im having a moment
I was wondering if there’s anybody that is trans and/or non-binary but still struggles with the beauty standards or societal expectations that are attached with your agab?
I’m agender, but I still struggle with some things related to appearance and being afab, one of the major ones being that excessive or dark body hair makes me unattractive. This was something that others made comments about to me and I’ve always been pretty insecure about. (Not to mention that some of these comments came from adults before I even finished up to middle school, but that’s a discussion for another time.) I’ve started taking steps to move past this in my own way, such as wearing pants with holes in the legs no matter how long ago I’ve shaved and hoping to move on to shorts and skirts at some point. However, I’ve started to feel incredibly frustrated by the whole thing. I don’t hold others to these standards and think society can fuck off when it comes to clinging to these ideals, and I have cis female friends that have been able to not be held back by these expectations, but when it comes to myself I just can’t let go of them.
I guess I wanted to know if I wasn’t alone when it comes to this kind of problem.
so I got into grad school today with my shitty 2.8 gpa and the moral of the story is reblog those good luck posts for the love of god
okay so i just got my dream job??? a week after applying to it?? and now i’m thinking….maybe this is the good luck post
thetatteredveil
…..not even six hours later i got an offer of a well paying full time long-term job with free room and board in queens in nyc, allowing me independence and a way to escape an abusive situation and an unhealthy environment
likes charge reblogs cast, folks, this is the good luck post
i need all the help i can get for finals
Hey so
the last time I reblogged this post right before I got a great job, in a permanent work-from-home position, with benefits, retirement, and a salary literally 3x what I was making before, doing something I really like.
So you know.
This might be the real one, y’all.
Give salary increase and wfh plz
I need a little help…
I’m considering binding, but I have some concerns. So, I’m agender and AFAB, and when it comes to my presentation there are some days where I want to appear flat chested. For years I’ve thought about getting a binder to use on those days, but I’m a bit scared. I know that binding over a long period of time can affect the breasts, and that worries me a bit. As of now I have no plans/desire to get top surgery, and there are still the days I like my breasts to be more obvious or even emphasized. I know that there are other options for appearing flat chested, but what I’ve tried so far still doesn’t have the exact affect I want and isn’t possible for certain outfits/looks. That’s why I’m reaching out here. I was hoping someone offer some more info or advice. I would really appreciate it.
anxious bitches rb this and put your brand of bodily/physical anxiety manifestation in the tags. i’ll go first mine is getting cold and shivering
i tried to explain what generational trauma is to someone recently and they were like “oh so because something happened historically, you get to have issues about it now?” and no.... that’s not what that is.
when i was in 8th grade, on my class trip to washington dc, we visited the holocaust museum. it’s a wonderful, extensive, informative place, and it’s a beautiful tribute to the victims. as a jewish kid, i knew what the holocaust was. i’d faced antisemetism every day of my life, and will continue to do so. i knew what had happened to my ancestors not too long ago.
but when i stood in that museum. in the recreation of the cattle trains used to move us to the camps. in the recreation of an auschwitz cabin, staring at the map of the camp. when i saw the pile of shoes and jewelry taken from the victims. when i learned how their hair, so very much like mine, was cut for having texture. and how their teeth were pulled for the gold fillings. i had a panic attack.
it was embarrassing, but i was a shitty little 8th grader, and i tried to hide it. but I couldn’t breathe. it was like there was a band around my chest the entire time i was in the museum. i was surrounded by ghosts, by the whispers of emaciated men and trapped women and crying children.
what is generational trauma?
it’s the psychological idea that trauma can be passed down through multiple different ways. trauma can change you significantly, even rewrite neural pathways and physically change how you think. that, paired with the cycle of subconsciously sharing our trauma with our children, as well as mixing with the trauma we learn as we grow, leads to some really rough patches in our relationships with our identites.
this is a really great 4 minute video from the healing foundation about the trauma carried by aboriginal people in Australia. tw for some really heavy topics, but all presented in a relaxed and serious environment.
what do we do?
well, honestly, i don’t know. it’s not like we’re gonna stop sharing our stories with our descendants, nor our histories. we can’t get rid of things related to our identities that give us our own trauma, the bigotry we face unfortunately isn’t going anywhere.
but being aware of your generational trauma is a good step. it’s not just being “sad” or “sensitive” to history. it’s our history still affecting us today. when your indigenous friends are made upset by discussions of colonization, when your black friends feel the weight of a millenia of racism placed on their shoulders, when your gay friends ask you to please stop using that word, when your trans friends see another historical figure deadnamed and misgendered, when your jewish friends can’t talk about the Shoah without their voices breaking.
so why the fuck are you lecturing us?
our murdered ancestors live on in us, in our eyes, our hearts. we are reminded of them constantly, made painfully aware of who we are and how many people hate us.
we were not supposed to survive, and if most of the world had their way, we wouldn’t have. (no, the allies were not heroes of wwii, you turned us away at your borders and continue to let us die from nazis today. if america had had the option, they wouldn’t have given a shit about jewish victims, but that’s a whole other essay i could write)
it’s time to start acknowledging the past, acknowledging your generational trauma and the trauma of those around you. i’m not making up an excuse to “have issues”. at the time i’m writing this, october 2020, i’m 17. i have felt this weight my entire life, and i will continue to shoulder it, as will everyone else.
my point is, maybe we can shoulder that weight together. maybe then it won’t weigh us down as badly. we have solidarity, and we are tough, and resilient, and strong, and beautiful. your generational trauma is something to be aware of, but not ashamed of. we can do this—change the world for the better. we can break the cycle so our descendants don’t feel as we do.
you should reblog this even if you’re not affected by it. goy do not care about jewish people at all and that is so fucking clear
reblogging again for thanksgiving. reach out to your native friends today. listen to them. show them kindness and respect and solidarity.
Reblogging too because generational trauma absolutely fucks up African Americans and i cannot stop thinking about how folks are literally getting married on plantations.
I’m sorry, but people need to know this. This is LITERALLY the most blatant telltale sign of totalitarianism and this needs to be spread like wildfire. DO NOT LOOK AWAY.
Here’s an actual link, since the one above seems to just go to Reddit:
It’s important to point out that protesting generally hasn’t been made a felony, but rather the camping that the protestors are doing (and the legislation also includes other things to discourage protesting).
This is still really bad though, because the right to peaceful protest is protected in the Constitution, and even if protesting isn’t outlawed outright the government is still criminalizing an act of peaceful protest just because it’s a protest.
Furthermore:
According to tn.gov felons in Tennessee lose their right to vote. This is called Felony Disenfranchisement
So this means that the Tennessee government just passed legislation that would render the protestors unable to vote.
I’m sorry lemme repeat that again
the Tennessee government just passed legislation thar would render the protestors unable to vote
We call ships ‘she.’ We call our war machines 'women.’ We compare women to black widows and vipers. And you’re going to tell me it’s not 'lady-like’ to scream, to take up space, to fight and demand respect and do whatever the hell I want. You’ve looked at nuclear bombs and been so in awe that you could only name them after women. Don’t try to down-play my power.
Reblog to make a white gay big mad
Reblog to make black queer people feel visible and supported (and also to make a white gay big mad)
dabitouyaa
Reblogging this as a white gay to make the racist white gays mad
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i dont get offended at white people jokes even though im white because:
- i can recognize white people as a whole have systemically oppressed POC in america, which is where i live
- most people when they make white people jokes only mean the shitty white people and i am not a shitty white person
- im not a pissbaby
damncommunists
my white friends that have reblogged this give me life
surfshoggoth
4. Sometimes I am a shitty white person and the jokes remind me to FUCKIN STOP
mizzhabibi
If ur white and like this post I fux with u
s1n-pie
^absolutely
5. It’s hard to be offended when white people jokes involve bland food/tourist dads in socks and sandals/white girls in yoga pants obsessed with pumpkin spice/suburban PTA moms and other harmless and mostly true stereotypes while jokes about POC involve them being called thugs/criminals/slurs/uneducated/illegal immigrants.
i fucks with u heavy if ur white and you reblog this
sm0k3-ring
6. They’re usually really fucking funny and don’t perpetuate stereotypes that will ever affect me economically, politically, or cause me any true harm, let alone create risks that “justify” my murder and/or death
sectual-tention
Waits for my white mutuals to reblog😌
yesyesyesyes
send me a pairing and a number and i'll write you a drabble
- “Come over here and make me.”
- “Have you lost your damn mind!?”
- “Please, don’t leave.”
- “Do you…well…I mean…I could give you a massage?”
- “Wait a minute. Are you jealous?”
- “Is there a reason you’re naked in my bed?”
- “I almost lost you.”
- “Wanna bet?”
- “Don’t you ever do that again!”
- “Teach me how to play?”
- “Don’t you dare throw that snowba-, goddammit!”
- “I think we need to talk.”
- “Kiss me.”
- “Hey, I’m with you, okay? Always.”
- “So, I found this waterfall…”
- “It could be worse.”
- “Looks like we’ll be trapped for a while…”
- “This is without a doubt the stupidest plan you’ve ever had. Of course I’m in.”
- “The paint’s supposed to go where?”
- “You need to wake up because I can’t do this without you.”
- “We’re in the middle of a thunderstorm and you wanna stop and feel the rain?”
- “I’ve seen the way you look at me when you think I don’t notice.”
- “Just once.”
- “You’re the only one I trust to do this.”
- “I can’t believe you talked me into this.”
- “I got you a present.”
- “I’m pregnant.”
- “Marry me?”
- “I thought you were dead.”
- “It’s not what it looks like…”
- “You lied to me.”
- “I think I’m in love with you and I’m terrified.”
- “Please don’t do this.”
- “If you keep looking at me like that we won’t make it to a bed.”
- “You heard me. Take. It. Off.”
- “I wish I could hate you.”
- “Wanna dance?”
- “You fainted…straight into my arms. You know, if you wanted my attention you didn’t have to go to such extremes.”
- “Hey! I was gonna eat that!”
- “Have I entered an alternate universe or did you really just crack a smile for me?”
- “You did all of this for me?”
- “I swear it was an accident.”
- “YOU DID WHAT?!”
- “If you die, I’m gonna kill you.”
- “Tell me a secret.”
- “Hey, have you seen the..? Oh.”
- “No one needs to know.”
- “Boo.”
- “Well this is awkward…”
- Writer’s preference
Send me a pairing or make up a couple (ex: two girls, first date, small and tall trope). I’m on break and want to practice writing. If I’m unfamiliar with the fandom or couple and don’t think I can do them justice, I’ll let you know.
fake conversations in your head of you venting to someone
blandyblaugh
working through trauma by yelling at no one while driving alone
tragicmushroom
validating yourself by imagining situations where bad things happen to people and you save them
winds-and-stardust
reinforcing trust in your loved ones by imagining situations where bad things happen to you and they save you
heckedy-peg
Explaining things to your therapist in an imaginary session
rootfauna
Projecting all your trauma onto an imaginary character and imagining others comforting them
Wanting fictional characters to have all the emotional support and physical affection you’ve always wanted
Writing a character that goes through the same troubles as you and give them loving family and friends to help them cope
evanwillwhat
these are actually healthy copong mechanisms
Oh, thank goodness.
like who ISN't having a strange and confusing time w/ intimacy and the physical experience
Have you ever had those days where everything feels fine, maybe a little slow, maybe a little hard to get yourself to do things, but fine. Then you do something stupid, something bad, that ends up bringing everything out and you realize you just can’t handle it. Not today.
“Don’t buy any Girl Scout cookies!!! They support pLANNED PARENTHOOD!!” me:
Girl Scouts support planned parenthood? Y’all just doubled my order
Don’t forget this too
ravingliberal
Girl Scouts of Greater Atlanta has expanded upon this to include nonbinary youth (and adults) seeing a Girl Scouting experience.
talkingcinemalight
Reblogging for important information.
Shout out to the time they returned a $100,000 donation because the donor– months after making the donation– wanted a guarantee that the money wouldn’t be used to support transgender girls.
In this house we respect girl scouts
Anyone can help!
(Real pen the last picture)
It is important for EVERYONE to know how to help ANYONE. Not everyone can give them selves their medicine under every circumstance. Be educated, help out.
In the last year, i have gotten about five new violent allergies from foods i used to be able to eat. Next time i eat a fruit, my throat could close. I may not be able to inject myself. My boyfriend and i played with my trainer pen for like 30 minutes. He knows how to inject it. I know how. This is important.
Blue to the sky
Orange to the thigh
BOOST
sky-bound-wayfarer
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this is something they should teach everyone in school IMO. till then please everyone reblog this. in extreme cases, the time needed to read the instructions can be fatal. please know this just in case
dont-wave-at-me
((I know how to use this cause I have one irl
@pippip-cheerio @smartest-of-them-all @collector-of-lost-souls @everyone else
I’m to tired to function atm
everyone who reads this post will get some big spicy joy within 24 large minutes (hours)
Ok y'all but like I’m not even kidding about this I read this post yesterday and today I got an email from the peeps at hamilton and I won the lotto gor $10 tickets and I would like to give all my thanks to the internet’s favorite fish, Goldie Gurston, for making this possible because I totally believe they did this with their amazing gay powers
So I know this is likely a coincidence…but I reblogged this and just now discovered I’ve been given a $150 amazon gift card as a bonus at work. So thank you, fish!
If it worked for them I hope it works for everyone else
hopeful-bee
Some big spicy joy pls
felixluvsketchup
SOME BIG SPICY JOY PLEASE
bythehearthfire
i request the big spicy joy
crabsthinkfishfly
FISH PLEASE
im desperate ples
I’m really just curious about what might happen