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I’ve not ever been in an open relationship so I don’t have much experience there; I only know that being open and honest with your partner in that situation is the ONLY way for it to work. 

I used to feel like I didn’t have enough experience with women but then I realized it doesn’t really matter. I’m not going to be on my deathbed wishing I had gotten more chicks. You might not feel this way so I encourage you to go to  Dan Savage’s podcast to get all the ins and outs (pun intended) of having an open relationship. 

I really love Policia and also Robyn. I listen to KCRW a lot, and they play a lot of electronic stuff that I like, but never remember to write down.

I absolutely have. I spent most of my childhood being really confused about being a girl. In college and grad school I did a lot of work (I was an art major) about gender performance. It’s something I still think about. Honestly, I “came to terms” about being a woman in my mid 20′s. I think if it’s something you are wrestling with in your own mind, look for some books or movies (”Venusboyz” comes to mind) and maybe also seek out a trans men’s support group? You might be able to gain a more positive perspective and discover more about yourself and how you feel about your identity. 

Also, if you are trans or not, BOTH are awesome. It’s a gift, not a negative thing. Yes, it will be hard to deal with the people outside of yourself BUT if you can accept the fact that being L,G, B, or T is a fun and amazing thing, more people will be on board with you.

Good luck my friend!

I say, talk it out with your most trusted and kind friends or family members. I wasn’t sure if I was gay or bisexual for a little while, and once I began to open up about how I felt, I started to understand myself more. I also had some great experiences with therapists who helped me to see myself clearer. 

Given the immaturity and absentminded bigotry that seems to be rampant at your school and on social media, I woul say wait until you are more independent and have a more curated group of friends. College and post high school jobs are great places to really spread your wings and soar. You will find that there will be many  more people like you.

Very specific washing cycle, plus hairspray, plus pomade.

Please do call me Rhea, as that is my name ;)

If these women won’t respect your personal space or boundaries, I think it’s time to hang out with some new ladies that like you for who you are, not what you are.

I feel like you should try to have an open and honest talk with your friend. Or another avenue that could be really helpful is going to see a therapist. I have been seeing therapists off and on for about ten years now, and I have found that even when their advice might not be spot on, getting a chance to talk something out always helps.

Drunk.

I did get back in a relationship about 3 years after it had ended. It was ok for awhile, but we ended up breaking up (obviously). I would say that the old cliche really holds true: If you love something, set it free. I really believe that in letting go of the things you really want, you will give yourself the space to move to the next thing, whether it’s what you actually set free or something new.

I guess I would say wear a sportsbra or two on practice days?

I try.

The meaning of life is to enjoy it.

First off, CONGRATS! We are so glad you’re here. Second, I would say the internet is a good spot! Even this old lady over here used the internet to meet people when the internet was all angelfires and geocities. I found pen pals in LiveJournals and music blogs. I got to find gals that had shared interests with me and felt like I had a community. Heck, I even found some gals that lived close to me and met them at shows!

I love being in control, being in the moment, and being honest. I also love to make people laugh.

Well, sadly I just lost my bathing suit so I am in the market for a new one. I mostly wear a bikini top and bottoms, and then a pair of purple men’s swim trunks that I really like. I personally am uncomfortable showing off my thighs, much less so than my torso. It is, however, something I had to work up to. I got my suit from Old Navy and my trunks from Urban Outfitters (on sale of course). 

This is kind of like the “If a tree falls in the forest” type question. My current mantra a la sexual orientation is this: I prefer identity to labels. 

Labels are something you put on someone else. Identities are self ascribed. i think if a girl is interested in being with you you should identify as this: LUCKY!

I think energy and eye contact are the two main things I look for when trying to decipher whether a gal is a lesbian or not. How is she interacting with the men in the room? The women? All that stuff. 

“We Didn’t Start The Fire” by Billy Joel.

Both, depends on the day!