i’m sure this has all been said before but it’s so fucking tiring to read article after article and post after post by straight (or even just non-lesbian) feminists waxing poetic about the bechdel test. like yeah, obviously it’s indicative of a massive issue w the representation of women in media and a useful tool to gauge the failings of hollywood and big time show writers or whatever

but that wasn’t what it was fucking intended for. it was never about all women, it was about the lesbian experience. it was about the overwhelming loneliness of the lesbian identity and how far removed you feel from media. i feel this every day, and i have for the last decade that i’ve been out

it’s infuriating to watch straight women talk about the bechdel test at all (“my show is different – even though they’re talking about men, the story is about their friendship. it’s like turning the bechdel test on its head”) and even MORESO when they’re fucking criticizing it (“the bechdel test isn’t the end all be all… films can still be feminist and not pass it. films that don’t pass can be even more feminist than films that do!”)

it’s like…. the name of the fucking strip has the word “dyke” in it. have you all ever considered once that the original comic wasn’t ever meant for your consumption at all? have you ever thought about the fact that alison bechdel was writing as a lesbian about her lesbian experiences and that maybe, just maybe, this isn’t some generic feminist concept but instead a description of a lesbian-specific experience?

and the thing is that the liberal feminist application of the bechdel test has been criticized for not being intersectional – which it isn’t! movies about gay men and men of color are still incredibly groundbreaking and significant to our culture even though they “fail” the bechdel test

and that is LITERALLY BECAUSE the bechdel test wasn’t ever fucking MEANT to be the Generic Feminism Test Of Diversity And Equality – it was commentary specific to the lesbian experience when engaging with media

straight feminists historically hated and excluded lesbian feminists (and many do to this day lmao) but still, as always, want to co-opt and misappropriate our writing, concepts, and experiences to suit their needs

every straight woman who ever called her platonic friend her “girlfriend” owes me 50$

we’re all gay and that’s so iconic

:) straight women :) stop calling your best friend your girlfriend :) it sucks :) when you act like calling a woman your girlfriend :) is a punchline :) when for a lot of women :) it’s terrifying :) :) :)

straight people and even some gay women are STILL commenting like it changes my opinion. here’s a basic break down of my responses to all of y'all

1. “i’ve never heard it as a punchline” good for you! that’s awesome that you haven’t seen this particular strand of homophobia. i for one have. many other women have. straight people say “this is my girlfriend bc we couldn’t find any men to date” or something of the like all the time. here’s a tip though, if a gay woman says that she is impacted by a particular type of homophobia, even if you are also gay, you don’t silence her and say “no that doesn’t happen”

2. “straight women have been saying this forever”

okay that is true for the past few decades, but languages *change* meanings *change* and with the push for gay rights, languages surrounding our experiences will likely evolve as well. so long as girlfriend means close platonic friend it will be difficult to express what sapphic women mean when they say “she’s my girlfriend”.

think about it, if a guy says “my girlfriend” we understand that to be romantic. if a gal says “my girlfriend” due to the usage of “girlfriend” by straight women, it’s typically understood to mean friend. it’s invalidating. it’s annoying

3. “in X language though…”

i’m really interested in linguistics, believe me, but i feel like anybody with basic critical reading skills can say “hmm she is writing this in english…so she is probably talking about english” so make your own post i don’t care enough to be spammed with any excuse to not change word usages rooted in homophobia

4. “it doesn’t bother me when straight people do it”

like #1: congrats. i don’t care what you think. this is a personal post of mine. if you don’t like it, don’t interact. block me. i don’t care! just stop trying to tell a lesbian the Correct Things to be offended over.

literally if you have anything else to add or “challenge” me with: fuck off. i really really REALLY don’t care about all the reasons this is wrong or whatever. i made this post over a year ago or something and all i have learned is straight women are SO ANNOYING and so are the people who defend them from the Mean Old Dykes

About #2: girls on Facebook have changed their status to “married” and “dating” their straight female friends (my sister even broke into my account to change my status so that on Facebook I was married to my own sister) and a couple of years ago when two girls actually WERE dating each other and changed their relationship statuses, no one believed them. They still got asked out by guys, their families invalidated their relationship because “girls are like that with their friends” and because of straight girls treating same sex relationships like jokes two girls had to deal with so much shit even though they were BLATANTLY OBVIOUS about their relationship

So yeah, anyone who uses lesbians as punchlines and jokes can get fucked

I’m not a wlw I’m a mhl (man hating lesbian)

:) straight women :) stop calling your best friend your girlfriend :) it sucks :) when you act like calling a woman your girlfriend :) is a punchline :) when for a lot of women :) it’s terrifying :) :) :)

straight people and even some gay women are STILL commenting like it changes my opinion. here's a basic break down of my responses to all of y'all

1. "i've never heard it as a punchline" good for you! that's awesome that you haven't seen this particular strand of homophobia. i for one have. many other women have. straight people say "this is my girlfriend bc we couldn't find any men to date" or something of the like all the time. here's a tip though, if a gay woman says that she is impacted by a particular type of homophobia, even if you are also gay, you don't silence her and say "no that doesn't happen"

2. "straight women have been saying this forever"

okay that is true for the past few decades, but languages *change* meanings *change* and with the push for gay rights, languages surrounding our experiences will likely evolve as well. so long as girlfriend means close platonic friend it will be difficult to express what sapphic women mean when they say "she's my girlfriend".

think about it, if a guy says "my girlfriend" we understand that to be romantic. if a gal says "my girlfriend" due to the usage of "girlfriend" by straight women, it's typically understood to mean friend. it's invalidating. it's annoying

3. "in X language though..."

i'm really interested in linguistics, believe me, but i feel like anybody with basic critical reading skills can say "hmm she is writing this in english...so she is probably talking about english" so make your own post i don't care enough to be spammed with any excuse to not change word usages rooted in homophobia

4. "it doesn't bother me when straight people do it"

like #1: congrats. i don't care what you think. this is a personal post of mine. if you don't like it, don't interact. block me. i don't care! just stop trying to tell a lesbian the Correct Things to be offended over.

literally if you have anything else to add or "challenge" me with: fuck off. i really really REALLY don't care about all the reasons this is wrong or whatever. i made this post over a year ago or something and all i have learned is straight women are SO ANNOYING and so are the people who defend them from the Mean Old Dykes

becoming a cryptid to everyone you knew in high school is gay culture

Any other lesbians out there that can't find their headphones?

first of all, Aphrodite is butch so jot that down

Being gay is so hot that I wonder why I denied it at the beginning.

Go outside, look at the moon. The moons so pretty isn’t it. Yeah. Take a picture of the moon. Oh no bad picture it looks like a weird dumb speck. But the moons so pretty???? U know ur real pretty to. cameras arnt very nice sometimes. But your still pretty. Just like moon

Treat a cop just like you treat a gun when you don’t know whether it’s loaded or not. Assume that it is loaded and that it could cause someone’s death at any time. Remember that a cop, unlike most firearms, has no safety mechanism or standard method for “clearing” them. Never point a cop at anyone whose blood you could not accept having on your hands.

*walks up to a couple* so uh, which one of you is the i’m and which is the gay

IM OUT TO MY MOM NOW YALL

she just knew. she called me out on it then hugged me. said she's sorry for all the hell society will give me

the reason straight men will dress up in drag for lip sync battles and comedy sketches is because it’s a joke to them

the reason straight male athletes will behave homoerotically with each other is because being gay is a joke to them

the reason straight girls will call each other girlfriends and kiss each other for the amusement of men is because being gay is a joke to them

just throwing that out there

This post just fucked disgusted me. I honesty can’t believe another LGBT person would write this amount of literal crap and assume EVERYONE that does these things thinks of it as a joke.

Straight men don’t have to think it’s a joke to want to embrace their feminine side or just want the experience of a different culture.

Straight male athletes don’t have think it’s a joke to express any kind of emotion and or action outside or the “hetero norm”. Men are already supposed to masculine and have any kind of interactions with other men to be strictly platonic so as a LGBT person I don’t understand why you want to enforce this stereotype.

Lastly, the straight girls that do that do that aren’t trying to take a gab at our community for something they do innocently. As a gay girl, I joke with my straight guy friends about called my husband and pretending I’d fuck them. It’s not disrespect.

The LGBT community needs to stop thinking everything people do that could be seen as offensive is meant to be malicious. When in actuality, it is just lack of understanding of the others.

i agree with a lot of this but this post is specifically talking about those doing bc they think being lgbt are jokes