Original clip by kelly_cadigan, a light skinned person who says, "the only transition that's taking place really is your pronouns."
Hey Kelly. I've seen a lot of people calling you out right now. I just want to extend my hand and say that I get it. I felt the exact same way and I wanna talk about why I don't feel that way anymore. I can put and transitioned a decade ago and trans people weren't on the map. There wasn't all this great representation. There wasn't all this terrible legislation. We were just bopping around under the radar. Then more and more of us started coming out and transitioning, which you think I as a trans person would be stoked about but it actually pissed me off because a lot of these people weren't transitioning the way that I thought they should. When I came out my goal was to transition and then never talk about the past again. So when all these people came out, transitioned, and stayed out, I was like, "What are you doing?" Then I started to see people come out and not transition and I was like, fake, you, no, that's not real. And then I started seeing non binary people and I lost my damn mind. I could not wrap my head around how a person could not identify as either a man or a woman. Meanwhile, there is an entire sect of the population that feels the exact same way about me. What I realised was that there was something in me that was deeply hurting and it was triggered by seeing people authentically express themselves. I have never been bothered by people with tattoos. I don't have tattoos. I don't want them. I've also never been bothered by people who have tattoos and then get them removed cause it sounds like a whole bunch of none of my business. But when it came to trans and non binary people it felt like my business. In reality, I wasn't advocating for myself. I wasn't willing to speak up when I was uncomfortable. I wasn't willing to ask for more from society because deep down I didn't feel like I was worthy of it. I was settling for crumbs and getting mad at people who had the audacity to ask for more from life. But now, I don't accept crumbs. I do ask for more from life. I take up space now in a way that I never allowed myself to in the past even after I transitioned. And suddenly, this part of our community doesn't piss me off anymore. Their existence and demand for approval and acceptance, does not mean that there is less love for me. Them taking up space is actually evidence of how authentic I can be. And I'm just so grateful. If I can offer one piece of unsolicited advice, I had the privilege of unpacking all of this offline and I think that saved a lot of collateral damage to real people. So I encourage you to find a safe space where you can speak as freely as you need to to get at the root of whatever is going on, whatever is so upsetting about seeing non binary people. Without risking the harm of people who are just trying to exist. I wish you much love on your journey.
