(screams into the void)

(the void pours two cups of coffee, sits down to listen)

(sobs quietly) thank you void, it has been a stressful month

hello darkness my old friend

For all of my LGBTQIAP+ siblings out there, right now.. Please don’t give up. We will be heard. I love you all, please stay safe. Please.

A little thing I made for everybody today. We’re going to get through this, I promise. We are in this together and we will fight together, even if that means taking it day by day. I love you all, take care!

I’ve seen a lot of videos going around of urban-dwelling critters coming to humans for help with various problems, ranging from boxes stuck on their heads to young trapped down a storm drain, and it’s gotten me to thinking:

On the one hand, it’s kind of fascinating that they know to do that.

On the other hand, setting any questions of how this sort of behaviour must have arisen aside for the nonce, does it ever strike you how weird it is that we’ve got a whole collection of prey species whose basic problem-solving script ends with the step “if all else fails, go bother one of the local apex predators and maybe they’ll fix the problem for no reason”?

The Jedi have returned.

Definitely not giving up on Finn being a Jedi.  Daisy and John are literally the same age it feels like they could be sort of “force” twins imo.

I feel like almost all of the guys who’ve had an unreciprocated thing for me developed it because I listened to them and was emotionally supportive, etc., but they themselves never thought to do the same for me. Which ended up with this weird situation where I knew them super well but they literally had zero idea about who I was as a person other than “listens really well and is emotionally supportive.”

Like, they didn’t know the first thing about what was important to me, my beliefs, my family, my work, how I spent my time when I wasn’t with them. Because not a single one of them wanted  to know. They would just… never ask, or they’d ask politely and when I started to answer they’d show extreme disinterest and change the subject back to themselves.

But they still thought they loved me, because to them that’s all love is - being emotionally supported by someone. It did not even occur to them that the support could ever go both ways, and they were always bewildered about why I never loved them “back” - even though all they gave me to love was a person so self-obsessed that he couldn’t see me at all.

Emotional labour is so, so important to be aware of in relationships. It has to have some kind of balance, or the person performing it will just burn out. And a relationship consisting only of one person demanding and demanding and never giving back is not love. Love is not a demand. It can accept, and it can ask, but love listens, love cares about how its requests affect the beloved. Love wants to give back.

I don’t need a book to explain my attraction to a man with boundless genius and a soft heart. Plus he’s an alien and that’s hot.

That’s right, Spock is so attractive, he is studied for his sex appeal.

stop making me question my sexuality ur not even real

is he wearing Kirk’s shirt

I dare you to reblog with your bra size.

Sexism is over

It was…for one whole episode.

i KNOW, they never brought this back. i was so disappointed 

however this was a good look

You forgot Other Skant Guy!

And they reused this footage, so sexism was over for, like, THREE episodes. 

As someone who’s spent a huge chunk of my adult life catching up on cultural references I wasn’t allowed to see as a kid...this response was incredibly validating and I’m legit crying.  <3

I have been, and always shall be, your friend.

When I tell someone I’m sending ‘good vibes’ I always wonder if we are both immediately thinking this:

well NOW I am.

Anxiety: if you are not doing The Most™ then you are a giant fucking failure! go! hurry!

Depression: life is pointless, just lie in bed and stare at a wall all day, we good

What do you sense Deanna?

Now I totally wish we’d gotten a Deanna Troi Die Hard on the Enterprise episode!!!

This scene got me right in the gut when I first saw it. It was revealed earlier in the episode that Garak suffers from extreme claustrophobia, experiencing a severe attack just a few scenes before this one. I was already expecting Martok and Worf to dismiss Garak’s mental illness, especially because the Klingon Empire prides its people on physical strength. I was waiting for them to call him a coward, not “getting over it” like I’ve heard so many times in my own life about mental illness. But as seen above that’s not what happened, the exact opposite does. Its moments like this that make me love Star Trek, even for all its flaws. Sometimes I get to see past my conditioned reaction of the worst, and get to see the best in people instead.

TDLR; Star Trek may be about aliens in the future, but it connects to me on a human level - more than most modern shows do today. 

Same.  I call the crack tag!  =D

PSA

You feel like shit is a website set up to help you get out of that funk/improve things just enough to not feel horrible and miserable all the time.  It’s amazing.

Whether you struggle with mental health problems all the time or whether this is a new/temporary state for you, this guide is an easy and judgement-free self-care tool.

PLEASE TRY IT OUT!  Really!  You just click through the questions to answer and follow simple instructions that in the end, ideally, will help you to feel more comfortable and stable on a daily basis. 

Good luck!  Have fun!

Wow this self-care took is incredible.

I’m feeling ok right now and am about to settle into bed (but this was scheduled hence the early morning post) but I flipped through it for awhile just to see what it is like and holy crap it’s like a choose-your-own-adventure of self-care activities that not only aims to engage you in positive feel good behaviors but also tries to match its suggestions to your level of energy/ability/can even.

I think I am going to use this definitely when I am having a bad time but maybe also try to incorporate it into my life on at least a weekly if not a daily or semi-daily basis.

This is super super awesome!

Adding this to my resource list.

I LOVE this. Love this.

Can confirm this is the best thing.  I’ve lost track of the number of times it’s helped me out of a spiral of shit.  Like literally, I’ll go ‘I feel like shit...wait....there is a thing for You Feel Like Shit’.

It helps.

LGBT is pronounced legbutt

I only talk to people now that pronounce it legbutt

im addition, LGBT+ is pronounced legbutt pro

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