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An Absolute Mess

@queerlydivine / queerlydivine.tumblr.com

they/them Call me Sol/Sols 18+ asexual and queer as fuck I peeked at the end Frank. The Devil did it

One advantage of not really having a strong sense of gender identity is that you’re very [shrug emoji] about how people gender you. Sometimes people call me by she/her pronouns and sometimes they go with he/him pronouns and on the internet people often default to they/them, and neither option is entirely right but also, fuck if I know what would be right, and I don’t particularly care. Therefore I’m perfectly happy to outsource my gender identity to the people around me who actually need to figure out which box to put me in. I don’t need to talk about myself in third person, so really my pronouns sound like a you problem.

My pronouns are I/me and the rest is for someone else to deal with because I have better things to do.

Very fond of macrolabels, like “queer”, that provide zero extra information. Is it genderqueer? Is it romantic/sexual orientation queer? Is it queer as in “none of your fucking business what’s in my pants and what I do with it and with whom”?

This is actually probably the first time I’ve ever read something that accurately describes my relationship with gender--ie, ‘my gender is me and my pronouns are a you problem’--so thank you for that!

Have you ever wondered what flower from Victorian flower language you are? I have! I have a quiz about it! (my credentials are that I have a spreadsheet of over 600 flower meanings)

azalea - "take care of yourself"

Oh boy, that’s gifted kid burnout if I’ve ever seen it. You chose to go into academia, and you enjoy learning, but at this point you have to force the dedication you have. You have niche interests and the way you show love is by sharing knowledge. You may look outwardly like you have your shit together, but inside you are in emotional turmoil. Take some time for self-care, it’s not actually effective to stress about everything, you’re only making things harder on yourself. I promise you, it’s okay to make mistakes. It’s also okay to rely on other people and let people in. You’re not a machine, you can’t keep on going endlessly. When you were a child, did people often “compliment” you for being so mature? Those weren’t compliments, you had to grow up too soon. Get in touch with your inner child, I swear that it’s healing. The people that are meant for you will be there when you're messy. I believe in you.

Absolutely fascinated by how the original belgian draft horse, the brabant, just looks like your usual heavy draft horse:

And then American breeders decided to….. improve….. it:

sir that thing looks like it’s made of plastic

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I feel like American breeders just have a tendency to do this. Behold, the French Percheron vs the American Percheron

The British Shetland Pony vs the American Shetland Pony

And it’s not just horses. Compare the English Cocker Spaniel with the American Cocker Spaniel

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Nevermind. Forget I ever said anything. I don’t want to talk about the yassified belgians anymore.

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"hey, bobby, ginger's kid came out to her as non-binerary! can you believe it?"

"non-binary."

"huh? wha? what'd i say?"

"you said 'non-binerary.' the word is non-binary."

"right. non-byrony."

"oh my god"

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"ginger's gonna march with her kid in the parade next year! she's so excited!"

"she'll get to make signs... chant slogans..."

"you sound kind of jealous, lin."

"well, maybe i *am* jealous. maybe *i* wanna be a PFLAG mom."

"pee flag!!"

"gene."

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"...kids, are any of you non-binary?"

"i respond to both 'attaboy' and 'you go, girl!'"

"i'm whatever gender gets the coolest happy meal toys."

What are everyone’s favorite (easy-ish) holiday candy/treat recipes? I already have 900 cookie recipes, but I wanted to make something a little different this year.

I make chocolate covered peanut butter balls every year.

1/2 cup creamy peanut butter (substitute other nut butters, if needed)

•1 cup+ powdered sugar

•3 tablespoons salted butter, softened

•8 ounces semi-sweet chocolate, chopped (or chocolate chips)

Mix peanut butter and butter together in a mixing bowl. Gradually stir in powdered sugar until combined well into a dough ball. If needed, add more powdered sugar a little at a time until mixture holds together in a large ball. Cover and let peanut butter dough sit for about 15 minutes to firm up, or cover tightly with plastic wrap and refrigerate until ready to form balls.

Shape into 1-inch balls, place on a baking sheet, cover and refrigerate for at least 20 minutes to allow to firm up. Dough balls should hold shape before dipping in chocolate. Add more refrigeration time if necessary.

Melt chocolate according to package instructions.Dip peanut butter balls one at a time into melted chocolate, allowing excess to drip off. Place on waxed paper lined baking sheet, cover and refrigerate until ready to serve.

Alright folks, it's time for a Tumblr Community Cooking post. Just reblog and keep adding 1 ingredient or single instruction until we have something edible. I can't wait to see how this branches and what horrible/delicious/interesting things we create. I'll kick us off with:

2 cups of all purpose flour

tablespoon of baking powdec

Teaspoon of salt

5ml soy sauce

1 head of cabbage, chopped

yes… YES… the paperback is OUT!! inside of this bad boy you can find some bonus character playlists, as well as, of course:

  • ABBA’s “Take a Chance on Me,” but ominous
  • a rickroll, somewhere
  • a country crock margarine tub filled with teeth
  • a large gas station soda cup filled with teeth
  • a butch lesbian werewolf
  • a chronic illness support group discord chat
  • the power of friendship. it doesn’t fix things but it does makes everything worthwhile 
  • light stabbing
  • intimate head shaving
  • New Jersey’s hottest garage band, Big Little Fries

here’s the link again, xoxo etc etc - buying through Bookshop.org allows you to support your local independent bookseller!

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rbing again with an image description - the one in the image did not work :(

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I was talking to my therapist about some anxiety symptoms --- "In my mind, I know I'm going to be perfectly okay, but my body doesn't listen and reacts anyway" --- and she recommended TIPP as strategies to keep in my toolbox of dealing with distress in the moment. I really appreciate having more than one option to try in moments of overwhelm!

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here they are, the Witch Moth stickers! 

the lineart will be holographic, while the colours will be matte - you can find them at greerstothers.shop

these are based on the Black Witch moth, an omen of death in Central America. in Jamaica they’re also known as Duppy Bats, and are the embodiment of lost souls

it seems like everyone who sees these moths is like “huh, this thing is definitely an indicator of…….something or another. it has significance.”

They are very large so it’s not surprising people think they’re some sort of omen! It’s not every day you see a moth the size of a bat

Photo by ashkore