Take a moment to consider… that what if, everything is perfect right now? That YOU are perfect right now. That you don’t need to do more, be more, or change anything about you. That everything in your life is happening for you and not to you. What would that shift for you? Would that shift your mood? Your perspective? Your intention? Your approach? Perfectionism is a slippery slope, and something that our minds try to trick us into. We’re not made to be perfect, we’re made to be human… to experience… to learn and to grow. Try to consider that exactly where you are in this moment is where you are meant to be. Your soul chose this path, it chose the people in your life, and it chose the lessons you were going to encounter. Shifting out of discouragement and defeat is hard when everything feels like it’s crumbing around us, but through acceptance we are able to transcend.
Your life is worth fighting for. There will be a day when today's misery is long behind you. I believe in you and I believe in that time.
“You intoxicated me. It was just as though you were making me love you by some invisible force.”
— F. Scott Fitzgerald
Anis Mojgani, from “Here I Am”, Songs from Under the River: A Collection of Poetry
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Will I be something?
Am I something?
And the answer comes: You already are.
You always were.
And you still have time to be. ]
Forugh Farrokhzad, tr. by Sholeh Wolpé, from Sin: Selected Poems of Forugh Farrokhzad; "On Loving"
[Text ID: "Do you know what I want of life? / That I can be with you, you, all of you, / and if life repeated a thousand times, / still you, you, and again, you."]
Your brain has the ability to help you recall a specific moment in which you felt hurt or betrayed (or anything else "negative") by someone you cared for: it serves you as a self-preservation mechanism, so that when you find yourself in a similar situation (according to determined patterns and schemas that help your brain store and recognize potential similar triggers), you "know" how to respond and act. The point is that more often than not, your brain (that only wants to keep you safe) may even misinterpret situations by seeing threats where there's none (or not in such a way as it wants you to think): this happens because trauma's triggers often stay unprocessed and therefore your brain cannot really differentiate the whole spectrum of situations that you may encounter in your life.
Eg. someone is saying that they cannot come with you somewhere, and you may think they're abandoning you forever, while the truth may be they just can't (anymore) or don't feel well enough to or... anything else. It's not necessarily a permanent abandonment, and it is not something that has to be directly about you or "because" of you/your fault. Communication can help you understand better the situation and realize it all; but more often than not, your brain doesn't think about this option and goes full force into a negative mental pattern, especially if in the past you've had to deal with real abandonment. This is because your brain prefers to overestimate a potential threat, instead of not considering it as so (exactly cause it wants to save you, first and foremost).
i was born in the wrong era because my spirit guides me to flash my titties at concerts but i dont think youre allowed to do that anymore. rock n roll really is dead