Religion is a Mental Illness

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Tribeless. Problematic. Triggering. Faith is a cognitive sickness.
"First, I've said repeatedly that [religions] cannot be taken away from people, it is their favorite toy and it will remain so, as Freud said, as long as we're afraid of death.
Second, I hope I've made it clear that I'm perfectly happy for people to have these toys, and to play with them at home, and hug them to themselves and so on, and share them with other people who come around and play with the toys. So, that's absolutely fine.
They are not to make me play with these toys. I will not play with the toys. Don't bring the toys to my house. Don't say my children must play with these toys."
-- Christopher Hitchens

Your freedom of religion and my freedom from religion are one and the same.

By: Aaron Kimberly

Published: Dec 18, 2021

Between 1995-2006 I was a part of the butch lesbian community. During those years, despite my life-long and sometimes intense gender dysphoria, I hadn’t given any serious thought to medically transitioning. It wasn’t even on my radar as a possibility until after 2000. The idea of medically transitioning seemed fringe, far-fetched, and risky.
Most of the butches I knew also had gender dysphoria (GD) or rather, Gender Identity Disorder (GID), as it was called then. Many butches I knew in Winnipeg, Halifax, Toronto, and later Vancouver, were strong, stoic people. I admired many of them. I know that their lives weren’t always easy, but they carried themselves with dignity. They had butch “brotherhood” and femmes who adored them. Many were “stone” which meant that their GID made it difficult for them to relate to their female anatomy so didn’t allow themselves to be touched by anyone, or rarely. They were often harassed and abused for being masculine women, as I was. It was often stressful using female public washrooms, because our gender ambiguity made people so uncomfortable. There was a term “butch bladder” to reference the ways we’d avoid using bathrooms in public.
In the early-mid 2000s, more and more FTMs were appearing in the community, alongside the butches. Many lesbian spaces welcomed them, some didn’t. It seemed to me at the time that butches were presented with two options: we could choose to be butches, or we could choose to be FTM “trans guys”. Why people chose one or the other...that was very individual and personal. It really came down to which option solved a problem and made life easier. The problem could be homophobic parents, fatigue from being harassed, differing degrees of dysphoria and bodily discomfort, not understanding what GID is, poor social or occupational functioning, trauma, other mental health challenges like depression or the anxiety that seemed inevitable for us. Some transitioned but still identified as butch women. They chose medical interventions to look more masculine, not to identify as men. Some trans guys said they never had GID at all. I don’t know what their motivations for transitioning were. Some said “political reasons”. There were some who were big fans of Queer Theory icons like Judith Butler and Judith Halberstam. Those women adopted male personas - intentional “female masculinity” - as an expression of Queer Theory, not to be men/male. I chose to transition soon after a gay man was beaten to death in a nearby park.
If kids with gender dysphoria today are anything like who we were 20 years ago, I feel saddened by their trajectory. Others see benefits: Access to medical interventions has been made easier. They no longer have to do a “real-life test” (live their life as the opposite sex for 2 years without medical assistance). They don’t have to go through months or years of therapy and assessment. More is now known about the effects and risks of hormones. The surgeries have improved, are easier to access and now paid for by insurance. (I paid for my own mastectomy out of pocket, and was on the SRS surgery waitlist for 10 years.)
But, what have we done? Have we eliminated all of the conditions for why a butch girl would find their innate masculinity hard to live with? Have we made the lives of butch women better and safer? Have we eliminated homophobic families, communities, employers, clinicians and policies? Are we educating young people what gender dysphoria is, in evidence-based terms, supporting them to integrate that into a healthy identity and self-image? Do we tell masculine girls how attractive they are? Do they have an abundance of healthy role models? Are they fully embraced and integrated into their workforces, educational settings, faith communities… or, are butches still getting weird looks from strangers? Are they still getting yelled at in public bathrooms? Are young, obnoxious young men still yelling slurs out their car windows as they drive by a butch woman? Do gender non-conforming women still fear for their lives in some places? Can they get Brandon Teena out of their heads? Can they travel the world freely? Can they find clothing they like that fits their bodies well?
I’m not convinced we’ve made any real progress at all. I think we’ve just made it easier for people to jump ship, younger and faster, and gave it a different spin. We now call that “self-actualization”. We’ve facilitated a better illusion. We’ve convinced more and more people that the illusion is real. We continue to push for better surgeries. Penile and uterine transplants are on the horizon. Young people are flooding into clinics. They can’t keep up with the demand. Activists have pushed Queer Theory as an explanation for our difference, displacing evidence-based clinical definitions of GID/GD. It’s no longer talked about as a condition that requires treatment but a natural human variation that requires affirmation in whatever form we demand (often life-long medicalization). I’ve travelled that road to its end, and its hurt just as much as it’s helped.
The surgeries available to FTMs right now are awful. A double mastectomy and phalloplasty or metoidioplasty are gruesome procedures to go through. The US surgeon I went to for metoidioplasty boasts low complication rates, but the anecdotal evidence I’ve witnessed (myself and everyone I know who had the procedure there and elsewhere) is close to a 100% complication rate. One guy at the surgical recovery centre I stayed at started to hemorrhage and was laying on the floor unable to reach the call bell when another FTM patient found him and advocated for him to be rushed to hospital. Fistulas and strictures are the most common problem. I chose metoidioplasty because it’s thought to be the less risky of the two options. I immediately developed two large fistulas (meaning that my urethra burst open in two places) that needed additional surgery to repair. I couldn’t bathe or go swimming for a year until those openings were repaired. I have chronic perineum pain, altered bowel function due to changes in my pelvic muscles, and no sensation in most of my chest. When we have complications, local physicians and surgeons don’t know what to do. So we have to wait, and travel to whoever can help.
Listen, I don’t doubt that sometimes medical transition is helpful for people. It’s not my place to say they can’t or shouldn’t. But let’s not sell this like it’s a Disney park ride. The marketing of everything trans is ridiculously misleading. Don’t put sparkles and rainbows over real pain as though that helps at all. It’s insulting.
If we really want to help these kids, we need to make it easier for lesbian kids. Butch kids. All gender non-conforming kids. The quirky and awkward kids. Kids who feel they don’t fit it. Let’s get better at working with parents and preserving families. Be honest about what medical transition is really about. No one really changes biological sex and these procedures are really hard to go through. Why are we putting all of our resources into escaping brutality rather than eliminating brutality? We’re cutting up our bodies because our lived reality is worse. Why do we celebrate that?
Medical transition is but one option for those with GD. We need to reclaim our understanding of GD as a condition so that we can have reality based-conversations and solve real personal and social problems. “Trans” as a concept, masks many underlying issues. A queer theory-based understanding of myself worsened my GD. Medical transition became an addiction. The illusion only works if we’re lucky enough to pass and everyone else plays along perfectly. It’s an exhausting game of whack-a-mole to dodge the reminders of my female past and female biology. How is that kind of dissociation desirable? Some people may benefit from medically transitioning, but we still need a reality-based understanding of ourselves, to keep our feet on the ground.
Our children deserve better. If this sounds transphobic to you, you’re a part of the problem. Owning our reality for what it is isn’t self-hatred. It’s self-acceptance. Having different ideas and a different vision of how to move forward isn't hatred. Hatred was the skinheads who circled around us at the small 1992 Winnipeg gay and lesbian march, long before Pride was a parade. Hatred was the men who drove from the suburbs into Vancouver with the intent to "kill a fag" and murdered Aaron Webster in Stanley Park. I’m well acquainted with phobia. This isn't phobia. This is love.
"There is no such thing as a Catholic child. There's only a child of Catholic parents.
There's no such thing as a Protestant child, only a child of Protestant parents.
There's no such thing as a Muslim child, only a child of Muslim parents."
-- Richard Dawkins

Until a child has been introduced to religion or a god, shouldn't they be considered to be agnostic and not atheist?

Theism/atheism concerns belief. Agnosticism/gnosticism concerns knowledge. Agnosticism isn't a middle ground between belief and non-belief. It's a separate category entirely.

Yes, they're certainly agnostic..... but agnostic what? If you respond to a question about belief by describing yourself as "agnostic," you haven't answered the question and you've trailed off mid-sentence, leaving it incoherent. You might as well respond to the question "what model car do you drive" with "it's a blue."

Agnostic theist: holds belief in a god but does not claim knowledge.

Agnostic atheist: does not hold belief in a god and does not claim knowledge.

Obviously, they're an atheist, as this is the default. You cannot hold belief in a concept you've never heard of and have no conception. Just like you cannot conclude someone is guilty of a crime you've never heard about.

Believers accuse their gods of being guilty of existing. Like any accusation, Innocent until proven Guilty applies. This is called the Null Hypothesis.

There's a supernatural creature I'm thinking of that you've never heard of before. Do you believe in it? Obviously, you don't. Because you can't.

Not believing in a god is no different than not believing in Bigfoot. The only reason the word "atheist" exists is because of the pervasiveness and stranglehold of theistic claims.

If people stop telling us about their gods, we won't have to keep telling them that we find the notion unconvincing.

"Unlike religious people, we atheists really have a good reason to make the most of life. To make the most of the present moment. Cause even if you live to be a hundred, there are just not that many days in life.
So, what is the point of life? Is anything sacred? Does such a question even make sense? This is what religious people are worried about. And I think that these questions do make sense and there are answers to them.
But the answers are not the matter of getting more information. The answer is a change in attitude. There are ways of experiencing life as sacred without believing anything, and certainly without believing anything on insufficient evidence.
There are ways to really live in the present moment. Okay? What’s the alternative? It is always now. However much you feel you need to plan for the future, to anticipate it, to mitigate risks, the reality of your life is now."
-- Sam Harris

By: Colin Wright and Samuel Stagg

Published: May 22, 2023

Gender ideology rests upon two main pillars. The first proposes that the two sexes are not distinct and immutable categories, but rather correspond to a collection of many traits that one can plot along a spectrum. Male and female, in this view, exist only in a statistical sense. The second asserts that every human brain contains an unchangeable “gender identity” that is knowable from a very young age, physically detectable, and may conflict with one’s biological sex. The practical aspirations of gender ideologues depend on the truth of both claims: if male and female are not arbitrary or mutable, then there would be no basis for allowing males in female sports, prisons, or female-only spaces; if sex is binary, and no innate and fixed gender identity exists, then one cannot be “mismatched” from one’s sex—and “gender affirming” treatment is unjustified. Put another way, the belief in the sex spectrum provides the assurance of the ability to materially change one’s sex, while the belief in an innate and fixed gender identity that can be “mismatched” from one’s sex (i.e., a person can be “born in the wrong body”) provides the ethical justification or even obligation for hormonal or surgical intervention.

These gender-ideology pillars lack empirical support and are buttressed entirely by politically motivated wishful thinking. Consider a recent Washington Post article by English professor Jennifer Finney Boylan, which tried to establish the validity of both. Boylan does not seem to understand the well-established universal property that defines all males and females in nature, displays confusion about the difference between how sex is defined versus how it is determined, and demonstrates a tenuous grasp of the research of so-called “brain sex” that purports to ground “gender identity.”

We agree with Boylan that policy must ultimately be rooted in material reality. A scientist’s job is to describe the natural world as clearly and accurately as possible; society can collectively decide what, if anything, to do with those facts. But scientists also have a duty to combat falsehoods on topics they know well, especially when such falsehoods have real-world consequences. Misleading and incorrect claims about gender identity are being used to justify invasive, permanent medical procedures on minors and adults and to eliminate sex-based distinctions in law. Boylan’s claims, representative of progressive defenses of gender ideology, deserve serious scrutiny.

Boylan begins by outlining some general questions about biology. “So what, then, is a biological male, or female? What determines this supposedly simple truth? It’s about chromosomes, right?” Boylan then purports to debunk the chromosomal notion of sex by highlighting exceptions to the general rule that males have XY chromosomes and females are XX, noting that “not every person with a Y chromosome is male, and not every person with a double X is female,” and that “the world is full of people with other combinations: XXY (or Klinefelter Syndrome), XXX (or Trisomy X), XXXY and so on.”

The notion that males and females are defined by their chromosomes, with males always being XY and females always XX, is a frustratingly common misconception that occurs on both sides of the political divide. Gender activists use this misconception to provide exceptions that they believe refute the notion that there are only two sexes. Conversely, some opponents of the erasure of biological sex tout the XY and XX concept of males and females as proof that sex is binary and etched into our DNA.

Neither depiction is accurate. The central error, not obvious to those unfamiliar with biology, is made explicit in Boylan’s second question: What “determines” whether an individual is male or female? For what determines an individual’s sex is different from what defines it. “Sex determination” refers to the processes that set an embryo on the developmental pathway of becoming male or female. But the mechanisms responsible for triggering male and female development do not define the male and female sexes themselves. Humans and other mammals use genes located on chromosomes to trigger sex development; some animals, like many reptiles, use temperature. Just as chromosomes do not define an individual mammal’s sex, temperature does not define an individual alligator’s sex. Rather, one’s sex is defined by his or her primary reproductive anatomy, indicating the type of gamete (sperm or ova) he or she can or would produce.

The different chromosomal combinations Boylan highlights, such as XXY, XXX, and XXXY, are not examples of new sexes beyond male or female. Instead, they represent chromosomal variation within the two sexes. Assuming a properly functioning SRY gene (the gene that triggers male development) on the Y chromosomes, the hypothetical XXY and XXXY individuals would be unambiguously male, and the XXX individual unambiguously female.

Moving on, Boylan mentions complete androgen insensitivity syndrome (CAIS), describing it as “a condition that keeps the brains of people with a Y [chromosome] from absorbing the information in that chromosome.” This description is not even remotely correct. CAIS is a condition in which a person’s cells are completely unresponsive to androgens, such as testosterone. This prevents the genitals in a developing male fetus from masculinizing, and further prevents the development of male secondary sexual characteristics during puberty, despite the presence of functioning internal testes.

Boylan then displays confusion regarding the distinction between primary sex organs (gonads) and secondary sex characteristics (traits that differentiate between males and females during puberty). Boylan questions whether women who have had mastectomies or men with “enlarged breasts” are still female and male, respectively. Breasts are called “secondary sex characteristics” for a reason: they are related to sex, but do not define it. Just as painting stripes on a lion does not turn it into a tiger, augmenting a man’s breasts does not make him a woman.

After concluding that the basis for being male or female cannot be reduced to anatomy or genetics, Boylan turns to the brain, writing: “It might be that what’s in your pants is less important than what’s between your ears.” The concept of “brain sex” has been of special interest to gender activists and medical professionals who seek to root “gender identity” in something immutable and innate. That would allow them to draw upon existing legal precedents and civil rights laws, as Leor Sapir, an expert in this domain, observes:

Another reason for the medical professionals’ insistence is that “brain sex” resonates with a legal culture shaped by the civil rights movement. The Supreme Court has long recognized that a trait’s immutability is relevant to its eligibility for constitutional protection. In the final stages of the Gloucester litigation, the Fourth Circuit based its equal protection analysis on the claim that gender identity is, like race, an “immutable characteristic.”

Boylan does not claim that the brains of transgender “women” (in other words, natal males) resemble those of natal females. Instead, Boylan claims that they are “something distinct,” citing a recent study. The study in question recruited 72 participants (24 males, 24 females, and 24 transgender women) who all underwent magnetic resonance imaging (MRI). The images were then subjected to a multivariate machine-learning algorithm designed to predict sex, which it did reasonably accurately. From the machine-learning data, a “brain sex index” (BSI) was created, with a BSI of zero being standardized to represent a totally female brain and a BSI of one representing a totally male brain. When applied to the transgender women, the BSI indicated a shift of 25 percent toward the female end (though still remaining much closer to typical male brains).

A closer examination casts doubt on the utility of the study for Boylan’s claim. Six out of the 24 transgender participants were attracted to members of the same sex. Why would this be important? As it turns out, several lines of evidence suggest that homosexual individuals have less sexually dimorphic brains than heterosexuals (or even a tendency for a reversed sex pattern, on average). Whether these differences are causal to homosexuality or not is irrelevant. What is important is that sex-atypicality within the brain is associated with sexual orientation.

In an effort to show exactly how sexual orientation can affect research on gender dysphoria, one study scanned the brains of 24 heterosexual male-to-female transsexuals (i.e., males, identifying as women, who are attracted to females; also known as “gynephilic”) and compared them with male and female heterosexuals. When it came to the former group, the authors found no signs of brain “feminization,” but instead found (in relation to both males and females) larger gray matter volume in the temporo-parietal junction, an area involved in body perception and recognition and out-of-body experiences.

In fact, studies claiming that the brains of transgender-identifying individuals are shifted toward the opposite sex routinely do not control for homosexuality. And when they do, they fail to demonstrate any such shift. Consider two studies that assess regional gray matter differences between transsexuals and controls. The first, by Simon and colleagues, concluded that transsexuals have brains resembling that of the opposite sex. However, the second, by Luders et al., found no difference between male-to-female transsexuals and control males.

What caused these dramatically different findings? The transsexual participants in Simon et al. were all homosexual, whereas only one-quarter of the transsexual participants from the Luders study were homosexual. Across all studies, the percentage of homosexuality in the transgender cohort appears to correlate with the degree of sex-atypicality within the brain. The study Boylan cites is consistent with this trend, as the BSI cross-sex shift and the percentage of homosexuality match perfectly (25 percent).

Next, Boylan references a Scientific American blog post to explain a 2014 functional MRI (fMRI) study on the effects of smelling androstenedione (AND)—a precursor in the biosynthesis of testosterone and estrogen that increases throughout puberty and acts as a pheromone in human sweat—in a group of prepubescent children and adolescents with and without gender dysphoria. In both pre-pubertal and adolescent controls, males showed a desensitizing effect to smelling AND (in technical terms, their hypothalamic activational response decreased significantly over time), while females demonstrated increased hypothalamic activation over time. In contrast, adolescent girls and boys with gender dysphoria exhibited responses to AND that more resembled those of the opposite sex. No sex-atypical response was found in the pre-pubertal children.

Once again, it might appear on its face that dysphoric adolescents show atypical responses in the brain, which could explain a feeling of being “trapped in the wrong body.” However, as with the BSI study, the vast majority of the adolescent cohort—the only cohort to find an atypical result—were homosexual. (When asked “Have you ever been in love?” and, if so, “Was this person a boy or a girl?” all girls with gender dysphoria and 70 percent of boys with gender dysphoria answered with a person of the same natal sex.) Why would sexuality be important? An atypical response to smelling AND has been reported in both homosexual men and lesbian women within the hypothalamus. Since the sexual orientation of the prepubescent children was considerably more varied (and perhaps why the results were, according to Boylan, less clear), it seems far more likely that this atypical reaction was not a result of gender dysphoria but rather the participants’ sexuality.

Finally, Boylan briefly discusses a study on click-evoked otoacoustic emissions (CEOAEs)—echo-like sound waves produced by the inner ear in response to transient clicking stimuli. The study focused on children and young adolescents who all met the DSM-IV criteria for gender identity disorder (GID) and were of the “early onset” typology (typically homosexual). CEOAEs, a byproduct of the cochlear amplification mechanism, exhibit sexual dimorphism—females tend to show a higher amplitude compared with males from birth, suggesting a role for the pre-natal hormonal environment. In GID subjects, boys showed an atypical response (i.e., increased mean amplitude CEOAE) in the right ear, whereas GID girls did not. The authors suggest their findings support the “hypo-masculinization” of GID boys through decreased exposure to androgens during early development, but do not support the hypothesis of an increased exposure to androgens in girls with GID. However, research has shown that bisexual and homosexual females exhibit a partial “masculinization” of their CEOAE amplitude, implicating pre-natal androgens in modulating female-atypical responses. Thus, the atypical CEOAEs may indeed relate to the pre-natal environment, however, this is intertwined with the subjects sexual orientation (early on-set type). Further, the adolescent GID participants in the study had a wide age range, which could have affected the results since many were at different pubertal stages and thus differentially affected by circulating pubertal hormones. Indeed, trans-identifying adolescent females who received puberty blockers and cross-sex hormone treatment showed significantly weaker mean CEOAE amplitudes in the right ear compared to control girls. This could partly explain the differences observed in the GID adolescent cohort.

Boylan misinterprets science throughout the piece, which culminates to the following statement:

What does it mean, to respond to the world in this way? For me, it has meant having a sense of myself as a woman, a sense that no matter how comfortable I was with the fact of being feminine, I was never at ease with not being female. When I was young, I tried to talk myself out of it, telling myself, in short, to “get over it.”

Boylan had previously claimed that transgender brains are neither male- nor female-typical, but rather “something distinct,” and provided several lines of evidence for sex-atypical responses in transgender individuals. Nonetheless, Boylan makes the common mistake of assuming that having a brain resembling that of the opposite sex is a causal mechanism of gender-dysphoric feelings, without considering confounding variables such as sexual orientation.

“All the science tells us,” Boylan writes, “is that a biological male—or female—is not any one thing, but a collection of possibilities.” No: an individual’s sex is based on the type of gamete (sperm or ova) his or her primary sex organs are organized around, through development, to produce. Males have primary sex organs organized around the production of sperm, and females, ova. Brains do not define an individual’s sex. Brains, like any other part of one’s body, exhibit average differences between males and females. A brain, like any other organ, does not have its own sex, separate from the body. The terms “male brain” and “female brain” simply refer to the brains residing in the bodies of males and females, respectively. It is not possible to be “born in the wrong body.”

If Boylan’s essay demonstrates anything, it’s how it is far easier to make a mess of the truth than to clarify it.

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Boylan is an English professor pretending to set us right on "science" and "biology."

I miss the creationists.

By: Theo Merz

Published: 26 Feb, 2015

“Some victims of domestic abuse are not identified as regularly,” reads a line several pages into a new report from a UK domestic violence charity. “Particular groups of victims may be less visible to services or be given less priority.”
Along with people from black, Asian and ethnic minority backgrounds, “male victims” form one of these neglected groups, according to the SafeLives study, which was published on Wednesday.
Perhaps this is unsurprising, given that the vast majority of SafeLives’ 35,000-strong database of survivors is female. When we think of domestic abuse it is generally as a women’s issue, while most high profile awareness drives, such as The White Ribbon Campaign, are aimed at reducing male violence against women.
But domestic violence against men is far from a niche concern. The most recent Crime Survey for England and Wales estimated that around 800,000 men – five per cent of the male population – had experienced domestic abuse in 2011-12, compared to 1.2 million women – or seven per cent of the female population. Since about 2005, around 40 per cent of domestic violence victims have been male.
And when these victims are not identified in time, the results can be disastrous. In this week’s SafeLives report, titled Getting It Right First Time, the charity claims: “The impact of domestic abuse on the victim and on children – even once they have achieved safety – is severe and long-lasting.”
'I didn't think of it as domestic violence'
Simon* is one man who understands the consequences of abuse better than most. For most of his 17-year marriage, this 47-year-old was subjected to domestic abuse from his wife, from having hot drinks poured over him to dinner plates smashed over his head.
While his wife was never physically violent towards their three children, she would often attack him in front of them.
“I didn’t think of it as domestic violence and I think that’s often true for male victims,” he says now. “You put it down to mood swings. There was also the pressure of thinking that if I walked away, I might get a raw deal when it came to custody of the children.
“One day, though, my youngest child replicated her behaviour. They came into the kitchen and smashed a plate over my head – I got really angry, shouted and I remember them looking so shocked. They didn’t realise it was wrong because this is what they had seen their parents doing. I wondered whether I was really protecting any of them.”
He reached breaking point one night after his wife threw him out of the house – something she had done several times before. Simon, who was then working for the church and had never talked to anyone about the abuse he had suffered, went to speak with a superior in the church hierarchy.
“They said, go back to your wife and nobody will be any the wiser, but I knew I could never do that.”
Since leaving the marriage, Simon has become involved with charities like the Mankind Initiative, which provides support for male survivors of domestic abuse.
“It’s a long battle to change people’s perception,” he says. “People are used to the idea of domestic violence being something men do to women, but when it happens the other way round, they can’t get their heads round it.
“Going for the authorities was never an option for me. I thought, who would believe me – a big, strapping bloke? I can look after myself in that sense.
“But as a boy, growing up, I was always told that boys don’t hit girls. That was the most important thing. It didn’t matter how I was provoked, I would just never do that. So I would let her anger burn out rather than ever retaliate.”
He says that men in similar situations should remember they are not alone and – if they feel unable to talk to anyone about the abuse – keep a journal and read it back, so they can get a more objective view of what is happening to them.
“Start thinking about ways out, too. You might hope that things will change but the reality is they never will.”
'Why would you, as a man, put up with that?'
Ian McNicholl, 52, is another male survivor of domestic abuse. He was subjected to a 14-month ordeal by his ex-partner which saw her pour boiling water over him, put out cigarette butts on his face and genitals and attack him with a hammer.
He still bears the physical and psychological scars from that relationship, and needed his septum replaced after his ex assaulted him with a metal bar. The police became involved after McNicholl confided in a neighbour that suicide was the only way he could see out of the relationship.
His girlfriend was found guilty of grievous bodily harm and assault, and was sentenced to seven years prison time, but is now out on licence.
“When I tell people about what happened, some of them still ask: why would you, as a man, put up with that? It’s because they don’t understand how manipulative some people’s behaviour can be – it takes all you have, until you’ve got nothing left.
“I don’t deny that more females are victims of domestic abuse, but it’s a crime that can affect anyone. The media need to give male victims more coverage and a more balanced view of what domestic abuse is.”
*name has been changed
"End up on a mechanical ventilator and we all know that one true believer who's anxious to preach about God's plan for you, or how this is Allah's will for you.
How believers manage to reconcile 'benevolence' and 'greatness' with human tragedy and catastrophe happens just falls short of a miracle in and of itself."

Your god is either imaginary of a full-blown fucking psychopath.

Cheaters get angry when you don't let them cheat.

Emily is not "banned" but is being expected to compete against people with comparable body structures: like vs like. Since biomechanics, the laws of physics, and the bike don't care how you "identify."

It's interesting this "data" claim. It seems a lot like "just wait until you're dead, then you'll see."

Regardless, even if it's true (it's not), we don't reorganize society to suit people's feelings, then get the data, then say "see, we were right." You get the data first, then you make your argument, then we debate and discuss, then we adjust society based on the results of that discussion.

You don't get your way by default and make people disprove your claim. That's what religious authoritarians did.

"No debate" is over.

Source: twitter.com

Published: May 26, 2023

The National Secular Society has warned members of Boston Council against characterising criticism of religion as 'hate speech'.
In a letter, the NSS expressed concern at comments made in relation to Councillor Mike Gilbert at the council's AGM on May 22.
In accordance with the council's tradition, as the longest serving member of the council Cllr Gilbert had been due to be appointed Mayor of Boston.
However, he was denied the role following accusations that a number of Facebook posts made in 2022 constituted 'hateful speech' towards Muslims.
The comments relating to Islam were made during the football World Cup hosted by Qatar, and raised concerns about aspects of Islamic doctrine which criminalise homosexuality and severely restrict the rights of women.
At the council meeting (pictured), Cllr Gilbert said: "I hold no prejudice against anyone on any inappropriate basis, but I do have specific views on politics, ideology, and religion that I am not willing to suppress in my political position".
Councillor Anne Dorrian, who was serving as mayor at the time, said that councillors had a political and moral obligation to "refrain from using hate speech". Failure to condemn such speech, Cllr Dorrian warned, could be interpreted as expressions of "approval or support".
Following the meeting, Cllr Dorrian said that Cllr Gilbert had been denied the mayoralty due to social media posts that people "just couldn't accept" with phrases that people found "offensive."
Other councillors spoke out in support of Cllr Gilbert.
The NSS said that by characterising this "legitimate criticism of Islamic doctrine" as hate speech the councillors had "unfairly smeared" Cllr Gilbert, whilst simultaneously undermining efforts to challenge religiously-based suppression of women's and LGBT rights.
It said that whilst individuals should be afforded respect and protection, ideas must be "open to scrutiny and debate", including "religious beliefs and practices".
NSS: Public debate must include ability to criticise religious doctrine
Stephen Evans, chief executive of the National Secular Society said: "Holding a critical view of Islam, or any other ideology, is not in itself 'hateful'.
"In a free and open society, religious beliefs and practices must remain open to scrutiny and debate. By characterising Councillor Gilbert's legitimate criticism of Islamic doctrine as 'hate speech', councillors have unfairly smeared a fellow councillor – and at the same time, made it more difficult to challenge the religiously motivated suppression of women's rights and LGBT equality.
"Councillor Gilbert has merely expressed an unfavourable view of religious doctrine he disagrees with. Free speech and social cohesion are harmed if this is considered beyond the bounds of reasonable public debate."

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When they're so virtuous, they voluntarily implement Islamic blasphemy laws.

"In all recorded religious history the greatest disasters suffered by humanity, involved a 'loving god' raining fire and brimstone down on humanity, drowning all of humanity in floods, and killing a bunch of babies.
Then it ends with most of us in a burning lake of fire!
Not only is your 'loving god' a monster, but he needs some anger management classes.
You need some better make believe friends."

By: Matt Thornton

Published: Apr 12, 2023

A poll conducted in 2020 by the Skeptic Research Center asked a nationally representative sample of Americans the following question:
 “If you had to guess, how many unarmed Black men were killed by police in 2019?”
The survey offered answer choices ranging from “about 10” to “more than 10,000.” Roughly 31 percent of survey respondents who identified as “very liberal” estimated that police had killed about 1,000 or more unarmed black men the previous year, with another 22 percent overall believing the number to be at least 10,000.
In summary, 53% of Americans who identified as “very liberal” believe police murder somewhere between 1000-10,000 unarmed black men a year.
What is the actual number? Twelve.
According to the Washington Post’s comprehensive database of police killings, police shot and killed 54 unarmed people in 2019, 26 were listed as white, 12 black, 11 Hispanic, and 5 “other.”
It’s also important to note that the majority of the twelve shot were actively trying to hurt or kill the officer. For example, in at least two of the twelve cases involving black men, the perpetrators were killed while trying to run over an officer with a car. In another, an individual took and used the officer’s taser on him. In another, a female officer was being physically beaten by a suspect when she fired. All those cases were classified as “unarmed.”
“Unarmed” never means “not deadly.” There is always a gun involved—the officer’s. In many encounters, the suspect is fighting to get ahold of it. In the Ferguson case, it was claimed that Michael Brown had his hands up when Officer Darren Wilson shot him, in cold blood, in the middle of the street. Upon investigation, the forensic evidence as well as a half-dozen black witnesses confirmed Officer Wilson’s account. Michael Brown tried to take Officer Wilson’s gun and was charging at him when shot. The “Hands up, don’t shoot!’ slogan was a lie.
When you set aside cases where the suspect was actively threatening an officer’s life with physical force, you are left with one or two cases a year. In 2019, officers involved in two shootings were found at fault and sentenced accordingly. 
What is the net result of so many people being so misinformed?
After the George Floyd incident in June 2020, in cities across the country, regressive anti-policing policies were rushed in. In Chicago, this meant the department was down 1000 officers. New restrictions on the police were put in place that inhibited proactive/community policing, and several thousand violent offenders were put back on the street thanks to far left District Attorneys and activist judges. The net result was a 25 year high in murder for the city and hundreds more dead bodies, many of them young kids.
In 2021, more than 12 American cities saw record breaking levels of murder. Without evidence, ideologically-driven reporters parrot back to each other that this increase must be related to lockdowns. A closer look shows clearly that the constant attacks on law enforcement, budget cuts, and a climate of hatred fueled by that same irresponsible media have effectively halted proactive policing. Whenever that happens, violence skyrockets and thousands more needlessly die. The blood that covers media personalities, policy makers, and activists who’ve pushed the “defund the police” narrative will never wash off.
Because homicides within the black community occur at more than four times the national average, the people who will suffer most from these changes won’t be the upper-middle-class urban elites who foolishly push them through or the politicians and media personalities who have their own armed security. It will be poor, black Americans who live in the kinds of areas where 3-year-old Mekhi James was murdered, along with 197 other Chicago youth since 2020. It’s no wonder that black Americans consistently poll higher than whites in wanting increased police presence. The citizens in those high crime neighborhoods know better than anyone that cutting police funding doesn’t solve our violence problem—it increases it.
The narrative that police officers are looking to kill black Americans is a pernicious lie. Understanding this is the first step in making our cities safer for everyone.

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If you care about black lives - and you should - you should care about accurate information and statistics, and telling the truth. Not about grand ideological fantasies narratives that get many more black people killed.

By: Rosemary Neill

Published: Dec 2, 2022

In his bestseller The God Delusion, published in 2006, author Richard Dawkins famously wrote that the god of the Old Testament is “a vindictive, bloodthirsty ethnic cleanser” and “a misogynistic, homophobic, racist, infanticidal, genocidal … capriciously malevolent bully’’.
Not for nothing has Dawkins been described as “a poster boy for militant atheism”.
The former Oxford University professor and evolutionary biologist is also regarded as a brilliant and passionate science communicator: His 1976 book, The Selfish Gene, reframed our understanding of evolution and has been named by the Royal Society as the most inspiring science book of all time, while his latest volume, Flights of Fancy – a surprisingly lyrical work aimed at the over 12s – looks at how animals and humans have “learned to overcome the pull of gravity and take to the skies’’.
In 2013, Dawkins was voted the world’s top thinker in a Prospect magazine poll. Yet in recent years, his controversial tweets and remarks about everything from aborting Down’s syndrome foetuses to Islamic fundamentalism have provoked sharp criticism and threats of cancellation.
Now aged 81, the career controversialist will conduct a national speaking tour in Australia in February, addressing topics including the wonders of science, the importance of reason and his scepticism about religion. Ahead of his tour, which starts in Melbourne, the British author gave a typically forthright, sometimes combative interview to Review.
During this encounter, conducted over Zoom from his Oxford home, Dawkins oscillates between donnish erudition and a kind of pugnacious rationalism, as he argues that parents should not have the right to “indoctrinate” their children with their chosen religion; that human foetuses are “no more a person” than animal foetuses; that anti-vaxxers are selfish; and that transgenderism has become “a mimetic epidemic” among schoolchildren. He also warns that human beings could one day be obliterated by the same kind of meteorite that wiped out the dinosaurs.
You have been called a militant atheist, and you’ve argued that religion causes wars and entrenches bigotry. Yet you use the borrowed phrase “tooth fairy agnostic” to describe yourself. Tooth fairy agnostic – that’s right. We are all actually agnostic about anything you can’t actually disprove. You can’t disprove the tooth fairy; it’s trivial to bother about it, so that’s the way I am about gods.
Why do you oppose faith schools? I am not against education in religion. I think that’s important and that children should be taught about religion because it’s such an important part of history, politics, art and music. I’m against educating in a particular religion – I’m against a child being told, “You are a member of this church and therefore this is what you believe”. I like the child to be told, “There are people who call themselves Catholics and they believe this, and there are people who call themselves Muslims and they believe that” and so on. That’s important, but children should not be told what to believe.
Would banning faith schools amount to erosion of parental choice and authority? I think children have rights, and the right of a child not to be indoctrinated is important.
You get hate mail from evangelical Christians and you are also a trenchant critic of Islamic fundamentalism. As an outspoken public intellectual, what did you think of the recent attack on The Satanic Verses author Sir Salman Rushdie? It’s horrible. It’s irrational. It’s vicious. It was allegedly perpetrated by a very foolish person who doesn’t know what he’s doing. He has been indoctrinated by his Islamic upbringing and that’s one kind of reason why I find indoctrination so bad. (The suspect, Hadi Matar, has said that Ayatollah Khomeini, who issued a fatwa against Rushdie, is, “a great person”. Matar has pleaded not guilty to attempted murder and assault charges brought against him in the US.)
Many Christian fundamentalists in the US oppose abortion. What is your view of the US Supreme Court ruling that overturned the historic Roe v Wade decision? I deplore that.
You maintain that pro-choice activists in America are using the wrong tactics. Why? I think the pro-abortion lobby is tactically unsound when they say something like, “A woman’s body is her own to do what she likes with”. I happen to think that’s right, but that’s not going to cut any ice with somebody who thinks that an embryo is a baby, and they think therefore that abortion is murder. They’ll say, “Ah, but she contains another body which is not her own.” I think we should tackle that assumption. We should say, “A foetus is no more a person than, and no more has personal feelings … than the foetus of a cow or a pig, let alone an adult cow or pig.”
You dedicate your latest book, Flights of Fancy, to the billionaire entrepreneur Elon Musk. Why does he impress you? He certainly is a high flyer and he certainly is a hero of our times. I do admire him and I think that he’s an appropriate dedicatee for a book about flight. He’s a man with immense imagination and he is a genius as an engineer, a genius as an entrepreneur.
In Flights of Fancy, you note how, just decades after the Wright brothers’ historic flight, we were in the era of supersonic and space flight. Does this constitute an extraordinary burst of progress within a short time? It is rather remarkable, isn’t it? I think it’s a very good century to have lived in for that reason. In a way it’s rather sad that things (to do with space flight) are only just taking off now after the 1960s, when men first stepped on the moon, and nothing much has happened since then, until quite recently. I’m glad things are getting going again.
In 2021, the American Humanist Society withdrew an award they had given you because of an old tweet. In that tweet, you called for a discussion about the vilification of those who deny transgender people “literally are what they identify as”. How did you feel about the award being cancelled? To be honest, I had actually forgotten that I ever had that award, but it is upsetting when your own side turn against you, of course. I’d never worried about religious fundamentalists disliking me, but when it’s your own team, it’s upsetting. It’s a remarkably foolish thing for them to do, because all I did was to raise a subject for discussion.
Has academe changed for the worse in terms of restrictions on freedom of speech since you first worked at the University of California, Berkeley, and Oxford University in the 1960s and ’70s? It’s not possible to imagine that we’re going to go on with this nonsense where you can’t even discuss something.
Why is the transgender debate so heated, and such a no-go area for many commentators? You’d have to ask a psychologist or a sociologist about that. It (the debate) seems to me to be utter nonsense. Of course, there are people who suffer from gender dysphoria, and one has to be sympathetic to them. But there clearly is a mimetic epidemic, especially among schoolchildren who get persuaded that somehow the cool thing to do is to be trans, and this is a very disturbing by-product of a very genuine phenomenon, which is gender dysphoria. That is quite a rare thing, but it’s being blown up into a kind of false, common thing.
With the recent closure of the Tavistock child gender clinic, it appears the UK is adopting a more cautious approach to hormonal and surgical treatments for trans-identifying children. How do you view this development? I think we’re seeing the beginnings of a very appropriate reversal of this trend.
You have 2.9 million followers on Twitter. Do your more contentious tweets scare your publishers? Possibly, but I’m not here to talk about Twitter.
Even so, why are you drawn to Twitter, given the nasty pile-ons that are a feature of the platform? I suppose, misguidedly, I thought it was rather a good way of raising discussion. That’s why I put “discuss” at the end of so many tweets, (as) a follow-on of the Oxford tutorials. I am afraid I rather over-estimated the intelligence of the Twitter audience.
You’ve said it would be fun to fly like a bird or go hang-gliding. Does your fear of heights hold you back? I certainly wouldn’t want to jump off a cliff.
No bungy-jumping for Richard Dawkins then? I might run down a hill, maybe.
Why do you believe there is merit in people establishing a colony on another planet? This, I think, is one of the motives of Elon Musk wanting to go to Mars. It’s interesting, by the way, that NASA has just succeeded in diverting or changing the orbit of a small asteroid. They need to do it for a much bigger asteroid in order to save us from the sort of catastrophe that hit the dinosaurs. But (the recent NASA diversion) is a very important first step. It’s a magnificent feat of engineering and science and mathematics.
During the Covid lockdowns, you wrote two nonfiction books and failed to complete a novel about bringing back Homo erectus, our ancient ancestor. Have you given up on writing fiction? I abandoned that, at least temporarily. It turned out to be much more difficult than I thought.
Why do you argue the Covid pandemic has been good for science? As soon as the genetic code sequence of the virus was decoded, which nowadays can be done very swiftly, several different teams of scientists got to work on making a vaccine, and they did it in double quick time; astonishingly quickly. I think that’s a great tribute to the genius of our species.
What about the rise of the anti-vaxxers? Has that surprised you? Tragically, really stupid opposition to vaccination has been whipped up, mostly in America, but it spread to other countries as well. A lot of people don’t understand that vaccination is not just about protecting yourself, it’s about protecting society as a whole, to get herd immunity so the epidemic doesn’t spread.
Is there a selfishness inherent in the anti-vaccination movement? Yes, they just think it’s a matter of individual liberty. They don’t realise that refraining from vaccination for no very good reason is rather like driving on the wrong side of the road …. We do owe a certain curtailment of individual liberty in the interests of society.
You invented the word “meme” (an idea or behaviour that spreads from person to person within a society.) We’ve seen Donald Trump turn memes into a political art form. Were you dismayed by that? He just lies and lies all the time, and unfortunately, I think it was Goebbels who said, “If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it.” Huge numbers of Americans actually believe Trump’s lies and it’s a tragedy.
You live in Oxford and drive a Tesla. Are we all going to be driving electric cars in future? It looks like it, doesn’t it? I think that’s a very good thing.
Some detractors say your reputation as a fierce supporter of atheism is in danger of eclipsing your insights as a visionary evolutionary biologist. I hope not. I’ve only written two books about atheism and about 17 about science, so really science is by far the more important part of my life.
The God Delusion has sold millions of copies, but what do you regard as your most significant book? Probably The Extended Phenotype, which is one book that I wrote for my professional colleagues, although I like to think it’s readable by nonscientists as well. It’s the main book in which I propose something which I suppose is original; something that is all my own.
Scientists don’t know how the universe started. Isn’t that an argument in itself that a god or creator must have kicked things off? That’s a terrible idea! The idea that just because you don’t know what the answer to a question is, therefore god did it. I mean, that’s a ridiculous argument. By all means say we don’t know – that’s true, we don’t know – therefore it’s better to try to find out. We don’t just lie down and say, “Oh, god must have done it”.
Across the globe millions of people, including those without a financial safety net, find comfort in religion. Can you see how rubbishing their spiritual beliefs can be perceived as arrogance? Not arrogance. I mean, if they don’t want to read my books, they don’t have to. My books are about what I believe to be true and what evidence is. I’m not going to refrain from writing books for fear that it might upset people. I write books about what is supported by scientific evidence. That is what I try to do, and if the evidence changes, of course I change my mind. That’s about it, really. I’m a scientist who writes books about science.
Source: archive.vn

This is "atheism is a religion." Or "atheists are angry at god/worship the devil/worship themselves." They won't let you just not be part of the thing. Saying you're not part of the thing becomes a way of being part of the thing.

No, I don't accept the underlying premise of your belief, that incorporeal sexed thetans have been incompetently sorted by Xenu's intern into mismatched meat prisons.

I don't know who told you that every mundane thing about your personality deserves its own flag and special day, but you've been wildly misinformed.

Source: twitter.com

By: Laura Funk... God

Published: Mar 8, 2022

There’s a certain type of girl or woman who reaches for the transgender or nonbinary identity label. We’ve all seen this girl, parented this girl, and some of us like me ARE this person. This is the type of girl I refer to as The Archetypal FTM or more appropriately The Sensitive, Quirky, Artistic Weird Girl.

This is not an exhaustive list of every FTM, or a perfect encapsulation of every single person who adopts a trans or nonbinary label, but this is an archetype I have lived as, and studied from my time in the trans and detrans communities, and from speaking with parents and mentoring teenagers. This archetype is who I’ve seen most attracted to the trans and nonbinary role, and they’re all too similar in their traits for it to be a coincidence.

Note: Many of these Archetypal FTM characteristics also describe girls and women on the Autism Spectrum. It is common knowledge in clinics, research, and community, that many young FTMS are diagnosed with, or suspected to have autism. It stands to reason that much of FTM culture is actually integrated autistic culture, or general neurodivergent culture, as many psychological issues like depression, anxiety, ADHD, Bipolar, BPD, and PTSD are comorbid diagnosis in this population.

It can be tricky to find the right diagnosis or label for the presenting symptoms or traits in populations with complex divergences from social norms, which is why many of these girls and women adopt multiple, often abstract, gender identity labels, including those based in autism or mental health disorders to describe themselves.

Some, like myself, view many of these labels or diagnosis as unnecessary to understanding the human condition, which is why I prefer to encapsulate a multitude of clustering human experiences under the handy label of “archetype” and have broken down this archetype into its 4 main categories.

Note: For the purpose of this essay, “archetype” is defined as:

A very typical example of a certain person or thing.”

I have defined the 4 main categories here from Miriam Webster as:

Sensitive:

“Quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences.”

And/or:

“(Of a person or a person's behavior) having or displaying a quick and delicate appreciation of others' feelings.”

Quirky:

“Characterized by peculiar or unexpected traits.”

(Also refer to; offbeat, eccentric, unique- in a generally positive manner of association.)

Artistic:

“Having or revealing natural creative skill.”

Weird:

“Very strange; bizarre.”

(Also refer to; unusual manifestation, in a generally negative, unhealthy, or damaging manner of association.)

Archetypal FTM Traits:

Sensitive: “Queer/Trans/Nonbinary” = Sensitive

“Quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences.”

And/or:

“(Of a person or a person's behavior) having or displaying a quick and delicate appreciation of others' feelings.”

  • Intellectual Overexcitability (highly cerebral and living largely in thought and mind vs. body)
  • Sensory Processing Issues (physiologically sensitive to stimulus like touch, texture, sound and can become overwhelmed)
  • Idealistic (can see many interconnected threads of thought which could create a potential ideal outcome or situation)
  • Empathetic and compassionate (feeling the emotions of others and being cognitively understanding to those in distress because they can relate)
  • High Neuroticism (sensitivity to negative emotions-shame, sadness, anger, self-doubt)
  • Internalizes (retreats into self due to absorbing too much of outside environment)
  • Self-Doubt (constant overanalyzing leads to rumination around failings of self)
  • Anxiety (general and social)
  • Depression (nervous system shut down due to sensory overwhelm and emotional flooding and burnout)
  • Learned Helplessness (may underachieve due to overwhelm of thoughts, emotions, sensations, and develop complex of being a failure)
  • Resists Change (due to overwhelm of thought and feeling, resists changes and struggles to adapt; requires more patience and time to make decisions or act)
  • Sexual/Sensual/Asexual (may be either hypersexual and enjoy self-stimulation/use masturbation to release energy or self-soothe (including fixations with online porn), or become overwhelmed with sexual feelings and shut down and detach from sensual feelings in body)
  • Spiritual/Religious/Cult Inclinations (may be interested in alternative spiritual, religious, or lifestyle beliefs or trends that can even manifest as cults. Research indicates that intelligent and vulnerable people may be open to cult-thinking)

Note: Many of these traits describe a Highly Sensitive Person or HSP. This is a theory and researched type of person who is physiologically more sensitive to thought, feeling, and sensation, due to biological reasons. Their nervous systems are more reactive to the internal and external environments, creating both pros and cons for the individual which may manifest as developmental divergences. The theory finds that highly sensitive people in a compatible and nurturing environment to their sensitivities, will thrive and do better than the average person, but in an incompatible or harmful environment to their sensitivities, will regress and do worse than the average person, and be more suspectable to mental health conditions and developing trauma-based disorders like PTSD.

Quirky: “Queer/Trans/Nonbinary” = Quirky

“Characterized by peculiar or unexpected traits.”

(Also refer to; offbeat, eccentric, unique- in a generally positive manner of association.)

  • Highly Intelligent/Gifted/Bright (intellectual giftedness can create developmental quirks of deeply developed thought but lacks in experience or deficits in other areas like emotion regulation)
  • Witty and Clever (verbose and adept at forming connections verbally and in thought in a unique manner)
  • Good Sense of Humor (can be a bit awkward, and offbeat with humor and mannerisms)
  • Precocious (may have lopsided maturation processes such as gaining interest in abstract thought, psychology, philosophy, etc. but lack of fundamental executive functioning or social skills)
  • Obsessed With Labels (labels, diagnosis, definitions, language, lists, goals, etc. are attempts to understand abstract concepts, order chaos of thoughts and feelings)
  • May Be Naïve (due to overwhelm with stimulus, may self-isolate, avoid, or shelter self and become developmentally stunted, or may seek advanced experiences due to intellectual giftedness, but lack the other appropriate skills to navigate situations)
  • Has Special Interests (a deep love and obsession with a particular concept, thing, or person going beyond typical levels of regard or fixation)
  • Social Justice-Minded (desires radical social change for the less fortunate and possesses an open mind towards social justice ideology and action)
  • Passionate (when in a good mood, tends to be enthusiastic about special interests and can become deeply involved in doing them or sharing them with others)
  • Relates to Animals/Nature/Objects/Concepts More than People (more easily relates to non-sentient human creatures like animals, characters, objects, or even abstract concepts than other people due to difficulty fitting in and the ability to form unusual connections or find unique meanings. Yes, anime, Disney, and rats are a thing for FTMS…)

Artistic: “Queer/Trans/Nonbinary” = Artistic

“Having or revealing natural creative skill.”

  • High Openness to Experience (this is the major personality dimension measuring creativity and divergent thought, experience, and behavior, or openness to it)
  • Independent Thinkers (due to high openness to experience trait, perspective is often unique, or unique opinions are sought out and adopted from others)
  • Divergent Thinking (“A thought process or method used to generate creative ideas by exploring many possible solutions. It typically occurs in a spontaneous, free-flowing, "non-linear" manner…”)
  • Self-Expressive (frequently releases thoughts and feelings through journaling, poetry, writing, art, bogging, or through videos or other methods)
  • Extraverted Self-Expression (often prioritizes expressing one’s personality through bold or unique clothing, fashion, hairstyle, piercings, tattoos, nicknames, etc. Often will be DYI or handmade, or be more open to alternative forms of aesthetic expression)
  • Highly Creative (often does art or creative activities like drawing, painting, crafting, writing, singing, playing music, etc.)
  • Has Rich Fantasy Life (known for having a vivid imagination and ability to get lost in thought, daydreams, grandiose plans for future, and combining unique ideas together for imagined projects in a creative way)
  • Nonstable Identity (the downside to high openness to experience; having connections to many different things and creating ever-shifting personas or views of self that makes it difficult to maintain a grounded sense of self)
  • Jack of All Trades, Master of None (another downside to profound creativity; trouble actually “doing” things or taking action to bring tangible work into completion due to multitude of thought threads at once, or juggling priorities. Can strongly overlap with ADHD traits)

Weird: “Queer/Trans/Nonbinary” = Weird

“Very strange; bizarre.”

(Also refer to; unusual manifestation, in a generally negative, unhealthy, or damaging manner of association.)

  • Feel “Weird” In Negative Sense (views self as different in a bad way, feels lacking in something others have, may resent “normies”, feel alienated and shameful)
  • Individualistic (while this may be a positive trait, this type of person may also suffer by not going along with the crowd, refusing to see other’s perspectives, have rigid thinking and be stubborn to change behavior to coexist with others, and struggle to find connection or community, worsening resilience to mental health issues)
  • Can Be Lonely (often isolated from groups, feels alienated from peers, may try out different social tribes but not feel belonging to any, or may fixate on belonging with 1 particular social group or attachment figure which can be harmful to them)
  • Very Online (although since the 2020 pandemic and technological shifts many more people are living online, this archetype still is more likely than average to spend time cultivating an online life due to socialization troubles, sensory overwhelm in outside or interpersonal situations, and isolation due to depression, anxiety, and other disorders. The internet use can create further social deficits and mental health struggles due to lack of proper socialization, intimacy, physical movement, exposure to the natural world, and increase sensitivity which manifests these issues cyclically. )
  • Insecure Attachments (may feel insecure, anxious, or avoidant about forming close relationships with others, develop more shallow online relationships, belong to unhealthy or abusive online groups or friendship cliques, or have no close attachments to family or friends)
  • Rumination (tends to circle over negative thoughts, memories of the past, or fears of the future in repeated cycles which damage rational thinking and positive regard for self and life, often exacerbating into suicidal ideation)
  • Obsessional Fixations (when special interests or passions bring disappointment or fail, or there is distress in life, intellectual capacities turn into intense negative rumination over solutions or fantasies of escape. These may manifest as self-harm or destructive behavior such as magical-thinking fantasies)
  • Cognitive Distortions (black and white, rigid thinking that cannot be challenged even when unhealthy or destructive, generalizations from one smaller event projected onto all other events/the entire world, catastrophizing thoughts of the worst possible scenario, difficulty maintaining rational sense of orderliness)
  • Low Self-Confidence (core belief of shame and unworthiness due to being, or perceived as being, rejected by others, feeling alienated, sensitive, and highly emotional, or reactive to pain)
  • Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS is an endocrine disorder which affects menstruation, fertility, emotion regulation, etc. and yes, sensitivity. Although the correlation is currently unclear, from my observation, many archetypal FTMS have PCOS, and that PCOS may contribute to high-sensitivity, body image issues, feeling more masculine and less connected to the female body, mood fluctuations, and is correlated with depression, anxiety, and shame.)

In Review of the 4 Categories

All of these traits are part of the human condition. Every person in existence falls somewhere on the spectrum of these characteristics or behaviors, and none on their own imply belonging to this archetype. However, when observably clustered together, these traits are indicative of certain types of personalities.

Many of these traits, especially the “weird” traits, are vulnerabilities to developing disorders like depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder, PTSD, CPTSD, etc. They may stand alone as regular human traits, or increase in severity in the form of a disorder which can be diagnosed as interfering with common functioning. I’ve purposefully left gender out of these traits to showcase the traits in a raw configuration, but one can easily see how gender identities, sexual characteristics, sex roles, cultural roles, and contemporary phenomena can manifest within these traits, and this sort of person. This archetype is more sensitive and vulnerable to developing symptoms of gender dysphoria, or a belief in it.

Gender Identity = Personality

The most important thing to note about this archetype is that each of the 4 categories (Sensitive, Quirky, Artistic, Weird) can be synonymous with “Queer, Trans, or Nonbinary” because “Gender” = “Personality.”

It really can be that simple. Young people (especially overthinking and highly open to experience ones) often confuse personality traits and types with corresponding gender identities.

For many of these girls, substituting any of these personality descriptions, especially Quirky can describe their individuality the same or even more accurately than does whatever gender identity label they’re using. Young people might not realize it, but gender expression (how you play with femininity, masculinity, and androgyny in fashion and expression) is a form of creativity that is associated with the trait Openness to Experience. In personality psychology, the BIG 5 Personality Spectrums are Openness to ExperienceConsciousness, Extraversion, Agreeableness, and Neuroticism, with each big trait divided into 7 sub traits. The archetypal girl who identifies as trans is likely to present with High Openness to Experience (creativity), low Extraversion (High Introversion), and High Neuroticism (negative emotion and views on oneself.)

Although the Big 5 is the most accurate representation of personality in psychology, other ways of showing this archetype could be in the Enneagram--Type 4 which is also based on archetypes. Type 4 is the archetype known as The Artist/The Individualist/The Romantic. Each Type has 2 “wings” on either side (other Types that correspond.) Type 4 Artists can lean towards Type 3 The Performer, or Type 5 The Investigator. One can see how either, or both of these types may arise from this archetype.

If a Type 4 Artist leans towards the wing of Type 3—The Performer, this is called The Aristocrat. We tend to see a more flamboyant and expressive, loud, attention-grabbing personality and behavior (think Madonna.) This may explain some of the histrionic and narcissistic conduct we see from queer or young people, and riled up social justice activists.

If a Type 4 Artist leans towards Type 5—The Investigator, we see a person who needs to balance out their intense emotional and creative energy, with a high dose of intellectual and psychologically reflective energy. This manifestation is called “The Bohemian” (think Bob Dylan) and can be seen in the more introverted and isolated, cerebral, and heavily online trans and nonbinary people who are not as outwardly flamboyant about their gender identity, but who on one one may still exert the same positions.

Type 4— Individualist people, are notorious for being the most sensitive, emotionally deep, and if uncontrolled, the most emotionally volatile of all personality types. They are also the most creative and artistic personalities. Enneagram Type 4 traits overlap extensively with this archetypal FTM and those in general who identify as some form of queer/trans, or nonbinary.

When these traits cluster in particular amalgamations deemed harmful, these everyday human personality aspects can arise to the level of a disorder which requires treatment. Although there is a large western cultural push towards medicalization for adverse mental health symptoms, many forms of distress can be reduced, managed, or relieved through addressing the underlying harmful manifestations of traits, by understanding the interplay or both nature, and nurture’s relationship to these traits. Simply put; treat a person holistically by having awareness of the characteristics and manifestations of the human condition, and you often do not require medications or medical interventions.

If gender identity = personality, then those with the highest traits of creativity, openness, and neuroticism, will be likely to think that they have a queer/trans/nonbinary personality.

Since this archetype loves identity labels, there may also be utility in understanding these girls using the Myers-Briggs or MBTI personality inventory and the corresponding INFJ profile—the supposed rarest personality type of all. INFJ standing for Introverted-Intuitive-Feeling-Judging is known archetypally as The Advocate or The Counselor. These people can often feel like walking-contradictions due to their complex natures.

While The Enneagram and MBTI are more archetypal shorthand and not as scientifically based like The Big 5 Personality Spectrum, viewing these types of girls through alternative lenses than mental disorders, conditions, and pathologies can be a healthier and more holistic route to understanding, empathizing, and helping these girls and young women to thrive in authenticity and see their self-value.

Struggles for This Archetype

Growing up as a sensitive, quirky, artistic, weird girl is often a difficult or even traumatic experience. As kids and teens these girls tend not to flourish because they:

  1. Are so sensitive (emotionally and sensorially) that the outside world is an intimidating, overwhelming and confusing place they’d rather not participate in.
  2. Retreat too heavily into their inner worlds and/or online to escape from the outside chaos.
  3. Are both developmentally delayed and advanced in conflicting ways which inhibit typical growth alongside peers.
  4. Have social difficulties and struggle with relationships and outer-world integration.
  5. Are offbeat, so it’s challenging to find others to connect with at the same wavelength.
  6. May be vulnerable to intense group-think or cults once they finally find a community to relate to due prolonged isolation and attachment voids.
  7. Are still learning to deal with their heavy emotions and are often depressed, anxious, and ashamed.
  8. Are insecure about their place in the world because they are idealistic and want to make a big difference, but feel overwhelmed, and self-doubting.
  9. Have not yet embraced their personality strengths, and only focus on perceived flaws or weaknesses (which may be irrationally heightened due to idealism and analytical comparison to others.)
  10. Have confusion making decisions, choosing career paths, and activities which work for them due to divergent thought and jack of all trades behaviors.
  11. Might have developed mental health issues that are distracting from, and impeding, their gifts from being recognized or grown to fruition.
  12. Are too focused on specific labels and diagnosis with a fixed mindset vs. learning about, growing into, and transcending the limitations of their human personalities.
  13. Are avoidantly focused on outside issues and social justice concerns, or codependency in relationships as a distraction from their inner problems or fears.
  14. May be underdeveloped in resiliency, perfectionistic, and give up easily; lacking motivation and an internal locus of control to overcome fear and develop courage.
  15. May lack self-competency to progress in life, and end up feeling stuck in endless loops of intense thoughts, emotions, fears, and self-destructive or suicidal behavior.

Why Personality is Confused with Gender Identity

All these concerns are uniquely human, and experienced by everyone, especially teenagers and young adults, but for this type of girl/woman, even “light” or “basic” tasks can be extra difficult due to added layers of intensity and depth of emotions, thoughts, weirdness, and identity fluidity which needs to be managed, maintained, and healthily integrated. Setting other issues like social conditioning, misogyny, sexual trauma, or politics aside for the sake of examining these raw traits, is it any wonder that masses of teen girls and young women are mentally opting out of having to exist this way?

  • The question is not “why are all these girls identifying as trans/queer/nonbinary?” The question is why wouldn’t they?

Why wouldn’t a girl like this be not only exorbitantly confused about their identity and how they fit and track within the world, but also desire any pathway out of the burden of Being. The chaos and physiological rollercoaster of Being Like That. (Again, taking away the compounding variables of misogyny, media, politics, and social roles.)

Existence is toil enough, but add hyper-awareness, hyper-criticism, hyper-fixation, hyper-emotion, and being even slightly, or highly eccentric, with few tangible, and connected embodied experiences that don’t involve online interaction or prescriptive doctrines of What Truth Is from fellow disembodied, emotionally unstable, cerebral, and naïve young people, or unnuanced critiques from ignorant or immature adults in the media, and it becomes obvious why rapid adoption of gender identity labels as anything other than “girl” are happening.

Most people do not want to be the Weird Girl. It’s far more appealing to be the Queer Enby, or The Trans Boy. But look underneath these labels and see what’s there, the inner quirky, sensitive, artistic, weird girl. Being queer/trans/nonbinary seems like the perfect way to contend with every concern because socially and politically, these gender labels carry massive weight, social prestige, and meaning, that teens and young people are not mature enough to fully understand, but latch onto with fervor.

Yet being trans-identified can be a distraction from developing resiliency or a truly well-rounded personality or lifestyle that would better utilize this archetype’s gifts and skills. As young adults, they may struggle to have confidence and thrive. Years of ruminating on being different or having identity confusion can worsen insecurity and build defensiveness. They can be narcissistic or emotionally immature for the same reasons, as seen in viral Tiktok videos of teens and young women with disturbing mental health issues, and trendy rants on social justice and queer issues.

These easily-mockable neon-haired, tattooed, pierced, disruptive, punkish, flamboyant, obnoxious, volatile, irrational, and unhinged young girls, are in my estimation, perfectly fitting the archetype of the sensitive, quirky, artistic, weird girl. They are unfortunate and tragic reminders of how this archetype can manifest if not cultivated healthily.

Their capacity for empathy and idealism turns into jaded disappointment at the world and themselves. Although there also may be higher rates of abuse or trauma for this group, it can be harrowing just being a sensitive nonconformist who is beaten down routinely while going through puberty. This can be worsened if the girl has a sense of always feeling blamed by family or society for being “mentally ill”, aka falling under the shorthand of “weird.” They may defensively subvert this insecurity into aggrandizing of mental health disorders, use ironic humor to cope, or have an obsession with normalization of legitimate psychological or physical health issues like the DSD, anorexia, BPD, NPD, trans acceptance (body-modification and cosmetic surgery promotions), and fat positivity movements.

Take this example; before I called myself Funk God, I had a blog URL under “Depression Jesus”… The subversion of “bad funks into good funks” is like both, but while Depression Jesus embodies shallow nihilism and self-loathing focused on shame and self-hate, Funk God embodies embracing one’s quirks, and a full integration of the pros and cons of existing as this archetype, including all the chaos, positive, and negative. under Being Funky.

Hope for the Sensitive, Quirky, Artistic, Weird Girl

I bear some optimistic news from my years of toiling as the sensitive, quirky, artistic weird girl, and from research and observation of the archetypal population; not all big emotions or psychological struggles are mental illnesses. Mental disorders describe traits and symptoms of normal human issues which arise into disruptive levels that need treatment, but disorders are still representative of the human condition and existence we all have the capacity to experience.

The archetypal FTM would benefit from hearing this because these girls are highly intelligent, and have the makings of future independent thinkers and successful adults, if they could grow into more competent and secure young women. They could make amazing assets in any field, especially as teachers, artists, writers, and healers, once they’ve matured and became grounded. Once they start speaking out and using their own voices instead of pleasing others, or insecurely defending their differences to those who don’t understand, they will find pride in how useful and important their unique traits are.

Part of how I’ve realized this archetype, is studying not only trans and nonbinary movement culture, but also the detransiton movement. Gorwing numbers of detrans women who share their experiences often note identical traits or behaviors to the list I compiled, describing the reasons they thought they were trans or nonbinary. Every story is similar; all fall under the archetypal FTM outline, and mothers of trans-identified daughters, and women of older generations, agree that this list describes their experiences of which they all believe would have appeared as “gender dysphoria”, or manifested as a gender-identity, had they been born in today’s culture which possess the technology and nihilism to promote body-modification, and medicalization of non-conformities.

Studying detrans women’s stories gives hope to the sensitive, quirky, artistic, weird girls because many detransitioners epitomize a radical version of the archetype (often with added traumas) but show an even clearer evolution from Insecurity and Confusion to Bold Growth and Strength in oneself.

Many are writing, teaching, practicing psychology, or embracing the arts to find, and grow into, authentic versions of a higher self on this confusing planet. We can see the same trends across currently identified queer/trans and non-binary women who fit this archetype, but with the remaining ideology, black and white thinking, uncontrolled neuroticism, people-pleasing, or misguided anarchism/social justice, and general immaturity intact. That isn’t to say detransitioners can’t struggle with these behaviors, but coming out the other side of ideology, identity crisis and a mixed bag of traumas and disorders, is a humbling experience which cracks open the psyche to elevate more nuanced and critical thoughts with less cognitive dissonance.

It is no wonder, then, that detransitioners are often praised for being “articulate”, “wise” and “insightful”; we are often the same archetype of girls who were born to be this way, and are now realizing it having it had a rude awakening of the complexities of reality, of our own shortcomings, and how we took the wrong turn on the path towards transcendence and self-actualization. As an upside to all that is happening with the trans and nonbinary movements in harming people, there will at least, be a countercultural movement of quirky, sensitive, artistic, weird young women gaining courage and speaking fluently on their experiences and sharing wisdom with others to help bring awareness to the nuances of the human condition, and to those most vulnerable to be led down destructive roads.

It is at worst abusive, neglectful, and traumatic, and at best a disfavor and limitation to these sensitive, artistic, quirky, weird girls to pass off their complex and deep thoughts, feelings, and personalities with a “gender identity” and affirm them as being the opposite sex, or being untethered to a sex at all, instead of teaching and encouraging them to embrace themselves as they are so they may begin to practice acceptance and nonjudgement, and evolve into the spectacularly funky women they could become. If there’s one thing I hope to achieve through spreading the gospel of funk, it’s to let young girls and women know that it’s not only okay to be funky, but you can even become a god at it if you lean into your sensitive, quirky, artistic, weirdness ;)

To learn more about this archetype, watch this video essay I recorded as an in-depth breakdown of the Sensitive, Quirky, Artistic, Weird Girl.

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Let unique girls be unique girls.

Instead of lying to them by telling them they're not girls, because girls can't be unique.

Or that there's something wrong with them and they need to be medically "fixed."

"Unique" - sensitive, quirky, artistic, weird - is not a medical condition.