!virginity

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“What we have here is a dreamer. Someone completely out of touch with reality.”

The Virgin Suicides (1999)

no yknow what fuck the entire concept of virginity

  • fuck the idea that a woman is only good or worthy if she hasn’t had sex
  • fuck the idea that this one quality that can make a woman worthy can be “taken” from her by or “lost” by her to a man
  • fuck the idea that sex is a rite of passage for men but the end of innocence for women
  • fuck the entire gross fetishization of the ‘pure’ virgin female and the competition among men to be the one to 'ruin’ her
  • women are not a commodity for men to defile
  • we are not defined by the way men have or have not touched us
  • and we certainly do not need to deprive ourselves of intimacy and pleasure with people we feel close to just so that some day, some man might see us as more valuable for it
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Your virginity is not a thing. It’s not. Virginity is a word that has a definition. That’s it. It’s not a real part of your biology. You don’t have a body part called Your Virginity. Often, for some reason, we’ve decided that the hymen and virginity are the same thing and they’re not. Your hymen is never supposed to bleed or rip. (x)

In the end it didn’t matter how old they were, or even that they were girls. All that mattered was that we loved them, and they didn’t hear our calls from in that room. For they were destined to be alone forever. And we would never find all the pieces to put the puzzle together.

The Virgin Suicides (1999)