I’m learning self acceptance now, it’s over for you bitches
I got this comment on a story from my Other AO3 Account this morning.
(Info redacted because I prefer keeping these accounts separate but no one follows me on the side blog I have for that account.)
The story was posted almost a year ago and is relatively “popular” by my average statistics even though it has tropes and themes that are big turnoffs for a lot of people (hence separate accounts). This popularity is undoubtedly because it’s a Marvel Loki story and that fandom is massive.
So there is obviously an algorithm or a bot scrubbing ao3 statistics and leaving this comment on fics that meet a certain metric with the main character of the fic inserted into the comment.
I had a little time to kill this morning so I decided to investigate further. And y’all this is so predatory. Come on this journey with me. It made me mad. It may make you mad.
First, if you go to Webnovel’s website, you HAVE to choose between male lead or female lead stories before you can go any further. WTF?
And that’s weird, but this gets so much worse. This is basically a pay-to-read site that has different subscription models. Which… okay BUT! The authors don’t get paid! Look at that comment again. They’re promising a supportive and nurturing community, but zero monetary compensation. It’s basically, “post your stuff here so we can get paid and you can get… nice vibes?” I mean look at this Orwellian writing:
Using the phrase “pay-to-read model” in the same sentence as “qualitative changes in lifestyles for authors” deliberately makes you think that you can get paid and maybe even make a living on this website. But that’s not actually what it says and authors will not receive one red cent.
Oh but wait, the worst is still to come. In case this breaks containment (which I kind of hope it does) this is where I mention that I’m a lawyer in the US.
I don’t do intellectual property or copyright law but I do read and write contracts for a living. So I went to look at their terms of service. It was fun!
Highlights the first, in which Webnovel gets a license to do basically whatever they want with content you post on their site. This is how they get to be paid for people reading authors’ writing without paying them anything.
Highlights the second, in which Webnovel takes no responsibility for illegally profiting off of fan fic. This all says that the writer is 100% responsible for everything the writer posts (even though only Webnovel is making money from it).
Highlights the third which say that by posting, the author is representing that they have the legal right to use and to let Webnovel use the content according to these terms. So if a writer posts fan fiction and Webnovel makes money from people reading the fan fiction, and the House of the Mouse catches wise, these sections say that that’s ALL on the writer.
So that’s a little skeevy to start off with but the thing that is seriously shitty and made me make this post was that these assholes are coming to ao3. They are actively recruiting people in comments on their fan fiction. And they are saying they are big fans of the character you’re writing about and that they share your interests.
They are recruiting fan fiction writers and giving every impression that you can make money from posting fan fiction on their site and hiding the fact that you absolutely cannot but they can make money off of you while you try, deep in their terms of service which no one but a lawyer who writes fan fic and has some time to kill will read.
I see posts on here regularly from people who don’t understand how this stuff works, don’t understand that they (and others) can not legally make a financial profit from fan fiction. And there are tons of people who will not take the time to dig into the details.
Don’t deal with these bastards. Fuck Webnovel.
I Am Not Your Asian American Doll: a comic for AAPI Heritage Month 2023
I usually spend a lot of time editing and fine-tuning my comics so that they come across as polite and inoffensive. But honestly, I’m really tired of the way Asian cultures and countries are treated / talked about while Asian people themselves are excluded, and thought it was about time I really let my rage out lol.
id in alt
can someone please get these hoes under control i'm BUSY
The fact that Cherry’s and Souichi’s voice actor is the same. I am deceased.
I wish all skateboarding women a very pleasant evening.
You’re not a bad sub if:
Edging isn’t for you.
Denial isn’t for you.
Pain isn’t for you.
Anal isn’t for you.
Oral isn’t for you.
You’re also not a bad sub if you need to safeword, if your limits are different today, if you have chronic conditions or mental health struggles that limit you more than you’d like.
There’s so many posts that talk about the “ways to be a good sub” and honestly there is no one way and it’s okay to do what’s right for you. You’re not a bad sub at all.
Louder for everyone to hear!
And also, because she has been discovering being a dominant with our time together:
You're not a bad dom/me if:
Humiliating others isn't for you
Hurting others isn't for you
Oral isn't for you
Denial isn't for you
Total power exchange isn't for you
Bondage isn't for you
And so on, and so forth. Being a dominant doesn't mean you have to be all powerful and all knowing. It doesn't mean you can't safe word out of a scene that you find uncomfortable. It doesn't mean you can't drop after a really intense play session.
N ❤️
not to be emotional on main but fanfiction is a gift and it’s so fundamentally human to tell each other stories and i am deeply grateful to have that in my life. thank you all for adding so much emotion and meaning to the world with your words
matchablossom parenting
mostly mushy MBs from the past few months!
Updated Library For Kinksters
I completed some major changes to the Library For Kinksters. Here is the update…
Aftercare
- Aftercare 101
- Aftercare For Dominants
- Coping With Emotional Subdrop
- Dom Drop
- How To Make A Sub Drop Kit
- Online Aftercare
- sub/Dom Space, sub/Dom Drop and Aftercare
- Subdrop and Aftercare
- Subspace and Aftercare
Consent
Doms, Daddies & Masters
- 7 Fundamental Characteristics of A Daddy Dom
- 12 Characteristics Of An Ideal Submissive
- 25 Things Daddies Should Do For Their Littles
- 30 Rules For A Modern Gentleman
- 45 Things A Girl Wants, But Won’t Ask For
- 50 Rules for Daddies
- 100 Sweet Things You Can Do For Your Princess
- 101 Things To Do To Make Your Slave Feel Owned (loved)
- Alternative Names For “Daddy”
- Alternative Domme Titles
- Aspects Of Control
- Asserting Ownership - Rules
- Daddy Up!
- Defining A Daddy Dom
- Dominants Need Training Also
- Fun Tasks Daddies Can Give Their Littles
- Help For New Doms
- How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive
- How To Be A Good Dominant
- How to Find a Submissive
- Knowing when to be a Dom and when to be her Man
- New to DDLG - A Daddy Dom
- Observations On Doms By A Submissive
- So you want to be a Dom?
- So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate her
- Some Little Rules All Daddies Should Know
- The Dom Commandments
- Things for Daddies to Keep in Mind
- What Being A Dom Is About - A Submissive’s Perspective
- What does the title Daddy mean?
- What is a Daddy Dom?
- What is a Daddy Dom Mentor?
- What It Means To Be A Dominant
- What Makes A Good Dominant
Littles, Subs & Slaves
- 6 Questions Every Submissive Needs To Ask Her Potential Dominant
- 7 Common Types of Submissives
- 10 Tips For Living With A Sadist
- 10 Things A Dominant Needs From A Submissive
- 11 Red Flags Of An Abusive Dominant
- 26 Baby Girl Jobs
- 50 Things You Can Do For Your Daddy
- A Bottom’s Responsibility
- A Dominant’s Advice To His Submissive
- A Man Who Knows You…
- A Good Dom vs. A Bad Dom
- Acid Test For Subs
- Ask A Million And One Questions
- Attraction to DD/lg: A Little’s Perspective
- Baby girl or little? A brief introduction
- Care and feeding of Daddies
- Characteristics Of A Good Daddy
- Coaxing The Daddy Dom Out Of Your Partner
- Feminist Submissive
- Finding Your Dominant
- Good Rules For Middles and Littles To Live By
- Guide For Young Newbie Sub Girls
- How a Dom Behaves Shows How He Will Behave Towards You.
- “How do I find Daddy?” A guide to help you safely find the Daddy you’re looking for.
- How Does A Submissive Ask for Something from Their Dominant?
- How To Find A Dom
- How to Take Proper Care of Your Dom
- I Solemnly Swear I Will Not Do This To Daddy
- Novice Submissives
- Physical abuse of littles - it is never OK
- Signs Of A Fake ‘Dominant’
- Stuff no one tells you about submission, until the spreader bar is on and you are trapped.
- Submissives, Learning to Trust Your Instincts
- Submissive Pride
- Submissive Traits - Intelligence
- Things My Dream Daddy Would Say To Me
- What is a Little?
- When newbie subs, with asinine “doms,” need to run away.
- Why I call him Daddy
- Your Rights As A Submissive
Long Distance Relationships
- 10 Ways To Survive A Long Distance Relationship
- Getting The Most Out Of A Long Distance Relationship
- How To Make Long Distance Relationships Work
- Long Distance Relationships - Tools To Cope
- Long Distance Relationships (LDR) Contemplation: Sticking with plans
- The Long Distance D/s Relationship
Mental Health
- BDSM practitioners ‘healthier and less neurotic’ than ‘vanilla’ peers
- Body image & BDSM
- How to Get Over Feeling Sad
- Is BDSM normal?
- Love your Vulva – a self-esteem guide to your sensitive bits!
- Managing bipolar disorder in a D/S relationship
- Meditation And Mindfulness
- On Cutting
- Steps For Letting Go of Painful Memories
- Things to Do When You’re Anxious, Scared, or Just Need a Distraction
- Tips for Recovering from Codependency
- What Are Anxiety Disorders? (Infographic)
- Why Do I Feel Unloveable?
Relationships
- 10 Habits of Happy Couples
- 10 Top Communication Mistakes
- 10 Types of Emotional Manipulators
- 12 Relationship Truths We Often Forget
- 50 Best Ways To Say “I Love You”
- BDSM Breakups: All Good Things Must Come to an End
- BDSM: Control Goes Both Ways
- Collars and Collaring - A Personal Perspective
- Communication Is Key
- Concept Daddy Dom/Little Girl Relationships
- Daddy Doms and their little girls
- Daddy Doms, Baby Girls, Little Boys And More
- Date Night In A Jar
- DD/lg In Public
- D/s and Domestication
- Factors That Make A Relationship
- Finding Love When You Least Expect It
- Finding Others with Common (Adult) Interests
- How To Be Present In Your Relationships
- How To Build A Healthy Relationship
- How To Get What You Want In A Relationship
- How To Know When You’ve Found “The One”
- How To Take Your Relationship To The Next Level
- Importance Of Confidence In RelationshipsImportance Of Trust In A Relationship
- Key Ingredients of a Happy and Healthy Relationship
- Needy Girls Are Daddy Dom Bait
- Relationship Advice To Follow, And What To Ignore
- Searching for a D/s partner?
- Self-Fulfilling Prophecies In Relationships
- Stop Arguments Before They Start
- The Rewards of a Submissive
- Types Of Relationship Insecurity
- Well-Balanced Power Exchange Relationship
- What Is Real Love?
- When He Doesn’t Call
- Why Love Makes A Night Of Kink Even Better
Safety
- Another life ruined because of the morality police
- Bondage Basic Safety: Crops, Paddles & Bondage!
- Kinks, Risks, How To And Why Sometimes You Shouldn’t
- Limits in BDSM
- What is Emotional Abuse?
Self Improvement
- 10 Tips for Creating a Happier Life
- 10 Steps To Self Care
- 10 Ways To Be Happy
- 10 Truths To Live By
- Guaranteed Ways To Be More Attractive
- How to be Yourself
- How To Deal With Your Enemies
- How To Ignore Haters
- How to Recognize a Toxic Friend
- How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
- Slut Shaming Explained
- Tips for Healing a Broken Heart
- What are the Signs of a Jealous Friend?
Sex
- 50 Cunnilingus Tips from Women
- Basics of Breath Play
- D/s or Kinky Sex?
- Fetishes Explained
- How To Make A Girl Squirt
- How To Tell Your Son About Sex
- Intersection of BDSM and Queer Heterosexuality
- Sensual Biting
- Sex: Myths & Stereotypes
- Sex: Practical Details
- Sex: Pregnancy and Birth Control
- So You Want To Try Anal? A Practical Guide For Women
- Squirting Educational Video
- Squirting Notes
Toys
Training
- 10 Considerations for Inexperienced Subs
- 30 Things You Can Do For Your Human Kitten
- 40 Very Important DD/lg Facts
- Age Play: A Short Guide
- BDSM for Beginners: Safe and Affordable Play
- DEFINED: SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) & RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink)
- Etiquette in BDSM Part 1
- Etiquette in BDSM Part 2
- Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 1 - Beginnings
- Exploring the D/s Lifestyle: Part 2 - The Dominant Mind
- Glossary of BDSM Terms
- Guide To Blood Play
- Guide To Bruising
- Guide To Talking Dirty
- Guide To Wax Play
- How Do I Get Started In BDSM?
- How to Make a Blanket Fort/Cuddle Nest
- How To Make A Comfort Box
- Introduction To BDSM
- Newbie’s Guide To Vaginal Fisting
- Punishments in BDSM Relationships
- Red Flags For Online BDSM Relationships
- Some Thoughts On Rules
- The Leash Has Two Ends - Responsibility
- The Need For Rules and Discipline
- Topping from the bottom
Remember: both doms and subs can have red flags (I’ve actually used some of these to weed out concerning subs for years). Kink isn’t one-way, we have fun play dynamics but that involves communication, honesty, & trust on both sides
Next stop... Matchablossom!!! 🚏
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top 5 bl's (pls i need recommendations)<3
Hello Nonnie!!!!!
omg this is so late sorry sorry!
honestly, i haven't watched many BLs.....and you might have already watched the ones i'm about to list but here's my list
- KinnPorsche the Series
- Not Me the Series
- Bad Buddy the Series
- Cherry Magic
- Old Fashioned Cupcake
There are some other that are worth mentioning...i'll start with the ones I've watched and then I'll list the ones that i plan to watch or have heard a lot about
- We Best Love (it has a sequel too)
- Cutie Pie the Series
- Lovely Writer the Series (the 'funny' music is a little annoying btw)
- Pornographer and its sequel Mood Indigo (the series is beautiful....i love it) (oh...and it's japanese...so it comes with the japanese brand of angst as well <3)
- Addicted
- Semantic Error
- The Eclipse
- Vice-Versa
- The HIStory series (you might want to research a bit about the various instalments and pick and choose which you would like to watch...the instalments are independent of each other with different cast and different characters)
- I Told Sunset About You (it has a sequel too)
- Gaya Sa Pelikula
- 180 Degree Longitude Passes Through Us
- Love in the Air
the only chinese series I've watched is The Untamed..it is LONG and it's a 'bromance' (because of censorship) but i'm still mentioning it here coz Lan Wangji is fucking awesome (and Wang Yibo is my babyboy)
hope this helps! <33
Older version of Reki anyone?! He's fixing Langa's skateboard 🤧
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No, kids should not have unsupervised acess to the internet. Yes, I got that and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. Its a paradox.
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