PSA: Please teach your partner how to choke properly if you’re into that kind of thing.

The point of choking is not to crush the oesophagus, but rather to put light pressure on the carotid arteries to stop oxygen circulation to the brain. So tops, please create a V shape with your hands, which allows the fleshy part of the palm to rest against the oesophagus without causing any obstruction to the windpipe, and press down on the arteries. It’s not about stopping your bottom from breathing completely, but making them lightheaded.

This is very, very important!

Also, please don’t attempt any choking whilst under the influence because your better judgement may be impaired and you can cause some serious damage.

Choking is serious business, if you’re going to engage in it, please be sure to practise it properly and in a safe manner!

Important read.

Reposted for a Follower who needs info on how to do this safely and sanely.

I was recently explaining this to a follower as well.

Tips for faceslapping women

- Find her tolerance limit: First hit her softly and then gradually increase the force of each slap if you see she can take it. - Always make her close her mouth before the slap to avoid her teeth cutting inside her mouth during the slap. - Always hit her in the jaw. Never close to the ear (audition loss hazard), nose (bleeding nose harzard) or eyes. Any hit above the cheekbone (around the eye) will give her a black eye. - If you wanna slap her hard in one cheek, then is useful to support her other cheek with your other hand. This is done to avoid a strong “whiplash effect” on her head. -Avoid slapping her as a punishment/discipline. She has a fatty butt and some sensitive thighs that can be used for that purpose. Those are much safer to hit than her face. Use them. - Never slap her with anger.

A good slap puts a naughty girl immediately in her place. It makes her shut up immediately so it’s really effective against a back-talking girl. Normally it brings instant tears of submission. But it can be a severe tool, so it must be used with care.

Remember: Women are delicate beings and they are easy to break. Better play with your toys without breaking them… so you can keep on playing!

Cheers

;-)

Javier

Solid instruction.

Men's Mental Health matters

Be you but remember 👆

this post hasn't left my mind since i've first saw it

people jest but this is literally how i worked out i was gaslit for like 15 years of my life

People who “want trauma” are recognizing, on some level, that they were traumatized but in a way that’s not “socially recognized” as trauma. What they really want is for people to see that they’ve been traumatized and be on their side

Hold up

I think it’s also important to talk about mental illness, and how the pain and trauma of being mentally ill as a kid is often diminished because of the lack of outside actors. If you spent your childhood being suicidally depressed because your wee little kiddo brain decided to be a chemical shitshow, it doesn’t matter how much mom and dad loved you, that kinda thing fucks you up. And having people only look at your external surroundings and argue that “nothing bad happened” ignores all the pain you went through internally. So wishing you could have something external you could point to in order to justify that pain and enduring stress -- just so people could understand -- makes sense. 

Posts that diagnose me, drag me, and rewire the synapses in my brain.

I’ve always felt that the reason kids who have been through trauma or most mental illnesses are attracted to darker themed media/books/etc..  It’s often the only place there is acknowledgment that things are not all right.  even if it’s just fictional, it’s validation.

this week on tumblr slaps me in the face with things i didn’t know i needed to talk to my therapist about

(Cis/trans)women aren’t the only ones that can get breast cancer, either.

Please boost this version 👆

“Hold this, I’ll bring him back “

Good fucking boy!

#just #the indignation #wtf you cant just walk away from them #hang on a sec ill go grab that idiot #okay here we go fuckin can you believe this shit ( @rockpapertheodore)

I like how the collie has no issues escaping its leash like it’s clear the only think keeping it in check is it iron will and strong moral compass.

I’m losing my mind over this

The NC part of CNC is almost always what's focused on in every CNC concept, literature, video etc. And yeah, it's cool and all. But the consent in CNC? It's the main event. The foundation. It's everything.

non-consent is often emphasised cause it's the alluring part, the risky part, it feels like it's the thing that makes CNC what it is. But it pales in comparison to the consent aspect.

Like, here you've got a sub who is so devoted to you, so longing and needy that they want to give you full, raw control. They trust you to look after them with their whole being; they want to give you everything. They feel so safe around you that they're willing to fully submit to the idea of giving you what you want when you want it. There's just something so great about the fact that a sub is consenting to—asking; begging to—be completely beneath you, to being nothing, defiled, cause they want you. They love you. They know that you will keep them safe above all else.

And don't forget the aftercare!! The soothing cuddles and warm baths. The "you did so well, baby, I'm so proud of you," The reassuring that your sub is important and safe, making sure they're okay, ugh. It's just all so wholesome.

Don't agree with me? then get out of here. Consent is important and the hottest thing; it trumps every kink, soft or hard.

So unbelievably important!! No matter what your kink or scene entails, one of the hottest parts should be that the other party/parties explicitly consented to this, that they ASKED FOR and WANT this, and this goes for anybody in any role. If you don't find consent wildly and unbelievably sexy, get the fuck off my blog <3

If you and your partner practice frequent, non-sexual consent, your relationship will be healthier and easier.

“Are you comfortable with me ranting about my day for a few minutes?”

“Oh, this is your poetry? Would it be okay if I read it?”

“Do you mind if I use your phone for a few minutes?”

“Wow, your meal looks awesome. Could I try some?”

It will save a lot of grief, especially in a developing relationship. Eventually, with consistent “yes’s” and “no’s” you can figure out more permanent boundaries and guidelines.

“I need to ask before ranting about my day or taking their food, but my partner is okay with me using their phone whenever. However, my partner does not like me reading their poetry unless they offer first.”

And this goes for friendships too! Even just stuff like “do you mind if I leave this door open?” 

…I never fully realized it before but this is a big part of why my relationship with my husband is so conflict-free. Both because him doing this all the time made it easy to trust him, back when we were a new item, and because it helped ME break out of the toxic idea that you should never ask about a partner’s preferences because if you Really Loved Them you should be able to intuit what they want, all the time, about anything. 

my one son is autistic so I ask ‘hug or no hug?’ I always knock and wait to be acknowledged before opening my sons’ bedroom doors (not just because I respect their privacy but because they’re teenagers and I don’t want to walk in on any personal activities) I don’t go into their rooms without asking I don’t touch their phones without asking (I’ll pick one up to take to them if I find it in another room but I won’t go through it) yesterday, my younger son walked into my room, stopped, said sorry and walked out to the hall and knocked on my door ‘because if I have to knock on his door, he has to knock on mine’ because their trust is important and I want them to know I respect their privacy

Consent is not just for sex. Consent is not just for sex. Consent is not just for sex.

Ribbit

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they’re talking to each other omg (‘:

This is my favorite video in all of world history I would die for these cats

dont ever hesitate. reblog this.

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ALWAYS REBLOG WHEN YOU SEE SOMETHING LIKE THIS PLEASE; ITS SO MUCH MORE THAN IMPORTANT TO PEOPLE. IT MEANS EVERYTHING TO SOMEBODY AND EVEN THOUGH YOU MIGHT NOT SEE THIS IN THE SAME LIGHT, SOMEONE MIGHT. INFACT YOU REBLOGGING THIS COULD STOP SOMEONE TAKING THEIR LIFE TONIGHT.

Dog.exe has crashed

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Good problem solving skills

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clever smol

you wet idiot

Godspeed you! wet idiot

Welcome to Wet Beast Wednesday

This is really important. Everyone should really know what the difference is.

If you feel like your in a more abusive relationship rather than a type of BDSM relationship, seek help and get out. Find a support group.

I love you all!

Trigger Warning

It's very scary to me to see how many monsters are actually hiding under the shadows in the bright and beautiful community of kink. I want to remind everyone that it is so important to educate yourself and trust your instincts when in the kink community. Learn about your kinks and dynamics on your own before looking for partners or mentors. Learn basic red flags of not just kink related situations but normal relationships as well. Understand that there are people everywhere willing to use your innocents and lack of knowledge against you. Anyone can be gaslighted, groomed, or abused. Please I'm begging you for your own safety learn for yourself before trusting others. Trust your instincts if something doesn't seem right. Don't do things you aren't comfortable with. Communicate as much as you can with yourself, your wants, and your partner. Be smart and safe with yourself and the situations you are in.