If you had a child by choice, you:
- signed up for an autistic child
- signed up for a trans child
- signed up for a lgbq+ child
- signed up for a mentally ill child
- signed up for a disabled child
- signed up for a child with "conditions"
- signed up for a rebellious child
- signed up for a kid. in any way, shape, or form of being, it's your child, and you signed up for it.
And you are not:
- the victim in any of these fucking situations for gods sake
whoop there it is
surviving abuse at an early age leaves many people feeling like they aren’t able to appropriately form connections with other people. some people form attachments too quickly, while others are avoidant of relationships. both of these responses are normal, and neither mean that you’re broken! over time, these can change as you recover.
It is crucial for deeper level recovery that we learn that feelings of fear, shame and guilt are sometimes signs that we have said or done the right thing.
They are emotional flashbacks to how we were traumatized for trying to claim normal human privileges.
Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving, Pete Walker
I have a hard time giving people straight answers because being raised in an abusive family taught me that every question is a trap.
