People are all like “the world’s population is growing too fast!” and idk how to tell you this but the actual best way to fix that is global and total women’s liberation…. because women actually don’t want to be pregnant their entire life if they can avoid it and have access to birth control, ability to tell men no, and abortion on demand and without stigma :/
‘Overpopulation’ is a symptom of women’s oppression and poverty; it can only be remedied by addressing those problems.
To say that sexual dimorphism in humans is a concept invented by white men is to negate the oppression that non-white women have suffered through thousands of years. Denying the fact that human females and males are physically different (and easily distinguishable at glance) and that female's reproductive capacity was the beginning and the core of our oppression... Is the most ignorant, misogynistic thing you can do. And it's 100% a white, American-centered point of view.
Not-so-friendly reminder that there is no such thing as an underage woman or non-consensual sex, the words you’re looking for are “child” and “rape”. Way less syllables and way more accurate! Thank you for your time.
Literally the only thing i can afford at Whole Foods is the free wifi
It sucks because if u don’t live by a whole foods u can’t be vegan
Expensive tofu is the base of the vegan food pyramid ok
The Vegan Food Pyramid (According to Carnists)
this is hilariously beyond accurate
“probably dirt”
You’re forgetting the $16 cherries
is this the beginning of a new meme
And the $15 grapes
Also grass and twigs. :/
There needs to be a carnist food pyramid of the foods they say they eat all the time, like “humanely-raised organic grass-fed beef from a farmers market” and “eggs from backyard chickens” and “every part of the deer who was honored before being shot”
Yo I am fucking on it
This is art
One of the most useful myths to supporting rape culture - I think - is the notion that men are simply confused about what consent means. Mainstream feminism has spent so much time finding different ways to explain consent, giving endless examples on what a “no” can look like and what doesn’t constitute consent but like. It’s all so ridiculous because it’s operating on the basis that it’s difficult to figure out if your partner is consenting. Which it’s not. And then rapists use the definitions of consent and the whole convo around consent to manipulate circumstances where the issue isn’t that they raped someone the issue is that it “wasn’t clear” that consent wasn’t given.
We have to stop infantilising men especially like I promise you your boyfriend can tell if you aren’t into the sex. It’s whether he cares or not. The guy at the club trying to fondle you knows you don’t like it. He doesn’t care.
I’m SO tired of the be all end all convo about rape being on consent. Its not a difficult concept to grasp and a lack of understanding consent is not why rape occurs.
It's a very convenient distraction from the issue of men not caring about women's boundaries imo. Like it's easier to say "well we need to teach young boys consent for when they're older" and ignore the fact that these boys have already been taught that no one else's feelings matter more than their own, especially women's.
I've seen it described this way: if you were to stick your finger up a dude's ass with no warning or prior discussion, you'd see that he understands sexual consent extremely well and recognizes immediately that what you did was wrong. Same with if a straight guy were to get his balls grabbed out of nowhere by a big gay guy - they wouldn't just roll with it and say "It's my fault, I was probably giving him mixed signals, I should just lighten up and enjoy it"; he'd feel violated and angry and possibly frightened. Homophobic men (who are usually misogynists too) are always paranoid or angry that gay men will try to grope/ogle/etc them.
Men understand sexual consent perfectly well, they just deliberately ignore women's sexual consent because they don't care. They use innocent and simple ignorance as a cover for deliberate and predatory malice.
Men want women to bear their children, yet hate us throughout the entire process. Magazines will print photos of “perfect” postpartum bodies, and shame other women for not bouncing back to what they looked like before pregnancy. I can’t count how many times I’ve seen a man complain about how his wife’s vagina is “loose like a lasagna” after having a baby. Women are made to be ashamed of their postpartum stretch marks and cellulite and soft stomachs because they don’t appeal to the male gaze. Meanwhile mothers are taking care of a new life, and are most likely under a lot of stress to begin with. Not to mention postpartum depression, which can ruin lives. Companies sell creams and workouts and “mommy tucks” to desperate mothers who just want to feel normal and be accepted by their spouse. Breastfeeding in public is not tolerated, because exposing breasts in public for any reason that isn’t sexual is unacceptable to men. Anyways I just hate how it’s socially acceptable for men to police postpartum bodies just so that they can continue living their fantasy; they want a perfect mother with a perfect body caring for a perfect child. And we all know that this is impossible. We need to stand up for our mothers, love our mothers, instead of shaming our mothers for things they can’t control.
A way my therapist has told me to approach childhood trauma is thinking about the child who went through the traumatising ordeal. You may resent yourself for not fighting back, not doing enough, or not running away, but you need to see the young child who was there, the one who needed protection, not persecution
Wow. Srsly, wow. I never thought of that like that before. Thank you OP.
This is a good point. Often childhood traumas are such a big deal because they force you to be strong in a way you’re not ready to be yet at that age. Acting like you “didn’t do enough” in any way, would be like blaming yourself for losing a footrace against a cheetah. The game was rigged against you from the start; the important thing is YOU SHOULD HAVE BEEN PROTECTED and PEOPLE SHOULD NOT HAVE HURT YOU LIKE THAT. None of that is YOUR fault.
I feel like I don’t see enough on of the connection between extreme hyperfemininity in our current culture and more and more girls not identifying with womanhood
yeah exactly. i’ve heard so many women and girls who say they identify as non-binary or trans men because they don’t feel like the “right” kind of women, or they don’t feel like they’re doing womanhood “right” (i.e. they don’t want to conform to hyperfemininity, so they feel like that must be proof that they aren’t really women)
If you don’t mind, I’d like to add to this post with my personal experience on this issue.
I was in this position for several years. I still struggle with it sometimes. As a young girl I was never feminine enough. I was too blunt, I asked too many questions, I was curious, I had crushes on girls, I was dirty minded even before puberty, I liked picking up bugs and frogs and other critters, I wanted to run around and play outside instead of be passive, I would (respectfully) correct my teachers if they spelled something wrong, I was never particularly affectionate towards my family or anyone else, I barely ever cried or outwardly expressed my feelings, I was tough, I had a deep sense of justice and reason, I was opinionated, I was fearless and daring and independent and didn’t care what others thought of me. A lot of these would have been celebrated if I was a boy, or at least dismissed as “boys will be boys.” But I wasn’t a boy. So I was shamed and punished for these behaviors- whether it was by my family, teachers or peers. I felt like something was wrong with me, I felt like I was being a girl the wrong way. Acting the way I was “supposed to” as a girl felt wrong and unnatural to me. And I started to think this meant that maybe I wasn’t meant to be a girl at all, since I couldn’t be one correctly. My anxiety started to get bad, I grew extremely depressed. I developed gender dysphoria starting when I was 11 (both social and physical/sex dysphoria) even though I was only officially diagnosed with it last year. I used to go back and forth from identifying as trans, non-binary, agender, gender fluid, etc. Throughout puberty my dysphoria only got worse.
It took me a long time to realize that hey, maybe I wasn’t meant to be a boy, maybe everyone else is just wrong about what being a girl actually is. I still feel alienated from the concept of femininity or what a lot of other people would consider traits of “womanhood” (being motherly, passive, gentle, soft spoken, a homemaker, good with children, organized, submissive, innocent/pure, etc). But I am still a woman, even though I do not identify with this stereotypical idea of womanhood, or femininity. It is just my reality. Being exposed to so called evil bigoted radfem/“terf” ideology is actually what really helped to get me started on the path towards self acceptance. I’ve finally accepted that yes, I’m a woman, but that doesn’t mean I have to act the way I’m “supposed to”. My dysphoria has gotten so much better due to me being able to change my mindset. I’m so glad it didn’t take me having to transition and then detransition to figure this out. Now I feel like I’m able to go without shaving or wearing makeup despite the pressure, I don’t have to put myself in situations that make me uncomfortable for the sake of being sex positive/open minded, I don’t have to be a mother if I don’t want to, I don’t have to wear things that are “flattering” to my body, I don’t have to put a man’s comfort or pleasure before my own safety/comfort/happiness, etc. I’m still on the way there, there is still a lot I haven’t been able to accept about myself yet and there are still a lot of bad habitual behaviors left due to my socialization (like excessively apologizing) that I’m trying to break. But I’m making progress.
What deeply saddens me is I see so many other teenage girls my age and even younger falling than me into the same pit that I did, most of them being same sex attracted and generally gender non-conforming. There are SO many. I do not have any hate or ill will towards women that decide to transition. I just wish that more of them would realize that it isn’t the only solution. I wish more of them would realize that you can be gender nonconforming and still be a woman, instead of listening to the idea being pushed in so many social justice circles that feeling disconnected from femininity = you aren’t actually a woman. You ARE still a woman, you just aren’t a woman in the way that people expect you to be! And that should be celebrated, not shamed.
This was basically my exact experience. Thank you for taking the time to write this <3
Third term abortions are not for women who were careless, or changed their mind. Third term abortions aren’t given to women because they want to get back at a guy, or because they were lazy in seeking one out before their third trimester.
The stereotypes you have had poured down your throats by bad people are wrong. They are dangerous. They are cruel beyond comprehension.
Nobody has a third term abortion because they don’t want their baby.
Women who have third term abortions are mothers. They had baby showers. They cried tears of joy and called their own moms screaming with happiness when that little stick revealed the word “pregnant.” Women who have third term abortions had gender reveal parties. They have a crib, built and ready. Their baby probably has a name; odds are they already have it spelled out in cute building blocks on a wall in the nursery. Women who have third term abortions are excitedly reading books and asking to hold their friends’ babies. They’re cooing over your child in line at the grocery store. They have cute and funny photo shoots with their husbands and dogs to announce to their friends that they are expecting and they are thrilled.
I personally believe a woman should be allowed to have an abortion for any reason at all. That is my personal belief.
But women who have third term abortions don’t have them for just any reason. It is not casual. Women who have third term abortions have them because their baby is dead or dying and they are likely to die too.
Women who have third term abortions are grieving. They are devastated. They can’t bear to open the nursery door and pack up the little baby clothes they’ve collected. They watch moms with their babies at the grocery store and they go sit in their cars and sob uncontrollably.
Women who have third term abortions are women whose babies died. Babies they loved and wanted and prepared for.
Full stop.
Your cruelty towards these women is breathtaking. Stop it. Understand facts. How f***ing dare you.
I stand with my fellow women. I am ALWAYS in your corners.
Climate change is like someone comes up to you and tells you your super strict aunt is visiting, but your house has seen 3 parties over the weekend and is a mess. You’re not quite sure if the person is serious or not, some people say ‘QUICK! We need to tidy the house NOW! She’ll be here in an HOUR!’ and other people say ‘Your aunt isn’t visiting, it’s all a huge lie, and besides, the house is still habitable!’
Sure, you can work around the pizza trodden into the carpet, maybe lay a rug over the teenager vomit, wear shoes so the spilled beer doesn’t soak into your socks.
But if you spend a little time and effort cleaning the house, even if your aunt isn’t coming, you still have a lovely clean house! If you keep measures in place to keep it clean, no more wild parties, a few storage baskets, invest in a roomba, it’ll stay clean for when your children live there too.
And if your aunt is actually coming, and you DON’T clean the house, you’re totally and utterly and without question, fucked.
By the way during this whole extended metaphor your aunt is, at that very moment, knocking on the door. And people are still yelling that she’s not actually coming
kind of annoyed today because women rarely get the message that it’s okay to downright hate penetration with every cell in their body, yet anytime the message is actually put out there, suddenly we’re hating on women who like penetration. like it doesn’t make anyone anti-straight woman (or anti-bisexual or anti-lesbian or whatever) or whatever to state that we categorically do not like penetrative sex. trust me when i say that it’s not a common point of view otherwise i wouldn’t have traumatized myself as much as i did as a teenager
like if you think this is a widespread message that women get to hear, AT ALL, you are smoking something major
And there are plenty of straight women for whom penetration is an unpleasant snoozefest that brings her no nearer to orgasm than mashing grapes with her elbows. Disinterest or displeasure with penetration is downright common in all female sexual orientations and yet we’re still pretending only a certain kind of traumatized lesbian feels this way. Maybe because if we collectively write it off as being a “certain kind of woman” who feels this way, we don’t feel we have to switch up the PIV dominant narrative about human sexuality or value women’s satisfaction. Maybe that’s the real engine behind all the moaning about how being anti compulsory penetration is some kind of “erasure” of women who like penetration. But ya know, that’s just my theory.
Wore a suit to work today, so I can slack in style. Everyone so impressed by my suit they not realizing I’m not doing shit.
This how Wall Street go
kink culture is honestly so shitty because it convinces you that it’s all about ~consent~ while subtly shaming you for not partaking/being complicit
won’t do BDSM? that’s ok, but seriously honey, don’t be surprised when he leaves you
don’t like being choked? that’s ~valid~, but are you trying to starve your man or something? try it just once you might like it
don’t like being called a bitch/slut/whore in bed? god sure but don’t be so prudish and uptight it’s just ~play space~
it’s insidious to say the very least
“You dont really trust me if you won’t let me do this to you” is one I saw a lot with my ex-friends in the kink scene.
“anti kink people are boring, like fine go have missionary sex in your bedroom at 8pm”
another one, especially one I’ve seen+gotten here in high school, is that you’re immature, that you’ll grow up and stop being a little baby about it, that you’re boring now because you barely know about sex, you don’t want to get choked because you’re not adventurous and fun yet, you don’t want to get slapped cuz youre still a beginner, you don’t watch porn because you couldn’t handle it, that you’re not ready for a real relationship yet and aww little baby that’s okay uwu except they’re saying the exact opposite
it’s toxic and disgusting
“trans ppl deserve safety, freedom from discrimination, and communities for themselves”
“feminists should blindly accept anything that any trans person says, including assertions about giving massive amounts of hormones to children, letting trans women (including the ones who are literal sex offenders) into women’s bathrooms & prisons, and should eliminate any and all discussion of biological sex because a trans woman might get sad if you don’t consider her dick female”
