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so much of being an ok person is just 1) not panicking, 2) not taking things personally, and 3) not letting the vindictive gargoyle that lives in your head tell you what to do. this sucks because brains love doing those things
“We lose June. We lose July. In August we look in mirrors and want to die.”
— Kim Addonizio, from ‘The Women’, Wild Nights: New and Selected Poems (via soracities)
Ladies, are we fatigued this evening? Are we tired
mouselette
We sleepy sis
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Exhausted even
Based on the notes on this post, the situation is worse than I thought
You called me lazy without knowing I was busy trying to keep myself alive
Let’s talk about : ANXIETY.
One of my main struggles with anxiety is feeling like I am drowning in other peoples opinions and constantly worrying about what everyone thinks about me.
I am constantly feeling insecure about:
what other people think about me, the way I look, the way I do things, the way I do my make up, the way I walk, the way I talk, the way I laugh or how I look when I laugh, what I post about, the way I text, the way I dress, my weight, the way I order food in public, what kind of shoes I’m wearing, my height, my hair colour and the list goes on! Let’s just say I feel insecure about everything I do and the way I do things.
Or I’m constantly feeling insecure about:
the way people look at me, how people talk to me, if I have done something wrong, if my boyfriend still feels the same about me, does my best friend suddenly hate me, do I annoy everyone, is my voice annoying, am I talking to much, why is everyone ignoring me, do they want to be my friend anymore, did I dress right, and the list goes on.
My main anxiety struggles
My anxiety is always making me feel drained, some days I don’t want to get out of bed, I don’t want to brush my hair, I don’t want to shower, I don’t want to eat, i feel like binge eating, I don’t feel like brushing my teeth, couldn’t be bothered to change my clothes, I just simply don’t want to do anything, I just want to stay in bed, I just want to cry and I just want to shelter myself away from everyone and completely dissociate from the world. I’m constantly feeling like no one understands, I explain myself to my mum or my best friend or my boyfriend but no one ever understands, they might relate but they never truely understands how it feels and what goes on in my mind. Some days I feel like breaking down over nothing like I just want to give up and not even try, some days I feel okay and can go about my day and just shove everything to the back of my mind or some days I just want to stay in bed and not deal with life. Everyday is a struggle with anxiety.
What is anxiety?
Anxiety is our body’s natural response to stressful situations or things that are about to come. For example: the first day of school, a job interview, being in a crowd of people, public speaking, driving etc. Anxiety can also be more than that, anxiety can make you believe you are all on your own, it can convince you that you have no one, make you think no one wants you around, make you to scared to leave your room, make you to anxious to answer a phone call or even make you to afraid to order your own food. In reality anxiety can make you feel a certain way about anything.
Ways to cope with anxiety
In my opinion I believe doing what you love the most is the best way to cope with anxiety! Do you like drawing? go ahead and draw an amazing picture! Or maybe you like to do your make up? Push your limits and create a beautiful look! Do you like to drive? Go for a drive to your favourite place! Do you like to watch Netflix? Binge watch your favourite show/movie! Do you enjoy just relaxing in bed? Put on some music and relax! Do you love playing video games? Go ahead and play away!
Sometimes I also find that breathing techniques can help calm a person down, always remember in through your nose and count to three! Then breathe out your mouth count to three again and repeat!
Sometimes it also helps to write about your feelings, what’s causing them and what you can do to feel better! Get a book or a piece of paper, section off 3 parts and write “ feelings, the cause, how to feel better “ and there you go you have your own anxiety chart! Now write those feelings away!
I believe another way to help yourself feel better is to talk to a family member or friend! Now I know just how hard it can be to trust other people with your feelings or just talk about your struggles in general, but it does help! or maybe you prefer to talk to your pet about the way you feel? that helps to!
Fact about anxiety
Anxiety is one of the most common mental health conditions in Australia, over 2 million Australians a year struggle with anxiety!
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i am just waiting for the day you decide you’ve had enough of my mood swings and endless breakdowns
i try so hard to help other people because i have no idea how to help myself
That's how it goes whenever I'm having a mental breakdown. Emotions have been over felt, and those massive thoughts are just so fucked up. But hey! I got you. We'll get through this, okay?
— Fynsie
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