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Sappho Haven

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🌺 A safe space for wlw (with some general lgbtqia+ positivity mixed in) 🌺 Antiracist 🌺 Trans, aspec, pan, and nonbinary sapphics are welcome (this blog is NOT for terfs or REGs) 🌺 run by Lotus (earthmoonlotus), and by Faerie -the founder of the blog- (faeriegoddessofsluts) 🌺 icon by kristendoodles 🌺 Thank you for existing 🌺

happy masculine lesbian awareness week!!! i don't plan on doing much and im not on twitter anymore but reminder it's for all masc lesbians, including trans, nonbinary, multigender, genderfluid, transmasc, gnc and pnc, butch, aspec, mspec, and all other wonderful lesbians in our community ❤️🧡🤍💗💜

dear sapphic lovelies:

Having crushes that aren’t reciprocated is not creepy.

Finding someone sexually attractive when they don’t return the attraction isn’t predatory.

Being creepy or predatory requires you to actually do something that is creepy or predatory – like disrespect her boundaries, behave inappropriately with someone you have power over, or do sexual/romantic things without first having consent. If you’re not doing things like that? you are not creepy or predatory!

Crushes are normal. Unreciprocated crushes are normal. One-way sexual attraction is normal. They are perfectly ordinary experiences, and you feeling that way about another lady is still 100% ordinary - your feelings are not creepy or gross.

also:

if you see and treat her as a whole person with her own needs, choices, and opinions, and not just a body you like, you’re not objectifying her!

longing for a different kind of relationship w yr friend doesn’t automatically make you the same as some asshole whining about the friendzone! if you don’t act entitled to her interest or fake friendship with ulterior motives, you’re just someone with a crush on yr friend! which is an ordinary thing bc you know how great your friends are it makes sense crushes might develop sometimes!

Being attracted to women isn’t the same thing as doing creepy off-putting shit. Having a crush doesn’t suddenly transform you into a boundary-violating monster! Your feelings for women aren’t automatically tied in with entitlement or misogyny.

Liking women is a pure and good and normal thing for you to do! Wanting sex and/or romance with women is ordinary and natural!

Listen, I don’t usually directly comment on reblogs, but Natalie’s work is absolutely fantastic and I want to give a glowing recommendation. I’ve been a Patron of hers for a while and I enjoyed every single thing she ever wrote. I haven’t read a lot of Lead and Roses yet, but what I saw is top notch, so yeah, if you’re into this kind of stories, you should absolutely check this out!

Hey if you’re an LGBTQ+ person who has ever felt like you’re “not gay enough”, or “not trans enough”, or “not bi enough”, or “not ace enough”, or “not queer enough” (and let’s face, it, that’s all of us) - 

You are enough. The only right way to be LGBTQ+ is to be authentic to yourself. No one can decide who you are except you.

You are valid and loved. 💗🧡💛💚💙💜

Happy International Non-Binary People's Day!!

Here are some books I found with non binary bi MCs to celebrate the occasion 💖

Books listed

💕I Wish You All the Best by Mason Deaver 💕 Jude Saves the World by Ronnie Riley 💕 Silver Under Nightfall by Rin Chupeco 💕 Lark and Kasim Start a Revolution by Kacen Callender 💕 The Oracle Stone by Talli L. Morgan 💕 The Savior's Rise by Talli L. Morgan 💕 The Scandalous Letters of V and J by Felicia Davin 💕 The Heartbreak Bakery by A.R. Capetta

trans lesbians enrich lesbianism. trans lesbians are an important part of lesbian culture and community.

plain text: (in the gradient color scheme of the trans and lesbian flag) trans lesbians enrich lesbianism. trans lesbians are an important part of lesbian culture and community.

As a lesbian, it’s happened twice already that one “guy” stands out to me and I think “huh maybe they’re kinda cute and interesting, I wanna get to know them” and then I get to know them better and it’s a closeted trans girl who I somehow sniffed with my little nonbinary lesbian nose

IT JUST HAPPENED FOR A THIRD TIME!!!!

You guys will never believe what just happened to me

What does it mean if every “man” I’ve been attracted to was actually a trans woman? Idk what this says about my sexual orientation but it does mean I have astounding egg-dar

Gays being able to detect trans people of our preferred gender and being able to feel preemptive attraction to them is a phenomenon I was not aware extended to people beyond me