let’s talk about the sarcasm switch aka /s
- adding /s to the end of a statement is used in many online communities to denote sarcasm
- this is useful to people who have trouble reading the tone of a statement without verbal indicators
- this especially helps include neurodiverse folks in the conversation!
- this type of slang is based on HTML syntax, and there’s more:
- /s - sarcastic
- /j - joking
- /srs - serious
- /hj - half joking
and more besides! like emojis, html tone indicators provide important context & clarification to written communication. you can include a wider audience by using them, and autistic readers like me will really appreciate it!
if you already use tone indicators, which are your favorites?
please do this! it’s small but it allows so many more people to understand your posts!
I can’t stop laughing at Carrie being told “NO” by Mark. Also, Harrison Always Knows Best.
This is from a documentary called “From Star Wars to Jedi” released in 1983. Thanks @wookieekisses because I found that bit thanks to your post!
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They’re figuring out the beats of the scene –while Harrison is tied up–.
So what Mark said about them basically having to make everything up themselves (with Harrison as impromptu leader) is true.
The original films were only good by accident and thats why none of the prequels or sequels worked
The original films were good because a lot of non-George-Lucas people worked hard to make them so. Carrie, Mark and Harrison fixing the dialogue wasn’t an ‘accident’. Marcia Lucas didn’t fix three films in edit by ‘accident’.
The prequels and sequels didn’t work because they thought that George Lucas was the genius behind the films, when they were a success despite him, not because of him.
what happens when two dramatic bitches like Geralt and Aragorn visit the same tavern on the same night and there’s only one corner table for them to brood at in a solitary fashion, would they take turns or share a booth while simply refusing to acknowledge each other’s existence
And there was only one corner table...!
oh my god there was only one corner table...
Ok so I've found a way to describe what Neurodivergent Can't Do Task Mode™ feels like to neurotypicals
So you know how you can't make yourself put your hand down on a hot stovetop? There's a part of your brain that stops you from doing that? That's what Neurodivergent Can't Do Task Mode™ feels like
Even if we want to do it, there's a barrier stopping us from doing it, and it's really hard to override
And why does our brain see the task as a hot stovetop? Because when neurotypicals finish a task, they get serotonin, but we don't get that satisfaction after completing a task. A neurotypical wouldn't get serotonin from putting their hand on a hot stovetop, it would just hurt. When we can't do a task, it's because our brain knows that the task will hurt (metaphorically) and wants to avoid that.
It's not that we're choosing not to do the task, it's that our brain is physically preventing us from doing it.
Neurotypicals can and should reblog but please don't add anything
(Sorry/not sorry about the random bolding, it makes it easier for us to read)
Oh that’s a great example. It’s not even really a metaphor in some cases. Because this is exactly what some of our brains are doing. For one reason or another the brain thinks that the task in question is dangerous or harmful and the mechanism keeping us from doing it is a survival mechanism.
SO COLORFUL
it fascinates me that theres (probably) billions of species left undiscovered
Here is an adult :)
The black-backed dwarf kingfisher is also very pretty!
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I heard the voice of the fourth beast say, Come and see. And I looked, and behold a pale horse: and his name that sat on him was Naughty Wilbur
I’m afraid of Americans
This is super real.
Completely accurate.
@pre-successful America exposed.
It’s hilarious watching non-Americans react to this with fear because I read it just nodding along like “yes, in fact this is How Things Are, there you go”
If you ask an American how they are and they respond “Super.” that means they want to die
ACCURATE
one-for-all-plus-ultra
If they say they’re peachy it means they’re tired of existence
If they say “Living the dream,” it means “please kill me, I hate my job so, so much.”
also “that’s a great question” means “I have no freaking idea”
if asked “how are things going?” and they reply “its going” it means theyre in the middle of a mental breakdown
“Getting by” means that I, personally, I am just barely surviving at the moment, please don’t ask any difficult questions.
Also if you actually answer “How are you?” honestly, it will cause other Americans to have a total BSOD response. We don’t know what to do.
please be aware that this differs by region.
if someone in san francisco tells you your work is “interesting” it means they think it’s galaxy brain and they want to write a paper on it.
from someone in new york, it means they’re not impressed but they’re still going to name drop you when you’re famous.
from someone in minneapolis, it means it’s appalling and they’re embarrassed for you but they don’t want to hurt your feelings.
midwesterners in response to “how are you”:
“eh, same old same old” = actually okay
“not s’bad” = pretty good
“not s’good” = i’m about to ask you for a favor
“can’t complain” = i can, and if you don’t ask i will hint for hours
“really great” = i have something to brag about but i’m too midwestern to volunteer it so please prompt me
“oh i just can’t believe this weather, we have ten thousand dollars of hail damage to our roof, my aunt has bubonic plague, three of our cows were stolen by aliens, and my dog wants a divorce!” = i’m the happiest i’ve ever been and you’re my best friend, i trust you with my life
“could be better” = i have cancer
as a general rule. if what we’re calling ‘cultural appropriation’ sounds like nazi ideology (i.e. ‘white people should only do white people things and black people should only do black people things’) with progressive language, we are performing a very very poor application of what ‘cultural appropriation’ means. this is troublingly popular in the blogosphere right now and i think we all need to be more critical of what it is we may be saying or implying, even unintentionally.
There is nothing wrong with everyone enjoying each other’s cultures so long as those cultures have been shared.
Eating Chinese food, watching Bollywood movies, going to see Cambodian dancers, or learning to speak Korean so you can watch every K drama in existence is totally fine. The invitation to participate in those things came from within those cultures. The Mexican family that owns the place where I get fajitas wants me to eat fajitas. Their whole business model kind of depends on it, actually.
If you see something from another culture you think you might want to participate in, but you don’t know if that would be disrespectful or appropriative, you can just…ask. Like. A Jewish friend explained what a mezuzah was to me, recently. (It’s the little scroll-thing near their front doors that they touch when they come into their house. It basically means “this is a Jewish household.”)
“Oh, cool,” I said. “Can I touch it? Or is it only for Jewish people?”
“You can touch it or you can not touch it,” she said. “I don’t care.”
“Cool, I’m gonna touch it, then.”
“Cool.”
It’s not hard.
You want to twerk, twerk. I’ve never heard a black person say they didn’t think anybody else should be allowed to twerk. Just that they want us to acknowledge that they invented that shit, not Miley fucking Cyrus.
It really boils down to three simple things:
- Consent. Is the culture open to sharing this thing? (& don’t cheat by finding one person who consents while most of the culture disagrees.)
- Context. If a culture is open to sharing a thing but it is a thing of great religious significance, take the time to learn what is a respectful way to treat the thing. Probably don’t use it as random decoration or sexualize it unless that’s what it’s for.
- Credit. Give credit and if possible, buy from the original creators so the money goes where the credit should be.
This is really useful to me personally because I’ve definitely caught myself losing sight of what cultural appropriation actually is, and why it matters, so thank you, and everybody else pay attention too
Here’s the ADHD Checklist! I finally made it, it’s originally from this post. But I’ve put it in a more easy to read manner.
Requested by: @partykeet I hope this helps!
If you don’t know if you have ADHD or not but have an inkling you might, these are important questions to consider when self diagnosing and researching into the disorder!
Executive Dysfunction
- Do you struggle with getting things done?
- Do you mean to do it and you don’t?
- Do you feel overwhelmed by trying to do it?
- Do you forget to do it?
- Do you feel like you can’t for whatever reason?
Emotional Dysregulation
- Are you often told you’re overemotional?
- Are you told you overreact?
- Do you feel like you can’t control your emotions?
- Do you often go from one emotion to the next?
Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)
- Do you react strongly without meaning to?
- Do you get really depressed after wearing yourself out?
- Do you feel awful after someone’s criticized you?
- Do you often spiral when something goes wrong?
- Do you feel like you can perk back up when that person asks you what’s wrong?
Delayed Sleep Phase Syndrome
- Do you have a hard time waking up?
- Do you have a hard time going to bed?
- Do you have very vivid dreams?
- Are you aggressive and irritable when someone wakes you up (for like, school)?
- Do you struggle keeping a consistent sleep schedule over vacation or summer break, even on the weekends?
Inattention(Dissociation) and Hyperfocus
- Do you often zone out?
- Do you daydream?
- Do you get disinterested often?
- Do you feel like you can multitask (listen to music and read at the same time)?
- Do you get so absorbed in something that when you return to reality, hours have passed by?
Hyperfixation and Emotional Hyperarousal
- Do you have “obsessions” or things that feel incredibly pleasurable/taste good when you interact with them?
- Do you have a loud mind that runs a thousand miles a minute?
- Do you feel overwhelmed or stressed out by your mind?
- Do you overthink or overanalyze things?
- Is your head really foggy or thoughts blurry?
Working Memory, Inattention and Object Permanence
- Do you seem to have memory problems?
- Like you cant remember something someone told you to do (homework, chores)?
- Or you easily lose things, having it just been there?
- Do you forget that things exist after having them put away?
- Do you forget important things like birthdays, dates and numbers, but remember other “trivial” things?
- Do you have a hard time remembering the past or your childhood?
Stimulation and Stimming
- Does listening to music help you get things done?
- Do you need to watch something while you’re eating and get distracted if you don’t?
- Do you feel dissociated or distracted when you can’t listen to music or have your phone out?
- Do you constantly fidget, shake your legs, play with parts of things?
- Do you feel like if you try to stop fidgeting, you’ll feel an urge to do it more?
- Do you have a million phone games?
- Do you feel like some games aren’t enough to play on their own but some are too much that you can’t focus on anything else?
“Money Blindness” and Impulsivity
- Do you have trouble with money when given control over it?
- Do you spend money on things other people find pointless or useless?
- Do you have trouble with microtransactions?
- Do you feel like when you buy something that you’ll have enough money left for things you need?
- Are you often broke? Especially if you claimed that you would save money?
- Do you often feel like the consequences of buying something aren’t that serious?
Time Blindness
- Do you have a hard time keeping track of time?
- Do you feel like you’re often late to things?
- If not, do you have anxiety, and often panic about the time?
- Do you often have a hard time keeping a schedule?
- Do people say you have poor time management skills, but no matter what you do, you can’t fix it?
Habits, Executive Dysfunction and Disorganization
- Do you have poor hygiene?
- Do you struggle to remember to brush your teeth?
- Is it hard taking a bath/shower? If so, does it take a long time to get into the bath or shower?
- If left to your own devices do you wear the same outfit for days?
- Do you often look disheveled despite trying to be organized and clean?
- Do you often rub off makeup or have messy hair?
- Do you try to be organized but no matter what, you can’t?
Boundaries, RSD, and Volume Control
- Do you struggle with boundaries?
- Do you have a hard time controlling your volume (either too loud or too quiet)?
- Do you feel like you’ve ruined everything when someone tells you that you did something wrong?
- Do you think you’ve offended people when you haven’t?
- Do you have a hard time judging reality correctly (like you think you’ve offended or hurt someone and you feel awful but it didn’t bother them that much)?
Disclaimer: Don’t say someone who self diagnoses is faking. If you relate to these questions and symptoms, you definitely are not faking. ADHD is a disability that is incredibly hard to manage. People who have it don’t like it as they have likely struggled all their life. Being undiagnosed and unmedicated is damaging and traumatizing. Be kind to people, especially if they don’t have access to medical help.
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Hey guess what dude! You’re not invalidating anybody! I started out with a self dx and two years later, I got an official diagnosis!
The fear of overreaction- that’s really common with ppl with adhd, because we can’t regulate our own emotions, which causes people to call us dramatic, drama queens or crybabies. But we’re not. We just can’t regulate our own emotions.
You deserve a space here and I’m so sorry you’ve felt invalidated in the past. Please find this as a guide for self diagnosing. I hope you get treatment at some point. So many people are in the same boat as you, and none of you are faking it. Please remember that.
Take time to process this and don’t let yourself feel as if you’re faking cause you’re not. It’s okay. Denial and dissociation is common in these circumstances.
It gets so tiring sometimes
WTF? DSPS is a symptom of ADHD?! Okay, I legit need to talk to my doctor about this.
Anyone have any tips on how to broach the “I think I have ADHD, please help” with their doctor?
Like, I frequently have doctors accuse me of faking symptoms (thank you fibro and whatever the heck else is wrong with me), including a sleep specialist who accused me of faking my previously diagnosed DSPS :S
(Also, I will forever be salty about the doctor who accused me of being a drug addict chasing a fix when I went to her because I kept having severe tremors and wanted a referral to a neurologist… 10 years later, during a Mental Health First Aid course, I realized I’d been having panic attacks all along…)
Anyway, the idea of bringing it up is very anxiety-inducing, and I think it would help if I had a script I could follow
Thanks, my lovelies
I am very, very grateful that my psychiatrist caught my ADHD when I started seeing him for depression. I didn’t know a lot of this stuff (despite earning a degree in psychology with a neuroscience focus and spending the past 6 years in therapy and on medication) so there’s obviously a lot more for me to learn! I hope anyone who needed this post gets to see it.
For those who have trouble reading that:
Imagine being a black, gay drag queen in the 1800s after being born into enslavement AND having the style and cachè to throw soirées that the girls had to come to! That’s why I don’t want to hear this “we’re not our ancestors stuff.” You’re right!
From The Very Black Project Page- William Dorsey Swann was a gay liberation activist. Born into slavery in 1858, he was the first person in the United States to lead a queer resistance group and the first known person to self-identify as a “queen of drag”. Imagine the queenery of this icon.
He was a slave in Hancock, Maryland and was freed by Union soldiers after the Emancipation Proclamation went into effect. During the 1880s and 1890s, he organized a series of balls in Washington, D.C. He called himself the “queen of drag”. Most of the attendees his gatherings were men who were former slaves, and were gathering to dance in their satin and silk dresses. William was arrested in police raids numerous times,including in the first documented case of arrests for female impersonation in the United States, on April 12, 1888. In 1896, he was falsely convicted and sentenced to 10 months in jail for “keeping a disorderly house” (running a brothel). After his sentencing, he requested a pardon from President Grover Cleveland. This request was denied, but but he was the first American on record who pursued legal and political action to defend the LGBTQ community’s right to gather.
He was known to have been close with Pierce Lafayette and Felix Hall, two men who had also both been slaves and who formed the first known male same-sex relationship between enslaved Americans.
When William stopped organizing and participating in drag events, his brother continued to make costumes for the drag community. Two of his brothers had also been active participants in his drag balls.
Imagine how intelligent and ambitious this man had to be to come up with drag balls in the 1800s! Imagine how many terrible concepts he had to unlearn by himself to be a confident gay black man who does drag in the 1800s! Imagine how courageous he had to be to fight for lgbt people as a former slave in America in the 1800s!
William Dorsey Swann is the original queen, the original drag mother, the original activist. Tell his story!
