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btw do you remember not long ago Anna Pavlova got married too? and guess what :D She became mother 11th june and baby 2870g and 50 cm :D it was shotgun wedding like Grishi, Semeonova and Afan :D it looks like very russian tradition )))) according to Anna's VK page ;) vk(.)com/annapavlova87

Aawww, baby Pavs!!! I’m so happy for Anna! So many good news about the Russian girls lately and it’s great to know they’re all happy after retirement.

Now, I didn’t wanna hijack this joyful post, but I really have to, becauseI’ve seen the shotgun wedding concept being used in the gymternet before, and it annoys me to no end, so excuse my rant.

I’ve been in a relationships for several years now, but I’m not married, and neither do I plan on being anytime soon, the reasons being irrelevant to the subject. Now, for the fun of it, let’s assume I get pregnant, on purpose or accidentally, it doesn’t matter, and I decide I’m ready to raise a child. And while this happens, maybe I get a fucking epiphany, and I get to the conclusion that, hey, you know what, I also want to start a family, and I want to get married to the man I love. If anyone dares to call this a shotgun wedding, as pregnant as I’d be, I’d track them down and beat them up in a second. It would be degrading for me as a woman. It’s the assumption that I made a big mistake, and I’m trying to cover it up or fix it by doing the only ‘honorable’ thing there is, getting married, even though I don’t actually want it. Because apparently, that’s the only reason for a woman to get married after finding out she’s pregnant. Shame.

Assuming Pavlova, Grishina, Semenova and Afanasyeva, or anyone for that matter, are doing just that is in such bad taste. So is counting when women get pregnant, and when they get married. No one has the right to judge. And even if a woman felt compelled by social norm/tradition/etc to get married because of pregnancy, judging her for doing is stupid.