *guilts us into eating even tho we weren't hungry, made a scene and got mad when we didn't eat his food*
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After being bullied over her dark skin, this 10-year-old is fighting back with self-love T-shirts

  • In late March, when 22-year-old Taylor Pollard posted two pictures of her 10-year-old sister Kheris Rogers on Twitter, she was just trying to brighten her day.
  • “My sister is only 10, but already royalty,” Pollard wrote, concluding the post with the hashtag #FlexinInHerComplexion.
  • But with that tweet, which went viral with more than 83,000 likes, Pollard ended up not only brightening her sister’s day, but changing her life and paving the way for Rogers’ new clothing line, Flexin’ In My Complexion, which aims to spark confidence in anyone that’s faced colorism in their life, like Rogers has. Read more (5/22/17)

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19-year-old Jacinda made a meme to remind black children that their features are beautiful. Now it’s viral.

  • If you scroll through 19-year-old Jacinda’s Instagram account, where she has more than 11,000 followers, you’ll see flawless selfies and outfit appreciations, but interspersed among them are honest revelations she’s had on her own journey to loving every part of herself.
  • “I love how now I’m slowly discovering every flaw I once disliked and slowly loving it,” she wrote in May.
  • Indeed, for years she struggled to love various parts of her — from her body to her lips — partly because she simply never saw black beauty being celebrated.
  • Now she wants to ensure that no other black children go through what she went through, thinking they aren’t worthy or beautiful. 
  • And since it’s 2017, Jacinda’s using Instagram – and memes. Read more (6/6/17)

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How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

—  Sarah Koppelkam