It’s always amazing to me how different people can watch the exact same thing and come away with completely different impressions.
I watch the final episodes of Doctor Who Series 8, and that scene when the Doctor instantly and easily forgives Clara for her betrayal strikes me as a beautiful and very true statement about the nature of relationships and forgiveness, and the depths of the Doctor’s attachment to and dependence on Clara. It’s lovely and heartbreaking, and is a natural beat in the development of their friendship and attachment to each other.
Someone else watches that scene and takes nothing from it but that it feels forced, that the Doctor’s forgiveness seemed to come out of nowhere, that there should have been a period of the Doctor being angry before he was able to reach the point where he could forgive, that it was a lazily written scene that Moffat was forced to include to save himself from “the corner he wrote himself into” in order to salvage the Doctor/Clara relationship because she was still the contracted companion.
And sometimes I think, okay, sure, someone’s personal experiences and outlook on life might make such a scene seem completely unrealistic, and even utterly alien to the way they perceive relationships and betrayal and forgiveness to work. The personal baggage we bring to stories always colors our perception of them.
But then other times I think, sheesh, how could someone watch the entirety of Series 7b and Series 8, and think that the Doctor’s forgiveness is coming out of nowhere? How did they not pick up on all the evidence of his attachment to Clara, and then say to themselves “oh, of course he forgave her so easily; in retrospect it makes perfect sense.”
But this is all indicative of a lot of anti-Moffat sentiment; finding his take on DW to be “unrelatable” because it doesn’t fit personal experiences or expectations, or finding certain moments to be “out of character” when really the viewer just failed to pick up on all the clues along the way that pointed to a character’s true feelings or motivations.