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@scenebearjerre

Tattoos & piercings are hott! I love depressing things because that's what life is. Emo, Goth, Scene,& Alternative is what I aim for, also a life filled with anime is an awesome one!
To be different and apart from the crowd is what my life is like!!
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Planning Your Life until Suicide Day

This is not to stop you from committing suicide but instead for those people who suffer from chronic depression and social anxiety, or just people who are tired of living in a world filled with war, oppression, discrimination, unjust environmental laws and animal treatment; a way to exit on their own terms without waiting for the world to dictate their Death Day. Planning these events that lead up to your finale days can bring on a sense of euphoria and clarity never before experienced. I suggest planning this a few months to a few years in advance. So that you have created your perfect life, a life you’d be happy to leave instead of sad and miserable. Or in case of an after life/reincarnation you can look back on your current life and not feel so pathetic for living with regrets. Say everything you’ve been holding inside to those shitty people you’ve surrounded yourself with. Commit to actions of revenge to family, coworkers, friends, etc. that for years have destroyed your faith in yourself. Take down dictator regimes or governments that created institutional inequalities in you culture resulting in a difficult life for you and your people. Or blowup corporations that participate/d in detrimental actions against the environment and animals. But also do things that make you truly happy, use your finale planned days to make your dreams come true the way no other person could because no one cares enough about you. If medically fatale and deathbed patients are allowed their finale wishes why can’t suicidal people be granted their last wishes for humanity??

Can I just say how cool it was that both of these superheroines’ personalities and powers were explored in this episode? And how well it was done?

Starfire was not shamed for being emotional. Her powers come from her emotions.

Raven was not shamed for suppressing her emotions. Her power requires amazing control.

They both. Work. They are both different kinds of strength, and they are both heroic and powerful and good. And they each learned from the other, and helped each other out by seeing from each others’ perspective, and finding the value in their differing approaches! Wow!

Fuck yes, this is how you write super-ladies, okay. There’s more than one way to be a “strong female character.” There’s all different kinds of strength. Why don’t more people GET this?

Anonymous asked:

could you tell me about what subspace is?

WARNING: NERDY SCIENCE STUFF AHEAD

Here’s the thing about having a busy submissive brain; it’s a lot like living in the middle of the mall on Christmas Eve. Think of it as similar to a form of non-clinical ADD/ADHD.

In ADD/ADHD, the brain’s braking system is a bit too slow but is rapidly firing on all cylinders. Ironically, “speed” speeds up the brain’s braking system and helps provide relief for the over stimulated ADD/ADHD brain.

Adrenaline (a.k.a. your body’s natural speed) dumps from “pain play” kick into gear the brain’s dopamine and noepineprine system. In fact, “speed” is a powerful dopamine reuptake inhibitor. Guess what system in the brain runs on dopamine and norepinephrine? Yep! The braking system.

Subspace, according to the best current theory, is mainly a combo of adrenaline and endorphins. The endorphins allow for more pain (to a point), which kick in more adrenaline. So, in essence, it’s an all natural “speed ball.” The busy submissive brain is quieted, providing a respite. And, the after effects last for a time helping the subby brain achieve a “slower and relaxed” state of functioning. Now, throw in aftercare and you add in oxytocin, the love drug that binds newborns to their parents, into the chemical cocktail and you can begin to see why the submissive’s bond to the Dominant is unlike any other. And, why there is such devastation when a D/s relationship goes awry.

Play well. Play with a little education. Play RESPONSIBLY!!!

Okay, Nerd Girl, OUT 🖖

Science, y’all.

Subspace the “natural speedball” and an easy to understand explanation of ADHD.

Anonymous asked:

My sub keeps turning down sex now it’s fine I’m not upset but I am worried the girl would initiate sex most days if I didn’t now she doesn’t really want it ever she says it’s because her new job takes a lot out of her I was thinking of maybe making her an all about her day I’ll take her to get her hair and nails done maybe some new clothes and I’ll make her fav dinner or something But I can’t drag her away from her work to do that How do I get her to put her emails down and just relax

Massive kudos to you for your mature and caring approach. As someone who was in a very demanding job for years and is in a slightly less demanding job now, I can say that forcing her to “put the emails down” may cause her more stress. My husband was (and is) amazing when I have had to work past midnight for months on end or on weekends. What I found helpful:

  • When he took on anything that freed me up to focus on work so that I could get it done more easily (and sooner). Kids’ sports and play dates (scheduling for multiple people of any kind) does my head in, so he did it.
  • Making me forecast my work pipeline so we could plan better.
  • I have an administrative task that I hate but that has to be done each week. I used to put it off to the weekend and he (continues) to make me get it done by Friday so that it’s not stressing me out on the weekends.
  • In-the-moment foot rubs, back rubs, letting me vent about jackasses in the office are all ✔️💖.
  • Coupons for a massage or spa day or whatever so that she can pick the day. (I used mine on the day it expired because it was expensive and I can’t stand seeing things go to waste.) A whole day off sounds wonderful but unless her brain is clear, it doesn’t help.

Your approach may differ depending on whether this is temporary (perhaps just a rough patch in her work life or maybe she’s going for a promotion) or if she’s in a job that will always be that demanding. You say this is a new job, so hopefully this is temporary as she tries to establish herself and then things will level off. Understand her motivations and help her achieve her goals after you help her prioritize.

Again, kudos.

I suggest finding her love language and working within that realm. I am very much like @hesincharge in the acts of service department. If @dirtylove88 wants to go above and beyond to make me feel loved, he knows that all he needs to do is take something off my plate. Do a chore for me, run an errand for me, etc. and it will lessen my stress ten fold. Sir does push me to self care, but truthfully, if I can’t shut my brain off, it doesn’t feel relaxing. Sir loves quality time and words of affirmation. So to make him feel loved, I put my iPad down and really lavish him with both of those. There are little online quizzes you can take, to help determine which one you fall under, if you aren’t sure. The best way to love someone is within their own desired way, but we usually fall into loving someone in the way we want to be loved.

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The world wasn't ready for Megamind in 2010. I think it could be ready now. After seeing the same superhero arc in every Marvel movie, the squandered subversion in expectations from Game of Thrones, the tired consistent revamps of previously done ideas from Disney,, I petition that we just rerelease Megamind in theaters again. No changes at all. Just toss it back in there and let people experience culture and class for the first time in their lives