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@princeoftenderness

Fave podcasts: WTNV, Hello From The Hallowoods, Mabel, Alice Isn’t Dead, Monstrous Agonies, Malevolent <3
Please feel free to send me recs for fanfic - I love hurt/comfort and happy endings, especially if there’s queer main characters :)
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In constant ‘Morpheus/Dream of the Endless needs a hug’ mode & I love the show with my entire heart
I’m PrinceOfTenderness on Ao3 :)
Late 20s, ongoing chronic health shenanigans, currently rotating many blorbos at once <3
I don’t even know how many ships I have at this point but I’m love them :)
Anonymous asked:

Please, please report people who put their ko-fi or Patreon on their AO3 without mercy. Just click the link at the bottom of the page that says Policy Questions and Abuse Reports and say the user is engaging in monetisation. Say where you saw their ko-fi link or mention (author’s note, whatever) and copy the info on their user profile, too, in order to make it easier for the volunteers.

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REPORT THEM ALL

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If you're concerned, there's nothing punitive about this, it's just enforcement of the TOS they agreed to when they signed up. And there's no real risk of the fic being removed, either. AO3 will contact the author and nicely ask them to remove the link, and that's it.

Yeah, that too.

Literally the only downside is making too much work for the Abuse team. (Cry me a river, guys. In my day, we had like 2 active people, and even at the much smaller size, that was a problem.)

If you want, you can let authors know it’s not allowed and then report their asses if they’re rude about it. Or you can just report them in the first place.

But this bullshit should be stamped out.

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Wait can someone explain what I'm missing here because it sounds like a bunch of whiny babies being upset that people are monetizing their own work. I get its a site policy but 1. Why are you being a cop you losers and 2. Who cares? Why is it a rule?

If I'm missing something here I'm genuinely curious. Who is it hurting to drop a ko-fi on your page? Or do y'all just love being cops?

I did not donate seven years of free labor to build AO3 so that some other dipshit could monetize my work.

And yes, it is monetizing AO3 itself because the whole reason people want to put kofi links there is that it’s easy to find fics on AO3. AO3 also lacks constant competition from other ads.

AO3 is as awesome as it is because we built it to not be monetized.

People who don’t get that are shitting on the people who made and still make AO3 possible with their work and their donations.

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Go post your kofi links on a corporate site like tumblr/twitter/etc., not one built by your fellow fans. Disobeying the AO3 rules is just rude.

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Look, when you do whatever on a big social media site, you're fucking with corporate overlords.

When you're doing stupid shit on AO3, you're coming to a dinner party I planned and hosted and then pissing into the flower arrangement in the middle of the table.

The only whiny babies here are the ones demanding other fans provide them with a storefront for free.

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You don't sell your vegetables at a charitable food bank. You rent a booth at the farmer's market. You don't set up your book kiosk in the lobby of a public library. You go to a flea market, or somewhere else that allows you to set up a book kiosk. AO3 is fandom's food bank. It is fandom's public library. It is not your storefront. If you want to sell your work, don't do it on a nonprofit website volunteers built for the *explicit* purpose of creating an anti-capitalist fandom oasis.

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There’s also the VERY REAL problem that the main defense of transformative work -- aka fanfiction -- to keep us from getting our asses sued into the stratosphere by Disney, Marvel, etc. is that we don’t profit from it. If you are writing someone else’s IP for money without their permission, they CAN sue you, and if it’s somebody as big as Fox, Disney, etc., they WILL sue you. The main way I can tell fandom has done a good job of making safe spaces for ourselves is that these young’uns coming up don’t remember getting Cease & Desist letters from very scary lawyers.

So that’s why you report people putting kofi links on AO3 - because by doing so, they’re painting a giant fucking target on fandom’s back.

I'm sorry but when fanart gets to be rightly monetized by artists of all kinds and fan writing is the only form of fan creative endeavor that gets this weird ass "noooo don't monetize this you're gonna make *me personally* receive a lawyer threat" double standard, I don't care that Ao3 is "your baby", I still think it's a shitty rule to enforce and y'all are being fandom cops. I want my Ao3 account to stay up so I'm playing by the rules, but I still v much think that one in particular needs stricken off.

I understand that the legal threats used to be very real but when's the last time someone actually got sued for writing fanfic? because my google-fu couldn't find anything that wasn't at least ten years old by now.

1. Fan artists get their for-pay stuff taken down all the time.

2. You have missed the entire point about monetizing other people’s work.

Monetize your fic on Patreon (where it’s banned but you’ll probably get away with it), not on a site built by your fellow fans’ unpaid labor they gave with the expectation of it not being monetized.

It is disgusting to expect other fans to build you a free storefront, which is what “boo hoo, you’re cops” is saying.

If you sold on Etsy, you’d expect to pay Etsy a share of your proceeds. Ditto Patreon. Ditto any storefront. Those have paid staff building the site. They’re there to be stores.

AO3 does not have that automatic mechanic, and even if you personally chose to donate a portion of what you earned, adding commerce changes the site culture, which is precisely why it’s banned.

It’s much less about lawsuits and much more about ruining your community while taking advantage of your neighbors.

Anyone who thinks that’s cool is an awful community member.

you are good even when you are unemployed.

you are good even when you need to rely on others’ help.

you are good even when you are depressed.

you are good even when you are hurt.

you are good even when you are scared.

you are good even when you are overwhelmed.

you are good even when you are not tidy.

you are good even when you are confused.

you are good even when you have difficulty performing tasks.

you are good even when you feel like you’ll never measure up to being an adult.

symptoms are not morality.

i love asexuality i love asexuals with a complex relationship to sex i love asexuals with a very simple relationship to sex i love asexuals who's definition of asexuality and aromanticism blend together and arent seperate i love asexuals who's asexuality is just a very minor part of their identity i love asexuals who's asexuality is a very big factor of their identity I LOVE ASEXUALITY !!!!

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Fran drescher opposes vaccine mandates just fyi

I guarantee you the studios are going through every outspoken actor's files looking for something, anything to discredit them. Ron Perlman is probably undergoing the deepest background check of his life right now, thanks to Bob Iger.

So brace yourself to hear some unsavory shit about your favorite actors in the next few weeks. Some of it might even be true. But that doesn't change the righteousness of the cause or the truths they speak.

Healthy relationships are clearly better in real-life but fucked-up ones are way more dramatically interesting in fiction. In much the same way–indeed, in exactly the same way–that feudal monarchy is a hell of a lot of fun in fantasy and historical fiction novels, but complete shit to actually live under.

Feudal monarchy is so hilarious because it’s just like: “What if we based our entire sociopolitical structure on fucked-up family dynamics?”

Question time cuz I’m bored

[id: black text on a purple background reading: “this post is for cripples only”. there are two of the wheelchair disability symbol in black on each side of the image. /end id]

#1 or 2 canes depending on spoon levels#also sometimes rollator#and used a zimmer for many months there#truthfully i probably could really do with an electic wheelchair a lot of the time#but there’s no way i could afford one#and i have no idea if my medical teams would actually be willing to countenance it as an option#not to mention my worst and still very large ongoing wound#is located where i sit down#so although extreme chronic fatigue says i must sit/lay down basically all the time#my wound says literally the opposite#it’s very frustrating#when i was first post op in the hospital i used something called a taurus and it was a wheeled forearm walking frame#genuinely the only mobility aid i’ve ever used that Didn’t hurt me in some way#really good form of support#but pricey as hell#so i had to make do w a bog standard zimmer at home for like the first 4 months#bc i had to completely relearn how to walk this year#like that was a thing that happened#and now i’m mostly just using my sticks#and i’m meant to be recovering more but i think i may just be like permanently physically disabled now#and that in itself is like fine#i see loads of awesome fellow disabled folks#and know a few in person#it’s just frustrating to me that 1) i wasn’t warned about my mobility being affected by the surgeries beforehand#and 2) no-one seems to have any explanation for me as to WHY my walking especially has been so affected#it was a panproctocolectomy - as far as even my surgeon knows those aren’t supposed to have side effects of not being able to walk#and like when i first woke up from surgery i could literally only move one thumb and one finger - nothing else whatsoever at all#i had to work so so so hard in recovery to get to the point i am now#but truthfully it feels like things stopped improving a couple of months ago walkjng-wise#which would be far less annoying if more subway stations and gay venues were disabled accessible

prompt/idea -

ive been thinking about the fanon of retired!dreams' time blindness and like, how dream might interpret it as a sort of gift/curse from his father. especially considering how in the comics, his mother's 'gifts' arent really such great gifts but closer to curses.

alternatively, ive been trying to think that if it is indeed a gift/curse from his father, what would mother night's equivalent be?

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I want you to know, this ask has ruined me in the best way possible. Hope I did it justice &lt;3

Most days are good days.

Being human is a trial on its own, but he is learning to see the good in life. Dream gets to wake up to Hob’s smiles every day, to Hob’s all encompassing love and care, to feel life as Hob feels it. As something beautiful, something to be cherished.

He does not miss the irony of finding life only after he let himself chase death.

Most days are good days.

Hob wakes him up with gentle kisses, warm lips pressed to the curve of his shoulder, to the sleepy pulse under his jawline. Hob makes him breakfast while humming songs in their kitchen, makes plans for their evening, either lazy nights spent on the couch or walks in the city, holding hands under the golden lights of street lamps. On weekends, they go feed ducks in the park. On rainy days, Hob holds him close and reads him stories.

Some days are not so good days.

He loses time, sometimes. His body was not made for the constant, linear flow of it. He burns the eggs, the crack of them loud in the pot after the water has evaporated because he did not feel the six minutes. He worries Hob when he leaves the flat and lets the hours flow against him until nighttime takes them both by surprise.

He tries explaining it to Hob, but he lacks the words. How could he explain in a way that makes sense that time has always been something liquid, flowing in perfect chaos all around his fingertips, ready to be molded, and not the linear, strict thing it is now. How his brain, even painfully human as it now, is still unused to the undeviating flow of it.

But Hob is patient, still patient, always has been. Dream has a smartwatch now, alarms and reminders set, a clock to keep him in the confines of time. It should feel suffocating, yet it doesn’t, quite the opposite.

He gets better at it, and the days move easier.

Some days are bad days, though.

I want the writer’s strike to last until they get everything they demand and more. I want the SAG strike to last until AI is entirely forbidden across the board in the entire industry. I want CGI artists to unionize and strike. I want animators to strike. I want composers and directors and designers and VAs and techies and producers and stage hands and game devs and programmers and recording artists to strike.

I want every aspect of the entertainment industry brought to a grinding halt for months or even years to take it from the corps and put it back in the hands of the artists.

I will say I get the vibe that a lot of peoples interest and support for strikers is a bit too much for a vicarious ‘burn it down’ thrill, rather than for the actual goals of a strike.

Like UPS has agreed to come back to the table and it is very possible they will concede to Union demands and avert a strike. And if that happens (so long as the union does not make concessions on its key demands) it’s a good thing. It’s a victory for the laborers. It is the same ultimate conclusion that a strike would intend to produce except without the workers having to go on (not so great) strike pay for a week or two.

Getting what you want without having to strike is sort of like getting someone you're suing to settle. It allows you to get what you want with a lot less pain and financial sacrifice. The other party also benefits for the same reasons (not to mention saving face), but that in no way diminishes your victory. Sometimes the threat of fighting back is enough to get the powers that be to back down--thats a good thing

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if you are dealing with extreme heat or even just. moderate heat in your area right now. 80f/26c is when it starts getting toasty for a lot of people. if you are in a heat wave and you have not done yourself the favor of googling fucking "heat exhaustion symptoms" i am shaking you violently right now. look it up. burn the symptoms into your brain. heatstroke is no joke and it can and WILL sneak up on you before you're aware it's even an issue. ohh my god

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if you are outside and it is hot and sunny and you are sweating thru your clothes or feeling tired or starting to get irrationally agitated or upset in another way or feeling nauseous or your heart is pounding etc etc if you are feeling Weird and Bad for no apparent reason while you are in a warm/hot area then i have news for you! you need to cool down! right now! oh my god.

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and there's a very good chance that you're gonna think "it's not heat exhaustion, i don't feel any warmer than i have all day" when you consider it as a reason why you are suddenly feeling weirdbad for no apparent reason during a record-breaking heatwave and i would like to say. there is no harm in sitting in the shade and drinking some water even if heat exhaustion isn't the cause of whatever ailment is inflicting itself upon u. once i swore up and down to my bf that i was just kinda tired and headachy and got bitchy about the possibility of being overheated and needing to drink water. because heat exhaustion tends to make you bitchy. but i did as he asked and drank some cold water and my condition immediately improved. because it was heat exhaustion and heat exhaustion is evil and a liar. sit down. drink water