40 Examples of Self Abandonment 🤕👎💭💔
Self-abandonment means not taking care of yourself, your needs, and your feelings. It's like ignoring what's good for you and not being kind to yourself normally in a way that benefits everyone but you.
- Not eating well or exercising.
- Pretending to be happy when you're not.
- Working too much without breaks.
- Staying in a bad relationship.
- Letting people use you.
- Forgetting about things you enjoy.
- Not saying what you want.
- Always doing things for others.
- Not asking for help when you're sad or stressed.
- Being alone when you need friends.
- Saying mean things to yourself in your head.
- Giving up your dreams for others.
- Avoiding problems instead of solving them.
- Never taking time to relax.
- Ignoring how you look or feel.
- Not asking for help when things are too hard.
- Trying to be perfect all the time.
- Doing things that hurt you, like drugs or danger.
- Changing who you are to fit in.
- Not being yourself and doing what others want.
- Ignoring your body when it needs rest or sleep.
- Letting others make decisions for you all the time.
- Keeping your feelings bottled up inside.
- Surrounding yourself with people who bring you down.
- Not pursuing your interests or hobbies.
- Saying "yes" to everything, even when you're overwhelmed.
- Putting up with disrespect or mistreatment from others.
- Not giving yourself credit for your accomplishments.
- Skipping important appointments or check-ups.
- Holding onto grudges and negative emotions.
- Comparing yourself unfavorably to others.
- Not taking breaks when you're stressed.
- Neglecting your financial well-being and overspending.
- Ignoring signs of burnout or exhaustion.
- Avoiding seeking help for mental health struggles.
- Ignoring your own intuition and gut feelings.
- Overcommitting and spreading yourself too thin.
- Constantly seeking validation from others.
- Letting fear hold you back from trying new things.
- Dwelling on past mistakes and not forgiving yourself.
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42 Practical Ways To Improve Yourself
- Books are concentrated sources of wisdom. The more books you read, the more wisdom you expose yourself to. What are some books you can start reading to enrich yourself? Some books I’ve read and found useful are Think and Grow Rich, Who Moved My Cheese, 7 Habits, The Science of Getting Rich and Living the 80/20 Way. I’ve heard positive reviews for The Tipping Point, Outliers and The Difference Maker, so I’ll be checking them out soon.
- Learn a new language.As a Singaporean Chinese, my main languages are English, Mandarin and Hokkien (a Chinese dialect). Out of interest, I took up language courses in the past few years such as Japanese and Bahasa Indonesian. I realized learning a language is a whole new skill altogether and the process of acquainting with a new language and culture is a totally a mind-opening experience.
- Pick up a new hobby. Beyond just your usual favorite hobbies, is there something new you can pick up? Any new sport you can learn? Examples are fencing, golf, rock climbing, football, canoeing, or ice skating. Your new hobby can also be a recreational hobby. For example, pottery, Italian cooking, dancing, wine appreciation, web design, etc. Learning something new requires you to stretch yourself in different aspects, whether physically, mentally or emotionally.
- Take up a new course. Is there any new course you can join? Courses are a great way to gain new knowledge and skills. It doesn’t have to be a long-term course – seminars or workshops serve their purpose too. I’ve been to a few workshops and they have helped me gain new insights which I had not considered before.
- Create an inspirational room. Your environment sets the mood and tone for you. If you are living in an inspirational environment, you are going to be inspired every day. In the past, I didn’t like my room at all because I thought it was messy and dull. A few years ago, I decided this was the end of it – I started on a “Mega Room Revamp” project and overhauled my room. The end result? A room I totally relish being in and inspires me to be at my peak every day.
- Overcome your fears. All of us have fears. Fear of uncertainty, fear of public speaking, fear of risk… All our fears keep us in the same position and prevent us from growing. Recognize that your fears reflect areas where you can grow. I always think of fears as the compass for growth. If I have a fear about something, it represents something I’ve yet to address, and addressing it helps me to grow.
- Level up your skills. If you have played video games before especially RPGs, you’ll know the concept of leveling up – gaining experience so you can be better and stronger. As a blogger, I’m constantly leveling up my writing skills. As a speaker, I’m constantly leveling up my public engagement abilities. What skills can you level up?
- Wake up early. Waking up early (say, 5-6am) has been acknowledged by many (Anthony Robbins, Robin Sharma, among other self-help gurus) to improve your productivity and your quality of life. I feel it’s because when you wake up early, your mindset is already set to continue the momentum and proactively live out the day. Seth recently wrote a waking up early series which you should check out to help cultivate this habit.
- Have a weekly exercise routine. A better you starts with being in better physical shape. I personally make it a point to jog at least 3 times a week, at least 30 minutes each time. You may want to mix it up with jogging, gym lessons and swimming for variation.
- Start your life handbook. A life handbook is an idea I started 3 years ago. Basically, it’s a book which contains the essentials on how you can live your life to the fullest, such as your purpose, your values and goals. Sort of like your manual for your life. I started my life handbook since 2007 and it’s been a crucial enabler in my progress.
- Write a letter to your future self. What do you see yourself as 5 years from now? Will you be the same? Different? What kind of person will you be? Write a letter to your future self – 1 year from now will be a good start – and seal it. Make a date in your calendar to open it 1 year from now. Then start working to become the person you want to open that letter.
- Get out of your comfort zone. Real growth comes with hard work and sweat. Being too comfortable doesn’t help us grow – it makes us stagnate. What is your comfort zone? Do you stay in most of the time? Do you keep to your own space when out with other people? Shake your routine up. Do something different. By exposing yourself to a new context, you’re literally growing as you learn to act in new circumstances.
- Put someone up to a challenge. Competition is one of the best ways to grow. Set a challenge (weight loss, exercise, financial challenge, etc) and compete with an interested friend to see who achieves the target first. Through the process, both of you will gain more than if you were to set off on the target alone.
- Identify your blind spots. Scientifically, blind spots refer to areas our eyes are not capable of seeing. In personal development terms, blind spots are things about ourselves we are unaware of. Discovering our blind spots help us discover our areas of improvement. One exercise I use to discover my blind spots is to identify all the things/events/people that trigger me in a day – trigger meaning making me feel annoyed/weird/affected. These represent my blind spots. It’s always fun to do the exercise because I discover new things about myself, even if I may already think I know my own blind spots (but then they wouldn’t be blind spots would they?). After that, I work on steps to address them.
- Ask for feedback. As much as we try to improve, we will always have blind spots. Asking for feedback gives us an additional perspective. Some people to approach will be friends, family, colleagues, boss, or even acquaintances, since they will have no preset bias and can give their feedback objectively.
- Stay focused with to-do lists. I start my day with a list of tasks I want to complete and this helps make me stay focused. In comparison, the days when I don’t do this end up being extremely unproductive. For example, part of my to-do list for today is to write a guest post atLifeHack.Org, and this is why I’m writing this now! Since my work requires me to use my computer all the time, I use Free Sticky Notes to manage my to-do lists. It’s really simple to use and it’s a freeware, so I recommend you check it out.
- Set Big Hairy Audacious Goals (BHAGs). I’m a big fan of setting BHAGs. BHAGs stretch you beyond your normal capacity since they are big and audacious – you wouldn’t think of attempting them normally. What are BHAGs you can embark on, which you’ll feel absolutely on top of the world once you complete them? Set them and start working on them.
- Acknowledge your flaws. Everyone has flaws. What’s most important is to understand them, acknowledge them, and address them. What do you think are your flaws? What are the flaws you can work on now? How do you want to address them?
- Get into action. The best way to learn and improve is to take action. What is something you have been meaning to do? How can you take action on it immediately? Waiting doesn’t get anything done. Taking action gives you immediate results to learn from.
- Learn from people who inspire you. Think about people you admire. People who inspire you. These people reflect certain qualities you want to have for yourself too. What are the qualities in them you want to have for yourself? How can you acquire these qualities?
- Quit a bad habit. Are there any bad habits you can lose? Oversleeping? Not exercising? Being late? Slouching? Nail biting? Smoking? Here’s some help on how you can quit a bad habit.
- Cultivate a new habit. Some good new habits to cultivate include reading books (#1), waking up early (#8), exercising (#9), reading a new personal development article a day (#40) and meditating. Is there any other new habit you can cultivate to improve yourself?
- Avoid negative people. As Jim Rohn says, “You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with”. Wherever we go, there are bound to be negative people. Don’t spend too much of your time around them if you feel they drag you down.
- Learn to deal with difficult people. There are times when there are difficult people you can’t avoid, such as at your workplace, or when the person is part of your inner circle of contacts. Learn how to deal with them. These people management skills will go a long way in working with people in the future.
- Learn from your friends. Everyone has amazing qualities in them. It’s up to how we want to tap into them. With all the friends who surround you, they are going to have things you can learn from. Try thinking of a good friend right now. Think about just one quality they have which you want to adopt. How can you learn from them and adopt this skill for yourself? Speak to them if you need to – for sure, they will be more than happy to help!
- Start a journal. Journaling is a great way to gain better self-awareness. It’s a self-reflection process. As you write, clarify your thought process and read what you wrote from a third person’s perspective, you gain more insights about yourself. Your journal can be private or an online blog. I use my personal development blog as a personal journal too and I’ve learned a lot about myself through the past year of blogging.
- Start a blog about personal development. To help others grow, you need to first be walking the talk. There are expectations of you, both from yourself and from others, which you have to uphold. I run The Personal Excellence Blog, where I share my personal journey and insights on how to live a better life. Readers look toward my articles to improve themselves, which enforces to me that I need to keep improving, for myself and for the people I’m reaching out to.
- Get a mentor or coach. There’s no faster way to improve than to have someone work with you on your goals. Many of my clients approach me to coach them in their goals and they achieve significantly more results than if they had worked alone.
- Reduce the time you spend on chat programs. I realized having chat programs open at default result in a lot of wasted time. This time can be much better spent on other activities. The days when I don’t get on chat, I get a lot more done. I usually disable the auto start-up option in the chat programs and launch them when I do want to chat and really have the time for it.
- Learn chess (or any strategy game). I found chess is a terrific game to learn strategy and hone your brainpower. Not only do you have fun, you also get to exercise your analytical skills. You can also learn strategy from other board games or computer games, such as Othello, Chinese Chess, WarCraft, and so on.
- Stop watching TV. I’ve not been watching TV for pretty much 4 years and it’s been a very liberating experience. I realized most of the programs and advertisements on mainstream TV are usually of a lower consciousness and not very empowering. In return, the time I’ve freed up from not watching TV is now constructively used for other purposes, such as connecting with close friends, doing work I enjoy, exercising, etc.
- Start a 30-day challenge. Set a goal and give yourself 30 days to achieve this. Your goal can be to stick with a new habit or something you’ve always wanted to do but have not. 30 days is just enough time to strategize, plan, get into action, review and nail the goal.
- Meditate. Meditation helps to calm you and be more conscious. I also realized that during the nights when I meditate (before I sleep), I need lesser sleep. The clutter clearing process is very liberating.
- Join Toastmasters (Learn public speaking). Interestingly, public speaking is the #1 fear in the world, with #2 being death. After I started public speaking as a personal development speaker/trainer, I’ve learned a lot about how to communicate better, present myself and engage people. Toastmasters is an international organization that trains people in public speaking. Check out the Toastmaster clubs nearest to you here.
- Befriend top people in their fields. These people have achieved their results because they have the right attitudes, skill sets and know-how. How better to learn than from the people who have been there and done that? Gain new insights from them on how you can improve and achieve the same results for yourself.
- Let go of the past. Is there any grievance or unhappiness from the past which you have been holding on? If so, it’s time to let it go. Holding on to them prevents you from moving on and becoming a better person. Break away from the past, forgive yourself, and move on. Just recently, I finally moved on from a past heartbreak of 5 years ago. The effect was liberating and very empowering, and I have never been happier.
- Start a business venture. Is there anything you have an interest in? Why not turn it into a venture and make money while learning at the same time? Starting a new venture requires you to be learn business management skills, develop business acumen and have a competitive edge. The process of starting and developing my personal development business has equipped me with many skills, such as self-discipline, leadership, organization and management.
- Show kindness to people around you. You can never be too kind to someone. In fact, most of us don’t show enough kindness to people around us. Being kind helps us to cultivate other qualities such as compassion, patience, and love. As you get back to your day after reading this article later on, start exuding more kindness to the people around you, and see how they react. Not only that, notice how you feel as you behave kindly to others. Chances are, you will feel even better than yourself.
- Reach out to the people who hate you. If you ever stand for something, you are going to get haters. It’s easy to hate the people who hate us. It’s much more challenging to love them back. Being able to forgive, let go and show love to these people requires magnanimity and an open heart. Is there anyone who dislikes or hates you in your life? If so, reach out to them. Show them love. Seek a resolution and get closure on past grievances. Even if they refuses to reciprocate, love them all the same. It’s much more liberating than to hate them back.
- Take a break. Have you been working too hard? Self-improvement is also about recognizing our need to take a break to walk the longer mile ahead. You can’t be driving a car if it has no petrol. Take some time off for yourself every week. Relax, rejuvenate and charge yourself up for what’s up ahead.
- Read at least 1 personal development article a day. Some of my readers make it a point to read at least one personal development article every day, which I think is a great habit. There are many terrific personal development blogs out there, some of which you can check here.
- Commit to your personal growth. I can be writing list articles with 10 ways, 25 ways, 42 ways or even 1,000 ways to improve yourself, but if you’ve no intention to commit to your personal growth, it doesn’t matter what I write. Nothing is going to get through. We are responsible for our personal growth – not anyone else. Not your mom, your dad, your friend, me or LifeHack. Make the decision to commit to your personal growth and embrace yourself to a life-long journey of growth and change. Kick off your growth by picking a few of the steps above and working on them. The results may not be immediate, but I promise you that as long as you keep to it, you’ll start seeing positive changes in yourself and your life.
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Anonymous asked:
How do I become pretty to receive pretty privilege like you :((?
First off; I’m just going to say I don’t know what you look like so these are just general suggestions—you might already be pretty idk—just take what suits you and leave the rest.
Before we start I’d like to mention that I’ve always been a bit vain since I was a child and I care about aesthetics a lot; so here’s what I’ve observed “matters” in the sense of attractiveness.
1) Straight Teeth
- a beautiful smile; particularly on a woman, will open many doors. On all the jobs I’ve had I was always put in the front were customers could see me. One lady told me my smile made her day when I was at the register. I had braces for 3 years and it really paid off. Having a mega watt smile is a must. When I lived in Europe I found that lack of dental aesthetics disheartening; because a beautiful smile is the key to success in many social situations. There’s a reason so many actors get veneers or have very straight white teeth.
2) Tongue Posture in Relation to Facial Aesthetics
-Tongue Posture is another contributing factor in beauty as the posture of a persons tongue inside their mouths decides how the lower facial third and mid face areas of the face grow. Having good tongue posture allows and causes the face to grow properly and have a shorter length. Some of this can be down to genetics but at the majority is facial posture. For more you can search Dr. Mike Mew who is pioneering in this field of study. (QUOVES studio is also a great source on YouTube for facial aesthetics).
3) Beauty is a gendered concept
-What is attractive on a woman will not be attractive on a man and vice versa. While there are some universal truths about beauty such as facial symmetry etc. the sexes have different standards of beauty as beauty is also meant to display sexual fitness. Men have it more difficult in the eye area; as men with lots of lid space and scleral view tend to be seen as effeminate; where as women can get away with both feline or the “doe” eye look (which is only attractive on women). Women’s facial structure is usually considered attractive when their features (eyes; nose; lips) are youthful but the structure such as the jawline and cheekbones are sexually mature looking since it signals to men that you’re young but not young and not old either (sounds messed up but that’s how heterosexual humans are programmed; which is why women prefer mature (low in Neoteny) looking men—since they can provide).
Take my two of my favorite actors here: Natalie Portman and Christian Bale are both considered to be exceptionally good looking but they’re features are on opposite ends of the spectrum. This also explains why certain actors fall into a casting “type.” Like why Tom Holland makes a perfectly boyish Spider-Man but we won’t see him playing James Bond any time soon; nor will we see Daniel Craig as Spider-Man.
4) Personal Hygeine and Being Well-Groomed
-this is a ‘no brainer,’ smelling good and looking your best are extremely important. Don’t walk around showing up to job interviews looking the way Andie did at the beginning of the Devil Wears Prada. It doesn’t matter how beautiful the stone a polished shoe will look far better than a raw unpolished ruby. If you work with what you have; no matter what you’re starting base looks like you can bring yourself up quite a few points by how well you present yourself. It doesn’t mean you have to wear Chanel; or buy the latest and greatest purse; what it does mean is that your clothes should fit properly; your hair is neat and brushed; and you smell nice.
5) Personal Branding
-the way you look; particularly the way you dress and care for yourself says more about you than what you say. People see you before they hear you (usually); a person who doesn’t respect themselves is the same person who walks around in the same smelly stained t-shirt everyday. Ask yourself; who do I want to be? And manufacturer that image in the way you present yourself. You are what ever you make yourself to be.
5) Your Body Matters
-The current trend in society seems to be lying to oneself about ones health and attractiveness in relation to the body; this is not to say we shouldn’t love ourselves because self love and respect are things that come from within. However; it should be acknowledged that a svelte body displays a persons health and this therefore considered attractive (biologically we look for healthy mates therefore healthy(fit) is attractive). You can look into the ideal ratio for men and women online as well as what traits are considered attractive by different socioeconomic circles. Having good posture is essential as it displays confidence and dominance.
6) Body Language and Confidence
-Make eye contact while speaking to others; don’t be shy to move your body. Speak confidently. Charisma on Command (YouTube; I only like a few of their videos) has a great video on Tom Cruise’s charisma; which I highly recommend. Do you’re research on body language and psychology; read books like the Art of Seduction by Robert Greene. Be the person you want to be. As an actress; I love learning from observation; I find it good to observe both likable and unlivable people what makes them the way they are? Same thing goes for power; what kind of power do you hold? How do you maintain it? Be a force of nature.
7) The Final Cheat Sheet
- I’ve always been attractive (for context not to be conceited) however I’ve always also been about self betterment. I got into the law of attraction in my early teens (I also started Transcendental Meditation when I was 9; you can find that post under the mediation tag); which basically led me to subliminal messaging. Subliminals have seriously changed my life; if you want more info on subliminals please check out Solar Subliminals on YouTube as she’s made so many guides on subliminals for beginners or you can also personal message me if you’re interested. I’ve manifested so many things through them such as a 22 inch waist; longer eyelashes; money; etc. I feel truly blessed to have found them.
Also check out the “Law of Assumption” also via Solar Subliminals; it’s aided me in boosting my manifestation and subliminal results.
Other Law of Attraction YouTubers and Spirituality YouTubers:
-Aaron Doughty
-Ryan J Cropper
-Leor Alexandra
-Isabel Palacios
My favorite sublimal makers and sublimal community influencers:
-Lay Subliminals
-Aiko’s Potions
-Solar Subliminals
-Kashief Creations
*I hope this helped; and I didn’t proof read this at all; so forgive any grammatical errors.*
Sometimes I take a look at my life and I’m just like. Wow. I really set goals, stayed devoted to them through thick and thin and now the fruits of my labor are showing in every which way. If I listened to the people saying to stay comfortable and always be a victim and give up when things are hard and self improvement is bad, I’d be miserable today. Still stuck in the same spot but a little older a lot more salty. When you figure out what your dream self and dream life are, you better make that your main priority day in and day out, ignore all of the distractions (of which there will be MANY), and stay devoted. You will thank yourself and the results will be so much more satisfying than you realize.
Turning your life around? Coming out of a funk? Getting over a breakup? Need to reignite your spark for life? Need to feel in control? Want a boost of confidence? Dealing with low self esteem?
Where to start:
- Exercise every day
- Skincare + makeup of personal preference (yes this includes not wearing makeup at all if that is your personal preference)
- Hair done
- Showered and moisturized
- At least one hobby you engage with on a daily/frequent basis
- At least one skill you are developing on a daily/frequent basis
If you haven’t gotten a 7 day workout streak and completed the other bullet points on this list yet, stop moaning, get to work, and kill your distractions.
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Using your sex appeal and charm to get ahead in life cos you were born poor but blessed with a booty.
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Loving the women I’m becoming!
She wakes up at 4.30, makes her tea and and run 5km before work.
She reads news in morning while having breakfast and has a salad for lunch.
She does Pilates after work, have a healthy dinner and drinks 2-3L of water.
She’s focused on becoming a better and healthier person everyday.
Beauty is not free, never feel ashamed for charging admission.
MAXIMIZE THE PRETTY! 💋
Admire yourself. Put yourself on a pedestal. Hang up your best pictures. Make moodboards to include you in it. Idolize you. You are your own dream girl.
Work on yourself in silence, don't expect to be revered by others for your improvements. Improve for yourself only and don't involve yourself in messy interpersonal situations. Be above all the mediocrity, toxicity, and chaos around you. You don't owe a reaction or complicity to the people around you.
