Avatar

Im Not Queer

@radfemwarrior-blog

/15/ White/leo/Ravenclaw/@les-bi-aes is my joint aesthetic blog

this blog hates donald trump

Look how many people hate him. I’m pretty damn happy about that 😁😁😁😁😁😁

All I want is this post to get a small amount of a million notes

All I want is this to be the most popular post in the history of this site

Let’s make the notes disappear y'all

Grow baby grow

If a lesbian went up to a straight woman and told her “your aversion to pussy is transphobic and you should really consider why it is that you like dick like why are you reducing men to their dicks” She would be called predatory. Why is it any different for transbians?

This just made me think about all those cute posts that lesbians have made on here like “sorry boys, ladies do it better” or literally any version of that and how everyone flips the fuck out and calls the OP a predator…but then a transbian posts “uwu punch cisbians who won’t lick my scrote” and everyone pisses themselves with excitement and praise for the brave violent man

Remember that post by a lesbian that was like “I don’t understand how women are attracted to males” in like a joking tone and like 800 people swarmed her and called her predatory and shit and it turns out she was like 16? Yeah.

Yea lmao. Tooiconic became a meme that day.

When I was still married to my ex husband and I refused to have sex with him he kicked in a wall. He put his foot through the wall again and again until his foot got stuck and he fell over. Another time he punched a hole in a closet door by my head. He also threw a wine bottle at my head and it missed and lodged into the wall.  It stayed there. Then he took a lamp and jumped on it until it was flattened. One time he took our son’s stroller and smashed it to pieces. One time he emptied a bookcase full of books on his own head. One time he threw every shoe in the house at me for refusing him sex. One time he whipped me with a wet towel and threw me down the stairs. Eventually, he got tired of the tantrums when I said no and just started raping me. Many people have told me what a nice guy he is, how he seems like a nice, gentle, quiet, good guy.

Reblog if you wanna see more gay couples in TV shows

Reblog if you wanna see more lesbian couples in TV shows

Reblog if you wanna see more transgender people who are in relationships in TV shows

Hey what part of terfs don’t touch do you fools not understand

I agree with what you’re saying. What difference does it make?

The bit in which you post this on a public site, and then get pissy when people reblog it…

Wait so you guys are admitting trans people need more representation and need to be nromalized? That’s very nice of you :)

Actually, yes. I would like to see sensible representation of transgender individuals in media. I would have objections to seeing young chiodren pushed to taken hormone blockers for simply being gnc, and I think that an honest look at the difficulties would be helpful. A happy, adjusted trans individual would be a great way to begin to show people who are often isolated that their identity need not revolve entirely around their transgender status, it could be used to show differing viewpoints on hormones, surgery,  and to educate on the necessity of dysphoria to be trans, it could even show a character using cbt to control or cope with their dysphoria etc.

I wouldn’t be particularly happy to see a lesbiann haracter date a TIM, because she would no longer be a lesbian, and I think there is great damage in saying lesbians should be attracted to men - because, no matter how well someone might passs, they are their biological sex, and orientation is based on sex, not somebody’s pronouns

You raise some very good points, there’s a lot of misinformation floating around about trans people and id rather have no trans representation than have media reinforcing harmful ideas like children transitioning.

I’d like to understand your ideas around “biological sex”, people aren’t attracted to you due to DNA but primary and secondary sex characteristics. I don’t see why a lesbian wouldn’t have the capacity (not to be confused with obligation) to be attracted to a fully transitioned trans woman in this regard.

plastic surgery doesn’t change your sex. there are elements to attraction that are more subtle. biochemical. did you know gay blind ppl exist? https://www.buzzfeed.com/ryanschocket2/9-blind-gay-people-share-how-they-first-knew-they-were-gay bc homosexuality is genetic and we don’t become attracted to the opposite sex bc they change their hair and pronouns. this also explains why when you read trans and gay history, you had trans men in the lesbian community and gay men with trans women. bc we’re attracted to the same sex and that makes sense. most heterosexual trans women don’t pass by a mile and it’s unfair when ppl cite gay trans women who conform to femininity as why lesbians should care. it’s like when straight ppl ask us why we don’t date men if we date girls who look like men. it’s bc we’re homosexual.

trans women can identify as women and lesbians can be homosexual at the same time. one is about gender the other is about sex. they don’t cancel each other out.

^^ that is very interesting and i don’t know how i have never thought of blind gay people.

do you have any sources on how homosexuality functions genetics/epigenetics wise and how the presence of those genes influences the brain? i can only remember one about twins in which one of them is gay and the other isn’t and the whole hormones and epigenetics thing.

how does our brain successfully identify the sex of other people?

the research on trans brains uncovered more potential brain evidence for homosexuality bc what they have in common with the opposite sex is true for gay trans ppl but not the heterosexual ones. gender identity disorder is called a pre homosexual condition by doctors who study the origins of sexual orientation.

Dr. Zucker admits that there are complex social and ethical issues surrounding the politics of sex and gender in postmodern Western culture. He note that the “most acute ethical issue may concern the relation between GID and a later homosexual sexual orientation. Follow-up studies of boys who have GID that largely is untreated, indicated that homosexuality is the most common long-term psychosexual outcome.”

Zucker says that clinicians have an ethical obligation to inform parents of the relationship between GID and homosexuality. Clinical experience suggests that psychosexual treatments are effective in reducing gender dysphoria and that individual counseling and parental counseling are both effective methods of treating GID.

thank u!

the only thing i knew about sex at the age of nine was that

1) it was for mommies and daddies who were married;

2) it made me, my five year old sister, and my baby brother.

i learned everything i knew about sex from the internet while secretly browsing grownup sites on my 4th generation ipod touch i earned for doing so well at a piano recital. because of the nature of, you know, men and their internet porn, i learned that my sexual role as a woman was to be slapped and pissed on and tied up. i didn’t know what healthy sex was. i didn’t know it should be mutually consensual, or that it was okay to want sex with girls. i didn’t know that sex should be good for both people. i learned that sex would hurt, and that sex was about men and men only, and that i would be forced into sex whether i liked it or not, and that it was normal to have sex with big, burly, grown men as a teenager. i learned it was normal to cry during sex. i was scared of sex for so many years because of that, and the way i was exposed to sex at a young age led to the inappropriate and traumatic sexual encounters i had (occasionally with older people) later on in my teen years.

the day i got my first period, i was ten-and-a-half. i was swimming in the river with my best friend, and when i got out to go to the bathroom, i noticed brown blood on the inside of my mint-green tankini bottom. i knew what a period was, but i hid it from my mother in shame. she found out, eventually, of course. she told me, you have a woman’s body now, and if you have sex, you could have a baby. all i heard was, you have a woman’s body.

i started shaving my vulva when i was eleven, because i saw memes on memegenerator about how disgusting “hairy pussy” was. i wanted to be sexy. i was eleven years old, and all i wanted was to be sexy. it hurt, and it itched, and it made me uncomfortable, and i’d sometimes nick my labia with the razor, but i did it anyway, because i didn’t want to have a nasty, “hairy pussy.”

eleven was the age i first started getting pinched on the EL. i was an early bloomer: i had B-cup breasts already, and my menstrual cycle was regular enough that i could keep a calendar. i started wearing a full face of makeup to school and buying shorts that rode all the way up my skinny twelve-year-old thighs. i remember the day i stopped jumping off the swings the summer after fifth grade. skinned knees weren’t sexy. smooth, flawless legs were sexy, and i was a sexy girl. i was probably the sexiest little girl in the whole world. my parents hated it. they told me i was too young, but i knew the truth. my body was older, maybe 17 or 18, so my brain must be, too.

when i was twelve, i had a secret kik account that my parents didn’t know about. i used it to message strangers. i made all sorts of friends. i wasn’t stupid. i used a fake name. never showed my face. one of my friends asked me for a bra picture. i was a cool girl, right, i was sexy, so i sent him a picture of me in front of my bedroom mirror in my little white training bra with the blue butterflies.

sexy, he said.

that was all i wanted.

i’m not typing out all this bullshit because i think it’s something special. i’m typing it out because it’s not. i’m typing it out because i see the same thing happening to my little sister. i’m typing it out because i see the same thing happening to that little millie bobbie brown, sexiest actress at thirteen. i’m typing it out because i’m sixteen years old now, a girl in the eyes of the law and a woman in the eyes of men.

mothers, talk to your daughters. tell them to jump off the swingset and skin their knees. tell them to get dirt on their dresses. tell them that they’re a woman on their 18th birthday, not at ten-and-a-half on the first day of their menstrual cycle. the world is confused. the world is sick. if your daughters don’t hear about how to treat their bodies from you, they’ll hear it from the sick, sick world, and they’ll do the things i did.

let girls be girls.

don’t force womanhood on little girls.

i encourage men to reblog this post

This is so important,,,

Avatar

dreamy asks

Avatar
1. what is your favourite plant?
2. do you believe in aliens?
3. name three artists ( musical or art ) that have inspired you or impacted you.
4. who are your favourite people in the world?
5. talk about your crush or someone you love.
6. what is your favourite dog breed?
7. write a short story or poem about what your favourite season feels like to you.
8. what are your favourite names?
9. do you enjoy reptiles as pets? why or why not?
10. how does art or music make you feel?
11. do you prefer the beach or the mountains?
12. indoor gardens or outside gardens?
13. do you like long hair or short hair?
14. what is your favourite childhood memory?
15. what is the dreamiest/most surreal thing that has ever happened to you?
16. where do you feel time stop?
17. what is your favourite breed of cat?
18. are you pro freckle?
19. what is your favourite thing right now?
20. what is your hidden talent? (example: memory, double joints, etc. )
21. what is the best dream you’ve ever had?
22. are you a good plant owner?
23. what is your favourite article of clothing?
24. how many languages do you know?
25. what is your dream vacation?
26. do you believe in zodiacs/horoscopes?
27. if you could have any superpower, what would it be?
28. who is the most unproblematic person you know?
29. do you know how beautiful you are?
30. what is your favourite feeling?
31. what is your favourite cold drink?
32. what is your favourite hot drink?
33. what has been the highlight of your week?
34. who are your favourite tumblrs?
35. what are your favourite sounds?
36. what is your aesthetic of choice?
37. if you could spend a day with anyone, who would it be?
38. do you like anons? why or why not?
39. what is the nicest thing someone has ever said about you?
40. list the top five things you love about yourself or your life.
41. have you ever seen the ocean?

wtf.. tumblr really restored this bigot’s blog

@staff she made art of boiling trans ppl??

I’m so glad she’s back ❤️❤️❤️❤️

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Funny that you are upset against violence against you but are completely okay with “punch Terfs” and the rape threats that we receive daily

i hate being around other gay people and i fucking hate gay people my age. i go to the lgbtq “youth group” and all these fucking freaks are 20 year old “artists” using bunself pronouns claiming asexuals are oppressed as black people and asking me if im japanese or mexican and talking about steven fucking universe

im homophobic and gay like tyler the creator and if i see you with a rainbow undercut i throw rocks at you

Rossgellerphobic - someone who is repulsed and disgusted by Ross Geller from the hit TV show FRIENDS. 

This is what I identify as

smash that mf reblog if u hate pedophiles

You know that post with the broken likes? If this doesn’t get enough reblogs to crash the icon then I’m fucking rioting

yknow most of the time when a woman makes feminist art/poetry/etc. about femaleness, she’s not trying to speak for all women, she’s talking about her own experience of being female. your lived experiences by nature are not inclusive of the experiences of other people. it would be dumb for me to write a poem about asian womanhood bc i am not asian. (it wouldn’t be dumb to share an asian woman’s poem so that people see it, though.) i think people view intersectional feminism as “how can i make MY feminism inclusive” but imo it should be more about “how can i share my perspective and listen to others”. 

Yes!

Telling women to reduce their art about womanhood to the vaguest most general art possible so that it can be “relatable” to all experiences is the opposite of productive or intersectional.

Personal experience, anger, rage, life, culture, and biology should ALL be aspects of feminist art. Womanhood isn’t one narrative, and womanhood certainly isn’t one specific passive, male-friendly, sterile, feminine, narrative divorced from the artist and her life/body/culture.

!!!!!

Women are brought up to make ourselves small, to not speak, and to never consider our own experiences meaningful. You can boost other women’s voices (especially ones that aren’t typically heard) without feeling the need to minimize your own… and you can stop silencing women you don’t want to hear whenever she wasn’t speaking about you. I don’t care if I think someone’s art about her life is cheesy or feel like I’ve seen it before, frankly – keep talking, keep painting, keep singing, keep writing. Keep making. We need to hear each other AND we need to speak about our selves. These aren’t mutually exclusive, in fact, they’re mutually reinforcing.

What doesn’t make you a woman :

- Wearing dresses and/or makeup

- Being soft, delicate, gentle

- Noticing how misogynistic most men are and not wanting to align yourself with them

- Wishing you were a woman

- Thinking that something is wrong with your body and that it must be changed

- Going through with this change ; taking hormones and cutting off your penis

What makes you a woman :

- Being biologically female

Alright let’s do this 😩

@brave-deer-prince “woman” is not a feeling or an aesthetic. If I say I’m a goldfish does that make me a goldfish?

You can’t say your a women if you can’t even explain what that is