Hello everyone, I was attacked unprovoked on the Subway yesterday. I believe I was targeted because I was wearing my pride shirt work uniform I am also a bisexual woman with a very public presence on the internet and in the city as I am a performer at Ellen’s Stardust Diner in Times Square. I was beaten badly and taken to hospital by ambulance. It took two phone calls to 911 and an hour wait for police to arrive, so clearly my assailant got away. The cops also victim blamed me for the attack as if sitting quietly with your AirPods on is somehow not being vigilant enough at 3 o’clock in the afternoon on a busy subway car. But what else do we expect from the NYPD at this point. I have large bruises and giant swellings on the right side of my head, and it’s caused my vision to blur, my hearing is gone because my eardrum is filled with fluid and I am dizzy and nauseas all the time. Laying down is painful because of the contusions but sitting up is miserable too. Until my visions improves, my hearing returns and my bruises and swelling fade I don’t know when I’ll be able to return to work not even considering the fear of taking the subway now. More of what happened is explained in my fundraiser I’m linking. But I could use the help of the good folks on the internet. If you could donate and share or if you can’t donate please share. My husband is the organizer and can also answer any questions you have. Please boost my signal, I really need the help right now.
Hi friends, if you’ve read my stories you know how grateful I am for all the support I’ve received since I was attacked and I can’t thank you all enough. Every time I begin to feel hopeless I think about all the messages and texts I’ve gotten - and how kind it is that you know I hate phone calls so you keep it to text. Thanks to all of your shares we’ve gotten about halfway to the goal to replace the majority of my income for the week. I’m officially out of work until my sight returns and my equilibrium stabilizes, which will hopefully be when the internal swelling is no longer pressing on my optic nerve/messing with my inner ear, which hopefully means I will be back singing showtunes by Thursday.
If we can continue to boost this signal it would mean a lot to me and my family.
Also if you know any actvists in the community please share directly with them. Not simply because of my fundraiser but because the queer community needs to know this happened and how little effort has been made by NYPD to catch my attacker. NYC is supposed to be a safe place for queer people, and our city is failing to protect our vulnerable populations. The only reason this attack didn’t end worse than it did is because of brave New Yorkers stepping in to help me, reminding me the heart of this city has been and always will be its people.
This is the person who attacked me. Be on the lookout. If you see them, call the police immediately and get away from them as fast as possible. If you know who this person is call the police or DM me here I will keep your confidence. The other two men were helping me, especially the person in blue. Please be careful.
So, adversity brings out all parts of humanity. I caught a catfish trying to use my trauma and desperation for a check cashing/money laundering scam. Here is a screenshot of his blog. Block him. His likes are almost exclusively folks in need seeking mutual aid. Don’t let this person scam you in your hour of need.
More positively I am about $1300 away from my goal, about halfway there. I had to increase the fundraiser to include my wages for this upcoming week. I still can’t see or hear on my right side and until that returns there is no way for me to sing or dance at my job. Let alone be safe for the serving/restaurant side of my job. Lacking spatial/depth perception isn’t safe for me, my coworkers or the guests. Thank you all for keeping my signal strong. Be careful out there. Be careful with the catfish too.
Went to the ENT today, my doctor noted hearing loss in lower frequencies which matches what I’m feeling. I can hear most higher/treble stuff but anything resonating in that bass area hard to hear or gone. Hence why I feel like I’m underwater. I was prescribed a steroid and a follow up on six months. The doctor doesn’t predict this loss to be permanent. Everything is acute not chronic so far. Tomorrow I see the ortho for my neck. Already getting some collections texts even though I haven’t received a statement yet so gotta gird my loins for that fight. Gotta love the American healthcare system.
Today was the first day I took a subway, and the trauma response is worse than the injuries. I was only able to stomach about ten minutes at a time before getting off the train and walking or being forced to use Lyfts/rideshare. The anxiety using the subway is going to be my biggest hurdle to jump, and psychiatry and counseling are also the hardest appointments to arrange. My spouse’s graduation was yesterday and there was no way for me to go thanks to the train trauma and how expensive a Lyft/taxi would have been. My assailant has taken so much from me.
Please continue to boost my signal it’s made such a difference but I’m still out of work so no income is coming in aside from the fundraiser. I haven’t heard from the detective assigned to my case in a few days so obviously no one has been caught. It’s a big mess and it’s hard not to feel hopeless. Thank you to everyone boosting my signal and reaching out. It DOES help.















