I Identify As A Final Girl (gender neutral)

@satansfavoritedyke

You Can Call Me Al ✧ 22 ♉ ✧ he/him ✧ transmasculine disabled butch dyke ⚧️♿♾️

Howdy, welcome to my blog!

Halt! Before you go any further, read my list of people completely banned from interacting with me/warnings for if you choose to engage with me should you fall into these demographics.

I am a multiply & dynamically disabled, chronically ill, mentally ill, and neurodivergent mobility aid user. You can find out more about my various conditions and disabilities here.

If you feel so compelled, I have a wishlist, and two ways you could send mutual aid in the form of monetary assistance. These things help me because I am currently living on about $105/week Disability Cash from WA State DSHS and $50/week EBT/Food Stamps, with no end in sight for my SSI/SSDI deliberation.

Additionally I am a transmasculine butch lesbian who uses he/him pronouns, is broadly t4t, and on the aroace spectrum mostly due to trauma. A cool label to describe me would be Lesboy. I've had this blog in particular for like 6+ years now and it's a pretty curated archive of my experiences and mind as a whole, I really just reblog and post whatever I damn well feel like.

My asks are always open and I know a shitton of random things, so if you have any questions at all, want to be friends/interact with me at all, or notice I'm posting things you're also interested in, hit me up!

Stay Safe, Y'all!

people love to demonize anger and label you as a sort of failed trauma recovery story if you’re even slightly angry about the way you’re treated and I just think that’s so stupid. sometimes people are mad for 100% justifiable reasons and you should just let them be mad instead of having a superiority complex about it

Remember The Blind Side starring Sandra Bullock? The movie showed how a kid who had an extremely rough upbringing got help from the family of a school friend, found success in football and ultimately ended up being adopted by the family. Turns out he was never adopted.

Michael Oher says that he was tricked by the Tuohy family into signing documents that made them his conservators. Since he was already 18 at the time the family told him, “that it means pretty much the exact same thing as 'adoptive parents,' but that the laws were just written in a way that took [his] age into account.”

Oher also says that papers were signed so that his story and likeness were given away for free to use in The Blind Side. He also never got a single royalty check for the hugely successful, Oscar nominated film in the 14 years since its release.

It just continues to baffle me that they essentially purchased a young Black man's life to make football money off of, like buying a racing horse, except a person. Like, I don't know how else to say it. And then made everyone think it was something wonderful they did to "save" an "impoverished, Black boy", and he's been saying it for years to no avail that they took advantage of him!

The thing that gets me about Looking For Jobs is that every hiring site has like miles of just saying words at you that you have to scroll through. Talking about teamwork career building opportunities goals. Talking about "our mission" & it's a grocery store

I'm too autistic for this amount of extraneous social song & dance bullshit I just want to know if you'll pay me or not

You're a grocery store. We both know you're a grocery store. Your mission is to sell groceries. You could give a fuck about peace and love on planet earth. I could give a fuck about you. I'm here because we live in hell. You know this. I know this. You know I know this. I don't know what you're paying though. Because this page is longer than it has any goddamn reason to be and you put that information right at the bottom. With an asterisk next to it

Fancy + Fresh DNI List

I feel like these should be incredibly obvious, but in case they aren't:

  • Homophobes/transphobes
  • Republicans/right-wingers
  • "gender critical"/transmeds
  • TERFs/transandrophobes
  • Pedos/MAPs/NOMAPS
  • Racists/xenophobes/ZIONISTS
  • Ableists

Additionally, DNI:

  • If you have NPD/are a narcissist (I was raised and abused by one and have not been able to successfully avoid narcissistic behavior since, it is not welcome here. I'm not saying everyone with NPD is an abuser or anything of that sort, I just cannot deal with y'all and that is going to have to be that.)
  • Swifties/if you consider yourself a fan of TS (I literally cannot stand y'all, and I will not get into it. You are not safe here lmfao.)
  • If you have some irreconcilable issue with he/him lesbians or multigender/gender-weird/deviant nonbinary genders as a whole (I'm happy to discuss and explain in good faith but if this is a known point of contention within yourself you will not survive on this blog at all.)

Should you decide to interact with me/this blog, and I find anything about you/your blog or the interaction to be even dislikeable in any fashion, I completely reserve the right to block you and just move on with my life. Additionally, I am not nor have I ever claimed to be anything other than a mean lesbian and an Angry Bitter Cripple, so if you play stupid games with me I will grant you the stupidest of prizes. Put differently, I do not have to be nice to you, nor will I even if I simply don't feel like doing so.

Generally speaking I'm very open and receptive but unfortunately I don't have enough privilege or security in my life to have a fuse any longer than the one that I have. Good luck, and stay safe 🧿

♿ Welcome To The Disability Masterpost ♾️

Some of my conditions/diagnoses include:

  • hEDS/POTS/MCAS trifecta
  • Structural spinal issues such as arthritis, stenosis, spinal cord involvement due to multiple bulged discs, scoliosis, and bone spurs
  • MECFS (Myalgic Encephalomyelitis/Chronic Fatigue Syndrome)
  • Autoimmune issues (potentially systemic lupus), definitely Reactivated Epstein Barr Virus
  • (C)PTSD
  • Bipolar II
  • Autism & ADHD

I use a cane on either side of my body depending on which side needs more support that day, or a rollator if I'm going further than I can walk comfortably with my cane or know I'll need to sit down at all. I experience widespread chronic pain ranging from moderate on a good day to low end of severe on the regular nowadays. Additionally, as I mention briefly below, I have been largely neglected and deliberately mishandled by the great majority of my "care team", and therefore am widely untreated/self managing all of my conditions. Multiple medical specialists, primary care doctors, emergency room doctors, even my disability case manager and housing social workers are piss-poor at their jobs and I don't always have the energy or resources to hound every individual whose job they're getting paid to do involves the basic task of keeping me alive, which they can't seem to execute and still get paid for. I have been left to buy electrolytes on my food stamps, beg for money from my friends and on the Internet for disability aids, and live in a body akin to a Saw trap until I just give up fighting for myself and die.

I very heavily identify with the cripplepunk movement and community, I have no interest whatsoever in being an "inspirational handicapped person" or any shit like that. I'm a poster patient for medical neglect and malpractice, and very strongly believe that formal diagnosis and especially proper treatment is absolutely a privilege in my world when it shouldn't be. As a very heavily researched and informed individual I'm incredibly pro-self-diagnosis broadly speaking, of course every fruit cake has its nuts, but in almost every single case a person's own insight to their symptoms and conditions and abilities really informs the diagnosis.

The entire disabled community needs to get their heads around the fact that there is always going to be someone with a more severe degree of symptoms or supports needs than yourself. This is literally just a fact of reality and can co-exist with the fact that you still need whatever level of support for the degree of symptoms that YOU have, too. This does not give you license to speak over or for people who may even share your exact diagnoses but are in a more severe situation than you are, you can and should only speak towards your own experiences and feelings.

Me & this blog are also incredibly watchful and listening of intellectually disabled folks, as that is one demographic I do not fit in, and I enjoy connecting with folks who have IDs on here and anywhere really in order to better understand firsthand what individuals with intellectual disabilities have to say regarding their communities and how I can be a better ally to y'all.

If you have any questions about disability, chronic illness, mental health, mobility aids, medical self-advocacy, or literally anything, I'm not a doctor but I can certainly share my experiences. Feel free to inbox me!

parents are so crazy because they can say the most fucked up shit to you when your brain is forming and it sets the tone for your whole adult mind set and then they forget about it the next day

Please remember that you do the exact same thing. Let’s give each other some grace and hope that we can work to heal each other.

i actually don't say fucked up shit to children

*violently sobbing* I KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER I KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER KNOW ITS FOR THE BETTER