im glad more emotionally inuitive and prospective parenting is becoming a Thing^tm, but im starting to get nervous that its convincing some of y'all that children never do Anything Wrong unless its for some deep psychologically unaddressed needs

like sometimes small children do shit because they think chaos is funny and i NEED y'all to recognize that.

part of child growth and development is just testing parent/adult authority to learn what the boundaries are. its not always super deep.

Chaos is funny. Your point stands but they're right about chaos being funny.

“How to cold start your pupper”

(Source)

Bacon from a dream!

I love the way the pup sputters slowly to life like one of those old hand-cranked WWI aeroplanes!!!

Dominant…

The Marvelettes: Girl Groups of the 1960s (Look & Listen)…

Please Mr. Postman…Motown’s 1st number one pop hit, 1961. L to R: Katharine Anderson, Wanda Rogers, Gladys Horton

1955 Cole Animal pattern swimsuit advertising

During my first month with my therapist, I was given this worksheet to read and work on. She noticed that while I was talking with her, that my thoughts followed a lot of these. I wasn’t aware that my anxiety had brought me down paths of low self-worth and stinky thinking.  After a couple of weeks of talking with her, she gave me this worksheet to work on. 

While, at first, I thought these weren’t going to work out, I was very surprised to see just how easy they were to use . My homework at that time was to identify which sort of thinking I used on the regular and which ones would best challenge them for me. So, what do you think? Do any of the maladaptive thinking patterns sound like you? which ways would you like to untwist your thinking? 

The IDF used yesterday's confusion towards the elections to hide the fact they bulldozed an entire Palestinian village to promote annexation, which is a war crime and one of their many ways to go about ethnically cleansing us.

Femaleness and its sexuality are beautiful. Women have long secretly suspected as much. In that sexuality, women are physically beautiful already; superb; breathtaking.  Many, many men see this way too. A man who wants to define himself as a real lover of women admires what shows of her past on a woman’s face, before she ever saw him, and the adventures and stresses that her body has undergone, the scars of trauma, the changes of childbirth, her distinguishing characteristics, the light is her expression. The number of men who already see in this way is far greater than the arbiters of mass culture would lead us to believe, since the story they need to tell ends with the opposite moral.” ― Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth

translation from turkish the guy: are you hungry? are you really hungry? didn’t they feed you in the street? you poor thing. let me give you something then. come. come. do you like spleen? it’s hematinic. (this sentence wasn’t the exact translation but it’s the best i can come up with) like this look. let me give you some spleen. this much. is this enough? get it.

this is so cute. I love the butcher chatting away and the cat responding, him pulling out a package of meat and showing it, just like he’s dealing with any customer. 

one of those posts that makes me happy every time I see it

Podcast episodes are back

I figured out that there is a podcast website that will let you upload unlimited episodes free. They add 1 ad to the podcast in return. I uploaded all of our old episodes, so they can be listened to here now:

https://www.launchpaddm.com/pd/Over-The-Knee-Podcast

They’ll all show today’s publishing date but they are all from 1-2 years ago. 

I should have also mentioned that they are uploaded in a random order, not chronologically. Basically, I had to download the old episodes from SoundCloud, but they try to hold them hostage from you so I had to download them in a weird order, and delete one episode at at time in order to unlock the ability to download another episode, and you can’t just choose one to download, it’s based on file size….it was just a pain in the ass. So anyway, I had to download the files in a weird order, so I also uploaded them in a weird order. Most of them don’t really connect to past episodes though, so I don’t think it should cause much issue to listen to them out of order. If you want to listen in order though, here’s the order:

How we got here

How we do D/s

How we draw our lines

Feeling off

questions

24/7 D/s

Blooming sadomasochism

Interrogating Cynicaldom

Interrogating amysubmits

Respect in 24/7 D/s

Are we normal?

Did D/s save our relationship?

Why do you need to be reminded who is in charge?

No more spankings?

A bout of depression 

Fight club critique 

Changing D/s

Do we take breaks from D/s? 

Submissive doubts 

Beginning struggles as a dom

There was one called our D/s under extreme pressure but I accidentally deleted it before I saved it so i’m afraid it is probably lost forever unless we saved it on a PC or harddrive somewhere and are able to find it eventually. 

D/s and social validation

Is spanking childish?

Our new rules, and are submissive inferior? 

Advice for new dom (not experts, seek additional advice) 

i incorrectly self diagnosed autism traits (my stimming) as tourettes and the result was that I learned a ton about tics and tourettes and eventually figured out i didn’t have tourettes. i learned how tourettes typically manifests and how the stereotypes are inaccurate and harmful.

a doctor misdiagnosed my autism as social anxiety and the results included:

(1) my then-therapist disregarding me and accusing me of wanting to “collect diagnoses” for my saying that social anxiety didn’t explain my other symptoms that actual autistic friends had told me were autism things

(2) me not being able to get an autism evaluation until after college, which meant no fucking accommodations in college that would have prevented me from needing to drop classes in order to avoid failing them

(3) due to (1), erosion of trust between me and that therapist, and being fucking depressed and nocturnal for the rest of college as a result (i become nocturnal when my depression gets bad)

so every asshole who is like “but self diagnosis can hurt you and make you less able to get the right care if you’re wrong!!!” can shut the fuck up forever

As someone who was professionally misdiagnosed on several occasions but who correctly self-diagnosed and got that diagnose confirmed later on, I can fully confirm that a wrong “real” diagnosis is much more harmful than a wrong self-dx.

When a doctor says it’s A when it’s B, every medical professional ever will only treat you for A even if that’s clearly not working or even harming you. It often takes years before you find a new doctor who’s even just willing to question it might not be A at all, even if the evidence is obvious (and it was in my case).

When someone wrongly self-dx’s, they usually do so after a lot of research. That means they still end up in a community that at least shares some of their issues and offers resources that might help with that, even if the source of that issue is wrong. And if you’re in a community like that and you don’t have the same overarching issue, you notice after a while. They’ll share experiences and you’ll slowly realise that you have different experiences that sound foreign to the larger group. Communities like that are often knowledgeable enough to at least point you in the right direction when that situation crops up because it might be a comorbidity or maybe some of the members made the same mistake in the opposite direction when they originally sought help.

Can confirm that it’s exactly like this. Exactly.

This is what Native American fashion looks like without the cultural appropriation

Follow @this-is-life-actually

Yooooo, that looks so cool!

Martin Sensmeier!

https://byellowtail.com/ a link to the products

The outfits are gorgeous

The U.S. in a gif series.

Pls keep reblogging this till this become a classic tumblr post , because it needs to be

Found this on Facebook! BOOST!

Tell Etsy that #ThisIsNotNative

This is why I stopped selling on Etsy. I got really sick and tired of all that nonsense.

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This month's task to become a better human :

Step 1: Regularly ask myself "When was the last time I was being kind to a stranger (for no particular reason other than just making someone smile)?" Step 2: Making sure that at any given time that I repeat the first step the answer is <1 week. Step 3: Being proud of myself for making a conscious effort to be good to others (step 2) and to myself (step 3).

Who is with me?

You can't "make the world a better place" because you can't "make the world" do or be anything. Every change starts with oneself and happens to "the world" once enough people realize that.