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The differences under the ace umbrella

I’ve reblogged this like 12 times but it will always be relevant

This analogy is good, and even easier to understand once you think of this “urge” as being hungry. 

Asexuals are never hungry. Demisexuals aren’t usually hungry, except sometimes they walk by a donut shop they’ve become familiar with over time and there’s a chance that they find themselves hungry. Grey-asexuals sometimes get hungry, sometimes not.  

Some aren’t sure whether they fall under the ace umbrella or where on the spectrum they’re on, because they think they might’ve felt hunger before but they’re not really sure if it was really hunger or if their stomach was just upset or what, so they’re still figuring things out.

None of them choose to not be hungry. 

Sex-repulsed aces don’t like/hate donuts for different and valid reasons. 

Sex-indifferent aces don’t mind donuts. Some will maybe eat some, but most times they probably wouldn’t go out of their way to go look for donuts to eat.

Sex-positive aces like donuts. They’re not hungry when they eat donuts and they’re not eating donuts to stop being hungry, but they like eating donuts, so they do.

I really like how OP mentions that celibacy is the same as going on a diet, because that really shows how different asexuality is compared to celibacy. Generally speaking, celibate people will still go hungry but they choose to not eat. With asexuals, we don’t get hungry, period.

I think of sexual attraction more as appetite, and sex drive being like hunger. So for aces with a sex drive it’s like you might be hungry but nothing ever looks good.

@anon this is probably the best explanation I’ve found.

I’ve always liked this analogy, but the hunger/appetite distinction makes it even better.

This is long, but it’s important that you read this.

SMPLIVE’s fandom is getting incredibly toxic, and this toxicity going to ruin SMPLIVE if it keeps going.

One big example of the toxicity is the traves stans. I’ve noticed that Travis is gaining loads of subscribers and support as of late, and that’s great! I’m happy for him. However, a lot of those fans are being extrememly rude towards other people and even other members of smplive.

I think Cooper is getting the worst of it. If you go into his VidCon blog, almost every comment is about Travis. Things like ‘only here for traves’ and ‘Travis was the best part of this video’ despite the fact that he didn’t even talk in the video. If you’re going to a cscoop video, don’t say you went there for traves. You went to that video for cscoop content. If you want Travis, go to a traves video. There’s no excuse annoying and possibly berating another content creator because you like someone who didn’t talk in the video more than the creator of the video. That’s undeniably toxic.

There are ‘fans’ of Travis that go into Cooper’s streams, spam traves emotes, and tell Cooper that they think Travis is better than him. That’s not funny. That’s not a joke to people. That’s incredibly rude behaviour and it really affects the way that people think of his whole audience, and what they think of Travis himself.

I don’t blame Travis for the way his overly dedicated fans do. His whole personality attracts people like that, and that’s not his fault. Anyhow, he should have a firm talk with his chat and his subs, because this kind of thing isn’t normal.

With that being said, I don’t know if anyone on tumblr has been doing these things. If they are, I ask you to stop. Seriously, this kind of stuff happening immediately after the shipping problems that Cooper and Travis had? It’s going to seriously mess with their friendship. Hell, they live together. Do you really want to make their living situation awkward for them? If you’re a good person, you’d say no.

If you’re going to join a fandom with people who don’t like tumblr, at the very least DON’T GIVE THEM A REASON TO HATE YOU.

I’m honestly disgusted that I feel obligated to type this out.

If you made it here, I hope you agree.

(quick edit: I’ve opened my asks since this post blew up. I’m more than willing to answer asks about what I think about stuff happenin’ in smplive or the smplive fandom.)

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reblog if you think ‘dude’ can be used as gender neutral term

thank you everybody who’s reblogging and agreeing, I’m proving a point

Tips That Can Save Your Kid’s Life.

THIS IS IMPORTANT 

When I was a child, from the time I was about four and could understand things, my mom told me and my brother that we should have a secret word. That way, if we were ever in trouble or felt unsafe and we didn’t want the people around us to know we needed her to come get us, we could let her know. So she let us pick the word and my brother and I chose the phrase “peanut butter cups.” (I’m happy to share the phrase now since both my brother and I are adults now). 

I used the phrase twice in my life. Once, I was at a friends house when I eight years old. Her dad got really drunk and was throwing things against the wall. I was really scared and I didn’t want to draw attention to myself on the phone when I called my mom to come get me because I didn’t know if he would get more violent if I asked her to come get me. So I called her and was calm and after a couple minutes I asked “Hey mommy, did you get me those peanut butter cups from the store?” And she said “I’ll be right there.” And she came and got me within minutes. 

Second, I was a teenager spending the night at a friends house. Her brother and dad were drinking and they started talking about things that made me uncomfortable - ie: what they liked to do to women. My friend didn’t seem perturbed and said that was normal for them and that I shouldn’t worry. But I was worried because they were really drunk and I was 15 and the only ‘woman’ around that wasn’t related to them. I went in my friends room, told her I needed to call my mom and say goodnight. Before I hung up with her I asked “Next time we go to the store, can we get some peanut butters cups? I’ve been craving them.” And she came and got me, just like that. 

Two incidents, one as a young child, one years later as a teen. Don’t discredit this stuff, it fucking works. My brother used it a few times too. Let your child pick the word and no never, ever, ever, ever get mad at them for using it no matter what it is. 

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DO NOT SCROLL PAST THAT.

Off topic, but very important! I was taught to yell “this is not my mom/dad.” A young kid freaking out in public is likely to be ignored out of embarrassment, but a kid telling you right out that they don’t know who is messing with them? That will turn heads.

Reblog this.💯🗣💋

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things my dumbass lesbian brain wants in a relationship

  • cuddles
  • hust physical proximity in general
  • making Food, for my girlfriend :)
  • watching dumb shows together
  • Holding Hands!!
  • dates? spending time together? exploring random places together?
  • just, spontaneous trips to obscure places just because you want to spend time together and also look at some trees
  • sharing clothes :)) ie: imma steal your sweatshirt
  • listening to dodie together because well everybody has a crush on her really
  • getting ice cream together!!
  • late night texts
  • and phone calls
  • defying winter!!! blankets! cozying up together!! hot chocolate!!!!
  • ranting about books
  • sharing weird obscure facts about interests
  • just, rambling to each other and being completely enraptured by what the other’s saying because they’re so passionate about it!
  • bragging about my girlfriend to literally everyone because fuck yeah she’s awesome fuck you
  • memes
  • oh my god i just want to cuddle tho
  • playing (video)games together
  • going out of my way to visit my girlfriend just because i fucking can
  • cheering each other up when sick
  • stopping each other from doing dumbass things
  • doing dumbass things together
  • baking!!! so much fun to do together!! bonus points if everything takes longer than planned because you’re constantly getting distracted by each other
  • party!!! while doing the dishes!!
  • singing along to songs at the top of our lungs at random moments
  • just doing fluff stuff?
  • sharing my writing with her
  • and her sharing the things she’s created with me
  • and finally: cuddles. lots of them.

Do NOT Support ‘Adam’ When The Film Comes Out

I’ve talked about this before on this blog but this is the most disgustingly transphobic and lesbophobic narrative I’ve ever come across. 

CWs: transphobia, homophobia, lesbophobia, corrective rape, voyeurism

The book Adam by Ariel Schrag is being turned into a movie which has been named as one of the most exciting LGBTQ films of the year. You should know before watching that the book is about a cis boy who pretends to be a trans man in order to persuade lesbians to sleep with him.

Yeah… you read that right.

Book plot summary: 

  • boy spies on his lesbian sister having sex
  • boy decides to pretend to be a trans man (gross)
  • i.e. pretends to have a vagina because he thinks lesbians will want him then (he literally wants to fuck lesbians because he watched his lesbian sister have sex wtf)
  • he does get a lesbian to sleep with him, he straps his penis down using ace bandages and uses a strap on.
  • all the actual trans dudes we meet identify as lesbians this basically implies that trans men are not real men (lesbians i.e. women)  
  • another time they have sex again only he uses his actual penis but tells her its a strap on. that’s literally rape, she didn’t consent to an actual penis.
  • he confesses that he’s been lying to her this whole time but she doesn’t break up with him. she even says its okay cause she fantasised about him being “a real boy"
  • that’s a direct quote. massive transphobia. huge. not to mention this is now the “lesbian is cured by dick trope” which is disgusting and that trope leads to real lesbians and bi women being raped to “fix” them. 
  • he leaves new york, they’re long distance. they get in an argument and he calls her a slut and a whore among other things and then she dumps him
  • eventually they get back in touch and she has a new cis boyfriend so yep, she’s been “cured” woo she’s actually straight and he helped her realise that yay (massive sarcasm)

It is deeply deeply transphobic. To imply that our identities are just costumes for other people to put on erases who we are as people. More than that, to imply it is done to trick people into sex is a dangerous lie that literally gets us killed.

It is also deeply lesbophobic. To fuel this narrative that lesbians can be “fixed” by having sex with a man leads to real corrective rapes happening. 

Here is a review of the book by a trans man. I have yet to find one by a lesbian but will edit this if I do.

This book gives out incredibly harmful notions about trans men and lesbians that are used to hurt them in real life. It’s so entrenched in the narrative that I don’t see how the film can possibly be any better.

I do not say any of this lightly. it’s very very rare for me to call out a piece of fiction or for me to decide that a story is unfixable. But this… there’s no excuse for the bigotry in this. 

I’d like to tell people to boycott it but I can’t tell you what to do. So instead I’m going to ask that you share this because it being named as an exciting new LGBTQ film is going to make LGBTQ teens want to see it. And they should know beforehand how hurtful it could be. They should be able to arm themselves with that knowledge.

Don’t make queer kids see this film believing it will represent them only to be exposed to this hatred of their identities. 

Please reblog.

HOW IS THIS EVEN LEGAL

when people say “you’re overreacting” … shut the fuck up please ?? my feelings are valid. i’m allowed to feel how i want. if it hurts me, upset’s me, makes me angry, then it does. don’t you dare tell me i’m overreacting.

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IkeVamp as (a few lines from) Disney Songs (Crack)

  • Napoleon - Les Poissons

Les poissons, les poissons

How I love les poissons

Love to chop and to serve little fish

First I cut of their heads

Zen I pull out their bones

Ah mais oui, ça see'est toujours delish

Les poissons, les poissons

Hee hee hee, haw haw haw

  • Mozart - Bluddle-uddle-um-dum (Dwarves Washing Song)

Pick up the soap

Now don't try to bluff

Work up a lather

And when ya got enough

Get your hands full of water

And you snort and you snuff

And go

Bluddle-uddle-um-dum

Bluddle-uddle-um-dum

Bluddle-uddle-um-dum

  • Leo - You're Welcome

Ok, ok, I see what's happening here

You're face to face with greatness, and it's strange

You don't even know how you feel

It's adorable!

Well, it's nice to see that humans never change

  • Arthur - A Girl Worth Fighting For

Hey, think of instead

A girl worth fighting for

That's what I said

A girl worth fighting for

  • Vincent - Kiss the Girl

Yes, you want her

Look at her, you know you do

It's possible she wants you too

There's one way to ask her

You don't take a word, not a single word

Go on and kiss the girl, kiss the girl

  • Isaac - I Won't Say I'm In Love

No chance no way I won't say it, no no

(You swoon you sigh why deny it oh oh)

It's too cliche I won't say I'm in love

  • Theo - Something There

New and a bit alarming

Who'd have ever thought that this could be

True, that he's no Prince Charming

But there's something in him that I simply didn't see

  • Shakespeare - Cruella de Vil

If she doesn't scare you

No evil thing will

To see her is to take a sudden chill

  • Dazai - Hakuna Matata

I'm a sensitive soul, though I seem thick-skinned

And it hurt that my friends never stood downwind

And oh, the shame

(He was ashamed!)

Thought of changin' my name

(Oh, what's in a name?)

And I got downhearted

(How did you feel?)

Every time that I-

  • Jeanne - Zero to Hero

He was a no one

A zero, zero

Now he's a honcho

He's a hero

He was a kid with his act down pat

From zero to hero in no time flat

Zero to hero just like that

  • Count - Be Our Guest

Wine's been poured

And thank the Lord

I've had the napkins freshly pressed

With dessert, she'll want tea

And my dear that's fine with me

  • Sebastian - When Will My Life Begin

Seven a.m. the usual morning lineup

Start on the chores and sweep 'till the floor's all clean

Polish and wax, do laundry, and mop and shine up

Sweep again, and by then it's like 7:15

(Bonus):

MC - I Have a Dream

I've got a dream

She's got a dream

I've got a dream

She's got a dream

Reblog if you have read fan fiction better than some published books

Help me prove a point

I have never reblogged anything faster.

y’all really are so talented