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Rhea

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Sometimes (lots of times) (all the time), I have the urge to do a thing but i dont know what. Or, I feel weird, but can't figure out why or what to do to fix it. ADHD, executive dysfunction, how I feel, and the phase of the moon can all make it really hard for me to think of a solution to the issue -- or even know what the issue IS. And while meds and regular sleep certainly help, for better or for worse my brain just isn't wired for this.

So, I decided to outsource my brain.

I couldn't find an app that did what I wanted or was customizable enough for me to fake it. Therefore I built an analog external brain to do my thinking for me.

First, I bought a small, 100-or-so page notebook. It was about eight bucks at my Local Corporate Book Retailer.

Then, I logicked out all the possibilities I might have trouble braining, and started adding each step to the book -- kind of like a choose-your-own-adventure novel.

Here's an example path, which starts with me knowing what I want, and the analog brain telling me how to get there. I twisted my ankle a couple weeks ago and keep forgetting to do things to make it better, so here's my solution:

[image: Do you know what you want? Yes -> 1, No -> 32. Yes is circled]

Yes, analog brain, I know what I want! Let me flip to page 1.

[Image of Page 1: What do you want to do? Exercise -> 2 is circled. Other options include Read -> 13, Watch something -> 20, Eat ->31, Be creative -> 25, Have an adventure ->26, Clean something ->28, Learn something->29.]

Still know what I want, so I flip to page 2.

[Image page 2: What kind of exercise do you want to do? PT -> 5 is circled. Other options include Weights -> 3, Cardio -> 4, Yoga -> 9, Something quick -> 10, Hiking -> 11, Adventure -> 12]

Skipping some pages now! Since this is meant to bounce me around, it doesn't make sense to try and read it in order. (On the plus side, that makes it super easy to add new options to any part of the tree).

[Image page 5: What kind of PT? Ankle ->6 is circled. Other options include Knee->6a, Neck->7, Shoulders->8.]

(When I first numbered the pages, 6 and 6a werw stuck together, whoooops)

[Image page 6: A list of ankle PT exercises]

Eyyyyy my external brain showed me how to do my flippin' PT so my ankle stops hurting! Yay!

But what about when I don't know wtf is wrong or wtf I want? There's an app analog brain for that! (Yes I'm aware its called a decision tree or process flow or what have you. Let me have this).

[Image: Do you know what you want? No->32 is circled]

No, spacebook, idfk what's wrong, I can't brain today.

[Image page 32: How are you feeling? In pain ->33 is circled. Other options include Overstimulated->37, Understimulated, Panicky->43.]

(As you can see, I have plans to add a page for overstimulated but have not done it yet.)

Oh yeah my ankle kinda hurts, maybe I can do something about that...

[Image of page 33: What kind of pain? Knee/ankle/neck/etc ->35 is circled. Other options include Menstrual nonsense->34, Head->38.]

[Image of page 35: Joint/old injury pain: Take advil, Ice or heat, Massage, Foam roll, Warm bath, PT exercises. Under the last option are subsets Ankle->6 (circled), Neck->6a, Knees->7.]

...Aaaand now I'm back around to my list of ankle PT exercises! And I didnt have to think at all!

Anyway -- all it takes to make something like this for yourself is a notebook and some time to think the logic through. You can start by making lists (not in the notebook) of questions you have trouble braining in the moment, and what some solutions are. Then number your pages, and get started!

HOW TO: Clean [A Depression Mess] WITHOUT Becoming Overwhelmed

😩 Depression already has you feeling all kinds of ways, and the lack of motivation to clean paired with a very messy space that needs to be cleaned… is an overwhelming combo. It becomes a mixture of sadness, disappointment, and embarrassment, but for a moment I want you to think about why and where that’s coming from.

🌧 The mess itself is neutral. Everything has a place, it just needs to get there. It’s the meaning that we give it that puts us in an ugly headspace. It’s the embarrassment and shame that we feel surrounding it. Ultimately, it’s a physical sign that we’re experiencing a tough time and that can be hard to confront. Along with that, we give it other meanings like - we don’t have our life together, we’re weak, we’re incapable, we’re messy, or we’re failing.

🌈 Honestly, some of that may be true at certain points of our lives but it doesn’t define who we are. None of that has to continue being our reality. Everything is an experience and experiences can change. Rather than focusing on the negative aspects of the situation, you can focus on supporting yourself. You can shift to being understanding, compassionate, and kind because that’s what you actually need right now.

🛑 When your brain tries to convince you that you are failing or a slob, stop it. These moments do not define you, it’s what you are currently going through, but you can actively choose to change it.

🦋 It doesn’t matter how things have been, what matters is how things are going right now. Right now, you value having a clean space and are willing to put in the work to make that happen. Right now, you are choosing to honor, love, and respect yourself by following your desires to clean up your mess. You are a divine, infinite being experiencing this life in your human form. You are learning every single day. Give yourself the space to grow and to choose differently so that you can expand into a reality that aligns with what you know is best for you.

🎥 Learn the exact steps I’ve taken to clean a depression mess 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝𝙤𝙪𝙩 becoming overwhelmed, by clicking on this link (https://youtu.be/r6LZAriYFqQ) to head over to YouTube!

To my darling anxiety, depression, & ADHD -havers, here is a tip that has helped me in the past!

Step one: Get a light & cheesy book on an audio book sight. These usually go for like $5-10 or you can get one on YouTube for free or you can PM me and I’ll just send you one because I have an audible subscription and I can share books for free.

Step two: Download a really stupid game on your phone. I like ‘Peggle Nights’ or candy crush. Really whatever does it for you works. Just no thinking involved!

Step three: Put your phone in airplane mode so you won’t get ads.

Step four, optional: I like to put the audiobook on double or triple speed because it cancels out all other brain function if you have to concentrate that closely on the audio. This works for me because it doesn’t give the negative thoughts room to butt in.

Step five: Put in your headphones, find a cozy spot, and zone the fuck out. The audiobook keeps your mind busy & the game keeps you from getting bored. After a little while with this, you’ll definitely feel calmer and less stressed out.

This works for me and I’ve used it for years whenever I felt overwhelmed, stressed, or a full blown anxiety attack coming on. Get that serotonin, my loves.

A (not comprehensive) List of Little Self Care Things I Do When Everything Feels Like Too Much:

Bathing

  • Wash just your body, or just your hair. You may not be completely clean, but you ARE cleaner
  • Still feels like too much? No problem!
  • Take off any jewelry from your hands/wrists and wash your hands up to your elbows, just taking your time
  • Then wash your arm pits and groin, those are the stinkiest parts of the body
  • If you're feeling up to it, wash your face too
  • Once you're done washing, take your favorite body lotion and massage it in anywhere you washed

Shaving

  • Shaving takes time and patience (especially if you prefer to be mostly hairless), but you don't have to go through the whole process every time
  • Wanna wear that cute tank top/crop top but don't feel comfortable with how hairy your pits are today?
  • JUST shave your arm pits then
  • Wanna wear shorts/capries/a skirt, but feel your legs are too fuzzy?
  • Where on your legs do the cuffs/hem sit? JUST shave from there down
  • Facial hair looking kinda scruffy? Got an electric shaver? It won't give you as close a shave as a razor, but it'll help neaten you up a bit
  • After any shaving, get back in there with your lotion and work it in well

Laundry

  • Don't have the energy to drag that big basket you've been avoiding down to the washing machine? Out of clothes but need something to wear tomorrow?
  • Wash ONLY what you'll need for the next 1 or 2 days. A smaller load means less to put away after
  • Need a bra/binder/mask/etc for tomorrow? Wash ONE, then hang it to dry with a fan blowing on it.
  • The air movement will help it dry faster, and while it may not be 100% dry by morning, it should be dry enough to wear comfortably
  • This can be done for underwear and socks as well

Dental

  • Mouth feeling like sandpaper, but you still can't find it in you to go through the whole tooth care routine?
  • JUST brush your teeth before bed. You can floss in the morning
  • No energy to get in there and really scrub like your dentist told you to? Even just a quick scrub is better than nothing
  • You know those little Gum brand toothpick things? With runber bristles on them? They can't replace proper flossing, but the CAN at least get the worst of the gunk from between your teeth

Food

  • Hungry but can't bring yourself to put together a whole meal? That's okay!
  • Get all the fixings for a sandwich (bread, spreads, cheese, meat, etc), put them on a plate and eat that. You're still eating a sandwich, it's just not an assembled sandwich
  • Want a smoothy, but don't want to fuss with the blender? Put it all together as a yogurt bowl instead
  • Want a salad? Grab a couple lettuce leaves, a stick of celery, half a tomato, or whatever else you'd have in there, and toss it on a plate. Grab some dressing (or not) and you've got a personal size veggie platter
  • Cut an orange in half and eat the pulp out with a spoon
  • Cut an apple in half, and eat JUST one half. You can save the other half for later, or eat it right after the first if you feel up to it
  • Cutting a banana in half and squeezing out the fruit means you don't have to worry about those gross stringy bits
Simple Smoothie Recipe:
  • 1 banana
  • 1 egg
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • 1 tsp honey/sugar
  • Milk (dairy, soy, almond, whichever)
  • Berries, yogurt, chocolate chips, jam (optional)
Directions
  • Put all ingredients except milk in a blender (or 4 cup measure if using a hand mixer)
  • Pour in milk until ingredients are ALMOST covered. There should be about 1 inch/2.5 cm of solid ingredients visible
  • Blender/mix for 30-60 seconds, or until desired consistency. Pour into your favorite glass, or drink straight from the container
Simple baked potato:
  • Clean a medium to large potato and use a fork to stab holes down the sides and at each end. Depending on the size, you should have stab your potato somewhere around 9-12 times.
  • Place the potato in the microwave just off of center, one end facing the center of the spinning plate
  • Microwave for 15 minutes, flipping the potato end for end after every 5 minutes
  • Put the potato on a plate with some sour cream or ranch dressing, and dip it like a big ol' french fry

House Cleaning

  • Feel like there's too many dishes? Pick ONE place setting (bowl, plate, knife, fork, spoon, cup), and ONE pot/pan, and clean those. Do the same at the end of each meal, and while it might take a while, you'll eventually get things down to a manageable level
  • Dust bunnies breeding in the corners? Pick ONE room or hallway every couple days and just clean there. ONE clean room is better than NO clean rooms
  • Your room is so messy you don't know where to start? Every time you enter your room, put ONE thing back where it belongs. Every time you leave your room, take one thing that doesn't belong out with you and put it where it belongs.
  • Sink looking kind of gross? Give it a quick wipe down the next time you wash your hands
  • Toilet needs a clean? Pick a part (lid, seat, back or bowl) and just clean that bit. Even if you're just wiping some of the dust off the back.
  • Scum ring building up in the shower/bathtub? Give it a quick scrub next time you bathe. Maybe you don't get the whole thing, but you DID make a start.

Fitness

  • Not energy for a full walk? If you can, walk around your house/apartment building. You might not have gone far, but you were UP and you were OUTSIDE.
  • Can't get out for whatever reason? Are there stairs in your house? In your apartment building? If you can, walk up and down those a few times.
  • Not really able to do stairs? Do some simple stretches instead.
  1. Reach down and try to touch your toes, holding for 20 seconds. Reach up over your head as high as you can, holding for 20 seconds. Repeat 5 times
  2. Sitting in a chair, reach your right hand across your body and over your left shoulder and try to grab the back of the chair without lifting your butt. Hold for 20 seconds. Do the same with your left arm, holding for 20 seconds. Repeat 5 times
  3. Standing, or sitting on a chair, gently pull your head towards your shoulder (right hand, right shoulder; left hand, left shoulder), reaching the other hand down towards the ground. Hold for 20 seconds, then gently push your head upright again (lifting your head with your neck muscles can cause them to cease after a stretch). Repeat 5 times

Miscellaneous

  • Need to trim your nails, but don't feel like sitting through both hands? Pick one finger on each hand, and just trim that nail. Do another nail on each hand tomorrow, and another the day after that. You don't have to do them all at once
  • Having trouble remembering to drink enough water? Find a water bottle/mug/glass that you like and try to keep it near you as much as possible. I find actually having a bottle with me helps me remember to keep sipping.
  • Still having trouble with your water intake? Fruit and veggies (like apples, oranges, tomatoes, bell peppers and avocados to name a few) have high water content and can help keep you hydrated
  • Even if you can't get to sleep, lieing in bed with your eyes closed is more restful than trying to wear yourself out by reading or something
  • Alternatively, doing some mild stretches, or a few sit ups/push ups/ jumping jacks can help wear you out without engaging your brain too much
  • You are aloud to say "no". You don't even need to give a reason. If everything feels like too much, taking on more responsibility will only make it worse, which will only make your output poorer as a result.

A reminder that this is by no means a complete list, just some things I've found helpful in my journey through adhd, depression, and anxiety. Not all tasks need to be done all at once. Maybe you can't do much, but that doesn't invalidate the some you did. Just because you take longer to do a task doesn't mean your bad at it, or that it isn't worth doing. You'll get there when you get there.

Please feel free to add to this post, I'd love to see what self care tricks other people are using!

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esoanem

This is a map of the range of all giraffe species. By my count that puts them in just 16 countries out of the 54 in Africa (of which 5 are island countries with no territory on the continental mainland). That's 30%, quite a long way shy of all, and as you can see many of those countries that do have giraffes only have a tiny portion of their territory within giraffes' habitats

Wow, I knew they weren't in "every African country", but I didn't realize just how restricted their range was

Good teachers don't mind saying "I don't know" or that they need to look it up and will get back to you.

Not only that but giraffes in different areas have different patterns and it's so cool

This is really good information!! thank you!!

Loving your blog, it's really helping me with my writing. I was wondering if you had any resources on "posh" english language? I am struggling to find the right words for a present time semi-posh english character. I keep using the "wrong" words - I know they are too "common" but can't think of proper alternatives that will make her sound more posh. I keep googling, but not with much success. If you've got any tips or resources that I could read in preparation, I would really appreciate it!

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I don’t really write much on specific dialects or linguistics, but I have several posts that might have something along the lines of what you’re looking for. I’m sorry if you don’t find anything, but I don’t really specialize in that sort of thing.

These might have resources for specific dialects somewhere in them and that might lead you to posh english accents, regional english accents, common vocabulary, etc.

These have miscellaneous sections that might be worth looking into.

These are generally about characters and I’m sure there’s something in there about character voices and dialects.

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narcho

you could bring this post back to the late 90s and it would be exactly as funny as it is now. no elements of it exist now that did not then

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dorywhynot

A little preview for a long time coming reveal. Usually I’m not a teaser-image person but….this painting has been gently haunting me in various stages of completeness for a long, long time, and it’s still yet to click that it’s finally finished, and it’s been so long that I almost feel weird about sharing the whole thing (don’t worry, I will). I started it all the way back in December, right before moving, at the start of another bout of art block and a really low mental point. But I had an idea for a painting and started it, with no particular reason or motivation other than a personal need. In between work sessions it’s spent a lot of time in a drawer over the last seven months, and I was pretty sure many times that it was going to stay there. Every artwork feels personal, of course, but this one especially so, and in a weird way. Not so much for the actual artwork content; I’ve been on-off working on it for so long and at such an odd time in my life that I feel like a significantly different person now than I was when I started it. It feels really good to finish an artwork, not for an external purpose or deadline, just for the simple sake of caring about it, a lot. I’m really excited to share something new. If you’ve made it this far…you’ll be the first to know that this is also a soft heads-up that I’m going to be doing a very small shop update on Saturday, July 3rd, prints of this piece to be included! And, something a little different this time, in addition to the usual open edition prints, I’ll be offering a special hand-embellished Limited Edition version as well. More details on those to come over the next few days :) -

Sometimes the place you are offered is so small that, even if you want to stay, you can’t fit in.