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7 things to know when speaking about transgender people - by Pat Cordova-Goff

1. ‘Transgender’ can be a complex concept.

It is important to mention that the term “transgender” does not stop after MTF (male-to-female) and FTM (female-to-male). In fact, the transgender community also includes people who believe they have no gender, multiple genders, genders that vary by day and are “fluid,” and the list goes on.

2. We are people who have feelings.

I’ve worked so hard to embrace my gender, that a single person’s insult or slight can make that self-acceptance seem futile. I isolate myself to cope, and even though I know this isn’t healthy, it becomes a reflex to deal with attacks on my identity. I’m not the only one who experiences this. It happens when someone makes an insensitive remark or when my community is told to stay in the shadows. The struggle to survive and remain true to our gender is already difficult. Just please remember — we have hearts, too.

3. Let’s not talk about what’s beneath our clothes without permission.

I’ll keep this simple: Never ask a transgender person what their body without clothes looks like.

4. Transitioning is not a selfish act.

To the family members, partners and friends who think they are being betrayed by a loved one who transitions: This is not about you. I did not socially transition to “get back at my mom” or to “embarrass my sisters.” I chose to live as myself because I deserve a happy and true life, and so do all other transgender people.

5. Pronouns are very important.

If you want to be certain of someone’s pronouns, simply and respectfully ask in private, “What are your gender pronouns?”

6. Transphobia is everywhere.

For some transgender people, facing transphobia is a part of daily life. From navigating which restroom, if any, is safe to use, to hiding gender identity at work, our society does not yet accept us all or make it safe for us to be our authentic selves. Understanding this is important in order to understand the transgender community and the battle we are currently up against.

7. Someone’s gender identity story is personal.

I think it is incredible to celebrate diversity in gender. Trailblazers like Orange Is the New Black actress Laverne Cox serve as examples of how transgender people can lead successful and happy lives after coming out. But this does not mean every transgender person would like to share their story when you ask.

These seven things only make up a portion of what you need to understand if you choose to be an ally to the transgender community. If you want to celebrate and support our diversity, I urge you to look away from the media spectacle and speculation, and instead look at what we share in common: a desire to live healthy, happy and authentic lives. [via]

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hi!!! I’m Lovi and I’m a nonbinary latinx/asian teen and I would really appreciate if you would take the time to read this!!!!

Right now I’m going through a rough time, emotionally and financially. My family is poor, and we don’t have money for a lot of things we need.

Usually I’m low on things such as:
-toiletpaper
-underwear
-food that isn’t a dollar/is good for you
-cat food
-clothes that actually fit -pads/tampons
-shampoo/conditioner/body wash

Not only do we not have a lot of things we need, a lot of our things are beginning to break! Our fridge is slowly starting to stop work and my old computer’s trackpad is beginning to not work.

I would also like to be able to buy things for myself to help with my dysphoria such as a:
-binder
-“boy” clothes / clothing geared toward people of the male gender

I would really appreciate any donations to my paypal, just send it to babydollromano@gmail.com !!!!!

Thank you for reading and have a lovely day!! (Please reblog if you can ^^)

2013 - 22 years old and the year I came out as transgender. Underweight and unhappy because of dysphoria.

2015 - 24 years old and 8 days on T. I´m happy and in a healthy weight range, dysphoria is not as tough.

What a journey I´ve been through, but I´m glad I made it through all the hard times to be able to stand here today knowing things already are and will get so much better.

My transgender timeline

So I feel like i’m at a point in my life where i can share these pictures and put them out there and not feel bad about it;
i can’t lie to myself and pretend that the first 15 years of my life never happened, because they did. Looking back at the person i was, i’m not ashamed. My life is where it is because of that person i used to be, even if i was unhappy. If things had been different, I wouldn’t have the life I have now, which, i must add, is not perfect, but its pretty good.
Here we have pictures of me from the end of my 8th grade year to today (end of 11th grade)
Hopefully my transformation could help some people and give them hope, or just give people an insight to how different life becomes once you come out as trans*

8th Grade Year; Often thought about the possibility of being trans but pushed it out of my head for fear of what that would bring. I had really low self esteem issues because of bullying in elementary, but after i got this haircut i felt a little better. The year before, I had tried to kill myself. Even though it was over a year before this picture was taken, I still hadn’t fully recovered. Something kept me going this whole time, and I’m glad it did.

Summer before 9th grade year; Got highlights! :’-) After my extremely uncomfortable 8th grade prom and my tragic poofy black dress.

9th grade year; Dyed my hair completely blonde.

9th grade; At this point I knew I wasn’t 100% female and it scared me to be honest. I tried my best to rule out the possibility I was trans, so I tried to convince myself to settle for androgyny.

9th grade; managed to convince my mom to let me cut my hair off. I took this photo right after. Even though I had eyeliner on in the picture, I fell in love with how masculine I looked and used this picture for my profile on every website.

9th grade; dyed my hair back to brown. The first time I dyed it, I somehow managed to get my original hair color and had a breakdown. I didn’t know why I was so upset about it but after I dyed it to dark brown I felt a lot better.

9th grade; Still not sure how to go about the androgynous thing. I told people that any pronouns were fine but obviously only got refered to as ‘she’. I just tried my best not to think about gender and just try to not look hideous.

9th grade; Got a pixie cut and tried the androgyny thing again. After much deliberation, I decided to ask my mom if I could wear a suit to my friend’s sweet sixteen. After lots of back and forth argueing, i managed to get her to say yes. Here I am trying on a blazer and feeling really confident for the first time in a long time.

My friend’s sister said I wasn’t allowed to show up in a suit to their sweet sixteen. However, my friend told me to do it anyway, so i did. My mom however told me that I /had/ to wear eyeliner and lipstick if i wore a suit, so i did. Besides this, though, I still felt like I was finally getting somewhere in terms of gender identity.

Summer before 10th grade; I was fighting a lot of internal battles at this time. I knew i wasnt androgynous. I wasn’t female. As much as I didn’t want to admit it, I couldnt ignore the fact that every time I heard my birthname or ‘she’ it hurt me. I’m not sure what I would have done if I didn’t have my best friend with me :’-)
(Isn’t she cute? I was totally crushing on her but didn’t know it yet~)

Summer before 10th grade, stopped wearing eyeliner and doubled up on sports bras. When I finally accepted the fact that I was trans, I tried my best to lose all the femininity I had.

Summer before 10th grade year; Got another haircut! I told my friends to use male pronouns with me for the first time. It felt so right, that I no longer had doubts in my mind. I knew that I didn’t want to live as female, so I decided to tell my mom the August before 10th grade year.

Beginning of 10th grade year; After coming out to my mom, I asked my best friend to be my girlfriend. Although a lot of things seemed to be going right, I became very anxious and depressed. I was put on anti-anxiety and anti-depressant medication and was doing okay, although in this point of my life I began cutting myself for the first time. It was a hard and stressful time in my life, probably because of the changes going on around me. I had horrible dysphoria, and coming out to my teachers and classmates wasn’t easy.

10th grade; Dyed my hair pink while i was more comfortable with myself. It didn’t last long because I didn’t like all the negative attention, but I actually really did like it.

End of 10th grade; Prom with my gf!! It was the first time I got fitted for a tux and it was just really great all around.

End of 10th grade year; went pastel purple! I also started using editing apps, lmao. I was digging the hair (should have kept it, tbh)

Summer before 11th grade; went to trans camp. Met awesome people and felt really good for the first time in a while. I was diagnosed with PCOS and started developing really bad acne, which sucked, but I lived with it.

(For all those who didn’t believe that I had white hair!!!)

Aaaand a collection of 11th grade pics!

And most recently, here I am 2 weeks on T, happier than i’ve ever been. I’m still with my girlfriend and we just hit 1 year 7 months~ How time flies, huh? ;v;

I know this was long but I really wanted to post this, partly to pick myself up and see the progress I’ve made.
Here’s to proving that it really does get better.
#thisiswhattranslookslike

Fashion Resources for Trans Men

I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out how to dress. I don’t mean to pass but to dress and look and fee good. The truth is I used to know nothing about fashion. I grew up wearing my brothers hand-me-downs because we were didn’t have money for much else, moved to wearing clothes I hated, and then moved into wearing clothes to pass (read oversized hoodies and jeans). So here is a list of things I’ve found helpful and you might too: 

General Fashion Tips:  

15 Quick Fashion Tips for Men

Men’s Fashion Basics - Formal

Men’s Fashion Basics - Casual 

Upgrade Your Style: 25 Easy Tips for Men 

How to Dress Sharp: 9 Style Steps for Young Men 

A Man’s Belt Guide 

28 Fashion Items Every Guy Needs for Spring and Summer Under $100 

The Ten Commandments of Summer Style 

10 Tips for Better Men’s Fall Outfits 

Dos and Don’ts of Winter Fashion

Tips for Dressing when You’re Short: 

Dressing Taller: 10 Tips for Short Men 

The Modest Man 

5 Dressing Tips for Short Men 

Fashion Tips for Short(er) Men

Tips to Look Older: 

14 Style Tips to Dress Older 

10 Easy Ways to Look Older as a Man 

How to Look Older: Ways Baby Faced Guys Can Look Older Than Their Age 

Haircut and Style Tips: 

How to Get a Better Haircut 

How to Find the Right Hairstyle for your Face 

Grooming Style Product Guide 

Shaving & Facial Hair Tips:  

12 Easy Beard Care Tips 

How to Get the Best Shave 

Shaving 101 

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I was obviously feeling me this morning. Probably bc my traps are impressive, especially for a guy who’s pre-t and hasn’t been working out like he should.
Also because the bedhead was on point.
scumbugg I promise you this summer I’m gonna catch the fuck up. I got the muscles, just gotta get the definition.

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Today was the Day of Silence at my school. So I decided to make this post. Here’s to all the kids that stay silent about who they truly are. Here’s to all the kids who live in fear, whether it be at school, home, or both. And here’s to the kids that are out and proud. None of you are alone, please remember we are in this together, all of us.

Hey guys, I’m Ayden. I am 1 year and 5 months on testosterone. I have been saving but I need a little assistance, if you wouldn’t mind taking a look at my gofundme. Even if you cannot donate it really means a lot to me just to be passed around. I plan on going to Dr. Alan Dulin in Plano, TX next summer. I’ve been working my ass off saving and with the help of the donations next summer will be looking good. Thank you❤️www.gofundme.com/qkbk74