it’s not a bad thing for women (including trans and/or nonbinary women) to be exclusively attracted to other women. it’s not incomplete or selfish or regressive or close-minded. you don’t owe anyone anything. your boundaries matter. you don’t have to force yourself to try to appease and please men. you can let go and be yourself. attraction is supposed to feel good, your attraction matters, and you don’t have to hurt yourself by trying to be someone you’re not, please remember that.

Very fun to be a lesbian and have men mean objectively nothing to you

muslim wlw, you are beautiful

Not to be dramatic or anything but as a lesbian what saved my life was realizing that attraction is supposed to feel good

If your attraction to men makes you viscerally uncomfortable, distressed, and feels like a fulfillment of a default obligation rather than something that produces good and exciting feelings, perhaps it isn’t attraction

This needs to be read by lesbians, bisexual and straight women. Attraction is supposed to be a good thing. Don’t ever force yourself to be with a man you don’t like and doesn’t respect you.

nonbinary is a complete gender. you can be just nonbinary. you really don’t have to align yourself any more specifically than that

you don’t have to find the perfect just right word for your experience, you don’t have to parse out what named gender you’re closest to on a spectrum, what subset of nonbinary most closely reflects your truth, weigh your masculinity against your femininity against your androgyny to see what the total comes out to, you don’t have to label your gender by its relation or opposition to the gender you were assigned

all those things are great for exploring your gender & if you can find a home in them more power to you

but you don’t have to. you really can just be nonbinary

can't wait until i have a wife so i can say "i love my wife" and introduce her to people by saying "i'd like you to meet my wife" and get out of boring social engagements by saying "i have to go home to my wife" and talk about her to anyone who will listen to me because she's my wife and i adore her

and how could i possibly forget, show my appreciation of her achievements by pointing wildly and shouting "THAT'S MY WIFE!!!" before running over to hug and kiss her and tell her how wonderful she is and how much i love her

damn all you have to do is say "wife" and it's like an incantation for summoning every wlw on this site

mad love for every girl who likes girls who’s never kissed or dated a girl and feels like their identity is invalid for it. it isn’t. I love u.

get u a goth gf

HELP NEEDED

Hey so thankfully our food stamps hit today and we have food in the house! However food stamps only buy food products so we could use some money for things like paper towels, toilet paper, cleaning sprays, laundry detergent. I also need some tooth paste 😓 if anyone has anything to spare it would be extremely appreciated :)

Cashapp

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nonblack lesbians arent studs

Look at this. Read it. Then read it again.

Ok actually I’mma add something, as there are people confused in the tags about what this means. “Stud” (in the context of lesbianism) is a black identity identity akin to what butch would be considered. It’s a unique role and identity that originated from black lesbian communities (same as AG/aggressive(s) girls/stem/boi). There has been a problem with white lesbians in particular putting themselves in the stud tag and plastering their faces all other spaces/media made for STUDS (a specific group of GNC black lesbians). It’s really annoying and tiring because most of these white self pro claimed “studs” end up emulating masculine coded behaviour that is found in black (Specifically African American) culture, which literally makes y’all look like fools. Black identities and cultural mannerisms are not for your consumption or appropriation.

my cat is the u l t i m a t e ally

“Ally”? All cats are gay op

HELP ME AND MY PETS

I really need some help. I lost my job because I had to call out to drive my mom to the er. I was the only one in my house with a job, my moms boyfriend doesn’t work and won’t get a job and my mom lost her job and hasn’t been trying to get another one. I’m actively trying and hoping to get a data processing job really soon! But In the mean time we could use some financial support. I need to get my prescriptions filled. I have Graves’ disease, depression, and I take birth control for my horrible periods. That means 3 meds I have to get filled. Thankfully the birth control is free but even with my dads (deceased) insurance the Graves meds cost me about $11 and the depression meds are $6. I also have pets to feed. My dogs and cats have food but I also have rats and fish tanks. My animals are my everything I’ve loved and studied animals my entire life and they’re the only socialization I get. I’ve already had to rehome cats and my bearded dragon. I miss each of them every single day. The next thing I’d have to let go of is my rats but I love them so dearly I keep their cage directly next to my bed so I can just watch them and let them hang out with me whenever they want. They eat a lot, and their food cost $15 and last about 2 weeks. For the aquariums I don’t really need anything right now except water conditioner for regular water changes, which is only a few dollars. Apart from all that, it’s still 5 more days before we get food stamps, and we’re running super low on food again. The only thing I ate yesterday was our last potato. We have one more pack of ground beef and then we’re completely out of meat. If anyone can spare anything, it would be really appreciated. I don’t like to do this but I need support until I get a job. Also if you’d rather buy something from me I have baby axolotls ! There aren’t many left but if you donate $50 or more And dm me I will ship you a baby :) and if you need care guides for it I have lots of resources!

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Venmo: @Rose-Reid-5

from lesbian love advisor by celeste west, october 1989

lesbian & bi girl style is like:

Trans mother Miss Major is in the hospital!

It’s unclear what she is dealing with but these were tweeted shortly ago. Miss Major has a monthly donation fund here on Fundly, so consider contributing if you aren’t already—she’ll likely need the extra support during and after her hospitalization.

https://fundly.com/missmajor

i hope the younger lgbt+ youth (12-16) on here knows that it’s okay to play with identities. it’s okay to try out a label for a month, decided it’s not for you, and then pick up another one. you aren’t “betraying your community”, you’re figuring yourself out at an age that- you know- you figure yourself out in! do what works for you. if you don’t like labels, ditch them! if a label resonates with you deeply, try playing around with it! it’s normal. don’t be afraid.