ultimately i guess my advice when it comes to figuring out your gender identity and expression is: think of it like you're in a dressing room, but for your gender, and just shop around, try things out and see what fits. you can always return anything that doesn't fit right.
Anonymous asked:
Top 5 favorite sanders sides character
- Logan
- Virgil
- Remus
- Roman
- Janus
Thanks for the ask!
So I might’ve made a discovery so I was sitting on my bathroom counter scrolling through my phone when I look in the mirror I’ve noticed my face felt fuzzier than normal but I didn’t think anything of it but when I looked closer I saw a decent sized dark hair and a bunch of longer than normal blondeish hairs! And I’ve seen what the hairs on my face normally look like and this is new. My hair is sorta dark blonde when it’s not dyed realistically it might be just brown now it’s been so long since I had non dyed hair lol. But I’ve never wanted facial hair but that’s more of a sensory wise it sounds no kinda thing rather than much thought beyond that but the euphoria at being able to was wonderful. It just feels like me. And the softer fuzzy face feel is great.
#in the end I might shave it maybe if it gets to much I’ll have to see I doubt I’ll be able to grow that much for years even if I wanted to#idk maybe I’ll try the stubble look or some shit like that#I don’t know what im going to do but this is an adventure I’m kinda excited about#I’m not on hormones or anything so it never occurred to me this was a possibility I had to think about yet
I literally finally had told everyone my name (except one person but oh well) and I’m starting to question wether I should stick with it. I don’t know whether it’s insecurity over the fact that my mom told me flat out she’d rather I’d have picked any other name like bob than my choice and it would’ve been easier and I feel like she’s just clinging to the desperate hope I will change it but if it’s not this then I don’t know what it would be. But if it’s mot insecurity then I’m still just as lost because I keep desperately hoping this name will work out because I love all the ties and before I told people I was proud of the name but now all I can think of is all the negative responses. Heck that’s why I waited so long in the first place I’d know the name since may but I wasn’t able to admit it to myself and even wen I did I didn’t share with most people until I was able to have confidence to receive negative feedback but I didn’t expect the response I got even in my realistic worst case scenario (my parents have been supportive but my moms reaction was like she tore all my confidence in my name to shreds in front of me) it feels like that one reaction image where the dude shoots someone and says why would so and so do this I’m half tempted to change just so she’s happy but I also would almost rather be unsatisfied with my name than prove her right and never have her take me seriously when I try to tell her whatever my name ends up being
put “top 5” anything in my ask and i will answer ok go
For the "I have nothing to hide asks": Introvert or Extrovert? ~<3
Definitely an introvert
I’ve decided on a new name and technically I did it months ago but now I’ve accepted it and decided to tell people because i was told settling only because I was nervous was only hurting me and the people who really care about me won’t be upset at me and would be proud of me
My reasoning kept getting confirmed again and again and I finally realized how exited I am at the prospect of a new name because while I’m still me everyone has always associated my name with femininity despite the gender neutralness of it. It feels like a chalkboard that even when wiped off still has feminist of the chalk even if you can’t tell what design it was in and some people don’t mind or even enjoy the background chalk but my new name slowed me to completely wipe it down with water and start completely blank and I’ve never had that ability before now but it’s a wonderful thing
I’m curious and need peoples help
What do people think about there names like birth name or chosen name I can understand why trans and non-binary people might not like there birth names but my question then is essentially what about there chosen name even how do you know it’s your name like does it just fit? Or like just feels like it’s you? Or is it like just an identifier just like if someone called you the (hair color) kid you recognize that they are talking to you but your name isn’t that obviously you just know that they are talking about you almost like a nickname
By the way free to answer this if you are cis, trans, non-binary, questioning, etc.
It's hard to explain, but... let's say your going shopping. Specifically, clothes shopping, be cause your current ones don't fit quite right. Perhaps they're a little too small or a little too big or the wrong shape or too tight around the shoulders or chest or hips. So you go looking for new ones. It's not always easy; sometimes it takes a while to find some good clothes, other times you can spot the clothing that will fit you right away. These "clothes" are our "names". Does that make sense?
That actually makes a lot of sense when you put it that way thank you! :)
I’m curious and need peoples help
What do people think about there names like birth name or chosen name I can understand why trans and non-binary people might not like there birth names but my question then is essentially what about there chosen name even how do you know it’s your name like does it just fit? Or like just feels like it’s you? Or is it like just an identifier just like if someone called you the (hair color) kid you recognize that they are talking to you but your name isn’t that obviously you just know that they are talking about you almost like a nickname
By the way free to answer this if you are cis, trans, non-binary, questioning, etc.
I wonder how many gay people are actually transgender & dont know it because people thing being transgender is transitioning when it’s literally just not being cis.
like I had a friend tell me last night “all my life I wanted to be a girl. even to this day, like if someone told me I could transition & look like you or *insert another trans woman idk* I would do it in a heartbeat” and when I was like omg ur transgender he was surprised? like he was like wait just wanting to be a girl makes me transgender even if I dont do anything about it? and like its harder to pinpoint non binary people but if u have a desire be a different gender ur transgender. transitioning is a choice but being transgender is not.
jasminethegothbunny
“One of the symptoms of being a girl is wanting to be a girl.” Don’t remember where I heard that but the quote is my life.
cowboyslovingboys
This is one of the posts I can explicitly pinpoint as helping me realize that I might not be cis. The biggest symptom of being trans is wanting to not be your gender. It can also be dysphoria, it can also be euphoria, it can also be presentation, but wanting to be something else is all you really need.
aceofsquiddles
#wait so ur telling me#‘i dont want to have a gender’#can mean#‘i dont have a gender??’ I would also like to know… for reasons
Confirmed. How to know you’re agender: You don’t want to be anything else. You look at the options for gender and gender presentation and decide to go back to bed
aceofsquiddles
Bold of you to assume I got out of bed
Nah but seriously thanks for the insight
So, if I look at gender and say “this is some bullshit and I want no part of it”, I guess that makes me agender?
mother-entropy
if that’s how you wanna identify, yeah.
feeling anything mentioned in this post doesn’t mean you have to identify as trans, but feeling anything in this post is literally all that’s necessary to identify as trans if you want to.
fuck gatekeepers forever.
furryanarchistsnufkin
👏if👏you👏don't👏feel👏cis👏you're👏possibly👏not👏cis👏
i mean this is literally what jvn said
This is one of those things where you can go 25+ years of your life not realising that actually no not everyone secretly wishes they were some mashup of male and female and that you are, in fact, genderfluid as fuck.
You can want to be the other gender.
You can want to be another gender.
You can want to divorce all connection to the gender you were born into.
You can want to keep it as an origin point that shapes your journey.
You can want to be more than one gender at once.
You can want to be more than one gender, at different times.
You can want to be no gender.
You can want to be sort of in between genders.
You can want to be both genders.
You can want to be rid of gendered body parts you already have.
You can want to keep gendered body parts while also being another gender.
You can want to be rid of them but not want the side effects of excising them.
You can feel dysphoria at being shaped like/viewed as/treated like a gender you don’t want.
You can feel euphoria at being shaped like/viewed as/treated like a gender you do want.
You can change your mind or adjust your goals or refine your wishes.
You can be stationary and fixed in your identity.
You can be fluid and changing.
You can be extremely gendered in your presentation.
You can be not very gendered in your presentation.
You can be androgynous.
You can be a little of both.
You can be a lot of both.
If gender is a line you can cross, as the words trans (across/on the other side of) and cis (here/on the same side of) indicate, you can cross it in any way you like, including dancing on top of it.
Be happy.
Be you.
This is an extremely affirming post.
Hey! I hope that you're having a wonderful day (≧∇≦)! List 5 things that make you happy, then put this in the ask box of the last 10 people who reblogged/liked something from you
Thank you!
- My dogs are the sweetest little rabies babies so they will always get my #1
- Sander sides (both the content and the wonderful friendly fandom)
- My mom who sends me random things she knows will make me smile whenever I’m stressed
- My friends laughter extra perks if I was able to somehow cause it
- Ice cream is one of the best edible substances ever created
potential shirt concept
So I had an idea and I made the rough base on custom ink but the point is this shirt or sweatshirt idc but would anyone be interested in it (either making it or buying it) I don’t have any idea how to make something like this but here’s the premise please feel free to steal it I just ask you let me know you made it and where so i can get it and share with others
another concept for the numbers it apparently translates to nerd (no idea how accurate but I found it funny)
potential shirt concept
So I had an idea and I made the rough base on custom ink but the point is this shirt or sweatshirt idc but would anyone be interested in it (either making it or buying it) I don't have any idea how to make something like this but here's the premise please feel free to steal it I just ask you let me know you made it and where so i can get it and share with others
So I know own an electric guitar and I had no intention of getting one before two days ago and literally no desire to learn but the need to suddenly get one and my lack of impulse control won so here I am attempting to learn how to play the thing using an app. Any advice is greatly appreciated I guess because YouTube and free trials can only teach so much lol
mrspider-deactivated20221213
mcdonalds gave me the boys toy in my happy meal and ive been transgender ever since
mrspider-deactivated20221213
DONT LEAVE THAT IN THE TAGS THATS FUNNY
Reblog if
It’s 104% okay to come to your DM and just say, “Hi, can we be friends?” And then start asking you random questions.
Holy shit holy shit I’m crying on my floor right now I’m so fucking happy
My mom just sent this to me and I am so unbelievably happy holy shit
