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No longer a scummy nerd. Now.. I'm royalty

@polyhedralprincess / polyhedralprincess.tumblr.com

(she/her) Trans Bi lady who works in the gaming industry šŸ‘¾ HRT started back in 2013-ish

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Deep RedĀ - I’mĀ in loveĀ with you. RedĀ - I love you. PinkĀ - I think you’re cute. BlueĀ - You’re amazing. RoseĀ - You’re pretty PurpleĀ - You’re hot. PlumĀ - I would fuck you. VioletĀ - I would date you. AquaĀ - I could stay on your blog for hours. LavenderĀ - You are my tumblr crush. OrangeĀ - I want to get to know you. TangerineĀ - We have a lot in common. AmberĀ - I wish you would notice me. CreamĀ - I don’t talk to you but I really love your blog.

going from the reddit star wars fandom to the tumblr star wars fandom is giving me insane whiplash. the upside is that people aren’t bitching about every single imperfect detail in the entire franchise, but the downside is that i’ve seen more fanart of obi wan and commander cody tenderly knowing each other than i have ever wanted to in my life in the last three hours and it has probably fundamentally altered the way i interact with the entire franchise

after the initial shock of being plunged into the icy cold lake of seeing my childhood action figures caressing each others sweaty chests in a gentle, hidden moment after a battle, i’ve been able to get my wits about me and realize that yeah, i’m kinda with it

Okay fuck so for like the entire first part I thought this person was like... Using one of those 3d pens to replace lace in this curtain somehow

Then the next couple I was like "wait are they just like painting the curtains a different color? Were the lace threads just black or something on that other one?"

Then finally it clicked and I freaked the fuck out

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EXCUSE ME

Huge fan of human connection, and love, and loss, and laying in the dark at night with the fan on thinking about things other people taught me and crying grateful happy tears

the "no spoiler culture", mainly perpetuated by the marvel cinematic universe, that pushes the idea that a story is only worth watching and telling if the audience knows absolutely nothing about it beforehand, has done irreparable damage to storytelling and how an audience interacts with the story. in this essay i will-

It is funny what you realize as you grow older. At your absolute best, you still won’t be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you’ll be priceless to the right person.

I wish I had known this in my twenties..

9 and 23 for the ask game

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9: When did you realize you weren’t cishet? Besides the early childhood thoughts of like "This would be more fun if I was a girl.." the first time I ever heard the word transgender I was like 15? And went "That's crazy. that people can change gender." and had that thought a lot until I was like 17 and realized that there was a reason I was fixated on it šŸ˜…

23: Do you prefer loud parties or quiet? I think I prefer quiet but I think there's perks to both. In a loud party I might not feel as anxious after wondering if I said the wrong thing šŸ˜… but also crowds aren't my jam so there's pros and cons for me.

Thank you for asking!! šŸ˜ŠšŸ’•

8: Describe your gender without using any words traditionally related to gender: I would say that my Gender is the word Sincere mixed with a nice moment where you get to sit on a grassy hill with nearby flowers and take a deep breath.

15: How has your identity changed over time? So much. I mean how could it not šŸ˜… The biggest change has been post transition where I learned that I was transitioning to be a specific type of person instead of transition to just be myself. Ever since then life has felt a lot easier as I learn to be myself more and more.

16: Do you attend Pride in person every year? I don't! I used to. I have two mom's so even back when I was a teenager we went. I go every few years probably, I'd like to go more.

Thank you for asking! These are always fun šŸ˜ŠšŸ’• hope you have a lovely day!

Pride asks for fun:

  1. Which labels do you use?
  2. Do you like to use the term queer for yourself? Or just LGBT, etc?
  3. Which pronouns do you use?
  4. Are you ā€œoutā€ to your family and friends?
  5. Are you ā€œoutā€ publicly?
  6. (If you’re out) do you wish you came out sooner? Later? Or was it the right time?
  7. Are you the ā€œtokenā€ queer person in your family?
  8. Describe your gender without using any words traditionally related to gender:
  9. When did you realize you weren’t cishet?
  10. Something that gives you gender euphoria (whether you’re cis or trans):
  11. Favorite (or just one you love) piece of LGBT media?
  12. Name some queer artists/bands or songs you like most:
  13. Do you choose to reclaim slurs, why or why not?
  14. How do you think other factors like neurodivergency or upbringing have impacted your identity?
  15. How has your identity changed over time?
  16. Do you attend Pride in person every year?
  17. Have you ever attended Pride in a big city/ large metro area?
  18. How old were you when you got to attend your first Pride? Who did you go with?
  19. Do you feel safe and accepted in your local community?
  20. Do you feel like you ā€œfit inā€ with the queer/Pride community overall?
  21. What message would you give to your younger self?
  22. How do you usually celebrate Pride month?
  23. Do you prefer loud parties or quiet?
  24. Do you practice any religion, if so how does it play into your LGBT identity? Do you feel welcomed by your spiritual community?
  25. What queer discourse frustrates you the most?
  26. How do you feel about the term partner rather than husband/girlfriend/etc?
  27. What gender-neutral terms for yourself or others do you use (i.e. joyfriend)?
  28. Do you experience both romantic and sexual attraction? Do you experience them the same across any gender(s) you are attracted to?
  29. Are you currently partnered, or if not are you interested in having partner(s)?
  30. Are you monogamous or polyamorous?
  31. Post a pic in your pride gear (or it can just be a selfie or anything else lgbt):
  32. Do you do arts and crafts? Post a pic of a project you’ve done:
  33. What about your LGBT identity do you feel proud of/ want to recognize/celebrate?
  34. What are you needing most right now (what would make your life easier or more fulfilling in regards to existing as queer)?
  35. Anything else you want to ask during Pride:

i will never forgive the internet for what it did to the word ā€œmansplainā€

mansplaining is a very specific phenomonon wherein a man who is NOT qualified to talk about a topic assumed he knows better than other people who ARE qualified, purely because of sexism.

sharing a fun fact you learned isnt mansplaining. infodumping isnt mansplaining. adding your relevant personal experience to a discussion isn’t mansplaining, (as long as you remain respectful of others’ experiences as well, but that’s always true). correcting someone who is objectively wrong and spreading misinformation REALLY isn’t mansplaining.

stop telling men that all of their interests and attempts at socializing are insulting and unwanted, your gender essentialism is showing.

people in my REAL LIFE i have had to convince i like to hear them talk, really:

  • trans men talking about their oppression
  • trans women talking about their oppression
  • autistic men infodumping
  • perfectly kind cis men who are answering a question i literally asked, or getting passionate about one of their interests

people who AREN’T self-conscious about this:

  • men who actually fucking mansplain, oh my god the whole POINT is that they dont care about other people’s thoughts, why do you think whatever this fucking campaign is would bother them

this is making the rounds again and the amount of people in the notes accusing me of being a man is hilarious. like no i just dont like being mean to people and alienating my friends, sorry.

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I would like to add men of colour talking about their oppression.

[Plain text: I would like to add men of colour talking about their oppression.]

If I had a nickel for every time I have seen ā€œmansplainingā€ used to cover autistic men infodumping over actual know-nothing-know-it-alls talking over a woman who is an expert on a topic, I could pay off my college loans AND buy a house.