fuck your doctor’s feelings. this sounds harsh but it needs to be. i cannot count the number of times i have encountered people who were not being adequately treated by their doctors, often not even diagnosed, often not even being believed, but were too afraid to switch doctors because of their doctor’s feelings. people are suffering and sometimes dying because they are afraid of hurting the feelings of someone who is failing at their job. not all doctors are equally qualified to treat all conditions, not all doctors are going to be good for every patient, and not all doctors are good at their jobs at all.
your doctor’s job is to treat you and if they suck at their job, get a new one. get as many as it takes. their feelings are not more important than your life and well-being.
This also goes for counselors and psychiatrists! Their job is to help you, and if they’re not doing that then you should definitely find someone ekse who can! No shame
sometimes i wonder why our generation’s sense of humour is Like This and then i remember that one episode of spongebob where patrick is stressed about his parents visiting and the punchline is that his real parents show up at the end and the random couple that had visited him are like ‘oh right we don’t have a son lmao’ and walk off without another fucking word
I can’t stress to you how fucking important it is to tell your child you’re proud of them TO THEIR FACE. Don’t fucking wait until the moment they go into hysterics. Don’t wait until they tell you that they don’t think you’re proud of them. FUCKING TELL THEM EVERY DAY. Even if it’s something you don’t understand, and they’re BEAMING, you fucking tell that child you’re proud of them. Don’t wait until it’s too late.
Don’t say it when they’re not there either! Strangers don’t care as much as your kid does!!!
Dealing with life and its highs and lows
This weeks pick up 🔥🚀😋 Blue Dream 🤤
This isn’t just one opinion piece. Major outlets are reporting on this too. Children were trafficked “mistakenly” by the US government two years ago. Enough children to fill a high school have been disappeared the ones that they can still track down have been given to strangers who were not background checked.
ONCE AGAIN, THOUSANDS OF CHILDREN HAVE BEEN GIVEN TO STRANGERS WHO ARE NOT BACKGROUND CHECKED.
Fuck voting. That’s months away. Get together and go to a protest. There are lots happening. If you’re in the US, there are protests happening near you. If you’re in the UK, protests are coming. If you’re elsewhere in the world, organise a protest or write to your political leaders and ask them to condemn Trump and his government and speak in support of his impeachment.
Search #DontLookAway and #CloseTheCamps on twitter for more
watershalation-deactivated20191
why are there so many days?? i feel like we just had a whole day yesterday… they don’t stop
when yr adhd does the intense Anger thing n u gotta remind yr brain that u dont wanna throw yr phone full force at a wall
gentle reminder to myself and those it may concern that “obsess over it silently, completely frozen while you just fume for six hours” is also not a healthy solution
skarosdrones
what do I do then?
in the words of one JJ Bittenbinder, throw yourself off your rhythm!
anxiety and anger are extremely persistent in ADHD because we fixate on that input and devote all our runtime to trying to “fix” it when in reality the only way to fix it is to leave it alone. considering we are diagnosed with Chronic Cannot Leave It Alone Disease, that is Difficult.
when you’re outside one of these loops, take inventory of all the things you do that suck you into devoting all your attention to them. when i was a kid, the way i avoided asthma attacks was i played video games while taking my meds, so i wouldn’t be fixating on the anxiety and making the asthma worse. nowadays, i avoid anger spirals by also playing video games (in my experience turn-based strategy is a hyperfocus superhighway so i use those) so i’m forced to divert resources to do this other thing.
joke’s on you, impotent fury, you can’t kidnap my brain if my brain is somewhere else entirely
STREET SMARTS
Me, at my brain trying to suck me into a spiral of self destructive rage:
sagasofsundry
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You know what sex ed lessons for girls really need to do more on?
Body hair.
Like, from what I remember, we pretty much just got told as part of our puberty lessons that we were going to start growing hair on our armpits and pubic area and then it was on to the periods and breasts— because it’s not like there’s anything else to talk say about hair, right?
Things they didn’t cover:
- You are going to have to shave your legs and armpits regularly from the age of about 11 until the age of about seventeen when you are finally allowed to drop PE.
- If you don’t, all the girls in your PE class will tell you you are too hairy and ask you when you last shaved.
- If you tell your Mum you want to start shaving your armpits, she will give you a razor and show you how to do it. If you then attempt to shave your legs as well, you will immediately stab yourself in the leg because you have no idea what you are doing. Your parents will come running when they hear you screaming about all the blood on the bathroom floor.
- (Shower water dilutes blood, making it look like there’s way more than there is. You are fine.)
- When you go swimming in the Summer holidays aged 13, your 11 year old little brother will feel entitled to tell you you need to shave your armpits.
- We lied to you about how much hair you’re going to grow. Armpits and legs and privates are just the start.
- Some girls get unibrows, some girls get moustaches, some girls get stray hairs on their breasts or chins. A lot of girls get hair on their stomachs or backs— if you’ve got dark hair, you might end up with noticeably hairy arms.
- No matter what configuration of hair you’ve got on your body, society will treat you like a freak who needs to either shave or go live in the woods with the other animals— because at some point we all just decided that all women are naturally hairless except for their heads, eyebrows and eyelashes, and now you better damn well jump to meet that standard.
- If you don’t want to shave, you may find yourself covering up instead, wearing clothes that are really too warm for the weather because the alternative is letting people see your body.
- Body hair is perfectly natural, but the whole world is going to tell you it isn’t.
- Facial hair is a thing that AFAB people get, ESPECIALLY when they’re not White people of English descent.
gentle reminder that the ‘&’ designation on Ao3 is for platonic relationships and platonic relationships only, and you should use the ‘/’ for any relationship the endgame is romantic for, even if the fic/series starts platonic
this isn’t a callout - i didn’t know either for a really really long time (like, only in this past year) but y’know - now you know
"if you have to dull yourself down for someone to like you, they don't deserve you anyway" Then I Want To Be Easier To Deserve
my solution to a terrible party is making grilled cheese. i was at this awful party one time so i went to the kitchen and just started grilling cheeses and everybody at the party was like “check it out this guy is grilling cheese” and i made everybody a grilled cheese. the party was good after that
this is the most casual post i’ve made ever so why is it being treated like a scorching hot take and also why am i seeing this on my dash
You just taught several thousand introverts how to deal with being stuck at a party AND get to eat a fresh grilled cheese AND feel appreciated by numerous others in the process.
Truly, you are a god amongst fish.
False
funniest part about this is i dont know which category youre trying to add him to
okay yeah sure i’ll admit it was cool seeing steve weild mjolnir but the utter gaul of that entire scene to imply that thor with mjolnir and stormbreaker and the full powers of the god of thunder at his disposal wouldn’t be able to completely obliterate pre-infinity gauntlet thanos with a single glance is a level of disrespect i can hardly tolerate
captainblitzy
You…. have a point.
I just don’t understand why Thor didn’t go all “God of Thunder” on Thanos on the ship from Asgard.
Like, it is literally a few hours since Ragnarok ended. He is at the peak of his power. And for some reason he doesn’t just fucking OBLITERATE Thanos’ ship.
i’ve said it before and i’ll say it again: the russos had to open infinity war with thanos having already beaten the asguardians because there is no way to realistically show him and his generals defeating thor at the height of his powers, loki with the tesserect, valkyrie, the hulk, heimdall, an entire crew of battle hardened alien gladiators, and the survivors of a superhuman warrior race