i have no respect for any transgender who agrees with #downwithcis or any form of hate towards cis people. (: (and seriously if you are trans and you agree with hatred towards innocent cis people (including myself) you are a part of the problem. how do you expect the minority of cis people to stop hatefulness towards the trans community when you are just retaliating against innocent cis people? you are just making more enemies for yourself)

“Any transgender” is horrifyingly incorrect terminology but anyways I’m going to try really, really hard to respond here without sounding like I’m doing anything other than explaining. Here goes.

Also: There’s this thing that none of you seem to know about called “metonymy”, where you use a whole to stand in for a part. (It is a figure of speech that replaces the name of a thing with the name of something else with which it is closely associated.) It’s called metonymy, when a trans person (I’ll just stick with this to make it easier to explain) makes an exasperated statement. When they say cis people they mean transphobic people, the system that cis people have put in place to prevent trans people from being able to have certain rights/etc, the fucks who call themselves, “gender abolitionists”, etc. Just like, for example, when someone says “America is shit". Obviously not every single solitary person who lives in America is shit. They mean that America as a system is shit. (The government, violence against anyone not deemed worthy enough, basic refusal to acknowledge a lot of things, etc.) Or “The White House is concerned about terrorism”. Clearly, not every single being residing in The White House is concerned about it. (The dogs aren’t, of course). There are individuals within who do. In this case, The White House as a whole is use in place of the names of each individual.

So basically “down with cis” = , down with the ideation that “you have to be this exact way to be a girl/boy, down with the system and society that enforces it, down with equating gender to genitals, down with the people who dehumanize trans people and act as if they are less worthy because they are trans, etc. The statement doesn’t mean every single cis person on the planet ever to exist. When they make a comment like ‘i hate cis people’. They are substituting cis people for the concept of a system/culture that demonizes, disrespects and dehumanizes trans people, and legitimizes and normalizes transphobia/transphobic acts so that people constantly do those things either without realizing it, or while believing that it’s completely okay to do because everyone around them is doing it, so they blow it off like its no big deal and can’t possibly be doing any harm.

TL;DR: There’s a possibly very long explanation on metonymy and how it coincides with down with cis.

Anon me facts about me that you think are probably true

if i have to beg for your love, then fuck your love

Mother & Daughter, Mahgreb, 1930s by Jean Besancenot

(via Middle East, Arabic Gulf & North Africa / Mother and Daughter, Maghreb, 1930s)

“Don’t make your child feel like shit for things they cannot control” seems like common sense to me and yet, here we are

Support nonbinary people who veil.  Whether you wear a hijab or a turban or a tichel, you do you.  Your gender is valid, your faith is valid, and so is how you express it.  It is not contradictory.  I’m proud of you.

thisthisthisthisthisthis

My first fandom was the Warriors fandom when I was like… 11-13 and can I just say there is no fandom where it’s harder to not be accused of shipping incest.

I remember being a very cheery shippy little fandom baby and then somebody would come along and be like “haven’t you seen the canonical family trees? They show that Deersong and Snakemouth [or whatever] are third cousins once removed” because every fucking character in that whole series was related.

That’s why they kept throwing fucking kittypets and loners in there. Erin Hunter just went “fuck, who isn’t related? Nobody? Guess we’ll toss some random Fluffy in there and call it a day.” Almost every book featured a forbidden inter-clan romance, and I’m convinced it happened so much because there was no other in-clan characters left that didn’t connect on those massive family trees somehow.

Look at this shit and tell me you feel safe

look at him yawn!

sigil for prosperity

being lex luthor kinda sorta requires being a genius, elon musk got start up cash because his family stole an emerald mine from zambian miners 🤷🏾 nothing but wealth and privilege

I saw this tweet earlier today and took psychic damage for 5 hours. this idiot is the worst but also fuck the entire fetishistic silicon valley fanatacism that made him possible.

As it happens there are some fairly simple solutions to this problem and it’s not to late to deploy them.

https://www.forbes.com/sites/startswithabang/2019/11/20/this-is-how-elon-musk-can-fix-the-damage-his-starlink-satellites-are-causing-to-astronomy/#5a5184974ccc

so uhhhh is this shit why scientists were surprised to see an asteroid barely miss Earth???

yes

The people who blame Native Hawaiians for stopping astronomers are the same people who praise Elon Musk. They love white billionaires who actually cause harm and attack Indigenous people who want to protect their sacred places and have sovereignty respected.

I have $24 to last me til Friday, what should I buy with it?

a pallet of ramen noodles

I hate ramen noodles tho

hmmmmm bees?

Are you suggesting that I eat bees for a week

This is roughly what I make sure I have in my kitchen all the time along with rough estimates of local prices (MN). I buy a lot of things when they’re on sale and stockpile them. 

instant oatmeal packets with fruit in them - $3 probably and this can be breakfast all week and maybe even a lunch or dinner too since you usually get 10 packets

bag of rice - $2-3 depending on size. 1 cup dry rice makes enough for about two meals depending on what you add in. if you get cheap rice, rinse it before cooking

canned beans - usually under $1 per can - mix the can with your rice and you have a meal. chili-spiced beans will make bean tacos. Rinse non-spiced beans before adding to anything.

Tortilla - usually around $3 but you get like 8-10 of them. Tacos, wraps, and quesadillas are all fair game here

lettuce - $2 max around here, either a head of something or bagged precut depending on preference, use as a salad or on tacos

protein other than beans of some sort - probably $5-7 for meat, $2-3 for eggs. sometimes I can get bags of frozen chicken breasts in this price range and each is usually 2 meals if I add in a bunch of veggies. fry/scramble eggs and add to any of the options. 

your favorite stir fry sauce - $3ish

vegetables - $5ish. literally anything that you can 1. fry in a pan and 2. you’ll eat. fresh carrots are usually pretty cheap. get frozen if it’s cheaper and you’re strapped for cash/prep time on this part. 

alternative to stir fry:  pasta (~$2), fresh tomatoes (~$2), cheese (~$3). 

cheese and fruit if you have extra - look if your store has loyalty cards for free that you can load coupons on for cheese there’s always one it seems like.

ahh thank you!!!

Reblogging because there’s never knowing who’ll need it.

Adding also: the single most nutritious food on earth is potatoes in their peel. Potatoes + some milk and butter = everything you need. They don’t last all that long, but they’re fairly cheap and the quickest cheat to “How do I not fuck my body up.”

(Cooked potatoes’ll last a while in the fridge. Potatoes nearing the end of their useful lives? Cook them to half-done first, figure out what to do with them later.)

Easiest baked potatoes: slice thinly but not paper-like, spread like cards, brush with oil (a silicone baking brush is totes worth the little it costs), spread salt and pepper (a little less than you think you’d like), cover with foil, stick in oven or toaster-oven at 150C for 40min. (If you have the patience, at that point click up to 180C, remove the cover and add 10-20min.) Reheats well, lasts in the fridge longer than it’ll take you to nom.

Dead-Animal-Free Whole Protein: some legumes + some grain. AKA rice and lentils, or rice and beans. (Maybe some fried onion for flavor; onion’s cheap and stays good a descent while. Fried onion makes everything taste better and keeps forever in the freezer, so frying up a bunch and keeping portions is not a half-bad idea.) (If going for the beans option - lentils are cheaper around here but fuck if I know what it’s like in your area - dump some tomato sauce and oil in; canola or soy are best health-wise, and far cheaper than olive; avoid corn.) Oh, what does instant couscous go for in your area? It keeps for fucking ever, it’s usually cheap, and it takes well to any and all added taste.

If you get to choose, black lentils taste the best and need the least soak-time (0-20min), green lentils are best for cooked stuff and red lentils are best in soups. (Red lentils + potatoes + root vegetables of choice + spices; cut into small pieces, cook, run through the blender if you wanna [stick blender’s awesome], freeze in portions.)

When possible, get instant soup mix. Get the good instant soup mix. (The kind that’s not made primarily of sugar, yeast or both. The rest is optional.) Dump 1/2tsp (or more, but start on the low end) into couscous, or chicken, or sprinkle over potatoes being stuck in the oven. Whatever. It’ll make most cooked-food-type things taste better. And again, lasts forever on the shelf.

If  you can have eggs (goodness knows they’re sometimes expensive), dump some tomato sauce in a pan (tomato sauce lasts forever on the shelf), add some oil, onion/beans to cook in it, hot peppers if you wanna, then when it’s nearly ready crack an egg or two in. Hard-boiled eggs last a remarkably while in the fridge, so when eggs reach near the end of their usable lives, just hard-boil and stick in the fridge. (Have eggs as often as you can, particularly as you have brain-shit going on. You need all the eggs, salt, and 60%-or-more chocolate you can get. Brains are made of cholesterol and salt, so folks with neuro or other brain shit need more of both. Potassium is also aces. You know what has the most potassium? Tomato paste.) Grated cheese keeps in the freezer for ever. Grated cheese will make a lot of things taste nicer. Preserved lemon juice keeps forever in the fridge. Grated cheese + oil + lemon = instant and awesome pasta sauce that’ll liven up the weeks-old dry pasta in the fridge. Slices bread also keeps well in the freezer. Try to have half a loaf or a loaf. Dry bread gets cut in cubes, mixed with oil and the aforementioned instant soup, stuck in oven at lowest until properly dry, then kept in an airtight jar to add to soups. (Over-ripe tomatoes come cheaper. They get turned into soup or sauce, then frozen in portions.)

this is a very good post but why are we glossing over the fact that the alternative to ramen is bees

i have it on pretty good authority that bees are not an affordable eating alternative to ramen.

Seriously, bees are expensive

Trufax. 

And speaking as someone who is also living off oatmeal, beans, and brown rice, if you need recipes, I have them! 

Today I made 16 bean soup with chicken sausage and it was crazy good and I got 8 servings out of the one batch (froze half). I usually get the cheapest beans I can find, and GOYA bags of beans are usually $1-2. I soaked them overnight,rinsed them, and threw them in a gallon lidded saucepan with 2 boxes of chicken stock (also on sale for $2), two bay leaves, sauteed green pepper, onion, and celery, some garlic from a jar, about two tablespoons of dried herbs de provence,and the “fancy” bit was adding $6 bourbon and apple chicken sausages. You can actually sub veg stock for chicken and skip the sausage and make it vegan and it would still taste great.

Oh and I’ve been doing steel-cut oats. I don’t buy the name brand ones, I just pick whatever store brand/generic I can get for less than $4. They take about ½ an hour to make, but they’re super tasty and I make 2 cups of dried oats at a time with dried cranberries and that’s breakfast for 4 days at least. 

I’ve also been making black bean soup, red beans and rice, and curried potatoes and chick peas. I got 100 quart and pint take-away containers from Amazon for $20 and they all stack neatly and are perf for one serving of whatever.

Additionally, depending on where you live, whole rotisserie chickens are something like $4-$7 and are easily 4 - 6 servings of protein and on TOP of that, if you stick the carcass in a ziplock bag and then the freezer you have excellent soup makings. Using bones in soup literally squeezes all viable vitamins and minerals out of the suckers. Soup made from lots of bones is great to keep around if you get sick, it’ll feed and sooth you relatively easily and as you get better you can add noodles. ON TOP OF THAT, a quarter to a half cup of soup broth added to a lot of dishes also adds those nutrients PLUS flavor.

Here’s my “How to eat for a week on $30″ post.

don’t forget Good and Cheap: Eat Well on $4 A Day

You know what, I haven’t been kissed by a boy today and that should be a fucking crime, god damnet.

I am…so tired, ridiculously tired, of being ridiculed and questioned and put down for my asexuality, especially by people who claim to be doing it out of love. I’m so fucking tired of it. You can accept me being transgender and being attracted to men, but somehow you can’t accept that I don’t wanna fuck anyone?

“Well then there’s something wrong with you hormonally, normal people aren’t like that.” Yeah, there is. But it’s not causing my asexuality.

“Sex can be beautiful once you find the right person” I’m sure it can be. I just don’t happen to be interested in it. Stop trying to force people into things they aren’t comfortable with based on your own personal experiences with relationships!! It’s not healthy for them!! It’s not appropriate!!

“Then they’re going to cheat on you”. Then that sounds like a super fucking personal problem, if they can’t be faithful to someone without having sex with them knowing that person is asexual, then they shouldn’t be with that person.

“You can’t have a real relationship if you don’t love someone enough to do that” This one caused me to traumatize myself trying to prove I loved someone with every part of me, so way to fucking go.

“We need to focus on that, then” (A fucking therapist said that one to me, and refocused all her efforts and time on trying to fix my asexuality instead of devoting that time to working with my fucking C-PTSD and DID). No comment.

“There’s drugs to fix that!” There’s drugs to fix a lot of things, but giving me a higher sex drive still won’t change my orientation.

“How can you still have a sex drive, then?” Human beings have those most of the time. It doesn’t mean I want to do anything about it with another person.

“No, you’re not. You loved me. We were in a relationship!” Yeah. We were. I did love you. That doesn’t make me not asexual, jagoff.

“But you’ve had sex!” Yes, I have. What’s your point? That you can no longer say, “you’ll change your mind once you try it” or “you’ll change your mind once you’re an adult”? Yeah, it didn’t change my mind. Neither did turning 18, which was years ago.

Stop putting down your children, friends, and family down for being asexual, whether it’s intentional or “out of love” or not.

Stop telling them they won’t find love if they don’t have sex with someone.

Stop telling them they can fix themselves with medication.

Is it healthy to not work through traumatic experiences and hide from them? No, but most asexual people are not doing that.

In a society where kindness is rationed and only carefully given out to those around us, why be anything but kind?

There is evil in the world, but it doesn’t mean you have to fall into the capitalistic trap that teaches us from a young age that if you’re not able-bodied, mentally healthy and contributing to the work force, you are a useless drain on society and its resources and undeserving of the kindness that’s shown to those who are able to work and whatnot.

Just because our society depends on tearing each other down, competing for even the smallest of things and putting ourselves in debt just to get a degree that might get us a job and way to repay our debts doesn’t mean that you have to let it turn you bitter and callous towards humans as a whole. Focus your anger and lack of compassion on the pigs making money off of the desperation of impoverished workers, not at yourself.

Self care is overthrowing and/or reforming the system forcing impoverished people to remain impoverished, and disabled people to stay eternally broke, constantly ill, and struggling to survive. Extra self care is redistributing that wealth back to the people, especially those who are having to crowdfund their own medical expenses just to not literally die, and the homeless individuals trying to get back on their feet again.

Extra extra self care is acknowledging that you want to only be kind but that sometimes kindness can’t win everything. It is acknowledging when, and how, to distribute that kindness to the people who won’t take it for granted.

Extra extra extra self care is acknowledging that being this way is a never ending cycle of learning, growth and admitting you make mistakes and don’t know everything.

Extra extra extra extra self care is not just acknowledging that kindness and positivity doesn’t fix or work for everything, but putting that knowledge into how you interact in your daily life. Someone thinks you’re less than human? They don’t deserve your kindness. Someone thinks you don’t deserve the rights they do? They don’t deserve your time. Someone thinks they can demand emotional labor from you because they don’t want to do the work themselves? Yep, you guessed it, they don’t deserve your energy. Throw them away and walk away.

Please help us secure a place to stay. Our housing is full and I have to find a way to keep them from taking my son. If anybody can help out I’d appreciate it so much.Kahlil doesn’t have any more diapers and we have a couple of wipes I’ve been buying him the chocolate ensure drinks but I don’t think that’s going to be enough please help.

https://paypal.me/JWhitman407?locale.x=en_US

I’m begging anybody who can to please just reblog this so we can secure a space to sleep this holiday idc if we’re in another hotel for a week so long as we’re warm.

If u blast music with ur windows open past 8:00 PM on week nights I am obligated to break ur fucking speakers because that is legally Officially Sleep Time™️ for everyone stuck in the trap of corporate capitalism unless they’re still working at that time and They Need To Sleep

I’m looking at you, people who chose to do this outside of a hospital at 11:30 PM last night. I hope you step on a lego, some of us are Very Sick.