SIGNS THAT YOU MAY HAVE A SEXUALLY ABUSIVE PARENT

• It is NOT normal or okay to have a parent touch your breasts, butt, thighs, or genitalia without your explicit consent (ex. if YOU ask "please check this weird bug bite", that would be okay). It is NOT normal for your parents to force you to give them permisison to touch any of those areas. It is NOT normal to have a parent slap your butt or grab your breasts. It is NOT normal to have your parent grope you and try to convince you it was "just a hug".

• It is NOT normal or okay for your parent to kiss you in innapropriate ways or spots. Your parents should not kiss you with tongue. Your parents should not kiss you on the neck, chest, thighs, or genitalia. Your parents should not kiss any part of your body without your explicit consent.

• It is NOT normal or okay for your parent to not teach you how to get dressed on your own. Most children are able to get dressed by themself by age 5/6. It is NOT normal to be old enough to BEG to put on your own clothing, especially your own underwear. It is NOT normal to be forced to remove your clothes or have your clothes ripped off of your body as a punishment (or for any reason).

• It is NOT normal or okay for your parent to force you to shower with them or force you to let them in the bathroom while you shower. Most children are allowed to shower unsupervised by 7/8. It is NOT normal to have to BEG to be allowed to shower in privacy, especially as a teenager.

• It is NOT normal or okay for your parent to try to convince you to date them. It is NOT normal for your parent to tell you they wish you were their partner or tell you they want to have sex with you. It is NOT normal for your parent to try to convince you to date or have sex with them. It is NOT normal for your parent to call you "sexy" or describe how parts of your body are sexy.

• It is NOT normal or okay for your parent to teach you about sex by showing you porn or by attempting to have sex with you (rape). It is NOT normal for your parent to teach you about sex by preforming sexual actions on you or making you to preform sexual actions on them. It is NOT normal for your parent to watch porn with you.

• It is NOT normal or okay for a parent to tell you about their sex life. It is NOT normal for a parent to make graphically sexual noises or gestures towards you.

• It is NOT normal or okay for your parent to encourage you and your sibling to behave sexually towards each other. Your parent should NEVER encourage you or your sibling to touch each others genitalia, grope each other, hump each other, etc. It is NOT normal for your parent to encourage you to act sexually with any family member.

• It is NOT normal or okay for your parent to "play games" with you that involve getting naked, kissing, touching genitalia, touching breasts, humping people or things, etc. It is NOT normal for your parent to encourage you and/or your sibling to "play games" that involve getting naked, kissing, touching genitalia, touching breasts, humping things or people, etc. It is NOT normal for your parent to touch your breasts, butt, thighs, or genitalia while "tickling" you.

• It is NOT normal or okay for your parent to take photos of you while changing clothes or showering. It is NOT normal for your parent to have, take, or post photos of you naked. It is NOT normal to have a parent encourage you to pose sexually for pictures. It is NOT normal for your parents to have cameras in your room or bathroom.

THIS IS OKAY TO REBLOG.

Anyone who is aware that a child is being abused and decides to victim blame, justify the abuse, or forgive the abuser instead of turning the world upside down to protect and validate the child and stop the abuse from happening is a fucking monster.

The Mooshroom by Neytirix 🐮🍄

It is okay if all I did today was breathe. I am a human being, not a human doing.

Regarding selling off social housing, it was specifically that the income that local authorities generated from doing so was not allowed to be reinvested in acquiring new social housing. And no extra budget was allocated to cover building new social housing. The aim was clearly to create a social housing shortage as a twisted way of “motivating” people to stop being poor.

Great post. I hate seeing US feminists praising Thatcher, and I’ve seen it a lot.

Let’s not forget how she made repeated attempts to get Britain’s most prolific sex offender Jimmy Savile a knighthood, gave him free rein to do whatever the hell he liked at Stoke Mandeville hospital (including running it into the ground, making himself indispensable there, and oh yeah, abusing scores of patients), as well has having a close friendship with him. This is all in spite of the fact that rumours about him were going around even back then, and on a related note, she actually knew of the abuse accusations against many of her ministers and let them go free despite this.

A feminist? Pah! She actually said, “The feminists hate me, don’t they? And I don’t blame them. For I hate feminism. It is poison.” (and if for some reason you don’t trust that article, just google that quote). She also said that “the battle for women’s rights has largely been won. I owe nothing to women’s lib”, and whilst being PM for 11 years, she only ever appointed one woman, Baroness Young. As this article says, she basically “refused to accept that the majority of women do not have the privilege she had, in other words a rich partner, and lots of childcare provision.” In terms of feminism, she hated any woman who wasn’t financially well off, able-bodied, cishet, white, neurotypical (as you can see in this article), and basically, like her. Great feminism.

She also played a huge part in making Rupert Murdoch the hugely powerful man he is today (and consequently, making the British press so unreliable, ridiculous, and downright dangerous), and it seems she also used this connection to help giver herself more “sunshine headlines” (read: favourable).

I could go on but I feel like I’ve been at this for a while. OP has done a great job in summarising most of the main reasons she’s so hated. I’ve added a number of other important ones here too, but to be honest, just look at any reasonably credible article about her. If it seems positive, then google the topics at hand, and I guarantee there will be the flip side, often explained with a more socially conscious approach.

If you want proof of the bigoted, unrepresentative establishment’s continuing hold on Britain and our politics, just take a look at Thatcher, and take a look at those who praise her to the skies.

This is a great post, all I really want to add is that Section 28 (which was a hateful enough piece of legislation anyway) was introduced during the AIDS crisis, & homophobia was very much on the rise at the time.

It’s also worth looking up the controversy surrounding the sinking of the General Belgrano, which killed 323 people. during the Falklands War (Thatcher’s response on hearing of it was “Just rejoice at that news”)

she supported pinochet both politically and personally and i hope she burns for 10,000 screaming years of agony

My favourite piece of London graffiti (since been removed, I believe) was on the line coming up from south London to London Bridge station:

“The witch is dead but the spell remains.”

It’s tragically true in the UK.

Elvis Costello said it well - she was a monster and I’d happily piss on her grave.

OP talks about a lot of disparate things but doesn’t really tie them together. Thatcher did hundreds of awful things and this doesn’t talk about the horrific things she did in Northern Ireland enough (we are talking children being killed with rubber bullets).

However, the real reason people hate Thatcher is because she tried to break working class class consciousness in the UK, and arguably destroyed the UK’s social democratic ‘Post war consensus’.

The destruction of nationalised industries, selling off of council housing, breaking the power of the unions - all of this aimed to break the idea of a working class which were ‘looked after’ by the state.

And the thing is she succeeded-she dragged Britain drastically to the right, and everything that has come after, from the Iraq war to austerity to asylum seekers dying in the back of lorries to Boris fucking Johnson can be blamed on that.

Thatcher broke this country and we never recovered and that’s why we hate her.

“For three million they could give everyone in Scotland a shovel and we would dig a hole so deep we could hand her over to Satan personally.”

I vividly remember teaching my youngest that when you say her name out loud, you either spit or (if you’re outside) pretend spit.

He’s a good boy and he still does it.

He dead

oh shit

The most dangerous phrase in the language is, “we’ve always done it this way.”

“Come on, let’s mix it up!” The heart surgeon says.

“B-but we’ve always done it this way!” The other replies, “this is how you replace a heart valve.”

“That’s the most dangerous phrase in the human language!” The first surgeon replies haughtily as he inputs a fruit loop into the patient’s heart. “This will be his valve. He will be a fruit loop in a world of Cheerios.”

(taken from this post on the experiments of Harry Harlow)

This is serious business, because this is a large part of how sexism, racism, homophobia, rape culture, ethnocentrism, etc. continue to happen.

The reason we do heart surgeries the way we do is not “because that’s what we’ve always done.”  It’s because that’s how year of scientific research says will give the best results.  One of the best uses of the scientific method is to test common practice, and either eliminate it or give it legitimacy. Don’t do things because “that’s what we’ve always done,” do them because that is what evidence and research say we should do.

Saying “we’ve always done it this way” justifying maintaining a harmful societal norm is dangerous. We can do better.

I honestly can’t believe someone saw a post about how it’s bad to justify bigotry or other hardships with “that’s the way it is/has always been/etc” and decided to debunk that with an example of heart surgery as if that’s in any way comparable or the point of this post. 🙄

But honestly, even if the post was talking about things like that? If science found a better way to do heart surgery, and after tons of study and research it was undeniably the best way to do it, and surgeons said “Nah, we have always done it our way so we are going to keep doing it our way; who cares what the science says” that would be a problem.

…If we did surgery “the way we’ve always done it”, it’d be being done in a small theater complete with live audience, with sawdust on the floor, no, or extremely addictive, anesthetic, unwashed hands, and unsterilized tools.

Probably other stuff, too, that’s just stuff formalized in (western) medicine from the past hundred-fifty years, give or take, off the top of my head. Pretty much any changes to that got pushback from the establishment from what I’m aware, specifically because guess what way things had always been done…!

Surgery is a spectacularly poor example to use to try and disprove that “the way we’ve always done it” thing.

last point of today: nobody can rock a bright yellow dress better than a DARK SKINNED woman 

like i mean…

truly my aesthetic, idk about y’all

Yet we’re always told to never wear bright vibrant colors. 🙄

That contrast is phenomenal.

10/10 would also recommend bright ass blue.

Can somebody reblog this with a photoset of dark skinned women in bright ass blue dresses pls?

Yeah I can

I love how much this blew up because it’s so positive and honestly we need more posts like this encouraging our dark skinned sisters

Dude whoever is telling y'all not to wear bright colors must be freaking color blind! Bright colors look amazing on darker skin tones! If you want to you should rock those bright colors because y'all are beautiful

Dress yourselves in gold. Feel your worth, ladies.

@between-stars-and-waves

For real, tho. Thanks black women for inventing bright colors.

y’all

a mutual of mine

suddenly has posts on their blog

with links to “find women to have sex with”

my mutual is NOT POSTING THESE

tumblr just got even worse

on that note PLEASE let me know if i’m suddenly posting random pictures of women with a link underneath the photo. don’t click the link, just FYI.

i do suggest reblogging this in case someone sees this happening to someone else they follow

yeah, same thing happened to a comic creator i follow during the protest

bot brute-forced their password and posted pictures of women with links underneath

keep an eye out and let the person know

you are more than what your abuser has tried to reduce you to. to any abuse victims out there, my heart is with you, and I hope the holes they’ve made in your sense of self-worth will heal some day.

#same energy

different ways you can study

╰ exam questions/practice questions

╰ rewriting notes

╰ grab a textbook and highlighter (only important stuff!!)

╰ bullet pointing notes (use funky arrows or pretty heart bullets)

╰ reading over a page for 2 minutes then trying to recall as much as you can on paper - repeat (very effective)

╰ watching educational videos/documentaries

╰ flashcards (2 types) - you can either write a word with the definition on the back or do a full subtopic on a flashcard for portable revision

╰ plain reading - this is underrated but reading simple articles or just reading over your notes is considered studying too !!

╰ teaching - talking to a pet or a person or even a wall, trying to teach them what you’re learning helps retain the information and get your brain working

Penguin falls down resulting in best sound ever [x]

oh my god

NOOOOOOO

they all gasped like OHHH

IM CRYING IM PHYSICALLY CRYING HE FALLS AND THERE ALL LIKE WHAAAAWHOA U OK BRO AND HE GETS UP LIKE *SIGH* YEAH ITS FINE

Having a bad day? push play, and within six seconds all you will feel is tears of laughter streaming down your face and the stomach cramps of laughing too hard.

This is one of the finest things ever captured on film.

I’m so happy this is back

Pingu is real

I don’t reblog much, but this is too well said not to.

This always gets a reblog.

I remember seeing this shortly after I first came out and it just filled me with so much hope.

John Oliver always gets it. He’s awesome

This made my day 💖

imma reblog this again just because 36 followers was gone after this post, ain’t nobody gonna judge them but god so get your racist ass outta here

“Age is just a number” means senior citizens can still find love.

“Age is just a number” means middle-aged people can still find love.

“Age is just a number” means 30+ people can still find love.

“Age is just a number” is not an excuse to be a pedophile.

Nothing is an excuse to be a pedophile.

So don’t.

Just don’t.

straight boys are weak and pathetic, queer girls walk into the ladies changing room and see ten women naked, do they stare? do they say something inappropriate? do they make them uncomfortable? no because they have the common fucking sense to recognise when a situation is sexual and that people deserve the most basic level of respect to not be harassed, yet here we are banning shorts and low cut tops in school because straight boys are weak and pathetic

okay i made this post this morning and it has since had eighty two thousand notes, it’s been featured on reddit, facebook, twitter i’ve been sent multiple death threats and messages that i don’t even want to describe 

and i have to apologise

i’ve seen the error of my ways

straight boys are not ’weak and pathetic’ 

straight boys are weak, pathetic and fucking annoying

I will reblog this every time I see it posted