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@queenrinacat / queenrinacat.tumblr.com

Jewish nb lesbian, legal adult they/them card-carrying Gay-Ass Nerd™

fucking hate it when the stuff everybody says "actually works" does actually work.

hate exercising and realizing i've let go of a lot of anxiety and anger because i've overturned my fight-or-flight response.

hate eating right and eating enough and eating 3 times a day and realizing i'm less anxious and i have more energy

hate journaling in my stupid notebook with my stupid bic ballpoint and realizing that i've actually started healing about something once i'm able to externalize it

hate forgiving myself hate complimenting myself more often hate treating myself with kindness hate taking a gratitude inventory hate having patience hate talking to myself gently

hate turning my little face up to the sun and taking deep breaths and looking at nature and grounding myself and realizing that i feel less burdened and more hopeful, more actually-here, that i am able to see the good sides of myself more clearly, that i am able to see not only how far i have to grow - but also how much growth i have already done & how much of my life i truly fill with light and laughter and love

horrible horrible horrible. hate it but i'm gonna do it tho

gonna swing a bat at a hornet's nest and say autism as a whole is not destigmatized, tiktok autism is

i will say first this is not the fault of autistic people on tikok (or other social media platforms but im using "tiktok" as the example for this post), it is the fault of society as a whole. tiktok autistics choosing to only talk about certain parts of their experiences aren't at fault for what neurotypicals assume (though sometimes low support ones can contribute to the erasure of MSN/HSN autistics on purpose, but... that's a different issue).

what tiktok autism looks like (to neurotypicals, i mean)

  • ooh flappy hands (and other calm or "cute" stims)
  • i like steven universe or another cartoon!!! isn't it fun how i'm very into my interest at a quirky level, but still a normal one
  • i give off the vibe i can live independently (it does not actually matter if they can; neurotypicals will assume)
  • fully verbal, only occasionally loses speech
  • has sensory issues but isn't "annoying" about it
  • meltdowns are mostly being sad, not angry or weird
  • disassociates, maybe
  • has cool skills (good at academics, art, whatever)

all of those things are, of course, things autistics can experience. some are also infantilized (like liking children's shows or having "cute" stims). the problem is not that those autistics exist and talk about their experiences--the problem is neurotypicals assuming this is all autism is, "removing their biases" on these tiny groups of symptoms and experiences, and not destigmatizing:

  • being semiverbal or noverbal
  • incontinence issues or difficulty remembering/realizing you need to use the bathroom
  • needing a carer, part or full time, or being otherwise unable to live independently
  • being "weird" about our special interests or obsessed with them in a way that isn't palatable (like me)
  • having an interest that isn't "fun" or "cute"; something to do with horror or gore, something "strange" like stamp collecting or corgis, something "boring" like the war of 1812, whatever (like me)
  • autistics who grunt, rock, hit things, etc to stim ("weird" stimming) (like me.)
  • autistics who frequently dissasociate, have trouble remembering things, or can't follow instructions (like. me.)
  • meltdowns that are angry, loud, screamy, full of movement, or some other "inconvenient" meltdown (LIKE ME)
  • how their racialized, queerphobic, or physically ableist biases intersect with their view of non-white, queer, or physically disabled autistic people (e.g. thinking black autistics are scary, for some reason)
  • autistics who have difficulty using the right words or sentence structure and thus often say odd or technically incorrect things (like me--ok ill stop now)
  • intellectually disabled or otherwise non-high-IQ autistics, as well as autistics who were/are in special ed
  • not understanding danger/doing "reckless" or "stupid" things
  • autistics who are monotone, lack facial expressions, or appear not to show emotions (we are often called "creepy" or "scary" for this)
  • and more

none of this is destigmatized. i deal with several of them on a day-to-day basis. the autistic that is destigmatized is the "cute", inobtrusive, i-choose-not-to-discuss-my-bad-days, low-support needs, often white and/or physically abled autistic experience. an autistic experience that does not even truly exist, i'd wager--bc again, even those autistics who seem "destigmatized" will often immediately be stigmatized if they talk about any of their more negative or strange traits.

even i, a white low-support high-IQ autistic person, find my autism to cause people to make horrendous assumptions and say awful things about/to me very often. autism is not destigmatized.

A bit of trivia:  A lot of people don’t understand what it means to “Count sheep” to sleep. In reality it’s an Insomnia treatment method where you pick a random topic where there might be several examples that fit the criteria “Disney witches” for example or “Films that feature Dracula as a character.”  It can be anything at all.  "Movies with Danny Elfman musical scores.“  You don’t Google the answer.  You lay there and try to think of things that fit the topic you chose and count them. That’s how you really “Count Sheep.”  

Pretty much, yes.

i learned that in India, there is a species of giant squirrel that have multicoloured fur, with with varying shades of orange, maroon and purple. Their bodies measure 36in from head to tail – double the size of their grey relatives – and they can leap 20ft between trees (x)

Some more pictures of these funky dudes cause they’re so pretty

Oh, and they’re very cleverly called Indian giant squirrels or Malabar giant squirrels

They look like heat-treated steel!

See?

cringe isnt an insult. if you find me cringe that means i have power over you. im having a fucking blast while youre seething with vitriol at my very existence. whos really winning here

“In 1404, King Taejong fell from his horse during a hunting expedition. Embarrassed, looking to his left and right, he commanded, “Do not let the historian find out about this.” To his disappointment, the historian accompanying the hunting party included these words in the annals, in addition to a description of the king’s fall.“

LMFAOOOOOO rip to that guy

i thought maybe this was fake, but there’s even a citation!

Taejong Sillok Book 7. 5th year of King Taejong’s Reign (1404), February 8.

Happy 618th anniversary of the day King Taejong fell from his horse!

Apparently the recorders were really intense about this. We have a record of King Taejong complaining about a recorder who followed him on a hunt in disguise and another who eavesdropped on him behind a screen. No one was allowed to see the records, even the king (one king did and killed five men based on what was written there, after which they took greater care to ensure it would never happen again), and changing the content or disclosing it was a capital punishment. Even when there were rival political factions trying to influence the writers, they wrote down what was a revision and what wasn’t and kept an original version with no revisions in it.

They also made sure to back up their data. They made four copies of it, then when three copies were lost in the Imrim Wars they decided to make five more copies just in case. One copy was destroyed in a rebellion, another was partially damaged in an invasion, and Japan stole one copy during their occupation and moved it to Tokyo University, where it was mostly destroyed in the Kanto Earthquake (47 books remained and were returned to South Korea in 2006). Now the whole thing is digitized, free on the internet, and translated into modern Korean for all to see.

It took centuries of meticulous recorders, justifiably paranoid copiers, absolutely determined historians, and painstaking infrastructure for this joke to be possible. Happy 618th anniversary to the day King Taejong fell from his horse.

To all the people in the notes wondering how we got anywhere before GPS: we got lost a lot. Like a lot. If it was a new place we would pull out the maps, we all had local maps in the car and then these huge huge huge books of maps called atlases and we'd have one for every state we'd be driving through

And before a trip we would plot our whole entire route, and go back over it every night at the hotel, and we would write all the directions down on a little note and someone would be in charge of navigation and making sure we didn't miss any turns.

For local stuff all directions would be described in reference to other things. You still see this when older folks give directions. Do you ever get the "do you know where the ruby Tuesday is? No? How about the Buffalo wild wings? Yeah okay so from there go down til you see a Wendy's and turn left..." instead of them just telling u the address so u can plug it into ur GPS? That's why.

I have fond memories of getting helaciously lost in Kentucky because we had to go around a bad accident, and we didn't have a Kentucky map because we hadn't planned on going thru Kentucky and we stopped at a gas station to get a map but they didn't have any and my dad came back to the car swearing up and down about these goddamn Kentucky communists who didn't even sell maps in their gas stations,

All true, but also. You should 100% still have atlases and local maps in your vehicle, and know how to use them. Never know when your phone is going to fail you.

As someone that's fallen victim to this 1) please have maps 2) buy new maps every few years!

i saw the words “ur not the first person in your lineage to be queer” and it’s rocking me to my core. how many generations down the line did one of my ancestors feel the way i did, feel differently than i did and so damn queerly it was a crime? how many of us were there? did they have hope? did they find peace? i don’t know. at the very least, maybe i am proof their identity was never wasted. reincarnated.

One of my favorite historical deepdive topics is the friendship between CS Lewis (the author for The Chronicles of Narnia) and JRR Tolkien (the author for The Lord of the Rings).

There's so much good stuff to talk about like how Tolkien nearly broke off his friendship with Lewis because he wanted to put Santa Claus in his books, or how Tolkien got pissed about CS Lewis being called an "ascetic writer" in an interview because he watched him sling back 4 beers at lunch the day before. Plus the fact that Tolkien famously hated his work being taken as an allegory or metaphor, meanwhile Lewis was like "if one person doesn't understand that the lion is Jesus I'll shoot myself"

But I think my favorite piece of their history together is the letter CS Lewis sent to JRR Tolkien describing Aslan.

Because you think back on this time period and go "everyone was so stuffy and uptight and miserable, they're nothing like us"... but then the first ever drawing of Aslan by CS Lewis was this

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reading this aita post and its incredible how many people think keeping kosher is like easy breezy beautiful instead of a complex rigorous set of rules and standards

Goyim genuinely think kosher is just "don't eat unclean animals" and it's so, so much more.

What goyim for some reason think kosher food is: Food that was blessed by a Rabbi. (Side note: where tf are y'all getting that idea from??)

What kosher food actually is:

For meat:

Meat from a mammal with split hooves and that chews its cud, and wasn't sick or hurt when it was slaughtered. It had to have been slaughtered with an extremely specific sharp knife within a certain amount of time and at a specific spot, otherwise the animal isn't kosher. Then the meat has to have been properly drained of blood and salted and cleaned to get rid of even more blood. Also there's certain parts of the animal that are forbidden to eat. All of this of course has to have been done by a Jew and under the supervision of a Jew.

For birds:

Meat from a bird that isn't in the list of nonkosher birds mentioned in the Tanakh, and/or has a long-standing tradition of being kosher. Again, the bird has to have been slaughtered with an extremely specific and very sharp knife within a certain amount of time and cut at a specific spot. Of course, all done by a Jew and under the supervision of a Jew.

For fish:

The fish must have visible fins and scales it's entire lifetime and at the time of being caught.

Dairy:

Milk must come from a kosher animal. Cheese must be supervised by a Jew during the making process to ensure that no animal rennet is used.

Eggs:

Eggs must come from a kosher animal and not have blood present.

Other forbidden foods:

Any sea creature that isn't a kosher fish. This includes shellfish.

Blood. Blood is extremely forbidden. Blood from any animal, kosher or not, is forbidden.

Any part of a living animal. Consuming a living animal is also forbidden. (So like, eating a bug whole and alive)

Insects. All insects and bugs and general creepy crawlies are forbidden except for a few specific species of grasshopper, which many Jews don't have a tradition of remembering which ones. But honey is allowed.

Reptiles and amphibians.

Dairy and meat/bird together. Whether it was cooked or eaten together, doesn't matter. Kosher kitchens even have seperate cutlery and sometimes even sinks for away and dairy. People who keep kosher also wait a certain amount of time after eating meat or dairy before going on to eat the opposite. The amount of time varies from tradition to tradition.

Fish and meat/bird together. There's no restriction on time between eating them, they just can't be cooked or eaten together or served on the same plate.

Any produce that was picked in Israel before its third year or during the Shmita year.

There's obviously a lot more laws to Kashrut but these are honestly the basics so that gentiles know how complicated keeping Kosher is and how Kosher food is not food that was "blessed by a Rabbi".

One time on Facebook, someone asked if food made in a replicator (on Star Trek) would be kosher. Because obviously, it can make treyf food, too.

So Jewish people were having actual discussions about whether creating an exactly copy of bacon would contaminate the machine or if it doesn't count because no pigs were consumed... Some asshole shows up and goes "it's kosher if it's blessed by a rabbi. It's that simple. 🙂"

She would not listen to the dozens of Jews correcting her and saying that rabbis don't need to bless anything for it to be kosher.

Please stop telling Jews what is and isn't kosher if you're not even Jewish.

[id: two Star Trek reaction gifs of eye rolling]

Oh my god the audacity!!!!

My bet on where they're getting the "blessed from a rabbi" bit is twofold: Rabbinic supervision of kosher food production in conjunction with Culturally Christian perceptions of priestly blessings.

I once had to explain to a tenured professor at my university for half an hour that, no, the kosher deli (the only kosher option on campus) could not making him a ham and cheese sandwich, and no, they could not "just get the rabbi down here to bless it", so I feel the pain.

@furplewastaken, the general consensus I've seen from my own debates is that we use the rules for cheese.

No, I'm not joking.

Cheese is made with materials called "rennets", which separates out the milk into curds and whey that can then be processed into cheese. Some rennets are derived from plants, while most are derived from animals. Ergo, since a rennet is an integral part of the cheesemaking process, even though it's such a small percentage of the cheese's mass, it counts as "mixing meat and dairy" if an animal-derived rennet is used.

So for replicator and vat-grown meat, we use the same rule.

Was the template cell/template dish itself derived from non-kosher animals?

For example, if the template was from a kosher animal that was slaughtered in a kosher manner, then the food will be kosher. But from a non-kosher animal in the same way? Almost certainly not. And if it was never from an animal in the first place, but is instead a genetically engineered chimera that would have the taste and texture of pork but is itself not a viable animal?

Then it's probably considered a mushroom.

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It's so wild how many grown adults can't grasp such a basic concept like "if you are nicer to strangers they will usually be nicer to you in return"

one of the things i love about ebenezer scrooge, and a christmas carol in general, is that, unlike most fictional rich people, scrooge doesn't allow himself the luxuries that he denies to others.

like. he is enormously wealthy, but does he spend his money on good food and nice things and indulgences? no. he keeps his house dark because it's cheaper to not light things, he eats gruel, he barely even makes a big enough fire to heat himself, let alone the room. he scrimps and pinches pennies everywhere he can - including in areas that other people would consider "necessities" rather than "luxuries."

the story of a christmas carol is as much about ebenezer scrooge coming to realize that his misanthropy and miserliness is making himself as miserable as it's making everyone around him, and learning to once again take joy in living in a way he hasn't allowed himself since he was a boy.

it's genuinely cruel to ebenezer scrooge to compare him to assholes like elon musk and jeff bezos.

for all that he is a terrible, terrible person, at least scrooge isn't a damn hypocrite.

i mean i was picturing the muppet version while writing this, so yes, correct.