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@saybees

Blair - 27 - Photographer - Animal nut - Queer - they/them
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Sometimes Jon calls me or comes home for a minute just to rant and yell and I'm so tired of listening to him just scream about shit. The dude doesn't know how to calm himself down at all. He starts to get mad and then he builds it up and up until he's just losing it, every time. He came home to rant and my boots were by the door and he kicked them into the hallway and yelled at me for leaving them right inside the door. I ignored him because I don't tolerate his shit anymore and he mumbled some shit and left, slamming the door behind himself. If this fucking dude just got on some meds for his ADHD and went to a therapist we would both be much happier 😒

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I might be on here a little less and back on dogblr more so if I take a while to respond to things here that is why, I'm not ignoring anyone, I promise!

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one of my favourite things about autism is that we have such high rates of transness and especially nonbinarity not because of some genetic whatever but simply because we look at society’s gender rules and go “that’s stupid”

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doggendoodle

from @deerfishing​ in the notes:

saw this clip from the good doctor and it pissed me off cos this autistic dude just doesn’t comprehend why this other characters trans an im just like man,,, thats such an allistic way of seeing it, they think gender is so solid and natural that the autistic person wouldn’t be able to understand otherwise. when its literally the opposite.
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Yeah. My sister and I are on the spectrum and one thing I've noticed is that the way we approach the world is very "why?". It's not like we're like REJECT ALL AUTHORITY AND SOCIAL RULES, but we want to know WHY and if that explanation doesn't make sense, we do not accept the validity of this rule or authority (until it can be explained, if it even can).

Like, my sister liked to go outside in the winter. My mom would go "hey, put on your coat!" and my sis would be like "no. I don't want to". I suggest telling her instead that she should check the temperature and if it's under X degrees, she need to wear a coat because it's too cold. Guess what? This explanation works! My mom doesn't need to remind her, she just knows that you check the thermometer before going outside. It makes sense to her, as a rule, rather than just an edict from an authority figure.

And then we come to gender: even if you turn out to be cis and conform to your assigned gender, you have to admit that a lot if not all of the rules society makes up about gender and gender roles are complete nonsense. Why do men wear pants and women wear dresses? Why is it a manly job to fix a car and a feminine job to sew a blanket? It's just weird traditions and coincidence and bigotry getting codified into "how things are".

So it doesn't surprise me that a ton of people on the autism spectrum take a look at gender and just go "yeah, no. if I'm gonna do any of that stuff it's gonna be on my own terms, these rules make no sense".

And frankly everyone should be that way. Pick and choose! Ignore the rules, make your own guidelines, then violate them if they no longer serve your needs. Your gender is yours and no one should have any authority over it but you.

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gender non-compliant

Gender that doesn't meet strict industry requirements

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saybees

On this week's episode of Why is Jon's Tenant Ducking his Calls This Time? She's $700 behind on paying her hydro bill.

According to her mother she gets overwhelmed when things pile up and then avoids stuff. She supposedly does this with everyone, not just Jon. She's a middle aged woman. All she has to do is call Hydro and confirm with them that she lives there. Like I get having anxiety and wanting to avoid stuff that is difficult, but when it's to the point that she's on the verge of getting kicked out of her home you'd think she would at least answer a text.

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Interview today. Very nervous because I have very little office experience and if they looked at my resume they know that, but I looked at the job ad again and in qualifications they want someone with office experience and a certificate for an administrative course, which like I took some admin courses in uni, but like I still need to be fully trained for this job if they give it to me so like I super need to make sure that's gonna happen. Otherwise if they hire me now I have to turn down Parks if they offer me a position and then if things go sour and I end up fired in a couple months I'm back to having no job prospects 😬😬

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i cannot believe that i am only now learning about the dinosaur king drama

in case you’ve never heard of dinosaur king:

it’s a pretty mediocre anime from the early 90s, that was pretty much just made to market this dinosaur trading card game. the plot was extremely boring (until stuff suddenly started happening around episode 35), and for some reason they decided to have all the dinosaur fights with these incredibly stiff 3d models, which was.. a choice..

all together it was so bad that it’s good (but not particularly good), and kinda forgettable

and then they decided that it needed a remake. they were releasing some new toys, and a video game was being worked on, so in 1999 they released a fucking remake of that weird show

the writers and producers were these two austrian guys, suppenheimer and vemovich

the remake was planned to be two seasons

the original dinosaur king had two seasons as well, the first had 49 episodes, and the second had 30 episodes

the remake was 60 episodes total, and completely ignored season two of the original

suppenheimer and vemovich only retold season one, expanded it a bit, reshuffled some events (namely putting the twist from episode 35 way earlier), giving the characters actual motivations… they actually managed to make the show good

(they still kept in the weird 3d dinosaurs, and the card game tie-ins, because at the core the show was still about marketing the toys)

and then season two ended, neatly tying up the story, and it was genuinely good

and then the network renewed the show for a third season

suppenheimer was done with the show at that point. they only ever wanted to make two seasons, and they had told exactly the story that they wanted to tell, so they were out

but vemovich wasn’t done yet, so he stayed on and wrote season three.

and season four.

and…

the entire remake turned out to be twenty seasons long

and it got weird, lemme tell you

the very first thing vemovich introduced in season three of dinosaur king, the anime about dinosaurs and traveling to the ancient past, was alien space pirates

which i guess makes sense, because they can travel through time, so the future is technically also viable

and then season six was all about one of the main characters becoming a werewolf? which was never fixed, but they also just never mention it at any point after the season six finale

season eleven was all about the love story between one of the supporting cast and one of the antagonists (who had a redemption arc early in season two, but vemovich cast him as a villain again anyway starting in season four)

season sixteen only had one episode where any dinosaurs appeared?? in a show called dinosaur king? and i’m pretty sure they said the word “dinosaur” zero times in that entire season

it was weird, okay, the entire remake was weird after season two

meanwhile, on the forums (and later on twitter), suppenheimer has completely divorced themselves from the show’s production, but they are definitely still watching, and loudly complaining

suppenheimer and vemovich were actually said to be on pretty good terms during the production of the first two seasons, but after that suppenheimer got mean

[id: a tweet by @ cimminimmi from december 2016 that reads “what was the worst show you guys watched this year?”, with a reply from @ suppi_sr (suppenheimer’s twitter) that reads “dinosaur king. for the 5th year in a row.” end id.]

we never really heard anything from vemovich. he was never on any of the forums, and he had a rule of never publicly interacting with any hate whatsoever

so we had suppenheimer just tearing the show down at every point, calling for people to stop watching, and even making several petitions to have the show cancelled, none of which ever went anywhere of course

because we then got season seventeen, which introduces vemovich’s author insert. they are absolutely not subtle about it, the character pretty much goes “hey, my name is vemovich, i’m the guy who is writing this story”

and he just occasionally pops up during the next four seasons

and then season nineteen and twenty are building up to this great unseen danger that is threatening to wipe out the universe

and at the very goddamn end of season twenty, the finale of the entire show, the big threat is finally revealed

so, i’ve said that this entire thing is an anime with weird 3d dinosaurs inserted into it

the big bad, the last villain that was threatening to destroy the fabric of reality… was suppenheimer

a live action suppenheimer, who is greenscreened into the anime world

he is of course stopped by vemovich’s author insert, who up to that point had been 2d animated, but now he is also greenscreened into the show

so the goddamn epic finale of the show is a live action suppenheimer and vemovich fighting, using 3d animated dinosaurs, on this 2d animated battlefield

it looked bad

and then the show is over

but this story is still going

because suppenheimer has spent the last eighteen years tearing apart the show and tearing apart vemovich publicly at least once per week

and then, two years after the show is over

those bastards tweet out that they are married

[id: a twitter conversation between vemovich, suppenheimer, and twitter user abblycidre from october 2021. vemovich is replying “love you, babe” to suppenheimer. suppenheimer replies “love you too.” abblycidre replies “don’t you two have beef?” suppenheimer replies “we can have beef and be married at the same time. it’s fine.” abblycidre replies “married?!” in all caps. vemovich replies “last i checked we’ve been married for 13 years now, yeah”. end id.]

so i guess the tweet where suppenheimer threatened to divorce vemovich wasn’t a joke after all

[a tweet by suppenheimer from june 2012 that reads “@ vemovich. if you don’t stop ruining dinosaur king i will divorce you.” end id.]

suppenheimer and vemovich have been living together for the entire goddamn run of the dinosaur king remake, while suppenheimer was constantly starting shit about the show online

they’ve been dating since before the show even started, and they got married during season nine, and they’ve just been keeping up those personas for twenty fucking years

and i just kinda don’t know what to do with my life now that i know that

what the fuck did those guys’ home life look like?!

For everyone wondering if this is real or not:

Yep, it’s real all right. If you’re interested in learning more about the show itself, I recommend reading through these couple of articles on the series: https://www.fandom.com/articles/dinosaur-king-internal-controversy or, for a more in-depth analysis, https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/dinosaur-king_(season_1).

You should give these sources a good read-through either way because in all honesty, OP missed out on some prime groundbreaking material. For example, the fact that this show’s depiction of an ankylosaurus is thought to be the most accurate depiction of ankylosaurs in the 20th Century. Or how those first 2 seasons somehow have the lowest overall score of the series on IMDB and other rating systems, despite the controversy of later seasons (which might not seem like much, but it at least explains why none of the aforementioned petitions had any effect).

And that’s just the tip of the iceberg. Like yes the marriage Twitter reveal was really something, but it should not overshadow these absolutely mind boggling stats that come from such a niche 90s anime.

thank you for this addition. you actually mentioned some stuff that i didn’t find during my research (i did not know about the ankylosaurus thing), so kudos for that

there are a few things in the wiki article that i wanted to include, i just couldn’t find a good place to mention them in a post that already got a bit longer than i meant for it to be 😅

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wackd

you know what maybe i did miss tumblr a little bit

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saybees

The place I didn't think I was gonna hear back from about an interview called me while I was out on a walk with puppy and I have an interview tomorrow afternoon 👀

I still have a mohawk 😬 I think I'll be getting a haircut tonight. Or I'll need to get creative with a headscarf tomorrow.