whether they give them a sense of COMFORT and SAFETY, or send absolute CHILLS down their spine. perhaps they make them feel TRAPPED, or FRIGHTENED. or maybe, they even feel SPECIAL. let my muse know!! anon is optional!!

• “I love the decorations.”
• “There are so many sexy kitties in here.”
• “Am I the only one in costume?”
• “I’m not sure if this room is full of strangers or if I just can’t recognize anyone because of the costumes.”
• “Do I hear ‘Monster Mash’ playing?”
• “Come on, let’s dance. Even the skeletons are doing it.”
• “Did someone spike the punch?”
• “I hate costume parties…”

• “This stuff’s for babies.”
• “AAAAAHHHHH!”
• “Hey, can we…go home? Not that I’m scared.”
• “BOO!”
• “Wait, are you actually scared?”
• “FuCK NO–”
• “That makeup is so realistic.”
• “I paid $40 so I better die.”

• “You should hang out with me later. I’m gonna marathon a bunch of movies.”
• “[text] Hey, it’s me. I heard banging noises and I’m terrified. Please save me.”
• “Halloween?? With friends?? What friends?”
• “[text] I just heard some weird noises. [text] No I’m being serious. [text] I need you ri”
• “I’m probably just going to stay up all night so the ghosts don’t kill me.”
• “I’ll just be chilling with the monsters under my bed.”
• “Maybe I’ll summon a demon so I have someone to hang out with.”
• “Do ghosts like Netflix?”

• “Don’t eat all your candy at once!”
• “Aw~ I love your costume.”
• “And who are you?”
• “Look, man. You can’t give toothbrushes to kids on Halloween.”
• “Trick or treat!”
• “Let me check those before you eat them.”
• “UGH, why am I stuck with a bunch of babies?”
• “I wish it was socially acceptable for me to trick or treat on my own, but it’s not, so.”

• “We should egg his/her/their house.”
• “Help me with my costume!”
• “TIME TO GET SPOOKY.”
• “Are you just going to wear a T-shirt that says ‘costume’ on it?”
• “Should we be drinking this much?”
• “The ouija board says you’re a little shit.”
• “Let’s tell ghost stories.”
• “Time to join the skeleton war, bitches.”

• “You look so hot in that.”
• “After being freaks, are we gonna get freaky?”
• “[jumps into __’s arms out of fear]”
• “Your outfit is scary…take it off.”
• “I came in here expecting a trick, but you’re a real treat.”
• “If I was in a scary movie, I’d want to be trapped with you.”
• “You–uh–spooked…my heart.”
• “I’d let you haunt me all night long.”

• “Let’s carve a pumpkin!”
• “I’d be a witch in another life.”
• “I wonder if I still have that ouija board…”
• “Do you believe in ghosts?”
• “What costume are you wearing?”
• “Let’s pull a prank.”
• “I hate Halloween.”
• “Can you tell me why you have an actual skeleton in your closet?”

• You’re allowed to have a comfort zone and you should never feel pressured or obligated to go outside of it.
• If you are not comfortable, you have the right to say no and cease the activity at any point in time.
• If someone is pressuring you, you have every right to tell them 'no’ with no obligation for giving an explanation. If someone continues to bother you about it, they’re nearing harassment, and that’s not cool.

petition  to  kill  the  stigma  that  shipping  should  be  looked  down  on  or  considered  less  than  other  writing  subjects.  i  see  it  all  the  time  on  my  dash,  on  blogs,  in  tags,  “this  blog  isn’t  just  for  shipping!!”  or  “i  don’t  mean  just  romantic!!”  and  even  i  catch  myself  all  the  time  writing  apologies  for  reblogging  something  related  to  shipping  or  talking  about  shipping  on  my  own  blog,  like  it’s  something  to  be  ashamed  of.  and.  i  think  that’s  stupid.  i’ve  had  more  development  with  my  muses  through  their   relationships with  others  than  any  other  avenue  of  development.  ships  help  SO  MUCH  in  shaping  a  character’s  personality,  determining  how  they  act  in  situations  with  different  people.  like,  i  don’t  know  why  we  all  have  to  make  such  a  big  deal  about  shipping.  i  like  to  ship.  i  like  to  write  ships.  i  like  to  write  romantic  ships  and  i’m  not  sorry  about  it.  and  nobody should  make  you  feel  like  you  should  be sorry  about  it.

Do not roleplay with muns who do any one or more of the following. These are what I consider huge red flags and they let me know that I should either distance myself or avoid certain muns altogether who:

• Have and share information about their list of mental illnesses (whether professionally diagnosed or, worst, self-diagnosed) on their mun about page.
• Make rude vague posts or PSAs that are clearly aimed towards another mun and intended to be read by them.
• Grows overly attached IC while roleplaying (self-inserting into their muse and destroying the mun=/=muse barrier) and begins to eventually develop romantic/sexual feelings for their rp partner who they barely know OOC. **My personal experience: I don’t want to hear about any online romance success stories here about meeting through tumblr rp because those experiences rarely end well and I do not advise dating your writing partners for a plethora of reasons. I had a rp partner who “fell in love” with my muse and became possessive of ME, the mun of the blog, and jealous of my other partners. To make a long story short, she tried to track down where I live by using my IP address through statcounter. I deleted my blog. I was beyond scared for a very long time. I tried not get on the internet for a while and I felt afraid to even leave my apartment by myself. Just please, please be careful about who you meet on this website and DO NOT share personal information, where you live, where you work and do not even post pictures of yourself on your blog. Please exercise good judgment and be careful about who you talk to on any website for your own personal safety.**
• Tells you in private through IMs/Discord that another rper is ‘problematic’ or ‘toxic’ for any reason that is extremely trivial or makes a serious (false) accusation against them but fails to offer any proof or offers one-sided evidence that shows the accused rper’s out-of-context responses in a conversation while not including the full text conversation with their own replies so that neutral parties can make their own unbiased judgements.
• Tells you in private that another rper is 'problematic’ because they were either silently unfollowed/ignored/“ghosted” or blocked by them “for no reason”. Double points if these two muns had barely spoken to each other OOC and at best, were just passing strangers/acquaintances; not even mutuals or friends in any way. I find that the only reasoning behind a certain type of mun taking it upon themselves to 'warn’ other muns over something so petty like this is just out of thinly-veiled passive aggression and spite. The mun who was unfollowed or blocked took it personally because they can’t handle rejection very well and they feel a gross sense of entitlement in regards to communication, completely forgetting that this is a hobby and that no one owes anyone who they do not know on the other side of a computer screen a thing. That’s basically what it boils down to. No one owes anyone who they aren’t friends with OOC or IRL any type of communication. It’s not in the terms of service of this website to be obligated to justify yourself to ANYONE for simply using it’s coded features to unfollow a blog you are no longer interested in or block a blog who’s content you do not find appealing and makes you uncomfortable. Do not let anyone on this website intimidate you for making your own decisions about what you want on your dashboard. Do not let anyone make you feel guilty because tell you that they have X, Y or Z psychiatric disorder and that they’ll have a “nervous breakdown” because you silently unfollowed their roleplay blog or blocked them and that if you do it anyway, you are an unfriendly 'ableist’ asshole by tumblr’s bastardized definition of the word. Fuck off with that. That is textbook manipulative behavior. Do not feel bad about making your experience here comfortable and never apologize for it. In cases like these, often times the mun who was blocked/unfollowed tries to hurt the former partner in insidious ways. They aim to harm their reputation/chances of gaining new people to write with out of a sense of revenge and when the former partner can no longer be able to get threads with any one in the fandom because of the systematic rumor spreading and gatekeeping caused by the other (usually more popular) mun, the ostracized mun deletes or archives their blog. This happens all the time and I think @staff should automatically ban people who orchestrate this type of cyberbullying and stalking. **If this is happening to you or has happened to someone you know, please understand that you can still report this to Tumblr. It may take a long time for them to do anything, but keep filing reports and keep a detailed log of any incidents that have happened where this particular mun is or has been trying to get into contact with you. Save full screen shots of conversations including your own replies. What they are doing does count as cyberbullying and also falls under defamation.**
• In private or group chat servers (like Discord), they trash talk a specific mun, who’s not present, to other muns about their character(s) and writing quality. They feel the need to gossip about anyone they do not like or play the victim and blame someone else for something that they had supposedly done to them (and their perception of the event is very skewed and obtuse.) **Seriously, if someone can talk badly about another mun in private to everyone else, they can definitely do the same to you and you won’t even know that it’s happening.**
• Posts a lot of self-pitying ooc posts.
• Sends themselves rude messages on anon and posts it for the purpose of phishing for attention.
• Posts porn and smut without properly tagging it or not flagging their blog as adult oriented in the tumblr settings, especially when they KNOW or do not care if minors are following their blogs. I know minors can and will lie about their ages. Now, I’m not going to fault muns of adult rp blogs for that because if they do mark everything accordingly, then they have done their part. I’m talking about muns who do not and make no attempt to mark their blog as explicit as well as their reblogs and posts as adult content. Even though sexual content is not prohibited, tumblr’s terms of service and community guidelines specifies that if your blog will have a lot of NSFW content on it, you have to mark it as explicit or else your blog can get suspended or terminated.
• Makes, likes or reblogs callout posts in general for whatever reason. If someone has done something illegal, then don’t make a useless internet callout post about it, call the POLICE or anonymously tip off the FBI if you feel that someone in the roleplay community is a sexual predator and anyone who interacts with them is in potential imminent danger. I’m serious. Tumblr is required by U.S. federal law to turn over any information to the FBI regarding any user’s deleted posts and blog history when launching an investigation.
• Uses Statcounter. Statcounter makes it easy to obtain and track IP addresses. To go along with my previously mentioned experience at the top of this bulleted list, I had a friend who was accused by a paranoid mun of stalking her blog when all my friend did was browse and read back on their old favorite threads they had written with this mun. It’s stupid. Which is why I highly recommend Ghostery as an extension to block Statcounter or any other 3rd party tracking website.
• Uses Tumblrstalkr or some type of website 3rd party extension to monitor who follows or unfollows their blog. Don’t give the excuse about checking your mutuals. If someone wants to unfollow, then respect their decision and let them. If it’s an honest mistake and the mobile app glitched, maybe they will refollow but if they don’t that’s too bad. Move on.
• Feels the need to ask you why you unfollowed their blog or blocked them because of *insert mental health reason here*. I figured out that if someone does this, it’s either because they happen to be incredibly insecure or trying to guilt trip you, plain and simple. Remember that it’s their problem at the end of the day and not yours. Only you know the reason why you had decided to unfollow or block in the first place and whatever reasons you have are completely valid. Don’t be pressured to justify or explain yourself to anyone on this website.
• Are sycophantic. They know which people to zero in on and how to lay on the praising flattery, claim to promote positivity and expertly schmooze up to well known roleplayers and any new muns in the rpc they come across in a fandom. They often label themselves the “fandom moms” and give the impression that they are this caring or naively sweet person. When a rp partner has had a bad day, the are usually the first ones to message them that it’s okay to confide or vent to them. These types of people are quick to win anyone’s trust, so that when they do truly shitty things against other roleplayers who’ve unfortunately crossed onto their shit-list and exhibit extremely disturbing behavior towards them, most of their loyal followers stick by the sycophantic mun refusing to see that the person they’re all stanning so hard for is actually toxic or dangerous. These types of muns are very calculative and are very aware of themselves. Once they realize that they have achieved an ulterior motive (such as popularity or a high follower count, which they let everyone know by frequently posting milestones on their blog), then they get the idea that they can basically do whatever they want, run people who they don’t like out of fandoms and basically get away with it scot-free. They’d still have 90 percent of the roleplay community wrapped around their finger and kissing the ground they walk on. Do not trust these muns. Be very skeptical of anyone, regardless of the fact if they are well-known/liked in the community and if they are very quick to 'compliment’ your muse or writing within a short period of time when interacting with you. Listen to that voice in your head if you’re getting weird vibes about them. Your intuition exists for a reason. Listen to it and try to distance yourself as much as you can from them.
• When a mun feels like they must tell or convince their partners about how “nice” or “kind” they are or directly tell their followers that “I am nice so you can talk to me!” to make themselves appear more approachable…look, that is a considerable red flag to me. I get a strong feeling that when a mun says something along these lines, it sounds very fake and contrived. If someone is truly sincere and kind, they would let their behavior and actions consistently prove this to be correct and people by default wouldn’t feel hesitant or intimidated at all by them in the first place. They wouldn’t have to assert that they are an easygoing or a good person.
• Constantly and obsessively reblogs their own promo to the point of ad nauseum.
• Is the ship-whore type of multishipper. Especially the type who clearly face-chases or starts ship hoarding multiple duplicate blogs of that specific (usually canon) character for the sole purpose of smutting/shipping with their own muse (who’s usually a self-insert of the mun). It’s creepily obvious that the mun is doing this to enjoy some kind of wish fulfillment towards that particular fictional character.
• Feels the need to make bias lists.
• Calls other rper’s 'elitists’ for either politely or firmly turning them down. Ah, the dirty word 'elitist’ has now become the new McCarthyism of the roleplay community, I shit you not. Basically, someone gets their reputation dragged through the mud and boycotted because some immature mun got salty that the other did not want to write or ship with them. Stay away from people who throw that term around so easily.

This was all I could think of off the top of my head. I did not intend for this post to be as long as it was, but I feel that it is important for me to get this out because it was riding on my chest for quite a long time. It feels cathartic to express what I and many others have gone through while using this platform. The good thing is that I now know what signs to look for and who to avoid when writing here because I deserve to be able to have fun doing something that I love in my own free time.

However, the sad part is that a lot of the confessions on this blog have highlighted and confirmed that there are some very unhealthy and toxic people on this website. And it’s a large reason why I’m barely on it anymore.