just a reminder since we never rly stated this before but now it feels relevant.
we are not comfortable with anybody tagging our queer posts as 'q slur' or trigger tagging our queer posts
we are queer. it is a core part of our identity. if you can't rb proudly queer content without censoring it or trigger tagging it, than our queer content isn't for you.
it makes us deeply uncomfortable to see people trigger tagging our core identity.
“i’m a femme! masc lesbians have my whole heart 😍” *only reblogs skinny white girls with pixie cuts*
I don’t want trans guys who’ve had or want phalloplasty to fight with guys who plan to keep their natal bits. I want us to have gay transgender sex.
A trans man is still a man regardless of whether he wants bottom surgery at all or not.
A trans man who decides to get phalloplasty does not deserve body shaming, including calling his penis a “frankendick” or whatever shitty term some of y’all have decided to use.
Now, let’s ask the important questions: what position are we doing this in?
passing relies on whiteness.
im a short (around the 5ft mark) teenage, pre t trans boy. im mixed, half east asian half white. i look pretty white, and have the features of my chad faced (lol) white father. my sisterhas the face of my asian mother. guess who, despite her being 2+ years older than me, looks more babyish and youthful (and feminine)? my sister lol
i'm not implying all asian people look hyper feminine. but a lot do. my white side has given me fairly broad shoulders, a sharp facial profile and other features associated with masculinity. i pass pretty well due to this luck. i know some asian trans guys my age, and i notice the difference in the way we're treated.
all of my non white trans friends pass better the more '''white''' they look (me included). 'passing' is just a whole load of racism me thinks
(sorry if this is worded awkwardly)
definitely an important perspective!
i'm not black so obviously take this next thing with a grain of salt, but what i've heard from a lot of black trans men is that they felt like they "passed" sooner, but only because they were already masculinized when they were being perceived as black women. so yeah passing is definitely heavily affected by race, in so many ways.
AND many black trans mascs "pass sooner" only around nonblack people. When I started passing around other black people, that's when I knew I was *actually* passing. White people been thinking I was a boy since I was 5, do you know how many times I've been beaten up and called a man by my classmates while wearing a frilly dress and pigtail braids? Black girls and black women are so often forcibly degendered and masculinized ESPECIALLY if they have literally any hint of anything except ultra-femininity (and sometimes, even if they do!) that it boggles my mind when people say that's Actually A Good Thing when it happens to a trans masc that hasn't figured himself out yet.
reminder this pride that multigender people exist and genderfuckery is an essential part of our community, and that sexuality and gender have never been simply cut, binary experiences
I like how teens are too young to figure out their sexuality unless its heterosexual
Idk how people find this old post like once a week but I will say as a closeted 15 year old nothing can describe how much confidence it gave me that everyone agreed with me. That it’s all bullshit. I was so angry and frustrated at the world not taking me seriously, and the thousands and thousands of people reblogging showed me that I wasn’t alone. I wasn’t crazy and heteronormativity is all bullshit. Being queer is as natural as breathing air.
“BLACK AND WHITE MEN TOGETHER–BOSTON,” Gay & Lesbian Pride Parade, Boston, Massachusetts, June 1984. Photo c/o @northeastern. #lgbthistory #HavePrideInHistory (at Boston, Massachusetts)
why have us queer people as a community normalized terms like "boygirl" or "girlboy" or other things like that but not like. the actual experience of being multigender. i swear some people will be like "ahaha its so cool and swag to be a #girlboy #boygirl" then turn around and be like "MEN DNI THIS POST IS ABOUT WOMEN" "MEN CANT BE LESBIANS (because no man is ever a woman too)" etc etc like come on guys
(Image description: two trans flags with text that says "gender affirming care saved my life" and "gender affirming care improved my life")
some of you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself when it comes to overgeneralizing and minimizing transmascs experiences with gender based violence (both transphobia and misogyny) and acting as if we are overprivelaged cry babies who have it easy when it comes to transitioning and passing and life generally.. with peace and love learn about the nuances and pain that comes with any trans persons experience in a cisgender world and how our suffering is all inherently intertwined
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If you like the word “queer” reblog.
Behold: the queer community
Hell hath no fury like when someone misgenders you but then notices but rather than just correct themselves they get really stressed and frustrated and go on a long rant explaining why they forgot and the whole time there's this air of resentment because they are so so terrified that someone might see them as a bad person and meanwhile you haven't even said anything
Can women be twinks? Can men be butch? Instead of asking these incredibly niche questions ask yourself this, if they weren't allowed to do so, who would you have enforcing that ruling? and then, I hope this kind of re-framing opens your eyes about how silly that would be, to enforce as such. But really, this is what they mean when they say "kill the cop in your head." What good does it do you to try and police people more?
my gender is faggot and my sexuality is transgender hope this helps
hey. dont cry. transfags and transdykes okay?
