shout out to all the girls who will be the man their father never was
also shout out to all the boys who are more than what their mum told them to be
[Photo ID: A screen name blocked out in blue says “I would kill for the type of confidence you have.”
Followed by a screen name blocked out in purple that says “I fake a lot of it but honestly? It comes with writing so much you push out the bad stuff and start seeing the good. But you have to understand that even the good will have some bad but that doesn’t make it all bad. It makes it flawed, or more relatable. People don’t expect a perfect book for everyone, they expect the book to have good points and bad, and to love it for both sides of the coin. Your writing doesn’t have to be perfect to find people that will love it. It just needs you to love it.” /end photo ID]
I just want to remind people that you don’t have to be a perfect writer to be a good writer or for people to love your stories. There’s an inherent beauty in flawed writing that makes us more human and I think if everyone could allow themselves to be imperfect, you could see yourself flourishing a lot sooner and much more beautifully.
Get hot water, not boiling hot but almost hotter than you can stand, and put a metal spoon in it for a few seconds. Take the spoon and put it against the mosquito bite for about 30 seconds. Do it a few times if you like. The proteins that cause the itching are susceptible to heat and break down.
WHY DON’T THEY TEACH THIS SHIT I have four decades of suffering from skeeter bites behind me
One study on 146 individuals treated with a Bite-Away heat pen found similarly effective results from heat treatment; thankfully, spoons dunked in water cost way less than the Bite-Away’s 30 bucks.
You can also blast the bite with a hair dryer - learned this from my mom and it works great
"yes the Count undressed me but" why are you so casually saying this, hold up...
It's his coping mechanism.
We've already seen Jonathan struggle with what is and is not real, and he is in real danger of losing his mind. Right now, establishing the facts is more important than the implications of those facts. He's a lawyer, he's laying out the IRAC.
On May 5th he wondered if his experiences were dream or reality, and puts down his evidences for both. When he thinks they're going around in circles he finds a way to double check his own impressions.
And then he says he is full of dreadful imaginings, that he dare not confess even to his own soul.
On May 7th he fact checks his experiences on the ride against Dracula's own accounts
On May 8th he can't see Dracula in the mirror, and then double checks to make sure - find some way to prove that it's not a trick of the light or some dark imagining. When he finds himself a prisoner he goes mad and eventually has to calm and quiet himself before he can proceed - and he once more calms himself by laying out facts. When his whole world is unbelievable his only refuge is fact. He spells out his problem - EITHER he's imagining it all OR he's going to die in here, and he can't afford to guess wrong about which it is. He needs all his wits - guarding his own sanity is his number one priority.
On May 12th he once more begins with facts - the more frightening and unreal his situation becomes the more desperately he clings to what he can prove. If he starts into conjecture he is lost, because he'll never stop, and he needs to know what's real. Dracula is already gaslighting him but Jonathan is writing down what's real as a defense against that. Even when he mistrusts his own perceptions, blackletter is immutable.
He's not saying it casually, he's saying it formally. He has to be systematic about this, he has no choice. It is vital to his sanity and survival to know if those girlies were real or a dream (or a local memory, the way Dracula suggested on the 12th). So he looks for evidence. Does what he can see now (reality) agree with his memory (which is fallible)?
Fact: his watch is unwound (he usually winds it)
Fact: his clothes are folded (not how he would have)
Fact, fact, fact - evidence, but not proof. And he needs proof. He needs to know whether his perceptions of reality are trustworthy.
Or it another way...
And that's what goes in the journal. That's what needs to be written down for whoever finds his body. That's what he needs to see in plain logic, cold blackletter, to hang his confidence on going forward.
What doesn't need to be written down, because what good would it do, is
starting all my emails with ‘God preserve my sanity for to this I am reduced’ in honor of my good friend Jonathan Harker
oh my god you're so right
If you went to a bar and the bartender was a mousegirl you could ask for a drink and she would balance it on her head and say "for you, it's on the mouse"
She makes a mean whisker sour
Does she have anything non alcoholic?
Just putting all these pics together in one post
And, because this series wasn't cheesy enough:
Okay, but would y'all hire rats? Or do they not get along with mice?
Jim Rat's specialty is ratwurst
im serious about that “stop saving things for special occasions” bit tho like. even if u aren’t in your 20s. thats for everyone. its one of the most useful things ive learned lately
stop! just stop. eat the special snack. drink the expensive hippie tea. use the incense or the bath bomb or whatever you paid way too much for because you were feeling really bad and retail therapy makes u feel alive
when we save things for special occasions/rainy days it contributes to us feeling like A.) our day to day existence is lackluster and B.) you have to be feeling a certain level of Bad, or have to reach a certain level of Socially Accepted Achievement, to enjoy things
just give yourself stuff. there are definitely sometimes reasons to withhold things from yourself - as motivation, if it’s something you consciously want to use sparingly, etc - but at least for me half the time it just turns into self-flagellation and also cool things and cool experiences and nice treats just collect dust while i wait for some fabled day when i convince myself i finally Deserve it
just fuckin give yourself stuff dude. life’s so mindblowingly short
my grandmother died having only used her china like twice in her life. during the year or so before her death, she was starting to package up and give things of hers to her kids, and gave mom the china while sighing “oh i wish i had used the china more!” and mom tried so hard to convince her to just keep it, then, and eat corny dogs off it if she wanted. she insisted she couldn’t possibly, you need a special reason to use the fine china. when nana died, we used her fine china as our everyday dishes for years. i was 18 when she died, and never really stopped having that in the back of my head. now, when i hear myself say “i wish i had a reason to wear/do/eat/use X!” i hear nana regretting never really using her china. and let me tell you a thing: spaghettios taste great when eaten from fine china.
I’ve seen this post making the rounds. Just wanted to add something to it that my sister-in-law once told me:
“A ‘special thing’ can make any occasion special.”
She told me this when I objected to her opening a really expensive bottle of champagne just to watch a movie. And you know, she was right. The champagne was amazing and while we always sit around and watch movies, that bottle made that night a really special occasion that I will always remember.
So, cut yourself a little slack and remember that an ordinary day can become special.
My mother has always had a habit of buying what she calls “love gifts”. Essentially she would buy me my favorite snack or take me to get iced coffee or buy me fuzzy socks something like that
Her reason for that was simply because she thought of us at work and wanted to get something as a way of saying “I was thinking about you and I love you”
Now as a kid I just took the presents but when I got older I felt a little bad
She didn’t always buy something small, sometimes it was some new makeup or video games or something else that was more than just a few bucks
When I told her “hey mom it’s sweet that you do this, but you don’t have to go do this all the time. You can just wait until a special day or a special occasion”
She just looked at me and said “but Samantha, this is a love gift, and I love you every day not just the special ones”
And ever since she said that I haven’t objected again
This is so important!!! I’ve done this my whole life but have been trying to break the HABIT.
By holding back these desirable things from yourself for a time that you feel worthy, you are adding to the intrusive thoughts that you are not good enough, that someone is more deserving than you. Wear your favorite shirt to the grocery store too, not just on your birthday or the first date with a guy who you’ve met once before. Wear your favorite shirt ESPECIALLY when you don’t “feel worthy”.
If a dog has a favorite toy it’s not going to ignore it and play with a different one simply to appeal to this notion that we have to earn happiness and enjoyment.
Yes there are “special days” but ultimately there are just “days” and you only have so many.
Tl; dr: Wear the clothes, eat the food, life’s short.
#okay i know some people hate this scene because they think it’s whedon making fun of cap#and that might have been how he intended it#but the way evans and rdj played it is so perfect#because there’s steve’s sass coming back#’seriously?’#’seriously tony?’#’what exactly are you expecting from me?’#’it’s been like a week and a half since i got here from the 40s’#’what does it look like?’#’well it seems to run on some form of electricity’#unspoken ‘you moron’#and tony’s response is just like#’i don’t know what i was expecting’#’you got me there’#i don’t know#i just thought the two of them played it perfectly off each other [via invisiblespork]
was originally gonna go with "dog" but decided to go for a longer word with more "reasonable" mispronunciations instead, but that ended up backfiring and now like half the people on this post think i actually pronounce it like this. guess you could say it was a bit of a. a b. it was a
it was a bit of a self-own
READING COMPREHENSION QUESTIONS
- why might op have said that she wanted to choose a word with "more 'reasonable' mispronounciations"? what could the quotes around "reasonable" indicate? why did she say mispronunciations instead of pronounciations?
- op writes that the post "backfired" and now "half the people on this post think i actually pronounce it like this." what might the word "backfired" mean in this context?
- what words could "self-own" sound similar to, and how could that relate to the rest of the post?
Okay but honestly with the death of forums and blogs and Yahoo Answers. And the rise of discord. Reddit is the last refuge to get any kind of information about anything whatsoever.
Trauma explains behavior — it does not excuse behavior.
me watching my mutuals rbing different opinions on the same discourse
this happens to me every day i dont know how to make it stop
can we nominate him for the Darwin award
Oh thank God someone explained this.
Mr. Neil, I have perhaps the most important question I could ask here.
The core of writing advice has one thing. One, special thing to it. And that is: “Write. Write write write.”
But what COUNTS as writing? Surely writing a manual for a lawnmower has nothing to do with becoming a fiction writer.
But what about writing fan fiction? Writing out a dnd story with original characters? Does it just have to be publishable work in the most serious sense?
What counts as writing is writing. Learning how to express yourself clearly is everything. Writing a manual for a lawnmower that’s a good manual for a lawnmower will teach you a lot of about clearly telling people what things look like and how to do things in your fiction. No joke. Write.
me scrolling back up through my tumblr feed until the idea comes back
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